Aiden

I am a very very shy person and I usually take people in small doses but for people I care about I am willing to make the effort. My family, friends, and boyfried all invite me to places where I feel less than comfortable but they let me know that I am important to them and they want me to share in certain events with them. Knowing why I am there eases my discomfort level. If it is important that he be there to YOU then you should definitley let him know how much and he should make the effort. Also do you know of any reason why he wouldn't be comfortable around your family?

Volution, Your post made me cry, Don't worry it was a much needed cry. We have talked about things before and I actually talked to him after my post. (No, he wasn't too upset that I woke him up.) I feel better that we talked but I don't know what will happen now. I don't want to change him because there are so many good things about him. He revealed to me that he has been hurt before and now he has problems opening up to people and he has been trying to work on that but he needs time. I just have to accept that and hope that he will eventually see that I would never hurt him.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He was "my first". He has had multiple partners. Part of my problem is he uses sex to show intamacy while I prefer an emotional and spiritual connection. Maybe that my Piscian nature coming to the surface. Also, it seems like something happened after we started having sex we don't talk the way we use to talk and when we are together all he wants to do is have sex. We can't even have a decent conversation now. Maybe I am just a hopless romantic, but I thought growing closer physically would make us closer in other categories. He was different from most guys in that he didn't dump me or try to pressure me when I told him that I was a virgin. Now I am wondering if he was just doing what it took to get what he wanted. What should I do?