Jimbo10

Maybe not to this degree, but who doesn't have one person who they just want to stear clear of at all costs. I think you need to learn to cope with this better/differently. Learn to laugh this off. Forget trying to get rid of her. It'll be impossible, or you'll feel like a jerk. Just start laughing it off, and blowing it off. Forget about it, it's jus words, and hey, what the heck, bug her back. I mean, laugh when she makes stupid comments, argue when she says things that are wrong, or inapropriate. Fight fire with fire, but don't spend too much time on it. At the end of the day, you should do what me and one my friends now do We take our dogs for walks and laugh about the stupid crap at school with people and teachers and all. It blows off steam, and it's fun and funny Give those tips a try, maybe you'll enjoy all the stupid stuff she says if you can laugh at how moronic it all is!

I just think that Cheating is deffined as wrong, therfore, it is not appropriate ever UNLESS>>>>>> ohh here it comes - - - - - - - Your playing the card game Cheat. Sex is a part of a relationship too. If you guys get along well, and have things in common, either that outweighs sexualt urges or it doesn't. If the sexual part isn't enough, than that means the whole relationship isn't enough. Either, make a bold attempt to correct the problem, or don't waste both of your times, and get out before it hurts too bad. Good luck

If fears are this intence, to the point where you are simply not strong enough (I'm not saying your weak at all!) to face it, you really do need to see a doctor. In the long run, yes facing your fear is the only real option, but it sounds like your phobia is at a point where it is too intence to go it alone. Who knows the reason. Ask your family, they'd probably know of an experience you had. Or, many people's fears just come from somewhere we can't explain. We studied fear and phobia's deeply in lit. class. It is really interesting, and there are some main causes that result in more specific fear. We found the main fear was cause by the human "fear of the unknown" If you really in your heart want to fix this problem, just know that it is completely possible. You can do it, but don't be put off to realize that you can't do it alone. Everyone needs help here and there, don't be afraid to ask. I hope you do tackle this problem. You'll feel great, but it isn't a quick fix. Good luck to you! Jimbo

I really think the appropriate thing to do would be to sit down and adress the issue with her. Let her know that this live-in gentleman just doens't sit right. Don't come on as suspicitious, but don't get blown off Maybe you should make some gentle pushed for her to get this guy back on his feet, and off her back. Don't hide how it makes you feel. Be open with her. I'm sure you can talk to her and make her understand. It really is strange!

My apologies. I did not fully understand the situation, and the way I first interpretted this was that you found out she aborted a child, and then you left her. Now that I understand the situation I'm totally on your side. She used the abortion to get at you, and selfishly. My apologies for getting it all twisted up.

Buddy, I hafta say, you really really screwed up bad! First off, SHE doesn't need YOUR permission to abort a baby. An abortion is completely up to the woman She's acting moody...so you left her???? That just being a jerk! Common, do you know what she's been through aborting a child? So she aborts your baby, and then you abort her. You screwed up, and you need to make things right.

Well, genital warts, or Herpes, spread through bodily fluid, and often simple touch. So, if a chicks never kissed ya, I presume one's never given you oral pleasure, and you said you've never had intercourse. This means the two places where Herpes manifest themselves have never touched your boys (mouth and groin). THE FIRST SIGN OF GENITAL WARTS IS USUALLY THE MOST SEVERE. Meaning if you've seen 1, or 2 little zits, it really really really doesn't sound like it. However let me warn you, these are technically possible signs of genital warts. My own hypothesis is formed, and I'm sure most will agree, because you are not, and have never been sexually active. Just for you, I've done some research, and the outbreaks are usually large scale, and are more sores, like acne, than small zits/whiteheads. So I wouldn't worry too much, your scin, primarily on the face, and as I've seen in the locker room and whatnot the back as well, is delicate, and suseptable to outbreaks, tons during the hormone filled teenager years. So, if there are simply 1, or 2 little zits, or whiteheads, *although i'm not a doctor*** you don't really have a chance at an STD. Your not sexually active in any way! (which is good, abstenence is the only 100% garunteed birth control!). And, 1 or 2 little zits are not that of genital warts, where the sufferer has large scale outbreaks, that, as I understand can be quite painful. For all answers to your questions on the symptoms and signs of Herpes, check this out. link removed and link removed I think your fine, but if you do happen to have an outbreak, or this contiues over and over, to the point you always have zits in your groin, see a PHD. If you, or anyone at all, ever needs help on talking to parents on embarrasing, or troublesome topics, I would be more than happy to help. I have serious experience in this area, so feel free to utilise me for that. PM me anytime!

Well, it's not my business to say end it with this guy, but some actions need to be taken. Here's what I would do, it's just one option, which is my opinion. If you disagree; fine. Tell this guy he's not treating you right. Tell him you need a break from him. Say you don't want to talk to him for an ammount of time chosen by you (maybe a week, or more). Tell him if he doesn't start treating you like a friend, and a girlfriend when you try your relationship again, he's finished with you for good. So he'll have time to smarten up. If he throws ONE stinkin hissy-fit, just leave. If he comes crawling back, don't fall into that trap unless you have evidence he's had a real change. And if, for some reason you break up, and get together again, don't fall into the spot your in right now again PS: If he lays one finger on you, so help me god I will not stand a man abusing a woman under any cercumstances, and neither should you. I'm too Italian for that cowardly crap! Good luck. Jimbo

Well, I can't miscary, so I won't claim to know where your at, but I have something to say My cousin miscaried twice in a row. It was the saddest thing. Not just for her, but her husband, and the entire family. BUT.... it didn't mean she wasn't able to have kids! She was too sad, and put off for almost a year, but tried a third time. Well, child number 1 came along, happy and healthy. The next year, number 2, and all the way to 4 happy babies (all under 5 years old, ouch). I really can't say I personnally know what it's like for your right now, but I have experienced more than my fair share of loss in only 17 years, and like anything, you improve at dealing with it. So here is what I now know. Family is the best thing you'll ever have. The love between a good family is the single most powerful bond in the universe, and we all should use it to our advantage, I hope you do. Anouther thing, maybe obvious, especially to women but...just let it out. I lost both my grandfathers, then my great grandfather to completely unrelated causes in less than 10 months. After my great grandfather died, I stopped bothering trying to keep my composure for about 2 days, i basically just let it out and greived. It makes you feel better inside. Showing yourself you care as much as you believe you should does something great .....i dont know what. That probably doesn't give you any new advise, but that's the true way. There is no short-cut around grief, and no easy way out. We all deal with it differently, but we should always remember family, and never try and hold it all inside, no matter how strong you are trying to look for yourself, your spouce, or whomever. Anyway, that's my advise on greiving and moving on. Family, and not holding back until you snap. If you can't think of anyone else, or just want my opinion on anything, PM me. Truly sorry for your loss. Best regards Jimbo

Well, here's what I think This isn't too tough. SHE ALREADY KNOWS YOUR INTERESTED!!! That makes life easy. It's not like she'll get these flowers and be like "oh my goodness, _____ must like me, how aukward" She'll just know that your thinking about her. Just, don't go over the top, make sure that it isn't so big that she'll think you didn't understand her saying she had just ended a rough relationship. Maybe just a small boucette, or a pot plant. And maybe a small note saying something sweet. I don't see the harm in it at all. Go for it! Good luck JImbo

Good plan Forget the gifts and eat their chocolate as a secret punishment for screwing with your heart...ha...that'll teach'em!

I don't think we can pin cheating on any 1 thing. Cheating is the result of 1 of a multitude of different problems that can stand alone, or be mixed and matched. Major problems that cause the heart to wonder are deffinatly relationship problems. Not enough sex, no more physical attraction, I could go on, but I'm sure there are too many to bother. As well, some people really are just jerks who can't settle down, and would be better off not trying. Some people just don't like, and can't stand the thought of one partener for life. Everyone before me made great posts about different problems that they think cause a cheater or cheating, but it's not just one, or two of these. It's every single one of them. People's motovation for cheating come from many quite different directions. but here is the truth behind it. Regardless of motive, character flaws aside, it's about the outcome. Cheating really hurts, it's dishonest, and anyone who is christian who cheats should be ashamed of themselves. It's not a solution to anything, and is a sign of weakness.

These all sound like head games you two are playing with each other Just stand up, and tell her IN PERSON you really do like her, and you'd like to try being more than friends PS. Lay off the black joke! Not funny

I don't know the situation at your school, but where I am, there are a few 3 grade difference relationships. 1, or even 2 are more common, but it's not out of the ordinary. but, remember, your friends might not think that way. I have a friends who is in grade 11, and is going out with a girl in grade 8, but he met her when she was in grade 7. Something about her being in elementary school caused us to think it was weird, and we bugged him about it. Also, they met at a Fair, and she is a hoar, but hey... who am I to judge? Anyway, it's not weird, but if your friends laugh at you, just ignor it. I don't think it's really inapropriate or anything. Good luck.

You know what, You need to take action. Have your cousin over. WITHOUT THE PHSYCO! You all need to say that there is something seriously wrong with this dude, and you are all extremly concerned. Tell her that something just isn't right with this guy. But, it is very important she doesn't feel like your disowning her, or trying to run her life. Don't let her run out in a puff, whatever you do, if that happens, things could get even worse. Get her friends involved. I don't know why, but sometimes people listen to friends more than family. As well, they tend to listen to family who aren't as immediat as mom/dad/brother/sister/close cousins. Maybe grandma should express her feelings, when knowone else is there. Don't all get together and tell her. I know it may sound like a good idea, like your supporting her, but she'll definatly feels ganged up on. Chances are it won't do any good. Make sure she knows how completely inapropriate this mans actions are. If he won't say his age, chances are he won't talk about his history. He wants her to move in? Very very suspicios. In fact, that sounds DAMN scary to me. This guy could be very dangerous. I really don't want to cause an alarm, just have your warning lights on if you know what I mean, but I'm sure you probably already do! If anything really weird happens, if she doesn't talk to anyone for a day, if he disappears, anything, call the Police. I hope it all turns out well. This is all very strange and suspisious. Good luck

Don't ever feel worthless, and don't ever loose your self respect, ever in your life. So ONE guy turned you down. Obviously you didn't know him as well as you thought you did. He's probably not the person who you thought he was through observing, and overhearing him in the past. That means you better off without him. Don't worry, there's someone for everyone.

First off, calm yourself, no point getting freaked out, or flipping. It's obviously worriesome, but you can't change the past. Go for a home pregnacy test. They test hormone levels in a urine sample, and advertise as very accurate, some even within the first few days of pregnancy. Hope things turn out well, keep us updated Jimbo

I play hockey! That's ausome. As well, I enjoy the occational computer/xbox games with my buddies. We also often play street hockey. My major thing, though, is music. I've had a major pation for it since I was tiny. I play 3 insruments, and try to play a few others. I'm in my schools band and jazz band, as well, I often play with my brother and cousins. Jam sessions at friends house are so much fun! I recommend music to anyone with artistic tallent, and anyone with the type of personality that can really get into things. It's a great thing, that can also make you a litle side money!

Just show her your love as much as you can. Make sure she knows how you feel, and if she really does, she won't think your unfaithful. Anything that you really want to work can work, if your willing enough. If you really like her, I know you can find a way to make it all work out!

I geuss you could have said you need more space, but he sounds like a pain in the butt. He'll be ok, that isn't being mean!

I could say something important, but i think I'll just say what a gay guy once told me Masterbation is procrastination until you realize your F****** yourself.

I don't understand, she'd probably be like, "damn I'm good" if you said that she brought you to orgasm. I mean, she wouldn't be mad, she'd probably be happy, or at least think it was cute! I think you should totally tell her Good luck, JImbo

Well, I don't know about cheating husbands or anything, and I don't know the situation, but I've got something to say, more, a favour actually. Please, put the baby off until things are perfect. It's not fair to the child. While, yes, single parents can do a great job and raise a great child, who could argue that it is not the IDEAL situation. I hope everything works out well for you! Good luck Jimbo