Free Lancer

It's called 'NC' No Contact... The only way to get over someone you love... You won't forget them ... that is impossible... It will just make things easier for you... you can move on with your life... Don't talk to her at all... explain it to her first then stop talking... it will be hard for both of you... but best in the long run for you Good Luck

That was amazing I love it... Do you mind if I print it off and put it up in my room... I feel exactly that way about someone at the moment I LOVE IT

You love her but you want to get over her.... Time heals all wounds... You want to get over her... don't talk to her... vut off all contact and you will slowly get over... instead of thinking about her all day you will only think about her half the day... then a quarter of the day and so on and so forth... Try talk to her as little as possible and you will get over her... Don't try to hate her... never works

I wouldn't think that it would do any damage... but water based lubricants are best because they are MADE for masterbating... you can get them in anyChemist or even local Shopping centre, probably near the condoms

If you feel upset everytime you talk to him, then I think you really need a cool down... don't talk to him for a while... And just because you have nothingin common doesn't mean that you can't love him... *opposites attract* that's is probably why you like him... or 'Love' him If you think you have a slight chance of something happening in the futureKeep talking to him.. I mean Love should nevr be given up on... But only do it if you think something is going to happen...

My God That is the longest post EVER... I'm going to be blunt... In my opinion she is screwing you around... She want's you she doesn't want you, she wants you, she doesn't want you... I'm surprised you hung around THAT long... because of her not knowing what she wants, she is stopping you from moving on with your life... she basically cut you off from your friends who you have been friends with for 7 years... that is a long time... I know you love her and you will probably love her for a long time after... but she isn't going to give you what you want for a long time.... she seems to be giving you short bursts and as soon as she gets bored she moves on then comes back then moves on... she just doesn't seem to want any long term commitment... Take a break from her... go away with your mates... have some fun without her... try realize that you CAN have fun without that girl and you don't NEED her If life hands you Lemons ask for Tequilla and Salt

Mate... that is by far the LAST option do not do something that is going to destroy the lives of EVERYONE around you... You WILL ruin people's lives... in my opinion Suicide is the most selfish thing... I've been whre you are... not necessarily the EXACT position but I've been so depressed that I wanted to kill myself... DON'T I'm so glad that I didn't, because at the moment life is good for me... Life will become good for you to... just give it time... you are at an incredably hormonal stage of life... all these weird things are happening to you and it is making you feel shocking we all went, are going through, are going to go through... this stage... So don't do anything stupid... even if it is not for yourself... Don't commit suicide for your Family, friends, teachers, Aunties, Uncles, cousins, your ex... Talk to your Ex, have a long chat ... tell her you still love her very much but you just need to work things out for yourself... say you don't want to hurt her... Don't do anything stupid... Suicide is incredably selfish

Well personally i think I'm missing out because I have never kissed a guy and been aroused... EVER... I don't really particularily like kissing... it's weird... geez... how sheltered am I?!?!?! hehe

Sorry to be cruel... but you have to be cruel to be kind... you said It seems to me you saying should I wait for an explanation is a bit pointless... If he hasn't spoken to you by now he won't speak to you... and the fact that he told your friend... Just shows that he is a stupid f@#%... You HAD this beautiful thing that he has given NO RESPECT AT ALL TO... you're doing the nice thing and waiting... BUT don't, Like Aretha Franklin says All I'm asking is for a little Respect... Don't put up with him... move on... you'll feel so much better with time

Hey At the moment things are going to seem REALLY crazy but you can get through it... Don't think ahead too much./.. work through it day by DAY, and things will get easier... You're telling us that it isn't your mum and that you love her so much... show her your post like you did the others... Also when you get the chance just go up and hug her, or give her a kiss on the cheek... or even tell her you love her and that she is the best mum... Do something for her that you wouldn't usually do... buy her some flowers. Lots of hugs for you definatley ... they help

Geez... your boy is acting really childish... He should let you do the Judo... you enjoy it he shouldn't be stopping you from doing what YOU enjoy... I mean big deal you beat him at a wrestling match... All I can think of is "ummm isn't that the point" You've been training for How many months... if you couldn't beat him the lessons would be pointless" The lessons for you probably aren't JUST fun they are a great way to learn self defense... So if you REALLY love him and are willing to sacrifice something that OBVIOUSLY brings you joy... don't start up at the new dojo... But other people really shouldn't stop you from doing what makes you happy... ... There are so many bad experiences in our life we shouldn't cut off the good ones

That is sooo sad... just the way you described your relationship as beautiful... I've never heard a relationship described that way before... I think that if you feel this way then she feels exactly the same, she just still hurts from what happened... Don't worry I think because of what you once had you will become friends again... I think it was meant to be Start making contact with her slowly... and then increase it.. don't be to forward to quickly....

Hey Don't worry about it ... you fully don't need a boyfriend or a girlfriend... as long as you have your friends it's ok... Just have fun with them and one day when you least expect it You'll find someone fantastic who thinks you're fantastiv too

Time heals all wounds... It really does That is totally intense.. I think it is really unfair that, that happened you seemed like a really nice guy... I think what you were saying about being an a** will work.... The silent treatment alwayz works on girls... I'd know... ummmm... I think if you don't talk to her for a while you can slowly get over it That's all I can offer Good Luck

In most of these sort of things the copier just can't think of anything and she may be trying to find some original stuff... I don't think she is intentionally trying to Copy you or your boyfriend... She just thinks you have REALLY good ideas... and think they are SOOO fantastic that she wants to do it herself and so she does... she may no even realize she is doing it

Hey Tiki That was a long one but I'll reply anyway... You guys really did seem perfect together... but I won't remind you of that... It sounds to me that it would be better if you two stayed apart... and what you said about the fact that if you two got back together things would be different ... that is soooo true. See what it is like without him... Catch up with all your buds... try really hard because you're the one who ditched them for him... and I know he was special... but every girl needs her friends... Just see what it is like without him... it will be a new experience and you will feel better and you will feel invigerated... do something completely out of the ordinary... Go bungee jumping or something cut your hair... SOMETHING DIFFERENT so that you have something else to think about other than your ex.... You'll get through it... Just remember don't try to forget him... that will never work... it will hurt less and less... Here is a quote you can think about

Hey Blue Skittles, We all feel this way and currently I am feeling the same as you... although not quite as much as wanting to run away... This is the reason why I joined eNotalone... so I could feel not alone..... makes sense ey?? Anyway I think that if you did leave without telling people... they would miss you you are having an affect on someone even if you don't know it. Maybe this will help I just found it for you. Let it go till you finish your degree... try make some new friends like ang3l2004 said... You might be the best thing since sliced bread...

Hey I know EXACTLY what you are going through... at school my friends are constantly come up to me and say ... so who is it this week... I change my mind ALL the time and if I DO go on a date with a guy I become disinterested after 2 weeks or less... I've come to the conclusion that it is just a way to prevent myself from getting hurt (although I've never had a boyfriend before)... And when I do like a guy... I alwayz imagine senarios in which we (the guy and me) are together... not going as far as Marriage though... But in your case and mine I think I might take my own advice.. I've been trying to... Just go slowly... Have fun with your friends and when you least expect it a special someone will come along who effects you that little bit more than anyone else... and you'll just know that this is a long term thing

Well considering I am AUSTRALIAN, I can't really hear the accent so that one is kind of scubed out Hmm well I guess for me I like it when a guy drives a manual car... something to do with the Stick Shoes i have to admitt are important... if they are just kind of dirty things that he doesn't really care about... I alwayz think they don't have attention to detail OR he doesn't notice the entire picture. Men in uniform are gorgeous but don't go becoming a firman or something just to get a girlfriend... what happens after you take the uniform off... Men in uniform have the perve factor, that's it... I don't mind eye colour, because a guy can have amazing blue eyes... but others can have REALLY deep brown eyes... either way it is good For me I can't go past a good smile... (refer to my quote) It just makes you seem as though you are a happy person And maybe a little bit higher than a good smile is CONFIDENCE... if you don't have confidence it is very unlikely a girl will like you... girls seem to go for the confident guys... don't know why... there is just this unseen sex appeal... so keep that in mind Have fun

So I'm assuming you do still love her... you didn't actually say that. Well you seem to have done all the normal I love you things... Maybe something she knows you would NEVER do... something that takes guts... if you don't like public speaking get up in front of people... she has to be there of course and tell her you Love her... Something she knows you hate... Or do something you know she'll LOVE... shows you've been listening to her

I would go into this date thinking you guys are friends... Look at it from the boyfriends side... how would you feel if you knew YOUR girl was going out with a guy she found attractive??? So go into this date thinking you guys are friends... you might want more but don't make a move... if she makes a move great... but you don't want the boyfriend coming after you because you made a move on his girl... let her make the move so 1. You don't get in trouble 2. You know what her intentions are

Sweetie he obviously likes you... and yes you can... "Hey I've noticed you around what classes are you in?" and you go from there... if you say he has been "stalking" you he isn't just going to ignore the question obviously he has been to nervous to start talking to you... smile at him next to you see him... It might give him enough guts to come up and say 'Hi' Hope that helped

Hey... this is my first time I've writen with a problem of my own so here it goes... *phew* Ok it started on Monday which was yesterday... well actually it started earlier... Howz about I type and you try understand... I was invited to a Party on the 21st of August and I was like yeh I'll go cause she is my good bud (by the way her name is Liz) and she's great we used to be really close but we are kinda distansed now but we are still good friends (not the issue)... So at the moment this is the party that EVERYONE is going to all my friends etc... A week later I was invited to another party (Party guy is Jack he has a girlfriend who is a good friend of mine) ON THE SAME NIGHT (eeeek) and this party is going to be really good and heaps of my friends (who were invited to the other party) are going to this party... So all of us who were invited to both we are going to go to both because we don't want to be rude to ONE or the other... So during a rehearsal for a concert... Me and three other girl were just sitting and talking and... there was a party coming up (different party last Sat) and my friend Emma said I've been invited to this other party of a family friend and I think I might go to that one and not the one you guys a going to (Emma wasn't invited to Jack's Party) and so I turned to her and mimed please come to ours I want you there... and she turned to me and said "this is a bit much coming from you considering you're going to Jack's... Liz is meant to be your good friend you were like her best friend you should be going to just her Party"... I just kind of sat there in horror, I couldn't really say anything to that so I left it and didn't say anything to her for the rest of the day... So this Party on the Saturday came and Emma was there... it all went well we were talking... yey... I get to School on Monday and at Recess My two friends Ellen and Georgina come up to and say (knowing about what Emma had said to me)... "Ummmm... Emma is going to Jack's party" and I turned around and I'm like "Excuse me.... ummmm are you sure?" and they were like "Yeh she told Jack on Saturday that she was going to go to his Party... you should say something to her" and I'm not confrontational AT ALL I hate it because my throat goes dry and I never know what to say and I just loose all confidence... (Emma is really intimidating sometimes) Eventually they convince me to ask her about it... so she was standing behind me but not in our conversation... she didn't know that I was going to do this... I turn around and say Me ummm... Georgina just told that you were going to Jack's... that you told him you were going to his party... isn't that a little Hypocritical considering you hounded me about it?" E did I hound you?" Me the rehearsal you went off at me" (it kinda goes blurry here) E: "I wasn't hounding you, I was just saying that you've been friends with Liz for ages, and I never actually said I was going to Jack's" Me told me, and she was RIGHT there when you said it and I believe her" E just think you shouldn't be at Liz's for only an Hour" Me when did I say I was only going to be at Liz's for one hour I never told you that" E told me you were only going to be there for an hour" Me I never told Sal anything like that, I haven't even spoken to her about that, you just assumed, you could have come to me and asked me" E should have come to me and asked about it" Me you should have come to me" E if you wern't ignoring me all of last week I would have spoken to you" Me wasn't ignoring you" E tell me you weren't cause you were" I start to walk away E you were ignoring me" I turn back to her Me have my reasons for doing that" E: *laughs* I knew it Then Emma walks away.... So I was angry with her ALL day yesterday... I found out last night that Emma was Thinking about gong to Jack's and that she MIGHT be going... so I was going to apologise today.... Today Hannah comes up to me and tells me that Emma doesn't want to talk to me until friday at least (Emma holds major grudges) So all of today I've been walking around Feeling sick as anything wanting to throw up when ever I thought I saw her... Or when I did see her... I really DO NOT WANT TO LOOSE HER FRIENDSHIP... I do like her but I love her as a friend... PLease Help.... what should I do... should I apologise... What did I do wrong so I don't do it again... ANYTHING WILL HELP... I'm being eaten up inside

Personally if i've paid 11.50 to see a movie I want to watch it... maybe if you know that the kissing scene is going to be long then that will be cool. But you really have to assess if the girl really wanted to see the movie before hand... If she did Don't be stupid... don't kiss her. Otherwise only during kissing scenes

make it more of a thrill of the chase... tempt more... ummm... go into kiss but pull away a little... so you make him want to kiss you even more, BUT that will make you want him more... a little teasing never hurt anyone... that will just make you want him more... Hope that helped