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I read this and it gave me some inspiration on love hopefully it will make you all feel better about your ex's. Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love, because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall. I think that is one of the most important advice given to me that I have not get learned. But I do believe this, lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man. It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone... but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else, but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you. I believe that to truly Love, is the ultimate expression of the will to live. Three things of life that are most valuable -Love, self-confidence & family. To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world. Love is like heaven, but it can hurt like hell. Who do you turn to when the only person in the world that can stop you from crying, is exactly the one making you cry? Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal. We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. No one is perfect until you fall in love with them. Love, true love, is that which can give the most without asking or demanding anything in return. Where there is love, there is God also. All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. Love cures people -- both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it. One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love. It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations. Just because you know someone doesn't mean you love them, and just because you don't know people doesn't mean you can't love them. You can fall in love with a complete stranger in a heartbeat, if God planned that route for you. So open your heart to strangers more often. You never know when God will throw that pass at you. Love... What is love? Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be. Love is like a river, always changing, but always finding you again somewhere down the road. Love is a language spoken by everyone, but understood only by a heart. People need love even when they don't deserve it. Maybe God put a few bad people in your life, so when the right one came along you'd be thankful. Love the heart that hurts you, but never hurt the heart that loves you. It doesn't take a reason to love someone, but it does to like someone. You don't love someone because you want to; you love someone because you are destined too. It's because you fall in Love with them, that you then try to find a reason, but you always come up with the answer, No reason! Love is the beginning of all the joy which nature has store for us. Never say goodbye when you still want to try. Never give up when you still feel you can take it. Never say you don't love a person when you can't let go. Say I love you and mean it; don't just say it because you can.

Hey man ...I woke up feeling the same way...reality sucks but sometimes when we get all those emotions worked up we need to step back and look at the big picture and not get confused on something that is not there. The weekend is upon, make plans with friends and let's get our minds off the ex's. If they want to talk to us they can call. Don't fall in and call this weekend. Have self respect and be stong man.

Hey man....I was in the same position but even worse....After a week my ex broke up and we were still kinda hanging out and everything seemed cool then last sat. went to a local bar/club that we used to go to and what do you know my ex was there all over some guy..I saw it live and in person and she acted like she didn't even see me and put all in my face...my heart felt like it feel into my stomach. Ever since then she has not called me. That feeling sucks and its hard as hell, I had NC for about 4 days than had relapse and called her, of course i got vmail and i try to leave a friendly msg which i regret now. Still she hasn't contacted me. What else can we do? I realize that we can only do so much and we can't be fools to love someone who doesn't love you back. Hang in there as i'm trying to do the same.

Wow..this post came at the right time. I have been in NC with my ex for 3 days and last night went to a club to get my mind off her but surely enough i almost called her on the late night. I pretty much dialed the number but didn't hit send..... SO NC or Call? I would say right now i still feel crappy for not being able to hear her voice but alot of me feels alot better that I did not. I think everyone needs to give themselves sometime at least 2 weeks to really be able to think clearly about the relationship and all the things that weren't good and then decide to call or not call. Hopefully I can gain the strength to continue NC...

Anyone know of any telephone numbers that can offer counseling? I feel as though I'm going through a state of depression and I finding myself hiding that depression in drugs...any help would be appreciated.

Thank you for your thoughts it really help me understand things...she was with her ex for like 7 years....and I guess they would be off and on here and there. I'm really understanding that her issues with her past had nothing to do with me and that I need to find the strength within myself to let go.

She was very strong about the abortion...which i understood because of her situation. yes I think she has a lot of inner issues and anger probably from past things...I almost think she is waiting for her baby's father to come back to her and until then she passes time with unserious relationships with guys...is it hard for a women with childeren to open up and commit to a guy?

Well just before the abortion, her distance was bothering me and we had a talk and came to a conclusion that she couldn't be in a serious realtionship, so we kinda broke up and after the abortion I tried to be there for her and we were hanging out for a week or so, then all this happen last week with that other guy. i just can't understand her thinking..why would it hurt to see me if i tried to be there for her with open arms and she knows that i was feeling hurt about the abortion thing.?

I can understand the pain, i tried really hard to be there for her after the abortion, but nothing seemd to work..i just cant understand how she can go out and be with some other guy so soon..

Hi everyone...this forum has help me put alot of understanding to everything...but i'm still at the point of anger and still hurting. I had been dating this girl for about 3 mos...things moved really quickly, sex then assumptions we were in a realtionship.She was 24 with 2 kids, which she had very young. I try to be the geniue nice guy and be there for her and kids..unfortunately it was taken for granted. She had gotten pregnant within a month and abortion shotly thereafter. As soon as this happen things really started to change..she became distant from me, verbally abusive, and less affectionate. So last weekend i go to this local bar and of course she is there with friends and another guy. She saw me there but did not acknowledge me and basically put it my face with the other guy. It hurt bad to see her treat me like that after everything we been through. So the next day I txt here saying that i had to say my goodbye. I received no response except the next day she deleted me from her myspace. I have NC since then and really trying hard not to. I want to talk to her so much but alot of me tells me to let her go..what do I do?

My ex of about 3 1/2 weeks just broke up with me. Its hard to believe that after 3 mos. that your feelings can grow so strong for somebody and it sucks when the feelings aren't the same in return. I have been in 3 days of NC and everytime I think about calling her, i tell myself no.And then I realize all the things that weren't right and it makes me understand why not to call her. Sometimes I even think that I was in love with just being in relationship than the acutal person. Yea we had our fun times but there was something missing. Its only 3 mos out of your entire life so try to not let it get to you. Do your best and don't call her and let it go....I know its hard, I'm right there with you.