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I've been having a hard time meeting people on my own and after hearing all the success stories on online dating, I've decided to give it a shot. I'm not talking about sites like myspace or anything, but more like eHarmony or link removed, where people seem to be more serious about find the right partner for their relationships. Problem is, my best friend is really against the whole idea and have been putting down on the idea ever since I brought it up. In her opinion, people resort to online dating when they are desperate and can't meet people on their own. What do you guys think??

Yup! I don't think I could ever ask a guy for his phone number though! Sometimes I really feel bad for all the guys out there! Putting that aside, I still think that it was messed up of him to ask my friend for her number. If he was interested in her, he should've just gone up to her instead of approaching me and trying to lead me on, geez. Do you guys use another girl in order to get to know the girl you're interested in?

Some tips on how to be a good boyfriend: 1) Treat her with respect 2) Be honest with her 3) Be considerate 4) Be a good listener 5) Being able to communicate You don't have to shower her with gifts her or anything, but I think it's cute that you'd surprise her once in a while with something small, like a rose, card , or a picnic at the park or something. The calling thing depends on the couple. My ex and I were really big on talking on the phone so we do that maybe like once a week, but I have friends that talk with their boyfriends everyday on the phone.

I think he asked her when we were about to leave. I think I was already outside of the bar talking to another friend, and I think they were still inside standing near the exit. Can't really remember the details because I was kinda buzzed. I think he texted her the next day to tell her that he had a great time hanging out with us and blah blah blah. I don't get men sometimes!

I dun blame ya! I'm quite shy myself!! Maybe next time when you're working out at a machine nearby, pretend that you have no idea how to operate the machine and ask him for help!

I went out on Friday nite with some of my friends and met this cute guy at the bar that I was kind of interested in. We were talking and dancing with each other practically the whole night. All my friends thought he was really into me. Anyways, he didn't even ask for my number or anything at the end of the night, so we just said goodbye to each other. Later on, I found out from one of my friends' that he had asked her for her number cuz he thought we were all going back to my friend's place for an after party, and he wanted to make sure that he won't get lost. But we never mentioned that there was an after party! So all the men out there, can you please explain to me what his deal was???

I know I'm not suppose to contact him, but I was talking to a friend about it and we were talking about how important it is for someone to get "closure". I felt like I never got mine when we broke up because I was in so much shock that I barely spoke. He did most of the talking while I sat there dumbstruck. He got his closure and I feel like I needed mine. There are just some things that I feel like I need to get it off my chest in order to move on. It's mostly for my own peace of mind and I'm not expecting any responses from him. And instead of calling him I thought I'd just send him an email with what I have to say and that would just be the end of it. My friend suggested writing up an email that will let me speak my mind calmly without bitterness and at the same time not sounding too desperate. Is that still a bad idea? Or should I just forget about the whole thing and just move on. If I do end up doing just that, would that still make me seem like a desperate ex trying to get him back??

Thanks everyone for the encouragement! I just wanted to let you guys know that I really really appreciate it! It really helps that I can write down my thoughts on here . . . I think I was just in shock when he mentioned that he wanted to break up with me. Everything seemed so fine before that! He had met my parents a couple of months ago and we even booked our vacation for December together for a week. We were suppose to leave for the vacation the 1st weekend in December too. He was so excited about the trip too because we had gone on a long vacation last year together and we had so much fun! I was really looking forward to doing that again this year with him so I guess that's another reason why the breakup has been so hard on me . . . it's just that everything seemed so perfect and all of a sudden he started acting all weird again and broke it off abruptly. I'm terrified of NC to tell you the truth . . . I was so used to talking to him everyday and seeing him every weekend and now I feel so alone and scared. I was talking to my friends about it and two of them have gone though really tough breakups in the past and it took them almost 1.5 - 2 years to completely get over their ex's. 2 years??? I'm not sure if I'm strong enough for that. I'm also scared that one of these days that I'm gonna get so drunk and accidentally dial his number! I don't want to turn into one of those psychotic and needy ex's that calls them constantly begging for them to come back . . . But I know that I have to be strong and try to move on . . . for those of you who have gone through NC, what have you guys done during the period which made things go by easier?? I try to hang out with my friends as much as possible on weekends but I find it hard during the week to not think about him . . . Sorry for my ramblings . . .

Yes, this is the same guy. I think sometimes he drinks to have a good time, but other times he drinks in order to numb the pain he felt with our relationship.

I know I'm not suppose to because it will just make it harder for me to get over the breakup. I just wanted to talk to him about the breakup and to hear his voice . . . I dunno, maybe subconsiously I"m just trying to make one last attempt to change his mind . . .

I'm having a hard time here dealing with my breakup. I have been on NC for 6 days now but it's killing me inside! I really really have to fight off the urge of contacting him just to see how he's doing, even though he was the one who broke up with me. What is wrong with me? I was so upset and shocked that nite when he broke up with me that I didn't really say much while he was listing all the reasons for the breakup. Looking back now, I feel like I really didn't say all the things I wanted to say to him. The breakup itself was really calm and emotionless . . . he was so cold . . . I don't understand how someone that said he loved you and cared for you can be so cold and emotionless. I know that whatever I say or do is not gonna change his mind . . . but I just feel like I still want him to be part of my life, even if just being a friend. There are days I will be completely fine and numb about the breakup . . . and then there are days where I'll just cry my eyeballs out and he doesn't even care. So I guess what I'd like to know is . . Has anyone ever break their NC right after their breakup? If so, how did the conversation go? I know the length of NC depends on the person . . . and for those of you who have gone though with it . . . do you find yourself eventually getting back in contact with your ex again? Or you basically never speak to the person again? Doesn't he care how I am doing? I guess it's dumb of me to expect him to want to contact me after a few weeks just to see if I'm ok or not . . .

Are you trying to get back with your ex? Or are you just jealous because he found someone before you did? It seems like he's trying to move on. Since you guys are already broken up, I really don't think you have the right to question him about his dating life. Try to forget about him and move on with your life.

I've only worked at two companies since I graduated from college 3 years ago and I found both of my positions thru link removed. You can also try link removed. I'd be careful about the job postings they put on craigslist though.

Thanks for the great feedback everyone! It's nice to know that I'm not alone on this . . . Here are some of my thoughts after reading everyone's posts . . . I truly believe that this relationship is worth fighting for because he really is good to me. He is caring, understanding, a good listener, inteligent, funny, trustworthy, and the list goes on. But we do clash on certain things such as our communication styles. He's a very emotional person and when a problem surfaces, he's the type who would want to discuss it openly right away in order to have it resolved. Me, on the other hand, needs time to think about it and let it soak in before voicing my opinions. He's aware of this and we've been trying very hard toether to accommodate for each other's communication differences. But I do know that he's looking for something more from me on a emotional level . . . something perhaps that I am not even capable of achieving, and that sometimes scares me. I hate to admit it but sometimes I could be a very insecure person. When we sit alone together in silence I'm always wondering what he's thinking and let my paranoia getting the best of me. I do want to be with this guy but I don't know if he feels the same way. I can see the frustration in his eyes and that hurts me. Lately he has really been distant and I think I can sense that something is not right about him. I'm driving to his place tonight to spend the weekend with him . . . maybe it's a good time to bring this up and see what is on his mind? I am scared to find out the truth . . .

I had something similar last winter and I went to a dermatologist and he said it might've been ezcema and prescribed a cream. Mine was red and itchy and looked like hives. But after I used the cream it eventually went away. I think mine was triggered by the cold weather that's making my skin extra dry and sensitive. If I were you I'd just go get it checked out.

This is what I do with my girlfriends . . . Have a girls night out for some drinks Movie night with potluck dinner Shopping!!!! Going out for a nice dinner Beach trip BBQ

Nope . . . my bf has no idea and I don't think I would ever tell him! I think he would feel uncomfortable with me sharing all our relationship problems with strangers.

I graduated about 3 years ago and when I was still attending college I would write down on my planner all the things I need to get done and set a deadline for each task. Everytime when I'm finished with something I would then cross it off from the list. I think the biggest reward I received from graduating is getting a well-paid job and being able to support myself on my own.

How far away is it? And also, how long have you guys been together?

The only way you're gonna be able to put a stop to this is just tell him up front that it bothers you. My bf jokes about that sometimes when he sees hot girls on TV and at the beginnging I just roll my eyes and ignored the comments but then after a while it started to annoy me so I told him to stop. He apologized and said that he was just kidding and he had no idea that I'd be bothered by it. So your bf might also not be aware of the fact that this bugs you so it's best that you express to him how you feel.

You guys are thinking waaaaaay ahead into the future. For now you guys should just enjoy what you guys have together and stop worrying about what's going to happen in the future. Who knows what would happen? You guys might even end up getting jobs in the same city. And don't worry about the other girl, he already made it clear to her that he's with you now and that she should stop bugging him, so you should be happy about that.

Um, if I were you I'd do what bhzmafia said . . . dun tell her about your feelings first unless you're absolutely sure that she feels the same way, or else it may seem like you're coming on too strong. You should just start off slow like inviting her to go study with you and tries to get a chance to grab a bite to eat with her afterwards or something.

Yeah I was just about to the same thing . . . I think your husband might be cheating on you, and he's trying to manipulate the situation so that you're looking like the bad person that might be cheating on him.

I can see why your parents would be concerned, if it was my parents, they'd freak out too! I think they're just worried that he's going to take advantage of you, since he's so much older than you. But you're the one that knows him that best and you should have a good read by now on how this guy is. From what you have wrote in your post, he seems to be a good catch. I think you just need to "sell" hime to your parents how great of a guy he is. You just have to give your parents some time though. I think you should def arrange to have your parents meet him so that they can get to know each other better.

Um, you are acting a bit controlling. You need to relax! I don't see anything wrong with not picking up your boyfriend's phone call when you're already on the phone with someone else. If you are really bothered by this then you should tell your gf next time when this happens, that she should pick up your call to let you know that she's on the phone and that she'll call you back when she's done.