Amannamederic

oh god 6'0 and you're complaining?! Im 6'7 250 pounds (13% body fat so no i don't have boobs lol i play football) small children run from me on the streets nah jk jk they always want to climb on me seriously though 6'0 is fine, i dont know what kinds of girls you are around but they must stand 4'5 or something... most girls i talk to say that i actually am a little too big but you know what? Thats fine, i'd rather date a 6'0 girl who will love me for me when im in the NFL making that money because im "too big"

Kelly Clarkson - Since you've been gone Ben Folds Five - Brick Go West - King Of Wishful Thinking (pay attention to the chorus only) Dane Cook - Retaliation (both discs if you can find them) Dane Cook - Harmful if Swallowed (its about an hour long) Lose yourself in music my man, just lose yourself in music for awhile. It helps...trust me

yep just leave it, what makes you so curious about her anyway? The only way you'd be curious is if you weren't over her. What do you expect her to do? Not talk about her new boyfriend and hurt you all over again? Because thats exactly the sort of thing that will come out of her mouth. 4 months and a new boyfriend means you are more or less forgotten, she might think about you from time to time but i can assure you its never been, "well, i think ill give him a call" More like, "Oh, thats sad...but whatever." youre setting yourself up for some major pain here

wow anything kelly clarkson is good, this is the first time i've tried her stuff before

this might be fun/helpful for people who are in pain (like me! haha) anybody got some great break up anthems that you can play over and over and sort of make you feel better? I know its nothing more than a quick fix that leaves when the song is over, but anything to give me 5 minutes of relief so i can quit worrying about everything and get some food in my stomach would be awsome.

4 days is infatuation, check back in 3 months, after you two have stopped talking about everything you have in common and see how it feels

it just seemed like it all happened so suddenly, like seriously one week she was being her normal affectionate self, and then it seems that over the weekend she quit saying it all so often...i could probably deal with it if it was gradual, but this seems so sudden. I thought seeing her would ignite something but so far it hasn't (we've had 3 texts today, 2/3 initiated by me) and im not sure it will...

hhmm what if she just wants to avoid causing a problem or hurting me, so she just keeps it going with the bare minimum so that she has someone to talk to and be nice to her.

then why doesn't it ever die for me? I'd love to be the one it died for and have someone sending me a nice message randomly through the day just to say they cared

theres something i've thought about... we've been talking for 2 months, she is nowhere near as affectionate as she used to be. She used to be perfect, calling me all the time, always saying nice things, then it sort of just changed...id thought she was talking to someone else so i would casually mention it sometimes (probably where she got the idea that i was paranoid) but she says no. I keep asking myself all day every day if she even likes me anymore, im kind of hoping this next week sheds some light on the whole thing. It will be tough to end it if i have to, i don't even know how actually without sounding retarded haha, but i probably need to if things don't change...it sucks if im completely wrong and just making myself sick over nothing, but thats how i am, i am the kind of guy who gives/needs constant affection or else im unhappy, and to tell you the truth im almost done trying to find a girl who will give it to me. I thought she would, but here we are 2 months after we first started to chat...and i get almost nothing.

well, i finally met her, I drove 3 hours to her house yesterday to just spend some time with her and her little cousin whom shes babysitting for 2 weeks while she visits the family from arizona. We had talked on the phone more or less the entire trip, just getting directions and what not so things were good. Overall i mean she was pleasant, she reminded me very little of the girl i saw in her pictures though...especially the senior ones...im not going to say she was alot worse than i expected, but lets just say i don't quite feel like shes some supreme goddess anymore. I have no idea what she thought about the way i looked. We barely touched on it, she texted me on my way home and said, "I hope you werent disappointed with me!" and i said, "Nope, i hope the same goes for you" to which she responded, "It did!" so i don't really know how much that means. As for the way she acted, i have never met someone offline before so i have no idea how they are supposed to act. We did talk, and joke around, but it wasn't non-stop conversation. There were silences which im assuming were ok, she had been up late the night before and then woke up at 6 in the morning to get back home from a horse show so im guessing she was tired. She only got really quiet into the later parts of the day, like around 5-6 o'clock. Then there wasn't much conversation going on at all. Normally i'd be wondering a little bit about that, as she noticed and mentioned to me i am a paranoid person. But i don't know how much of it was due to her little cousin being right there with us the entire day, and then her family being there with us in the evening. We talked don't get me wrong, most of it was her when we did talk i admit i was kind of shy. But she didn't look at me very much and seemed to talk to her little cousin more than me. I knew they were best friends but damn...it was like they were attached at the hip. I did meet both of her parents. Her mom and i had a long conversation, her mom said more words to me than she did the entire day. Her mom said she knew all about me because the girl talks about me, she'd seen my pictures. She even told me that amanda was showing off alot for me. I told her i didn't believe it (i honestly thought the girl didn't like me at all) and her mom insisted it was true. So all in all it wasn't the fantastic meeting i had expected it to be but i did get to be around her, talk to her, and figure some things out. On the way home i had told her to text me if she got bored and she did, nothing really long though just the messages i wrote about earlier, and some help getting me back on the road, she told me to call her when i got home. Then, after i got home at around 10 o clock, she texted me and said, "I hope you're being safe!" to which i responded, "Im laying around right now haha so yeah im safe", she said, "You didn't call me!" i replied, "I sent you a message but you didn't respond, i thought you were too busy to talk, did you get it?" she said, "No! i was scared you died or something!" I said, "my damn phone...yeah i made it, i had fun driving all that way." she said, "Im glad you had fun" I said, "So you busy at the moment?" she said, "no, i came home because krista was tired." I said, "if shes asleep i could go for a conversation with you" she said, "Ok, shes going to bed, i don't have to entertain her now lol" i said, "Ok when shes asleep ill give you a call" she replies, "How will you know when shes asleep lol we can talk now its fine im in my room" so i called her, and we had an hour and a half long conversation, she sounded the same as she had all day but the conversation was normal for us, i didn't feel like anything was wrong. So this morning i texted her at 11 and just said, "Hey! hope you have a great day!" she responded an hour or 2 later with, "Hey! just wanted to say have a wonderful day b4 i go to braxtyn's party!" Braxtyn being a little boy she babysits. So what do you think...was her semi-silence and not looking at me yesterday a sign that i need to call this off? Or just general nerves. I haven't heard from her since that last text and am not going to bother her because i want to at least get over my paranoia when it comes to her... Any advice on where to take things from here would be great.

and im scared to death. I haven't eaten a thing all week and i've lost about 7 pounds. I feel sick to my stomach all of the time. I've looked at facebook and everybody is so excited, ready to meet new people, im not. I feel like everybody is going to pass me by, or hate me, the one relationship i've developed with someone who says she likes me is now just a ticking bomb in my head. I feel like shes going to meet someone twice as good as i am in our first weeks and without a haven to escape to i dont know how i will handle it. New guys have already started to move in on her through facebook, guys that girls seem to like alot...i feel like nothing compared to them and i've never even met them. I can't handle living on my own, i dont know what to do. I feel like im going to fail miserably at football and then be humiliated and trapped over there. I am going to a school of 15,000 and i have 0 friends, only aquaintences. I just know all of the girls will think im ugly and not want anything to do with me. what do i do? there is nowhere to turn, my dad says he went through it, his brother went through it, everybody goes through it. I can't help but think he's wrong, nobody could feel like this. I feel completely 100% alone. I feel like a little kid, just wanting to hang on to highschool even though im almost 19 years old. All of my clothes feel like they are little kid clothes, like i will be laughed at because of how i dress. I want there to be at least some people there to calm me down, make me feel better. I just have an overwhelming sense of disaster...i can't take this.

this might be out of place but just how small are we talking about here? Below 4? because if its that small you might have to concentrate a little more than usual...or try interesting angles to hit the spots he can't hit normally

no there is no internet access period in the apartment. Even with a computer, i have no idea what sense that makes...i just told her about it tonight and sure she acted sad and told me to not forget her but i don't know. Its already causing me alot of stress and heartache that i just can't handle on top of all of the aching going on caused by me leaving home for the first time

tomorrow i move off to my college to start football practice. I had started an LDR with a girl who will be going to college with me and most of it was based off of the internet. We talked on the phone occasionally but i am no good on the phone. The apartment i am moving in to has no internet access. The only way i can get online is to go to a student union which, regretfully, is located more than 6-10 miles from the apartment i get to stay at. And even then i couldn't stay on for more than a few minutes probably i dont know how those places work. This, as you can imagine, will cause a problem probably. She is used to talking to me for hours and hours each day. Now, all of a sudden, after being on vacation for a week, she will come home and not be talking to me every day. I do plan on going out and having some sort of social life as well, i can't imagine us talking for more than an hour or two every other day, or maybe like a half hour a day or so. How do you guys think such a big change will effect us? Im trying to see about getting her up to spend a saturday with me or something but im not quite sure how to do it yet and i don't think she would do it every weekend or anything. Should i just tell her we should cool it for the summer, talk every once in awhile as friends and then see if we still like each other when school starts? Ill admit that will be pretty damn tough, i like her alot, and if she can't talk to me im sure she will find somebody else through myspace just like she found me which would just suck hard. any help would be appreciated.

while you all certainly had great advice, chai summed up my feelings exactly...could she not steal 5 seconds to go to the bathroom and give me a call? In case you haven't noticed im really into this girl...perhaps i need to chill out a little bit, im not normally like this and i must say...it sucks haha.

The title more or less says it all. She's been in arizona for a week now, between the time difference and i guess how busy she's been she hasn't called once. Just sent a nice message every day when her day is ending and im sound asleep. Im a bit curious...is a week talking enough to dull feelings? We've only been together for about 2 months so its not like things are brand new...

ha funny story, turns out airport security has tightened more than i realized since 9/11...nowadays you can't meet someone at the gate, and they can't come out to meet you even if they leave their bag with the security guy because, "we just don't do that". I don't know how an 18 year old who stands 5'2, white girl in a ball state university t-shirt and cheer shorts could bomb a plane but i suppose i'd rather be safe than sorry lol. Anyway wasted trip.

kyo who IS that girl in your avatar and why is she so damned cute? Everytime i see that picture i go right up the wall jesus h. lol

hey!! I;ve been in an LDR for the past 2-3 months and i'm meeting her for the very first time tomorrow morning, she is changing flights at my airport so i said i would be there to meet her. We only have maybe 5-10 minutes to spend together an i want her to remember them. What do i say? Im at a complete loss...

i actually asked her what shed had before (im cool i know) and she told me straight up, she didnt complain, actually said she really likes me and to stay around so she can show me how to really pleasure a woman...but i duno if im ok knowing i don't measure up lol

title says it all, i can't keep up, nor can i compare to guys she's previously had in the size department, i thought i did a damn good job today, i mean i was either fingering her or down on her for a good 2-3 hours but then im told shes had sex off and on for 9 hours straight, and shes had guys 9 and 10 inches long so thick she couldn't close her hand around it.... just give up now?

while i respect your decision i will also tell you how things will be for him... First, i suspect you two are adults correct? Sex is obviously more casual in the adult world than in mine as a senior in high school so he might have a tough time getting over it...Are you cutting off physical contact completely and starting over? If so, don't think of him as bad if he leaves, men are genetically programmed to impregnate as many women as possible. True, we have learned to control that, but to give him it all and then just snatch it away...well...thats hard to cope with. I expect he will stay though, as long as you are still physical with him you should be alright, expect some pressuring, some begging, as his mind will struggle to comprehend why you won't sleep with him (even if you tell him the reasons you told us...thats why men are from mars, and women are from venus) Just don't think of him as a bad man...unless he has a major problem with it and leaves right away even if you offer a less intense but still fun physical side of your relationship...or forces you into it...you get the picture

lol like i said, it isn't for everybody, it works for me so i dress close to that. You'll learn soon enough that the blonde abercrombie girls arreennttt always the best bets.

well alot of this will depend on how old you are, i don't see an age so i can only give you generalizations. If you two are in your teens, going farther this early is definetly a bad idea, chances are he would get bored if you don't talk much. If you two are in your 20's then three weeks is an ok time to move on because i think people are more mature. At least thats what i hear, 3 weeks dating someone without sex is a feeat in the adult world (someone correct me please if im wrong rofl) Above 20's go for it. lol Hmmm, i can only say i've ever felt love once...not too sure if it was love though since i was only 14. I couldn't not be talking to her you know? Like i would call her at 9 on a saturday morning and expect to talk the whole day. I would text message her all day long, when we were together god it went by so fast...we never got physical because she was just too shy and we were both young but that was perfectly ok to me for some reason (nowadays if there is nothing happening for more than 2-3 months...im pretty bored) we dated for like 2 years and then she broke up with me. Thaaaat hurt. I dont know if that sounds like love but it sure felt like it to me.