Amannamederic

*sigh your probably right, better to get it taken care of then go through the embarrassment each time

np, go get em tiger

Is there any way to get over panic attacks when your gettin intimate? Usually for me, the first few times i get with somebody and the clothes come off i get freezing cold, a little shaky (sometimes VERY shaky), stomach upset, oh yeah and my hands get extremely cold and clammy...not too sexual to the touch rofl, and the fun just goes away...like i get extremely nervous. Then things go down what in the world can be done to stop this?! I'm only 18 those ED medicines are outta the question here. (even though i've tooled around with Cialis before...holy crap the fun just wouldn't end, its a shame it was just a 5-pill trial pack...) I'm a very very nervous person anyway, am i in need of some counseling here? If so, what do i discuss? sexual counseling? lifestyle counseling? Any insight would be great....

ok if you do the whole...getting him to the point and then just stopping...i feel so bad for him. Blueballs are not a man's best friend. Secondly, you will not get pregnant from handjobs and fingering unless you physically take his cum, put your fingers inside you really fast since it dies in open air rather quickly. Or if he cums inside you, trust me handjobs and fingering offer absolutely no risk of getting pregnant. Relax a little bit and have some fun. Btw condoms on handjobs/oral sex just really kills the experience, if condoms can take away 99.99% of the sensitivity during sex...then anything less than a vagina won't feel like anything.

nah dude in all respect...give her a call and if shes still freakin out over somethin so little then i would say get rid of her...she might consider it non-normal but im going to say each and every one of us here on this forum has danced naked after takin a shower...duno who said it but the fact that she would probably want you to stop says that shell want you to stop alot of other things too...not fun

rofl tweak likes southpark im gonna say... pretty funny situation, i can't imagine why she was screaming if you've already had sex, perhaps it was really warm in the shower, you were hangin low that day (yyeeaaahhh man thumbs up!) and she was so shocked that she had taken all of what you have to offer that she screamed in shock at suddenly realizing you could have impaled her!

i know thats what you are trying to do, i feel so old saying this but... there has gotta be a way outside of witnessing it happen to one of their friends (I.e a friend of mine getting raped recently, another friend taking care of her baby daughter that turns 1 soon i think...shes 17, an ex girlfriend of mine getting an abortion and referring to the baby as a "free pass" to have sex, alot of friends falling victim to chlymidia, herpes, etc. even one with an HIV scare...that friend i mentioned in another post who was accused of rape when the girl decided shed rather not have people know she willingly hooked up with him) to make them realize that this stuff is serious...even though this is technically coming from a 'kid' i feel the same way you do, however, im also familiar with the feelings of invincibility younger people tend to have.

yes....yes it is but will that stop them from doing it? nope. I have no desire to hook up with people who could land me in jail and labled an offender for the rest of my life, my point is that saying its the law not to have sex doesn't scare kids for some reason. You know as well as i do that kids think they are invincible. heh, i lost my virginity to a devout christian, we are talking church every sunday, youth group every sunday night, loves her family more than life, did everything with her parents...even invited them to hang out with her friends. All girl boarding school for my daughter! jk 8)

btw god damn girls can be mean, guys can too i suppose, i always asked girls that question and they asked it of me, fishing for compliments was her game this time...its what i always used it as.

ouch slayer, anyways, dude, metallicaguy and slayer are right, if you wear those clothes all the time, ditch em, your myspace says hard rocker...im assuming you like hard rock then? Well hard rockers don't wear sweaters. if you like what i like...hard rock means slipknot, marilyn manson, rammstein, norma jean, danzig, ozzie, 9 inch nails, nirvana, but also can include bands like finch, thrice, autumn to ashes, chevelle, thursday, alkaline trio (god they just can't get a song wrong...so good) then might i suggest longer hair, i keep mine sort of like trent reznor from NIN link removed link removed link removed there are 3 examples of pretty much exactly what my hair looks like, conformity wins buddy. now...clothing....this is just me but these are a few examples of the clothes i do pretty much daily...link removed i use two belts like that, one in the loops and one sorta hanging off...at a diagonal angle..can't really explain it but whatever it looks pretty damn cool. i wear the belts usually on a pair of jeans that look a bit like this...link removed usually darker blue though, but that color is pretty cool, usually make my own holes in the knees, works for me but hey whatever you like... shirts...well thats up to you... i don't know...just seems like you could use a few different choices to match the personality you portray, my hair was brown naturally, i made it black to just complete what i wanted... been through alot of phases in my life, just be sure you pick one that works for you and stick too it, don't do what i said just because other people do, if you like who you are now, then be that guy. Hott girls are next to useless in relationships at your age anyway.

heh i knew i recognized you...you imed me and then said you didn't rofl.

lmfao i love that

and indeed things have changed maria (not to flame you in the least) i felt the same way as you in Jr. High, anything sexual was just taboo...you never spoke of it, or anything. This was what...4-5 years ago? Now i recently hear of things called "rainbow parties" where girls put on different colored lipstick and see who can go down the farthest on a cute boy. This apalled me, but it woke me up, something is wrong when 13-14 year olds are having contests like this... I can definetly see your point though having experienced feelings like that myself.

not so fast, 18-20 yr. old guys are dating...and yes having sex with 15-16 year old girls all the time. Its a matter of morals on the guy's part IMO

nah your rep will take a hit but who cares? like i said, it might not seem like it to you but the people that don't like you because of this aren't worth your time at all.

they are looking at the age 18 and thats about it...recently had a problem with this myself, sorta a slap in the face that im getting old. I know this sophomore v-ball player, we started talking and really like each other, her dad loves me and thinks im responsible because im a football player with goals and a plan yadda yadda yadda...her mother on the other hand found out how old i was, freaked, and won't let her 16 yr. old daughter date me. I had a major problem with that until i figured out that she's probably right, im an adult, it isn't legal for us to do anything, thereforeeee i just can't be looking at younger girls anymore, its so weird, 2 months ago this wouldn't have been a problem but now...wow...all i can think of when thinking of a younger girl is getting caught kissing and goin to jail lol. I doubt anything you say will change your parent's minds, i already tried it, and i already had one on my side lol.

you just have to ignore it, its tough, i bet your hurting pretty badly right now, but if a majority of people are saying you didn't do it then i wouldn't worry about it...there will always be some girls who really think you did but whatever, you don't need them anyway you are perfectly fine with those that trust in and believe you. A friend of mine had this happen to him oddly enough, the girl was horny, flirting with him all night and he eventually gave in and hooked up with her (no sex) the next day she regretted it because people think he's gross (this was like in 9th grade) and he just laughed it off. Most mature way of handling a situation that intense i've ever seen, it also helped that me and all of my friends (including some of hers) backed him up completely, now nobody even remembers that but man was it scary when he came up to me and my friend jason saying, "Guys so and so is telling people i RAPED her man what do i do?!" god my stomach must have fallen through the floor... Good luck, don't let it get you down, i hate girls like that.

blowjobs aren't necessary, its just sorta the order of things everyone gets into during the highschool years, first you kiss, then feel up your girlfriend, then under the shirt, then she touches you, then you finger her, then she gives oral, then you give oral, then sex...like it doesnt happen that way every time lmao its just thats the progression through the years. Um, first time is gunna be nerve racking (my girlfriend went dry the first time we tried) just take deep breaths and relax, if you start to get too nervous don't force it, just back off and try again another day, itll save alot of embarrassment for the both of you if things go wrong. Take it slow and have some fun.

alright, heres hoping she doesn't get pissed, thanks for your help mel

meh, i sucked it up and did the hard thing, i just texted her and told her that i remembered the one time she cheated on her boyfriend, how guilty and crappy that made her feel, how she had to face and lie to him to save face and that even though he was nowhere near perfect, that he seemed to care about her and treat her well, so i didn't want to be a reason that might end. then just said that having her around and talking to me meant alot more to me than her body, that i didn't want to make her feel all of those feelings again, or have to face him again. That it was really really hard to say no but it was the best thing for the both of us, and that even though it sounds corny, having her around meant too much to me to it up again and not talk to her for months... did i do ok? or go too far?

well it started as the job, but then she asked to have sex...ill admit...sometimes i do wonder if shes quite all there, she is with this guy, hes extremely jealous, she cheated once and sort of told him (she said they kissed) out of jealousy. Without thinking i was like yeah sure of course, id love to, now im thinking that isn't such a good idea, my parents already said i would not be working there...can't help it i guess...but how do i go out and tell her i don't want to without offending her?

no not at all, they didn't even know i had spoken to her since the whole accident went down. I told them that i was 18 years old and that they needed to start letting me go (they still insist on a 12-1230 curfew) I said that who i see and don't see is none of their business, to which they replied, if you want to lose everything you've worked for, ruin your life, have a criminal record...you'll see this girl. Trying to scare me out of it?

Hey guys, I have an issue. Recently, a girl i had a quite sketchy past with but have since become friends told me she would help me get a job with her at her work. The boss called, said i was a friend of hers...and my parents flipped. It was the girl who made me first come to this forum lol sorta weird i suppose. Anyway, at the time, we were 14-15 years old. I overreacted to her making fun of me and said some not so nice things about her, I was throwing up the things she said hurt me so bad so at the time i thought i was justified. Of course, now i realize i wasn't. Anyway, her mother threatened me with a restraining order if i ever talked to her again she was so hurt. That was 3-4 years ago, we have long since apologized to each other about it. Gotten along, seen each other a few times, talk alot, get along just fine. My parents for some reason though, will not accept the fact that her and i have gotten past all of that. To them, she will always be ready and waiting to fire that restraining order on me or do something to ruin my life. Normally this wouldn't have bothered me or whatever, except recently she told me she would like to have sex with me out of curiosity. When we had actually dated, we always talked about it but we never did because of various reasons. I was excited at the chance and we almost did tonight...but thankfully didn't. After the hormones died down this has me wondering. Are they right about taking a job and being in more frequent contact with her? That it is DEAD wrong and i shouldn't be anywhere near it? The sex is looking like a worse and worse idea too...but i already said i was excited at the chance, and i mean i want to so damn badly its amazing, (to me, shes the "one that got away" the girl every guy pines after in his life, that one girl who left him high and dry) the chance to be with her, even if it isn't for the same reasons...is just so tempting. Is that wrong too? Bah, someone help me please! I don't know which side of myself to listen to here... -Eric

just caught that, itll start when you get older bud, just gotta wait on it, enjoy it now while you can...the stuff is pretty damn annoying once you actually get it.

go NC all the way, i had the exact same thing happen to me, now she struggles around me, gets pissed off, and thinks talking bad about me is gunna make it better. the jealousy is satisfying, but even more so is telling people you don't hate her you just thought that she was more mature than that...throwing in the occasional, "im disappointed, i thought i knew her better than that" in there for good measure...god i love it