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WOW how old were you when this was going on lmao that might have been the best breakup story in the history of relationships

an ex i had made up a fake life to tell me, she made up vacations, friends, events, everything so that i would think my life was nothing compared to her, she even told people she was raped because she wanted the attention...sick sick girl and because i was the reason it leaked out (i told one of my friends who knew her and she was so shocked and disgusted she spilled the beans) she still hates me to this day, 4 years later.

Hey, i met this really shy girl at school today. I thought id seen her look at me ALOT so i decided to talk to her (big change for me lol) I got her over to my seat and we were talking, but she said she didnt know who i was before this year even though id seen her look at me all of last year. Also, shes irish and has the elegant white skin that irish people sometimes have (not a redhead though) anyway when she came over and sat by me her chest (upper) and face were normal colored, but as we talked i began to notice that her chest was turning bright red. We were laughing alot and she didnt seem to want to go away, so while she was looking for a pencil to give me her number and everything i looked, and what was a pale-skinned girl 10 minutes earlier, had become almost rose-red lol her face even began to flush up majorly too before the bell rang and we had to leave. Is this a legitimate sign that she is attracted to me? Would she lie about staring at me for so long? any feedback would be a huge help because we talked for an hour tonight and it was alot of fun and i think she might even be dateable which would be absolutely great for me since im getting off of a pretty crappy relationship. Thanks again. -Eric

good luck and whatever you do dont sound overanxious, make small talk first, be casual. Do it in person and treat her well if she says yes and even better if she says no and pretty soon youll have the entire grade talking about you. -Eric

lmao wow...you have it so easy, yes she does, she wouldnt be nagging you if she didnt like you so go for it man your in 7th grade what have you got to lose? if you get turned down its no big thing, especially if you handle it well, girls love guys who are laid back and dont go out searching for them. You made a really good and mature move telling her friend that it was her question to ask...that probably drove her INSANE (im not lieing) so i know you have what it takes to ask her out and maybe even go out on dates. Good Luck. -Eric

hey, i just started school again and through the first couple days i began to notice things. Girls act differently to me than last year, the first day at lunch i sat down with a few friends and these two girls who have never talked to me before were sitting there too. While i was trying to eat they kept looking at me and looking away when i met their glance, thats weird because i dont think ive changed that much but yeah, a girl i had a huge crush on last year has popped up out of nowhere a couple of times in these first 3 days and hits my arm smiling and laughing at most everything i say, she gives that "puppy" look too sometimes. Girls in my classes giggle at everything i say (which is not very much, im shy and very quiet) one of them even walks in front of me and always turns her head to the side and looks back for what seems like longer and longer everytime so that its obvious shes watching me...during our football games when i come off of the field i take off my helmet and look into the stands to see who's up there, ill notice one or two of our cheerleaders turning their heads my way and when i look at them, eye contact is held but then they turn away a second or two later. I'm not an arrogant guy by any sense of the word (i hardly say anything to people unless i know them really well) but is all of this friendly contact? or did something really change? im not used to this much attention and i dont know, i dont really want people looking at me all of the time lol maybe im just being paranoid but if anyone could clarify it would be great. -Eric

wow it seems like i dont ever get a day off lol, ok so i was talking to Christine last night and she got mad at me because i said she was nitpicking over a guy she thought liked her because he brushed her arm. Anyway she exploded on me and id just had it, her friendship had done nothing but hurt me for weeks because it was almost non-existant, so i told her to just leave me alone and that it was better for her since i always hurt her. As you can imagine this went over pretty damn well...and by well i mean horrible, she brought out suicidal words and said i make her feel like downing a bottle of tylenol. So im feeling like crap about myself for not talking to a suicidal person but it doesnt stop there. She kept IMing me and yelling at me and telling me that she thinks im "fake" because i wasnt apologizing and crying all over the place i guess (most guys dont cry im sorry im no different) and to be straight with her that i finally just let loose. I told her i wished id never met her, danielle, or anybody that had anything to do with them because for the last three years my life has been more unstable than it ever has. She claimed to be speechless before just ignoring me all together. Then later that night, i receive a message from danielle saying that, "the only reason you wish you never met 'us people' is because we see past your fake f'ing shell" I thought for a second and responded with something simple, i said "why wont you believe that this is just as good for you two as it is for me, why wont you leave me alone." but she shot right back with "dont give yourself so much credit you bastard ive wanted you gone for so long im doing this for chris dont you ever hurt her" the only thing is she is the one who keeps texting ME and telling ME that she loves ME (to which i never said 'i love you too') and reappearing in MY life to ruin it after disappearing for weeks on end. I told her that i would change my cell number, my screenname, anything, but i would never bother them again, she just said, "yeah, ok you go do that". My family, my friends, my psychiatrist, all think these people have serious problems but i dont know...i actually got angry with a person who was talking about downing tylenol instead of hiding it and talking her out of it like i usually do...so im asking you, and ill post this too because i need advice badly. Why wont they let me leave them alone, why do they make fun of me and ridicule me because i dont bow down to them, why dont they believe that its better for the both of them if im not there...this is alot of why's and i know im whining a little but im still a little bit shaken. If anybody could help, id appreciate it, im sorry its so long. -Eric P.S- if you want more of the story to make a better judgement just send me a private message and ill type it up for you. Thank you all for any advice you give.

ive actually talked to her about it, ive sort of asked her if she still loves me and if she'll just say no to let me move on (not one of my better decisions) and the only answer i ever get is "shut up you dont know what i want or whats good for me" but i havent asked such a stupid question but once, maybe twice awhile ago. Im not ready to ask her because i sort of like wondering about her atm and at least being on an excellent level conversationally and possibly emotionally. Ill keep posting as new things happen which is pretty much every day so keep checking and thanks for the advice. -Eric

Ok so after texting me to say happy birthday and i love you we had talked and things went well, she said she would text me later on but didnt because her boyfriend was over. So today i texted her and she responded sounding happy as usual so we made small talk and i asked what she was up to for the day, i was thinking shed say she was spending another day with her boyfriend, but all she said was i dunno. So i sat back and thought for a second about what to say before typing up "it sounds like you have plans with him to me haha" and she said no i dont want to see him i sort of dont want to get sick of him you know? This isnt the first time shes said weird things or sounded less than happy over this guy. Yesterday the subject of how much he loved her came up because he had a habit of yelling at her really really badly but hasnt recently, so i said "its easy to change when you give him so much love" to which she said "yeah i guess". Ive asked people whether or not shes out of love with me but nobody will answer me straight up (seriously i cant get a no she doesnt out of ANYBODY) I've given her a few weeks at a time of NC and only responded when she sent me a message that seemed to want a response. Im doing this very carefully since 3 years in highschool is an achievement in its own and im not ready to give it up. Im thinking over everything i say and acting friendly, but non-caring as much as possible but mostly it boils down to simple conversation. Any help on what to do next or opinions on what shes feeling would be even better this site hasnt failed me yet. -Eric

Ok so after texting me to say happy birthday and i love you we had talked and things went well, she said she would text me later on but didnt because her boyfriend was over. So today i texted her and she responded sounding happy as usual so we made small talk and i asked what she was up to for the day, i was thinking shed say she was spending another day with her boyfriend, but all she said was i dunno. So i sat back and thought for a second about what to say before typing up "it sounds like you have plans with him to me haha" and she said no i dont want to see him i sort of dont want to get sick of him you know? This isnt the first time shes said weird things or sounded less than happy over this guy. Yesterday the subject of how much he loved her came up because he had a habit of yelling at her really really badly but hasnt recently, so i said "its easy to change when you give him so much love" to which she said "yeah i guess". Ive asked people whether or not shes out of love with me but nobody will answer me straight up (seriously i cant get a no she doesnt out of ANYBODY) I've given her a few weeks at a time of NC and only responded when she sent me a message that seemed to want a response. Im doing this very carefully since 3 years in highschool is an achievement in its own and im not ready to give it up. Im thinking over everything i say and acting friendly, but non-caring as much as possible but mostly it boils down to simple conversation. Any help on what to do next or opinions on what shes feeling would be even better this site hasnt failed me yet. -Eric

Im still new to the whole breakup scene but i have to know. Is it better to talk to someone your still in love with after 3 years (we broke up recently) or to completely not talk. She claims to have fallen in love with another guy but still texted me with a "Happy birthday, i love you, have a great day" even though it was the first time she texted me in a long time. I dont know what to make of that either, we talked a little bit and she wants to hear dreams ive had about her (painfully real ones lol) and as usual seemed very happy to talk. Her and her new boyfriend, who shes been friends with for 9 years and dating on and off for a few weeks because he yells at her, are doing good she says and are talking about having sex, which is something she talked about with me but in 3 years we never did a THING (thats right not one thing) so im only a little bit jealous over that. My main concern is that im miserable when im not talking to her, but when i do talk to her it starts out fine but i always start wondering about whether or not she still loves me. This goes on for awhile until im pretty sure she still wants me, and then she says something or drops a detail about her and her boyfriend that sends me back down. My question would have to be, am i just someone who she counts on as being there when she is lonely or needs attention? And would it be better just to once and for all not talk to her again? any help would be appreciated. -Eric

It sounds like a sort of test to me, how long were you two together? A very long time? if so maybe shes seeing how well her kids like you before she makes a decision that might lead to you and her going long term. I'd say babysit and show those kids the time of their lives. Even if she does end up with another guy it never hurts to try and besides you might have some fun yourself. -Eric

Are you really sure that if he didnt have a girlfriend youd be back with him? How long did you take to get over him when you two broke up. Just a curious question because this sort of thing has definetly happened to me before lol and im curious to see if you did things the way i did. -Eric

yeah i have to say that was pretty harsh to read but hey, some of it is true in my case: OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date". They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them. Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner. those three are the ones that really stand out to me, so any ideas on how to get out of this frame of mind? It cant be as simple as just stopping haha. -Eric

Its not uncommon at all especially if you love the person, the one person ive been in love with has this habit where she wont talk to me for weeks, and then one night have a dream about me where i die or something extremely hard to believe and she texts me because she wakes up crying, but the next morning i highly doubt she still wishes she sent me that message you know? If its the same situation then maybe you buried him instead of really getting over him, burying him would be easier and just taking advantage of always being able to see him probably made things alot less complicated for you. Only problem now is he came back up lol so what might be going on is your just in shock for a little bit, give it a couple days before you do anything about it. -Eric

It seems to be a huge thing these days, is this whole "nice guys are boring" thing really true to girls, it might just be teenage girls but for the most part ive always been dumped for different kinds of guys. I dont get it is being mean to a girl sexy to her? Ive yet to yell at a girl and probably wont because i just cant see myself yelling period (im about as quiet and laid back as it gets) and ive been called boring because i dont initiate fights or arent the life of everything we go to i dont know, its just starting to confuse me so if anybody has an answer to that question id love to hear it haha thanks. -Eric

lmao i was typing that to the 13 year old who posted a kissing guide not you sorry about that

wow for a 13 year old you sure know alot lol, the truth is if you try to do everything right your just going to mess up. The same with picking her up and even initiating the kiss, the one thing women hate is a guy who refuses to be himself or wont tease them with what they want, if you just rush into it and are smothering her all your going to get is a half-assed response that wont be fun for either of you. At least thats how it always seems to have worked on my side of things, but again it could be completely different for your girl. If you really want to kiss her well then you wont go on the internet and do a google on kissing techniques, or ask other people. Youll kiss her in whatever way seems natural and more than likely, if she likes you, it will be more than enough to send her straight home to tell all her friends. Im just telling you what has worked for me...oh...and making out doesnt include a hand sliding up her shirt, kissing should be fun for the both of you and 9 times out of 10 a hand sliding around wont do anything but annoy her and make her think thats all you want. Again i cant stress enough, this is just the way i do things, i dont put an emphasis on getting some and just kiss to have all the fun that kissing brings and if you just relax, hold her hand, and dont suck her face off im sure youll find things alot more fun, and maybe if your lucky leading to other things later Good Luck, -Eric

Hey all, its been awhile but im just wondering about a few things, ever since id broken up with danielle her best friend has been coming on to me, like shes always liked me (in fact the night i met danielle i originally met her first but she backed off because danielle was i guess...persuasive) but she even hinted that she LOVES me so i have to know, is it possible that girls mistake a best-friend feeling for love? is it usually genuine or just a passing phase. This whole thing confuses me because i would hardly consider a crush worthwhile going after for a long long time, especially when its so close to my ex. By the way she completely forgot about me if you remember and now says she is in love with her best-friend of 9 years or so corey...who she was going out with on the side with me but wouldnt tell me who it was, i think she might have been ashamed of him or something who knows what thats all about but its beyond me. Anyway there seems to be alot of I Love my Best Friend feelings flying around and if any girls on here have experienced this feeling before can tell me how it worked out for you or if you really meant it that would be great...the last thing id want to do is hurt Autumn but if i cant avoid it then yeah...thanks for all of your help -Eric

To any who have read my posts a small update...things happen quickly: Last night i forgot to turn my phone on silent and at 3 AM i wake up to a beep. Its her and she says she needs to talk to me because one of the guys she was with has been telling his friends that they had sex. I didnt want to at all, but in the end i ended up staying up with her for an hour or so and talking about it. She says how shes scared that when he denies saying it that she'll believe him and swears they havent done anything more than what they did the first time (dont think i can say it here but it was all above the waist with her shirt off...shes never let a guy see her except him and that was 2 days after she met him, which is why i was a little confused and jealous ) anyway at the end of our conversation i told her that if she wants sex eventually she'll stay with him...and if she doesnt she'll confront him and leave while she still can. To this she said, "God i dont even know what i want anymore but im sorry for waking you up, ill text you tomorow ok? i love you and thank you for talking with me." This sounds like trouble to me...does she want to have sex with this other guy? Is she missing me already? It isnt going well trying to forget about her when she does this stuff every few days...Any help would be greatly appreciated. -Eric

im not trying to forget her per-say...im trying hard to just give her the space she said she needed... in regards to me waiting too long...we talked about sex alot and the reason we never did a thing was because she says and i quote- "the reason i dont let you see me or touch me is because since im in love with you, i dont want you to be disappointed by what you see/feel" and ive always just thought of that as sort of a wall from it...since she lets other boys have their way with her lately but would hardly let me kiss her anymore....im not trying to forget her for me, im trying to forget her so that im not stuck here not wanting to have fun, not wanting to go out, not wanting to do anything because the thought of her and these other boys just tears me apart, especially when she texts/calls and tells me i shouldnt be jealous and then goes ahead and fills me in with details that hurt even more, before reminding me that shes not trying to fit me into her life anymore and that i need to find someone else to take her place. -Eric

wow your posts actually make alot of sense...and i had no idea id be responded to so early. I dont think youd be so happy with a person of my personality though flea lol unless your as into committment as i am which is sort of rare...usually it starts out great and then just falls apart lol. I can honestly say that i thought she was the right person for me to give myself to for the first time but i decided to wait and make sure things were solid enough to make a decision like that (as you know she dumped me alot ridiculed etc. most of it just makes me laugh) i agree though that not waiting probably would be the best route for me to take this time. Getting the kind of responses i did that helped me out so much makes me feel alot better and ill keep you all updated on what she does...or what i do because who knows? its been two years since ive paid attention to any other girl, who knows who might be paying attention to me?

im not some crazy guy who is just losing it after i got dumped...even though i probably have a right to be lol. I'm 16 years old...17 in about a month and ive been with the same girl for 2 years. There were problems with our relationship yeah but im not the kind of guy who gives up easily, i was in love with the girl and spent alot of time trying to make her happy but she seemed to love me one day...and not want anything to do with me the next. Call me submissive but i loved that sort of thing the most about her, she wasnt concerned with sex at all which was also fine because i thought it took away unnecessary pressure (im a virgin and plan on staying that way until im positive ive found the right girl) anyway, lately shes turning into a...well..."open" girl, shes meeting alot of new guys and then spending the night with them...not having sex but wow shes close. I tried to tell her shes changing for the worse and that this isnt how she used to be but she just tells me to shut up and deal with it because we are never going to get back together, that hurts yeah...it hurts alot but i dont want to force anything on her because she hates longer relationships and im the opposite i love committment and if a girl really makes me feel good i let her know, which i guess is sort of annoying according to her anyway i need help because rather then sit around and be depressed i want to meet new people and hang out...problem is i dont really know how to talk to girls anymore lol i have that stupid problem where you cook things up in your head that are perfect, but then when it comes time to say them you forget each word and have to make it up on the go. Since this is my first post im just looking for replies on what people think i should do, should i just wait and see if she'll come back? or do i try to meet someone alot better (trust me its not that difficult she must have dumped me a million times and made fun of me to the extreme) this is really long so any help anybody can offer is great, thanks. -Eric