steff

thanks guys, the only reason why im asking, is because i believe it to be something special, but most of the people my age around my area and only interested in the girls at the clubs and pubs that put out... and i sit there quitly not drinking and no one seems interested in me... so i was just wondering what peoples ideas on this was...

hey guys and girls, just wanted to know your views on this subject. who are you most likely to chase, someone who puts out really easily, and doesnt view sex and things as special. or someone that you have to wait for alittle before you start having sex or making out with??? so just put your opinion down thanks steff p.s happy australia day ... australia

first of all welcome to enotalone wow men hey have you spoken to him about how you feel, will he listen if u try and tell him how you feel. he needs to understand the ways that make you feel connected to him, just like you need to understand the ways that he feels connected to you, and you both need to accomadate each other in those aspects. i dont think because u talk him you were a virgin that he was just going to do what it took to get what he wanted. hopefully he generally really liked you i say just try and get him to listen to your feelings and what you are thinking about this situation, because you need to be happy in this relationship goodluck

Hey everybody. As you guys know, james isn't talking to me, and neither is travis much… so I've cut my side of the communication and left it up to them to contact me if they want to talk. (I don't want to look pushy by calling them or e-mailing them, I figured that if they want to talk, they'll call) but the thing is… I really need someone to talk to… I feel alone and confused, there are things in my life that I really need to talk to someone about, but I cant talk about them to my new friends, because the trust development isn't there, and I don't want to scare them off. I mean, like what do I do? My new friends are telling me not to bother about my old friends, but I cant talk to my new friends the way that I need to… its been about a couple of weeks sense I spoke to my old friends, should I just leave it completely, or try and contact them, or what???? Do I just bottle it all up inside until I have someone to talk to??? Any advice would be great, and I thank you in advance Steffany.

wow thats a hell of a lot for you to deal with. im really sorry that you are having to go through this. it is totally not your fault that your mother is no longer with us. as you said she was mentally ill, and people who are mentally ill can do unpredictable things. and i guess that was just one of them. you were not to know that she was going to do what she did. how old is your sister? she would be finding it really hard as well, you have to understand that not only has she lost her mum, she has been put in a different environment with a strange family, and most likely doesnt know anyone around her. so of corse she is going to turn to you, to talk to about your mum. it is great that you are getting help, it is going to take a looooonnnnngggg time before everything is normal again. i wouldnt say what you are going through is normal, because everyone grieves differently, and its also your mind trying to work things out. i really hope that everything works out for you, and please pm me at any time if you want to chat, i cant totally understand if you need someone to talk too, and im am here for you the whole time. because this is going to be really hard for you.... but i want to say again, it was not your fault what happened to your mum. please stay safe steffany.

okay, so i know that i dont like him anymore, and dont want to be with him as a boyfriend. but how do i stop thinking about him, even things like "why wont he even be friends with me???" silly little things like that. i mean i feel so insulted about what happened, he doesnt want to talk to me because i told him i liked him, am i that horrible, is it that traumatic to have me like him??? why is it such a big deal to him, why cant he just get over it, and be friends again..... its not like i bashed him or something, its not like i did something bad, it wasnt my fault that i liked him... but why cant he talk to me??? sorry, im just venting... i dont care that we are not going out, because ive gotten over that... and if i try to contact him by saying well done for getting into his uni course.... he just gets angry with me or something.... i feel so unwanted, unneeded, and like a freak. is it that bad to be liked by me????

i agree with newts. i could not be with someone if they didnt have nice teeth, or freash breath... i think that you should bring it up some how, and see if they take the hint.

to me, thats kind of offensive... maybe im old fashioned, but u dont just go out with the intention to kiss a girl, or make out with a girl. why dont you make a goal, to find yourself a nice girlfriend. and then u can kiss her as many times as u like.

well i think that u should try and talk to them. get them on a weekend or something, a time when they are both sitting down together and just say something like "i can no longer handle the responsibility of looking after my brothers, im going to be getting more and more homework and assignments at school, and i just dont feel like im in control" or well, something like that. they need to understand that your still young as it is, and that your not their mum, and that your parents need to start being a parent to your brothers. i think that what they are doing is unfair to you. how long are you normally left with them to look after, is it like, you bring them home from school, and are looking after them till they go to bed???

have u spoken to them about how you feel about this??? when they are out, are they at work, or just out? how old are your brothers?

right its over, i tried to be nice to him the other day, and send him a message saying "well done on getting a first round offer for uni" and he was like like "how do u know about that" and all * * * *ty with me, and then didnt talk to me... but later on said he would call me tomorrow and we could chat. well he didnt call. i sent him an email apolaigise for if i ruin the surprise for him, and that i didnt mean to offend him. and i havent heard anything. are guys at the age of eighteen normally this immature? or is it just him?

just because u have done it before, doesnt mean u cant be scared or worried about it its only natual, plus its a major thing. anyway, i really hope everything works out for you. just because ur physcial heart isnt healthy doesnt mean u dont have a heart that girls will love... dont be to shy in the dating area,... im sure u will find someone ok dont jog, do other exercise... swimming??? walking???? yoga??? theres heaps of different things you can do keep us posted as to how things go

yeah i have... well i didnt have a phd but had gone further in school than my boyfriend (ex) and it was hard even to talk to him, because i would have to simplify words and also explain what some words meant... it really became annoying for me, that i couldnt have a real conversation with him

yeah thats great,i really hope everything works out for you and your family

wow it sounds like everything is working out for you and your kids, thats great, and im glad that ur sooo happy to be with them i hope everything goes well for you in the future with you kids, dog, and new house.

hey everyone, normally i can work out what my dreams mean with no problems. but last night i had this dream that is really scarying me still and making me really upset. the dream was that i (and i dont know if it was me, or if i was a passenger) ran over a small child in my car. i was being blamed for it, and everyone was being really mean, but there was still this doubt that i didnt do it, and that i was only the passenger. the matter was taken to court, and i kept on thinking about the girl and her family. i know the exact location where it happened... it was as clear as if i was there... it was in a street near my holiday house, and all of its surroundings are correct.... can someone help me work out what this means... if it helps, im about to start work as a swimming teacher with little kids... please someone help me... i feel terrible, even though it never actaully happened.

just an update, it has been nearly a week since i told him. and i have not heard a singal word from him. i personally believe that he is being immature, and that if he was really a man, he would have gotten over the fact that someone liked him.... is it me, or is he just being immature... is there anything i can do to fix it, or just give up?

it actaully depends on the girls diet, if she eats healthy and drinks pinapple juice (ive heard pineapple juice helps) she will taste sweet... however, if her diet is bad, and has lots of junk food, appently she will taste bitter....

oh my god... my chin is still on the ground.... how dare he say that your the one to blame, your not that one that went out and did something wrong... get rid of him, and never bother about thinking of him again, because he totally isnt worth your time in thought.... oh my god i cant believe he said that.... leave him, and dont care what he says about it.

i luckly dont have that problem, because no one i know, knows about this site so i can use friends names and use the real situation and know that my friends want actaully know it was me thats why i use this site to vent.

please keep us posted as to what your decision is, because no matter what happens, all of us here will be here for you. i really hope it doesnt come to putting him down. but please let us know what happens.

hey, i would never dream of putting down my babies unless they were sooo sick that it would be better for them that way. but i can understand where you are coming from. can u put signs up saying "dog for sale" with a picture of your beautiful baby, or something like that???? i would really feel for you if u had to put him down... cant your ex do something???? did you buy the dog together or look after it together??? can the dog stay at ur ex's for a while, at lest until you set yourself up???? this must be really hard for you... if u need to talk im here

hey, thank you all for your input. the thing is, when i told him i used to like him, i didnt like him at that time. if that makes sense. i just wanted him to know, because it was killing me inside, it took three years to build the courage to tell him. i dont want to lose the friendship with him, but he makes it so hard to keep a friendship, he never talks to me, he says his always busy... i mean okay he works on a casual basis and a hardware store doing check outs, he doesnt have a girlfriend or any other commiments, so i just dont understand how he can "so busy" all the time. or is this his way of saying "i dont want to see you" ok... just so its clear. i dont like him anymore!!!! ive gotten over that and convinced myself that he is to much like my father, and is always to busy and would never have time for a relationship blah blah blah so i got over it. but i just think that its so stupid, like even with my other best friend 'travis' i am the one always putting in the effot to organise things, im the one that goes down to their work to bring them water and something to eat, im the one that has to start the e-mails or converstations, and ive just had enough of it. i feel like its such a one sided friendship, and im hoping that when i start work on monday and start going to tafe during the year, that i will develop new friends... but im so scareed that people wont like me! im very self consiouse and shy around new people. but hopefully i will get *new* friends that actaully have time for to do things. but once again thank you so much for your support, it really means alot to me steffany.

Hey guys. As you know, I used to like my best friend james… and the other day I told him that, I wanted to find out if he liked me, and I wanted him to know how I had felt about him. Well to cut a long story short, I told him, and he told me he didn't like me, yet said that our friendship wont change, although I think it has. He doesn't talk to me, he has been dropping my belongings back at my place when he knew that I wouldn't be home, he has totally gone non communication style. So what im asking is this: should I just drop the whole friendship if he is being immature about it? Or is he doing this for my benefit? Should I give it time and wait for him to come round???? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. steffany

yeah i think she wants to start talking to you on a friendly basis, and that is why she is sending all those messages. maybe she still really cares about you!!!!