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ps congratulations for managing to go so long!! my boyfriend can go for ages and i love it! he is the only guy I know who can manage that without chemical help! a lot of my friends struggle to have orgasms because their boyfriends cant go long enough, it takes ages for a woman to climax if she hasnt had proper foreplay. Good for you!

okay firstly condoms do protect against STIs thats why people are encouraged to use them! however you and this girl are clean and young so at the moment the main priority is "did she take the morning after pill or is she on a contraception pill anyway?" otherwise you could have a little baby on the way! Secondly, let this be a lesson to you, in future you ALWAYS use a condom. STIS you should have been taught or told about these already at your age. When my sister turned 12 I told her everything she needed to know to be on the safe side. there are ones like chlamydia which is very common that nearly all of my friends have had at some point, I got tested when I had a routine smear and l was okay, but then I have always practiced safe sex. Hey can be cured but you BOTH have to be treated otherwise yo just re-infect each other. Infections like Herpes - the symptoms (warts discharge) are cured but the infection lies dormant and can be re-triggered at any time, so once you get that (relation to the cold sore virus) you have always go it and then have to tell EVERY single person you sleep with about it so that they have the choice. I am assuming you have heard of Hepititis and Aids and HIV? these are the scary ones that always ensure I have always been careful when it comes to protecting yourself. That 30 minutes of pleasure isnt worth risking your life for. However having said that people make mistakes and I can assure you I know plenty of people that have got caught in the moment and not used a condom and thought "Sh * t!!" to put your mind at ease I would recommend a full health MOT at a clinic get tested for everything and also make sure the girl is not pregnant!!!

I havent taken it to manage hormones? I have taken a B complex because it helps with my energy levels im aneamic too you see. however the only side effect i noticed with a vitamin B complex was that it turned my pee bright illiminous yellow! ha ha when you say "too much" are you referring to a higher than normal sex drive? did your doctor prescribe it to you for this reason? usually to manage hormones te contraceptive pill or mini pill is prescribed, i have found over the years such pills have played havoc with my hormones! nightmare being a woman sometimes!

Im sorry but no matter what you say she has stated what she wants and that is to be single. its no reflection on you. I have been there myself. I split with an ex and I was devestate and I immediately jumped into bed with another guy we spent a week like that, he liked me, I felt a bit cheap actually, but I realised that the timing was off, I needed to be single, have some fun with my mates get over my ex properly, recover, think about 'me' for a while, so when he called I just told him. He probably didnt get it and thought, like you, that something was wrong. However, sometimes the simpliest reason is usually the truth, she just wants to be single. Accept it and be grateful if didnt happen when you had invested real feelings. Find someone else and this time maybe don't jump into bed too soon.

Thanks for posting Ilse, you have made me feel a whole lot better about it, I panicked about it! Ive heard horse chestnut tablets can help improve their appearance and Vitamin K cream! gonna have to wait til I have a bit more money though before I start buying the entire health shop! ha ha

He isnt a 'bad' boyfriend, nor he is purposely trying to be insensitive or selfish, or keep you from improving yourself. He isnt threatened by you improving your education nor do I think he is saying he doesn't trust you. He is just afraid and insecure and scared and this doesnt make him a bad person. He is saying to you, in his own words "I love you so much please dont leave me for someone brilliant that you might meet at uni.." I think he just needs reassuring how much you love him. Congratulations on your parents offering to do that for you. I am currently funding my own degree, im in my final year and so far its cost me over £2,000 on just fees alone, if I sat and worked out everything else its probably cost me over £3,000! Good luck

I was sat watching the TV last night in my pjs and my shorts had ridden up, I looked at my thighs and noticed tiny little pink and purple veins, tiny broken veins on the surface. They are sporadically spread about, but nonetheless bothered me. My boyfriend was like "Where?!!" so its not like they stick out obviously, but when I pointed them out he was like "oh yeah.. alcoholics normally get them on their face!" So I googled em this morning, and they can be inherited or from oestrogen. I have only been on an oestrogen pill for a month! having previously taken Progesterone only pill for a year. My mum hasnt got these. Im really self conscious and upset about them!! Has anyone else got anything similar and what do you do?

You are 18 and probably a lovely pretty little thing arent you? he is an older man, old enough to be your father, no wonder he 'worships the ground you walk on' can you imagine what the last woman he saw naked looked like in comparison to you? woah! no wonder us women get insecure when we get older! If a woman in her 40's went near a boy of 18 it would seem sooooo wrong on many levels, im 26 and wouldnt go out with a guy less than 24 because of the 'age gap' it is apparent. However, when I was 18 I was obsessed with older men! I fancied my boss, my mum's boss, my friend's dads! i was so bad!! I got drunk and snogged the partner of the company who was 38 when I was 17 and I thought "wow he really likes me!" I thought I 'loved' him, ha ha ha but you know he just thought i was a young bit of fluff with t*ts that pointed upwards! ROFL Be careful about investing emotions! by the time you are 25 he may be in or nearly 50!! Are you looking for a father figure? do you think older men are more mature? more able to know what they want? more romantic? more willing to 'love' you and accept your faults? I'm asking because thats how I felt at that time. Its a stereotype. you will find love and romance and acceptance with someone your own age, in time, dont be in such a hurry!

Hey you sound like such a lovely person you really do. I hope you realise this about yourself. I'm sorry my name reminded you of a song your ex sent you, hope that didnt upset you? Three sessions with a pshycotherapist is nothing and for one, I honestly dont think you need analysing or someone trying to 'figure' you out, thats the last thing you need in your position. You need to research Person Centred therapy, its about empowering the client (you) to help themselves, taking away the helplessness, looking inside yourself for answers, and just having someone to talk to. Sometimes thats all we need, someone to talk to. You shouldnt expect miracles over night either, counselling is a very painful process and to cry, only proves its going the way it should. powerful emotions will arise because they are revisited and they will make you cry, but only by crying are we releasing them, the fact that you cried showed that you are releasing your emotions andnot holding them inside to fester. Its good to cry. Some people are in therapy for years. I have a client, a lady i see at weekends and she has been coming to see me for about four months, she improves every month, not week, month, she didnt expect to 'get over it' within a month, so thereforeeee should you. It took me TWO years to get over my ex and even know happy with someone else, I can still have a slght flashback and think "ouch!" it happens, its life, but we are able to move on and the pain does get better. Sometimes the doctor may think its suitable to prescribe anti-depressants. I used to have panic attacks and my doctor prescribed beta blockers, but i refused to take them, I wanted to try the therapy first. It depends on the individual. My best friend has been taking prozac for two years, she is about to start coming off them, she is excited about that. There are people you can talk to, Im glad you are getting help and that you are mature enough to know there is no shame in that. I wish you all the luck in the world, but just know it doesnt 'get better' over night, it takes time. xx

QUOTE: The only thing holding me back is the grief of the ones who love(d) me if I do end it all. Eventually this will pass too, so atm I'm in a dilemma. It's not really easy to just not care anymore at all. But is life worth suffering for years to come? okay, if you imagine your loved ones will eventually 'get over it' why do you not have this faith in yourself? do you not believe that you will too eventually recover, THIS TOO SHALL PASS? I remember when my ex broke my heart, I ran to my brothers office and I cried on his shoulder, I was vomiting in the road people were staring, I didnt care, I said I didnt see the point to my existence anymore. This feeling lasted for a long time, I have had battles with bouts of depression for years. I realised I was making others responsible for the way I was feeling. I was depressed because I didnt have enough money to spend one single month NOT struggling! I was depressed because I wasnt a size 10, my boyfriend didnt love me and my dad was a bit of a twot. I began to think my whole life was a waste of time because my job was hardly a career and I figured people would be better off to have me gone, than moaning and crying constantly. Once I realised that I was blaming everyone and everything else instead of asking myself what could i do to make it better? in the end I sought some counselling, I wrote journals, I meditated, went for long walks, stopped drinking alcohol (it makes it worse!) stopped smoking, then i started a college course in counselling in the evenings, figured i would try and get myself a career. I kept telling myself "If it doesnt work out i can always kill myself!" its a horrible 'back up plan' to have! After a while though you begin to let go of past hurts, (not totally) but slightly, and you begin to realise that you survived, you got through it, and the back up plan begins to change to "If it doesnt work out, at least i tried... and I know i can try something else." I eventually 2 years later fell inlove with someone else, I never thought I would but I did and i love him more than the person I assumed had murdered my heart. I am moving in with him next month and Im still doing my college course, its hard and I get stressed and I have got a year left before I qualify as a counsellor, but you know something, I have learnt how many people out there feel similar (not the same as we are all unique) but similar, and we all deal with it differently. I have had relatives kill themselves, it would appear depression is in my family, I refuse to let it beat me, I will never be that low again, it will never be an option. It destroys those you leave behind and it doesnt cure your pain, just halts it for all eternity, for others to cry over.

If you are 'over her' then dont got it, just because you think she is hot, because if she is harbouring feelings for you then you could give her the wrong impression. Find someone else who is hot and then throw yourself at them.

I have struggled with this myself, when i first started seeing my boyfriend we both had myspace accounts, we hadnt been together long and so we hadnt slept together yet, and on one of those quizzes (that i must admit i do from time to time just to fill boredom in work) a question asked "Who did you last fall asleep next to?" and I answered "my little sister she stayed over" and he said "My ex" and it cut me like a knife, silly but i didnt like it. Months later another quiz "Have you ever received roses in your life?" and he said "No but i have given a few bunches" by this point we have been together about six months and i thought "mnnn you havent ever given me roses!?" It can get quite ridiculous if we allow ourselves to get upset about the things we read in those quizzes. You shouldnt be finding out things for the first time through them, but then in some circumstances like the roses in my instance, they wouldnt have come up in conversation. Maybe she is trying t make you jealous, keep you on your toes, or maybe she is trying to tell you things without having to have 'the talk' no girl likes the "so how many people have you slept with?" chat! its horrid!! I think you should stop reading them. but i know that when my boyfriend posts one i ALWAYS read it and sometimes with my heart in my mouth!

When i was with my ex he never really treated me bad but he never really treated me good. He would say "ooh lets go out on friday" and i would get dressed up and then he would turn up hungover because he'd been out with his mates and say "oh lets stay in.." there are lots of things that made me unhappy, he was selfish and always said he was 'skint' i used to pay for stuff a lot and it got me down because i hardly had enough money myself. He dumped me and then i heard through a mutual friend who well he treated his new girlfriend, taking her out all the time, paying for stuff, apparently he used to pay for the shopping because he practically lived at her flat, things like that, things he would never have done for me and it hurt, it makes you feel worthless like you werent important enough but someone else is. Even know, its three years later and im moving in with my new boyfriend who i love even more, incredibly a lot more than i ever loved my ex, and im so happy, i still get a little pain when i think about how my ex made me feel. i think a part of me will always hurt a bit and always be a little jealous of the women he did love and treat right.

I am on a NHS waiting list to have a reduction because Im a 34J and I just get so fed up of being stared at and grabbed and having back ache and breast pain and an 'increasd chance' of breast cancer with having larger than 'normal' breasts. I have always been scared of all the things they warn you about, loss of sensitivity in nipple, possible loss of nipple, blah blah im SOOOOOOOOOOOO happy to hear from someone that has had it done and im so glad it all went well for you! x

yeah i had some scratch tests done and some RAST tests where they take blood and I had seafood and strawberry RAST tests done, I already knew i was allergic to them anyway! with the patch tests i didnt bother going because the dermatologist at the hospital told me testing for food allergies is almost impossible, i also have allergies to certain medication, the microgynon pill and sudafed are examples of bad rash incuding tablets. However she told me to bring things i 'thought' i was allergic to for patch testing. I thought "whats the point? they wanted to test me for fake tan and things like that which i have already had big rashes to in the past so i didnt need this confirming" Trial and error and a process of elmination dietary seems to be the only way forward.

Its not painful internally, its just 'sensitive' with contact, my clothes rubbing on it, its not blisters either it just looks like ezcema. Its definitely a allergy rash of some kind. I have had this before a couple of months ago. I dont feel poorly in myself its just dry red skin.

I recently cut wheat and gluten and seafood from my diet because of digestive problems and also because of a rash I seemed to get all over my sides and back when I ate some sea food and a lot of pasties in Cornwall. However suddenly these allergic rashes are appearing again and so cannot be related to the sea food or wheat. I googled it and found dairy especially milk a common culprit for causing skin rahes, I am deciding to try cutting dairy out too to see if my skin improves. Anyone here wheat and dairy free? what do you eat? what do you avoid and do you take supplements? Also anyone else experience these rashes, like ezcema its sore rather than itchy and covers mysides and my back in blotches.

I love this thread!!! ha ha ha ha You say you will love me if I have to go, You'll be thinking of me, somehow I will know, Someday when I'm lonely, wishing you weren't so far away, Then I will remember things we said today. You say you will be mine, girl, till the end of time, These days such a kind girl seems so hard to find, Someday when we're dreaming, deep in love, Not a lot to say, Then I will remember things we said today. Me I'm just the lucky kind, Love to hear you say that love is love, And though we may be blind, Love is hear to stay. And that's enough to make you mine girl, Be the only one, Love me all the time girl, we'll go on and on, Someday when we're dreaming, deep in love, Not a lot to say, Then I will remember things we said today. Me I'm just a lucky kind, Love to hear you say that love is love, And though we may be blind, Love is hear to stay. And that's enough to make you mine girl, Be the only one, Love me all the time girl, we'll go on and on, Someday when we're dreaming, deep in love, Not a lot to say, Then I will remember things we said today.

Those are two of my favourite songs. He wrote Im looking through you about Jane just before he left he for Linda.

you know my favourite love stories are ones with tragic twists, my favourite films are Casablanca, An Affair to Remember, The Way We Were, City of Angels, Message in a Bottle. Have you seen any of them? do so. My boyfriend laughs and says "we are moving into together in a month! most people would say 'oh I hope we live together forever and get married and have children' but I can imagine you would find it more romantic if after a week i died wouldnt you?!" ha ha I said "GOD NO!!!" It doesnt mean you are weird or sick that you find these novels and movies moving, I do too, there is something romantic in th tragedy of it, and it enables us to cry when maybe we wouldnt do normally, it gives us a reason. Also if we get caught crying off someone its embarrassing, but if we get caught crying to Ghost then we are 'allowed' you see? My boyfriend has only ever seen me cry over something 'real' about twice, during emotional conversations, however, he has seen me cry a million times over Amargeadon and books, Im readig one now called "PS I Love You" about a couple that live together and get engaged and then the guy dies of a brain tumour and its the story of his girlfriend trying to recover, I cant put it down. People think I have some kind of morbid fascination with emotional pain. I think pain has produced some of the most beautiful poems, literature and love songs of our time, look at how big James BLunt is and Maroon Five? abums written about broken hearts. Emotional pain is a tremendous muse. It doesnt mean you dont want happiness for yourself. I hope you are happy. Dont worry you are not weird.

you say "havent seen him for 9 years" so that would have made you 15? your first 'love' at 15? I think this is a nice nostalgic memory lane trip that is causing you the excitement. He was forbidden to you once before and is still forbidden. If you love your husband as much as you say you do you will break contact with this 'ex' if you can call him that. He is no longer a part of the current reality, he is some guy you knew when you were a kid, life has changed, you have changed and moved on, why go back in time? I wouldnt even go and meet him, what is the point? to catch up? why? is he going to be your new best friend? you shouldnt even be talking to him. Seriously your husband sounds lovely and you are MARRIED you took vows. Don't let him, or yourself down, over some dude you knew at school!

I went to a party at weekend, was meeting my boyfriend (over a year)'s extended family. Every now and again people would come over and his mum would say "have you met eleanor? our paul's girlfriend?" and they would say "yes!! we have met at your house!" and I would be thinking "no we havent? have we?" anyway after an hour I finally realised they were confusing me with his EX! I flippped out because I am extremely jealous of her and the fact he loved her so much and I have seen pictures of her on his computer too, pained me to see them, she was ugly, the only thing we had in common was dark hair! it p*ssed me off i was aggresive about it and he said "what annoys you more, getting confused for a girl i went out wit or getting confused with HER because you thiink she is sooooo ugly!!" I said "I look nothing like her!!" and I was sulking, but it hurt. its a battle for me sometimes to remember its in the past and he loves me. Nice to know Im not alone in this though..

Thanks, and yes I have let go of the ghosts from christmas past and I am looking only to the future am feeling 100% confident and trusting in his love for me. We are being sensible and sitting down tonight to go over our income and expenditures to figure out what we can afford and then we are going to start looking. We arent rushing and I think we are doing it the right way. I can't stop smiling!!! x

Be careful with this one, I was told crying was mardy that it was a sign of weakness, I was brought up so strongly that I found it extremely hard to cry around people. My boyfriend was the opposite, he was healthy in that he would cry whenever something upset him, and his ex girlfriend once said to him "I am scared to say anything to you incase you bl**dy burst into tears!!" in effect she made him feel ashamed and stupid and now, years later, in a relationship with me, I have never seen him cry. I think it is a terrible shame that she took that away from him, I am becoming a lot more emotional studying to be a counsellor and also because I am in a loving relationship and my insecurities seep out on occasion. Crying if genuine is completely healthy, at any age.

Hey people, for those of you that have helped me with my insecurities aned given me excellent advice on my relationship, I wanted to let you know that today he asked me to move in with him. We are going looking at houses tonight. We are sensibly going to rent first before buying. I am so excited and I just wanted to share it with you all! x x x