Lolo21

I would like to know what everyone's opinion is on the causes of cheating. Do you think that it is caused from a problem in the relationship, or from a problem with the person who is doing the cheating? I have seen on past posts, the majority of responses hinted towards the fact that indidelity is caused by something wrong with the relationship, but I kind of believe that in a lot of cases the problem is with the cheater, meaning this person has some kind of character flaw or morals that don't hold loyalty very high. What does everyone think?

Thank you all so much for your advice, it has helped me a lot. The only thing im not quite sure about is if i should contact the other woman's husband. I really think he should know, but a lot of my friends and so on have urged me not to because they think its revengeful. However, I believe its just the right thing to do, the woman has already admitted to my ex- fiance that she herself will not ever tell her husband, and she doesn't really seem to care, so I think this poor man needs to know. Anyways, thanks to all.

I found out when I was looking at his email, I was snooping because a couple of months ago I found some "flirtaous" emails from this same women in his email and he told me he was so sorry and it didnt mean anything, so of course I have been keeping tabs on him because of that and well yesterday i found a separate email account with like a 100 emails in it from this women resoponding to his emails, he keeps telling her how much he loves her etc. She is older than him, he is 23 shes 30 and married with kids. Im 21. I feel so disgusted because my fiance not only ruined my life and broke my heart, but he also ruined another family and hurt children. It just breaks my heart.

I found out the love of my life has been in love with someone else, he tells me he still loves me, but i know hes lying. This is so hard, I dont even know what to type on here, im just so brokenhearted. The woman he is cheating with is married, and has kids of her own, so they both just ruined to families lives, this is horrible. Im sorry, I just need some words of encourgerment, i feel so alone.

thanks for all the advice!