*sigh* I'm not sure how many of you recall the problem I was having w/my BF...basically, that after he discovered I had taken judo classes in the past, he challenged me to a wrestling match--lost--and then became frustrated and bitter after he repeatedly kept trying to beat me and failed to do so...
I got many excellent suggestions from folks on this forum on how to deal w/this--everything from letting him win to trying other contests which he could win to make him feel more "like a man" (even tho' I didn't care that I can beat him at wrestling)....
anyway, one suggestion seemed to work for a while--after he challenged me yet again I said "why don't we arm wrestle instead--i'll bet I can beat you at that, too"....(of course I knew I couldn't...he IS pretty strong and i'm just a skinny gal w/ well-toned arms, not a "buff" girl by any stretch), and so we had the arm wrestle, and even tho' I held on for a lot longer than I thought I would, he did beat me (we did right, then left arms and he won both) and that seemed to satisfy him and get his mind off the wrestling matches, and I thought things would return to normal...
but then a couple weeks back I ran into a girl friend of mine who I went to college and took judo classes with and she told me she'd been continuing classes at a dojo that's near where I live, and said I should join up--the sensei is great, etc....anyway, after those wrestling contests w/my BF I remembered how much I enjoyed judo and the competition and I told him I wanted to start taking the classes (and even suggested he should join, too) and he just got really mad and said "no way!" and we had this huge fight about it and i basically said "you can't tell me what I can and can't do" and stormed out and now things are really weird and I think he's giving me this ultimatum that if I start judo again he'll break up w/me...well, maybe I should just let him....but I don't know...maybe I am being selfsih about wanting to take classes again--but it's not to make myself so good that he can't ever possibly beat me or make him feel "less of a man" in the relationship as he's implying...
any further thoughts from anyone on how I should approach this?