Amannamederic

have you gotten the test yet? if its positive then we can walk you through what to do, but what a 13-14 year old boy wants should be of little consequence to you, welcome to the adult world. If, and lets pray it isn't, the test is positive, its a personal decision that you make on your own. You will not marry this boy so he is not to be thought of. What do you feel is the best course of action?

god when i was 14 what is that...7th or 8th grade? you didn't even think about sex back then because it labled you the biggest pervert on earth. and that was just 4 years ago...how times have changed in my old old age

and the reason so many people tell you to enjoy your childhood is because when you get into your 20's you don't have much time to be carefree like you can at your age. Enjoying your childhood isn't bad advice and it shouldn't be taken as lecturing or nagging or annoying. Its something you should listen to since every person who has told you to do so is older and already been where you are. at the very least, lets hope you don't end up pregnant, abortion under any circumstance other than rape makes me absolutely sick, please learn a lesson from your scare here

/sigh your probably right dark. feeling sorry for the kid is all.

god damn this post makes me sad, you've been having sex since 11 or 12, but nobody asked this so here goes, have you even started your period yet.

yeah sorry man but disappear for awhile and do not bring up what you asked her anymore but i am curious, if she is a good friend, and all you asked was hey want to hang out some time, haven't you hung out outside of school before? i don't see why she would say no unless this is the first time you had asked for an outside of school thing to happen

i've had both extremes. The completely shaved thing is nicer to lick but there is nothing wrong with short hair down there either. You run into a problem when you have a girl who has only paid attention to her bikini line and never paid attention to the rest of the hair. Ladies, trust me, pay attention to it, if you feel uncomfortable shaving just trim it down. I've been with two girls who kept theirs that way, and after they came, things got matted, clumpy, stuck to their thighs, lips, clitoris, etc etc. It is not only extremely unattractive to have white clumps, but probably painful getting them un-clumped. As for why we like doing it so much, i love the up-close-and-personal aspect of oral sex on a girl. You are pretty much right there face to face with one of the parts of her body she is most embarrassed of due to taste, smell, look, whatever. Plus, its fun to watch their faces change when you do it right, with guys you really can't go wrong its so easy to do, but with a girl, there is so much goin on down there that its a challenge with very noticeable results. 8) i guess thats all ill say on it.

this is a sketchy situation in my eyes, the girl did a complete 180 there didn't she mate. Did you bring the subject of a life together and kids up again? or was it just that one time you mentioned it to her... Honestly, it seems to me that she was trying to make you a bit jealous, a family's opinion of a person can go a long way. Judging by her brother and sister (r.i.p) talking to you the way they had, you are a popular fellow. Have her over one night, if she still hangs onto the whole, "I like this guy and he likes me" thing, do the NC and start planning for life without, no need for a girl who plays games with you. If she doesn't however, mention the life together and all of that, remind her how close you've been to her when she has needed you most and use that as evidence that you think you are ready for the entire committment. From the sound of things, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain, especially if you haven't mentioned your future together...shes probably thinking you forgot all about it and is done waiting.

rofl your 5'10? im 6'7, sounds like we are both in the same boat on that one...just thought id throw that out there

well, if you insist. go for an early morning run, eat a smal breakfast, like a slimfast or nutrition bar at lunch eat normally, make it the biggest meal of the day again dinner, eat light, whatever you like, not until you feel completely full, but until you feel satisfied. then run a short distance at night. if you start dropping wait really fast it is NOT good, im no dietician either so yeah rofl. still dont understand...but hey, to each their own right?

whoa your totally right, forget what she seemed like 4-5 days ago...she has done a complete 180 and i don't wanna ruin this. Ill tell her i have a crush on her tomorrow and see what happens.

i would agree with you except she doesn't text me back if i decide to send her a message (she has admitted problems between our phones...usually i dont get the messages she sends and she sometimes doesnt get mine) and she told me after that date, like...sunday or wahtever that she just wanted a friend right now since she was still sort of with this ex boyfriend of hers, she suggested they take a break and wasn't completely ready to break it off. Thats why i just sort of dropped the lets go out on dates thing. also the date was weird, she actually received text messages and phone calls in the middle of it, even though she apologized that was weird, and ended it without even motioning for a hug... it beats the hell out of me! cuz then she goes and does all the stuff i typed up there...weird huh

whoa whoa whoa, lemme just say this, skinny is so last year lmao. ok all kidding aside, from where i sit, 5'6 134 sounds...well...perfect why would you want to change? especially to a lower weight, girls who want to weigh less when they are near perfect make me sad see?

hey guys, Just a simple question here, is low grade touching always a sign of affection? I had been on a date with this girl and we hadn't touched at all, then, as the week progresses i was just kind to her, acted like nothing had happened, we still sit by each other and still talk and all of that. I talked to her dad twice now and the man likes me ALOT (i hear from her cousin and her) and her mom thinks im sweet as well. Her cousin (plays football with me) is one of my closest friends and always asks if i like his cousin. Her friends are all on my side but i don't know if they have talked to her about me. The reason i was compelled to write is this...lately...she has been touching me. Outside of our usual talking, laughing together, sitting close, walking with each other. A few instances in the past 2 days stick out in my head the most. 1. Monday, at lunch i was talking to a friend, earlier in the period i had sat down and complimented her on her clothing, saying she looked very pretty. We are both trying to become teachers and we had to dress up for an internship we had that day. I just let her know how i felt. As i sat down she immediately began preening herself, pulling her shirt up around the breast area, straightening out her shirt and pulling her skirt down, fixing her hair while we talked. Anyway, as i was talking to this friend later in the period at a different table, i suddenly feel fingers run through my hair, i turn around and she had smiled a bit and just walked on...weird. 2. Today, i was standing on the balcony in a hallway of our school. I was digging through my plan book in an attempt to locate a pass to get out of my next class. As i was doing this, not lookin up for anything i feel those same fingers scratch my back up and down. I turn around, and there she is with a small smile on her face. I walked her to her class, intentionally held out my hand for a low 5, and to test, didn't take my hand away after we completed it...neither did she. 3. I got to class late and her things were by my seat, no big deal, i just sat down next to her stuff and talked to a friend of mine. She came in, sat down, and wrote me a bit in her notebook about how much her dad liked talking to me the night before. She told me he wanted to meet my mom and dad (possibly seeing if i thought this was ok as well?) anyway, we divide up our tables into a square to share our experiences at our internships. I shared mine in which the class full of 8th grade girls i was teaching discovered i was a senior football player and proceeded to turn every single head in my direction with new interest. The class literally screamed with laughter at this and she was no exception, smiling and laughing. Then my teacher said that this was an issue, how to get past flirtatious girls. As these words came out, the girl started hitting my arm with her hand. So i nudged her back with my elbow, playfully, and she crossed her arms with this pouty look on her face i think. tough to read, especially to those who are familiar with the date, keep in mind that i was just treating her like a friend after it, i haven't even told her that i really like her yet. Is it time i let that little secret slip? -Eric btw DN she apologized profusely for being on her phone all night and hoped i wasn't pissed...it was tough to get her convinced that i wasn't.

probably a bit too harsh there ^^^^ yeah i agree, things might be grim, but a few things you said arent as bad as they seem. You aren't a horrible person because you got raped. You did not LET him rape you ya know? Im guessing you were so drunk/high or whatever that you couldn't make an effort to fight it off. Your parents doing pills and meth certainly is bad. However, you are in control of your own life and i'm going to say that if you really wanted out of the situation you could make it happen. Not because its the fairy-tale ending to that story, but because i have a friend who is just like you only her dad is addicted to cocaine and mom can't really hold a job. He sold her guitar, her one hobby, for a fix, instead of wallowing she went out and told herself she wouldnt live that life herself, long story short, she took the ACT test, got a 29 on her first try by just studying by herself and can pick from any school in the country. She will be re-taking it after paying for classes by herself in hopes of recieving a score in the mid 30's. Everybody has problems, chances are these "perfect" girls you see are dying inside for someone who understands them. Some of them are just too stubborn to think outside the lines and find a real friend. Just because a person is covered in the stereotypical image of beauty, doesn't make them happy. Commenting on something else i read, yeah, suicide might seem like a fantastic idea to you, hell, its seemed that way to all of us at one point in time or another, but what happens if you actually kill yourself? Your parents would be glad? Your friend would be relieved? Wrong. The depression would probably cause your parents to dive deeper into drugs, possibly leading into an Overdose case just trying to make the pain go away...if they die its your fault. Your friend will feel so guilty and out of place in the house she lives in that she will be forced to probably leave, move in with a boyfriend who will probably dump her and end up homeless. I'm not saying this is def. what would happen, more along the lines of a worst case-yet-very-possible one. Just try to stick it out, your 17, in a year or so max your life will be in your hands, you don't have to go back but anybody thinking that 17 years is enough is just dead wrong. -Eric

i would move on purely because she had an ex boyfriend do the dumping, but then again, and i know it sucks, you definetly came off as desperate and needy, biiiig turn-off to young girls. chill out, wait her out, chances are she won't call for awhile so you gotta deal with it. Honestly, pretending like you don't give a damn about them is a great way to make them overlook any flaws you might have presented.

DN you own man, i was thinking that exact same thing

is this a family member? or the 21 year old...just curious not ripping on you

there isn't anything wrong with it as long as its above age 18 rofl... i can't fathom why people would think a 21 year old could like a 14 year old or whatever... the only times i've seen this happen he wanted the rush of having illegal sex, not too cool in my opinion.

i agree with DN the only time age matters is the early years purely because of childhood innocence and the fact that the body isn't quite ready for sex or whatever.

this is such a weird topic for people, smaller people think bigger is better... but sitting here at 6'7 1/2 and 230 i must say...it makes for some pretty funny looking dates (i have dated a girl who measured at a tiny 5'1 before rofl...funny stuff)

since nobody seemed to answer this straight forward i will sex and head can be two completely different things, or they can be the same. no joke the most amazing sexual experience i've ever had wasn't sex, it was head, the girl who performed it on me was like 17 and i was 15 and she REALLY wanted me to like her...wasn't so much the head itself as all of the touching, kissing, whispering, rubbing, blah blah blah, she seemed so into me, so i was already feeling sensitive when she started to go down (you know, like when someone brushes your arm and you sit and shiver for a second or two...that kind of sensitive.) Also, she tried so hard, i know that sounds dirty but the girl was sweating profusely. As for sex, the first time sucked for me, my girlfriend mis-judged how much of me she could take and after the initial thrust i had to be careful only to put in 1/4 to 1/2 in, when you have to think about it, not too much fun. Add to that the fact that she freaked out about a week or two later and cut off sexual contact completely...and you have a pretty nasty situation. Other times having sex though were fantastic, as long as you like the person your with sex is the best...but head can be just as good. Oh, and for the 15 y.o who re-iterated the question, the vagina has grooves and makes more liquid than a girl's mouth. It's deeper and hugs you when your inside it, no ramming up against the back of her throat every time she tries to take it all in (OUCH trust me!) so physically speaking...sex blows head out of the water. -Eric

right on DN, thanks for the heads up

but lemme ask you this, do you think, given the situation and everything that transpired, that she likes me? or am i not to expect too much from this girl

oohh yeah, as a matter of fact its almost gaurenteed not to work at that age. Maybe later, but not now. a few reasons: 1. money- it puts unnecessary strain on any relationship but if you have no way of making it yet since both aren't done with college and barely out of high school your talking about poverty level stress. 2. Age- they are young, chances are they will just want to party in their 20's, and at these parties they will meet hot new people whom they wish they could date but can't because they are married. This creates resentment which in turn leads to fighting and proooobably divorce. 3. Parental approval- i know, i know, it shouldn't matter but it does. Who wants to be separated from their family because they made a stupid mistake? who will you fall back on when things seem absolutely impossible? Life completely alone is probably why so many people kill themselves. its just a bad idea imo