Smarie

I agree with friscodj. Some guys are really shy around other people and dont want to approach a girl with other people around. It sounds like he does like you if he doesnt act like that to anyone else when you two are alone

I agree with you 100%. Life goes on. Move on. Dont dwell on the past like that, especially in a hurtful childish manner.

If only I thought like that when I was 16, my life would be so different from what it is now!!! You got a good head on your shoulders. Keep up the good thinkin!

Wow, I really feel for you!! Let me start by saying you tell an excellent story. Sometimes you read stories on here and things are left out and you get confused down the road. lol Well, I know easier said than done, but I would stick through with your plans for divorce. It seems like he is only along for the ride. When its convenient for him, he will come back to you. Forget about what you need or want, its all about him. And on top of all that, to see him making out with some chick right in front of you!!!.....that would be the final straw for me!! Good luck in everything, you are in my prayers!

Ahh, the days of partying and club hopping....to be 16 again. But then again, I really wasnt goin to any real club around here at 16 I guess, but now that Im 21, its awesome. To bad I have that whole job thing gettin in the way!!!](*,) Ah well, we all have to grow up sometime. I wish I could still be there.......lol

Swing dancing, never tried that one. Really wouldnt mind it I guess. I remember when I was single I would always make arts and crafts things with my mom and sell them at a craft show. I would go to the mall constantly, mostly by myself just to clear my head. And I hung out with my friends alot. Unfortunately when I was younger, when I had a problem with a boyfriend, and we would break up, I would end up getting back together with an ex. I really didnt care for starting over, it seemed like to much work to me and to uncomfortable. Thank god I broke from that stage and actually checked out my options, I never would have found my boyfriend if I didnt and Ive never been happier. The important thing here is that everyone has different likes and dislikes. Whether it be crafts, outdoors, sports, etc etc......you know what you like to do and try to take it to the next level. Youll get farther than you thought, your mind will get all wrapped up in it, and it might turn places you never thought it would go.......whatever it may be!

I think if we all acted on our emotions, then there would be a lot more *couples* out there.](*,) Everyone is always so shy, no one wants to say anything. But you find out in the long run, that the other person liked you too. The best thing to do is to take advantage of your emotions and act on what you feel. You will regret it later if you dont.

Definitely talk to your doctor,....the first thing I thought to was lactose intolerant, but that wouldnt give you a rash on your throat I dont think. Maybe its a little combination of both. Try drinking lactaid and see if that gives you the same effect milk does.

Rough situation, might I suggest talking to your *friend* about his plan of action to spite you. To me it seems like guys dont care about girls when they are that age, then as soon as one of them makes a comment about any random girl- they all swoon for her and end up fighting over the same chick! lol Well, definitely talk to him about his course of action and let her know your feelings for her. As soon as possible I take it. lol

Hey, I resent that!!!! lmao Im not weird, Im gifted, And spontaneous for that matter! lol

Try to get into an after school activity that shes in that you would enjoy. Or if shes smart ask her to tudor you in a subject or something. Sit with her at lunch, visit friends whose lockers are right next to hers. MSN doesnt seem like a bad idea, but dont be to desperate. Dont message her like once every 10 minutes and say...Are you home yet?.....Are you home yet?.....Ya know, just casually once in a while. Make sure you have a topic that you can really conversate about. Avoid asking her a bunch of questions so all shes doing is typing yes and no.......Good Luck!!!

OMG!! I was the same exact way!! I remember being in 7th grade and I had the biggest crush on this kid that I never even spoke to before. I was always so scared to talk to him, and whenever he said anything to me I would just laugh and giggle and be stupid. I remember cutting out letters out of magazines and ads and taping them together on my folders to spell his name and draw little hearts. ](*,) Wow brings back some lame memories!! But yeah, I totally agree. At that age, everything is weird. Thats the age that a girl could be nice to you, and she would like you. Or she could be mean to you and like you. Or should could be nice to you and not like you. Or......And blah blah blah, I could go on forever. Just take subtle clues and hints. Dont let it get you down, and definitely be yourself!!!

It seems to me like she sorta would feel like you blew her off before, so now shes reacting the same way. If you all of a sudden changed and started talking to her out of the blue, she might think something is kinda suspicious. Try telling her how you really felt about her before, and you did like her just didnt know how to approach her.

Im really not all too financially stable right now. I thought about that already and the few that I called were really expensive. I need to see if my insurance will cover anything for them.

You do not deserve to be in a relationship that is abusive in any way. After 2 years, if you have talked about it before and nothing has changed, its probably not going to change. If you did try to work it out now, its like he would be a wolf in sheeps clothing, thats who he really is, and before long, it will return. A break up always leaves you thinking about the good times and what you shared. It will be hard at first, but you will realize over time that you should not be treated like that. Good luck!!!

Well, I have posted previously and have had some problems with my boyfriend and his son, his family- my family, all around, lotsa troubles everywhere. And with all that I wanted to greatly thank anyone who has left me advice to try and help. You have been more than helpful. But Now, I went to the doctors today and she put me on Celexa, which is a prescription to treat depression. I have been having really bad headaches to the point where I am crying and she thinks stress and depression is the cause. I feel bad that instead of trying to make a change in my life and try to fix everything I am depressed and stressed out about, that I am just going to take a medication instead of fixing what the actual root of the problem. Its like I am using the medicine as a scapegoat to get away from everything, and I dont want to become dependent on it. So I am really scared about taking this. All my question is....Is there anyone out there that has taken Celexa and can give me some advice about how its gonna be taking it. I looked it up and it said it had minor side effects which is good, but one of the side effects is insomnia, which Im not to happy about. And how is it helping now, do you feel better now, do you feel like you are doing the right thing?

Wow, both of your responses were way more than I was expecting!! Thanks so much. I understand your views and it seems as if you understand mine completely. The money issue does seem to be the route of all evil here. The problem with it all is that with me spending money on him, I have no money for anything else for myself. I mean, dont get me wrong, I still buy what I need, but when it comes to getting a car or an apartment, I have nothing. So its a big step that I want to jump into that I cant afford right now. It makes it even harder to because its not like Im just staying with him because he gives me a ride, that sounds really shallow when I say it like that. But with the winter season coming, it definitely helps to have a ride to work everyday and not have to walk, which may I add is somewhat difficult. Its not like walking down the street. I have to go over a bridge and cross a highway, so in the winter its a little dangerous. For the most part, we do have a good relationship, I really feel like I made it sound like we are always fighting but were really not. Just when we do fight this is what we end up fighting about. I really love him to death and I wish that we could sit down and talk about these things but it gets nothing accomplished. We just end up fighting again. But for the most part, we get along just fine. Its not that I really mind paying for him once in a while after all he does for me, but after so long its like, enough is enough....when are you gonna bring something to the table? It gets quite annoying and I really dont want to leave him, but lately Ive been asking myself, when are things gonna change here? How can I do something? And Im really faced with breaking up with him which I really dont want tosee as an option. But if we are both better off that way, then so be it. I just really wish that we could sit down and talk about these things and try to change them. But we can never say -ok...this is what I did wrong, this is what I am going to work on. It alaways ends up being a big fallout. I really appreciate your help on this!! This has been really hard on me. Thanks again!!!

I know theres a *doctors office* around here that is only for things like that. They give you condoms, birth control, and you can schedule to take pregnancy tests there, start your doctors visits for your baby, or get an abortion. Its kinda an OBGYN. Check with your doctor/obgyn and they will be able to tell you something in your area.

It seems like she has something going on behind your back. Although, it seems you have been honest with her, I dont think she is playing the same game. She has something to hide there......

I felt the same way not to long ago. I have an uncle I went out with like twice, and let me tell you, my mother is quite young and my uncle is only about 5 years older than me. After hanging out with him, and hanging out with his friends,I suddenly realized that all this time, I was hanging out with people my age, if not a little bit younger and I was like the ring leader of them all. So I slowly started to cut myself off from them. I kept 2 friends from when I was younger to now and I see them once in a great while. My boyfriend I actually met while I was a Barista at a coffee house he would frequent. We ve been together ever since. Hes about 6 years older than me and his friends are all the same age and slightly older, and I have to say I am alot more *intelectually satisfied* i guess hanging out with him and his friends than the *punks* I used to hang out with. You will find where you fit in. Just let it come to you, youll see it when its there.......Good luck and best wished to you!!!

Some people dont want a relationship and would rather just string people along. I think the majority of us have gone thrpough something simlar at some point. Break up are always hard, but dont blame yourself. You did nothing wrong, some people just dont belong together. When our friends and family say that somethings not right, we tend to not want to hear them and block them out because we think we know better. Your friends dont really know him like you know him. But then they end up being right and everything feels so twisted. It will get better over time. Thats the only answer to a break up, it just takes time. Dont try moving on to fast, or blaming yourself for everything. And when you look back on your relationship, try to remember the good things about it instead of the bad. Best wishes!!!!

Ok,....My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and like any other couple, we have our differences. Lately though it seems as if we have been fighting alot more than normal, and I have posted about those fights previously but I just cant take it anymore. I really do not like fighting with him and its not that I even want to break up with him. I just want to figure out a way for us to have a *debate* with out both of us screaming at the top of our lungs. Whenever we do fight, we have a select group of things that we fight about.... The ex-girlfriend/other woman Previously posted about her before, they have a son together which it seems she could care less about him most of the time. Because of their child, they have this *friendship* still which constantly enables her to call and email and stop over and hang out whenever she sees it fit. He sees no problem with this as they have to have a kid together so I have no say in what goes on. More recently, he has been talking to his friends wife online all day while I am at work, and her husband is at work. I told him I dont care if they talk at first. Its not like I think that he is going to leave me for her. But now, it seems a bit wrong to me because my boyfriend and this woman are sneaking behind her husbands back and talking without her husband knowing. I think this is kind of wrong especially since my boyfriend is his friend. She writes to him about how she wants a divorce and to send us links to the sex toys that she just bought, things that you wouldnt really write to somebody that you only met once for 5 minutes. She knows that I am here and even writes to me sometimes too. I told my boyfriend that since her husband has cheated on her before, she is going to try to do the same with you, I dont think he really believed me. He is starting to see that I am uncomfortable with this and still has done nohing to stop it. The Son I am the kind of person that will probably never have kids. I dont really care for them too much and they really annoy me. When I first started dating my boyfriend I found out he had a baby and I thought I could deal with it. At first it was no sweat. He was the cutest little thing and I instantly fell in love with him. He was almost 2 then, now hes almost 4 and hes a totally different kid. Hes very mouthy and bosses me around and tells me what to do. He plays vidoe games like Driver 3 and Grand Theft Auto~ games that have the *over 18* label on them. He still drinks a bottle and frequently will not eat dinner and will get a bottle instead. My boyfriend and I do not live together and I have to leave his house at 11 every night, and when I leave at 11 his son is still awake. The majority of the time, after my boyfriend gets home from dropping me off at my house, his son is still awake almost an hour later. My boyfriend says that since I dont have any kids and hes not my child I have no say in what goes on and I dont know what I am talking about because I have never raised a child before. But its ok for me to get him his dinner if my boyfriend is on the phone or playing a video game. And its ok for me to watch him while he runs to a friends house or to the store. But I have no say in what he does or the things he says to me. The Job My boyfriend doesnt have a job, but he is self employed. Which means, hes broke for the majority of the time. He fixes computers and knows so much about them, but he cant land a 9 to 5 job like every body else. He will get a random phone call once in a while from a client to go fix their computer. Which I will admit is better than nothing, but one can not live off $35 a month. As I said we do not live togther...still....and I keep telling him that I need to get my own place and I wont do that until he has a job. I dont want to go out and get an apartment then have to move right back out again because I cant afford it for the 3 of us. I keep telling him that any job would be ggod right now because at least he would be making some money. He says he doesnt want to do that because he doesnt want to make $6 an hour if he can go out and make $50 and hour, and even more. .....But if youre not making any money at all, wouldnt $6 be better than that? I dont understand. Then he has to *borrow* money from me, which I will have to fight about getting paid back for it later, and he will end up not paying me back. I do get paid back here and there after a fight with him. Sometimes he will hand it over, sometimes it is a fight. Because Im always *changing the amount*. But he already owes me more than I will ever get paid back for in the first place. But if I dont give him the money in the first place, he wont give me a ride to work and he wont bring me to the store and I cant use his computer and I cant eat his food, etc. etc. The Money As previously stated, I am the worker, he deffinitely isnt. So he is constantly borrowing money from me. Then when he does get some amount of money in from a job, he yells at me because I want to get paid back. He owes money to everyone else to and it seems like I am the one that comes last to get paid back. Without going into much detail, my boyfriend has a *problem.* He ends up owing these people money for his problem and I am on the end of the totem pole. The Family Our families tend to get in our relationship a lot. I live with my grandmoth er and she is rather psycho. I know alot of kids will say their parents are psycho, but my grandmother seriously should be admitted to a home of some sort because she definitely shouldnt be out and about by her self. She does some crazy things, and because of this, Im dying to get out of my house. My boyfriend lives with his mom and grandfather and they sometimes but into our relationship too. But for the most part, its just my crazy grandmother. So whenever my boyfriend and I fight or anything, she always has to have her nose right in my business, with her ear pressed against the bathroom door listening to my phone conversations. I say bathroom because she took the door off my bedroom and threw it away because she didnt want me to have any parties in my room. Oooook Do you see why I want to move out yet? The Car](*,) I do not drive, but my boyfriend does. He doesnt have a car though so he uses his mothers. He will pick me up at my house and drive me to work in the morning, and pick me up after work and drive me home so I can change my clothes, then we go to his house for the rest of the night. Everyday its the same thing over and over again. Because of this, I am the one who has to pay for the gas in that car. Which, I dont mind, because I do use the gas to get to work and the store etc. But how come he never has to pay for any gas? My house, his house, my work and the store are all within 1 mile of each other. And Im spending about $25.00 a week on gas. I know gas prices have gone up, but in our car that equals about 200 miles. There is no way that I am using all that gas. So, when I ask him to pay for some gas when he gets some money, its a big hassle. The money thing also comes into play here because he tells me that he deserves my money because he wakes up everyday and brings me to work, even though Im already paying for the gas. And everything else is to my expense too. The cigarettes he smokes, I have to buy. He says that he deserves it because I use his computer and I eat dinner everynight at his house(which isnt all that wonderful might I add), but I will cook dinner too.....And when I cook, I go all out!! So its kinda a one hand washes the other thing. Now as your reading through this I dont want you to think that we have a bad relationship because really we dont and I love him to death. I just feel most of the time like if he didnt have a kid already and if he had a job things would be so much better. Im still trying to figure out how to be in a relationship with a man that already has a family started, and Im not one to really get along with females, so every time she comes over we end up in a big fight after she leaves. I just want to know how Im supposed to deal with his kid? He drives me crazy sometimes!! What am I supposed to do about my boyfriend? How do I get him to respect me? We fight all the time about these things but nothing ever gets accomplished with our fight. We just end up making up later in the day and blowing it off. I feel like hes got me wrapped around his pinky and hes just using me and Im really sick of it, but on the other hand, I know he really loves me.....Im so confused. Anyone with any insight would be much appreciated!!! Thanks alot!!!

Menstrual cycles can very from time to time. It is definitely to early to tell if you were pregnant or not, and your best bet would be the blood test as earlier mentioned. I would use protection from here on out though if you do not want to have a child. It only takes once, so be careful.

No one deserves to be in a physically abusive relationship-EVER! Get out of the relationship now while you still can, things will only get worse and it will start affecting your child. He will keep saying he is changing just so that you stay with him. If you need to, look up phone numbers for battered women shelters in you area. They will help you if you need it. Please do not stay around anymore to get hit anymore!!! I wish you the best of luck!!, for you and your child!!!

Not really familiar with the situation, but I can say that you need to do what is better for you. No matter what, there is gonna be a little heartbreak no matter what you do, but do whatever better suits you and will make you happier. Explain to the other girl that you dont want to date her anymore but you really value her friendship. Tell her you were attracted to her at first because she was the only person you knew and you thought you had a connection, but now you dont think you are right together and would like to see other people. Best wishes!!