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I may be intrepretting this wrong to and like you said it is a little hard to understand but I will try. I see it as this person you are having trouble with has stole someone else's true love (boyfriend/ Girlfriend) or whatever the case is. I feel that if this is the case maybe the frind that is suffering needs you the most and needs to be told that if he/she left for another that it wasn't meant to be in the first place and probally would of ended up hurting her worse. Well that is just my ideals and don't even know if I'm right but hope it helps.

Hey there I don't know to much about you but from the sounds of your post you are a nice guy and there are plenty of nice women out there just maybe quit setting your standards so high attractive is not always best but that depends on what you consider attractive. Some women are very beautiful once you get to know them but they are not 6 ft drop dead georgeos blondes so think about that and maybe that is where your problem lies.

Ok On your age gap there is nothing that should stop you if it will make you both happy. I was a sophmore in high school when my current boyfriend and I really started talking about being together and then my junior / senior year we got together. He is 20 years older then me and that has never been a problem with the two of us becaus eI am very mature and he has some growing up to do so we help each other and love is all that matters to us so make sure it is what you want and it will work out very well.

Ok I will start with the beginning and try to make it as short as possible. Me and Jason have been friends since grade school and are now adults out of highschool. We lost contact for a few years and now are friends again. I have a boyfriend that is locked up for stupid things but I believe that i love him so I will wait for him to get out. I am real close to Jason now as if we never lost contact. He now has a kid but the girl has left and rearely contacts him so I am kinda Alex's mother figure. Jason is real close to me too and we talk about everything I just wonder if I am getting so close to him cause I am falling in love with him or if it because I am lonely and just know that he is a friend that will always be there. I have caught Jason tell me I love you on the phone when we are getting ready to hang up and never said anything him. Could this be a bad friendship to start considering I have a boyfriend or is it a sign that I shouldn't wait for Shane or what? Please give me your opinions and advise

Well I am sorta in the same situation but not as bad. Long distance relationships are hard to deal with because you get lonly and when all your friends are out with their guys you are alone and wishing you had one closer. Then the age gap comes into ply I don't know about your life or background but usually 16 year olds are just barely getting through puberty and starting to learn a little about life, driving, working exc. He on the other hand is 26 and has been on his own hopfully since he's ben about 18-21 years old and works full time or is going to college. He probally is still going to the bars with his buddies and enjoying life as an adult where it will be 4-5 years before you can even get into a bar and at least 2-4 before you can actually live on your own and be working full time. So think stongly about your decisions and wait before you get married because maybe at 25 you will change the way you feel you are very young and I know from experience that your feeling will change. I am 20 years old and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years he is 40 but I am not getting married till I am at least 25 and then depending on how I feel I may not then either. Take it slow and make sure that is what you want for the rest of you life. There is divorce but if you marry the right one the first time it makes it easier. hope this helps

ok I've read your post and the replies to it and just wonder what you are really saying? Does she talk about her brother in a sexual way or just that is cool and she cares alot about him. I love my brother to death but he is my brother and there is no way I would fancy my brother. I would be a little offended by a bf thinking I would due to the way I talk about my brother because I tell everyone I love my brother and that he is a great guy and stuff like that but it's not in a sexual manner it is just letting people know tyhat we are close and that he does mean alot to me. I would stay close with my brother over being close with any other one person in this world. Please tell us more about your situation so we understand where your getting these assumptions

OK my boyfriend and I have been together a little longer then you and him but My BF still has pictures and letters too but they have no children together. I told him it bothered me and he got upset also but then after I explained to him how it made me feel and that it was ok if he kept them just put them up so I don't have to see them everyday he understood and moved them and I know where they are now but it don't bother me near as much because they are out of sight out of mind. I hope this helps Just talk to him as an adult and not an emotional teenager and see how that works. Good Luck

Ok My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now I really love him and care about him so much. He is my bestfriend and has been for a while. I have known him since I was real little I am 20 years old and he is going to be 40 in the middle of June. We have lived together for the last year and a half so that is not a problem. I do love him very much but think that I am young and may decide later that he is not the one I want for life but am I making a mistake? I have loved him forever and never dreamed of getting marriend to him but now that it comes up I want to because of the love and the relationship but don't want to because I know I am still very young to make such a huge step in life can someone please help me?

Ok Dimas the older man is Jelous and attracted to me. We have been friends for a long time through my parents. He also thinks Cole is a jerk and don't want to see me gut hurt but I already am aware of that risk. He is the father to one of my friends child but he pays his child support and does his fatherly duties so he's not as bad as Dimas thinks.

Ok everyone I like a guy who is 21 and my age. He is a very nice cowboy. He likes me too but we have a friend that is very jelous and don't want to jepordize that friendship. We have been sneaking around to see and talk to each other but it feels like we are doing something wrong and both know that really we aren't. What should we do? WE have tzlked to this friend on nemerous occasions and he is still mad if we are friends away from his presense. He is also twice our age so does that have to do with it. Please help

Ok everyone it is kind of along topic but please read and understand I just want some advise on what to do. I have a boyfriend that I've been with for a few years and I really love him but currently he is incarsarated and told me to go have fun and enjoy because he probally won't be out until July of next year. so I am trying to make different friends and enjoy my life with out him his name is Shane, ok then there is another guy that is just a friend and has had a big crush for a very long time and he is nice guy but quite a bit older then me and we are just friends His name is Dimas last but not least ok there is a new guy that I am being friends with his name is cole. We are only a few years apart in age so that makes it more fun to be around. We are just friends and plan to keep it that way. My b/f and Dimas are both quite a bit older then I am. Cole and I went go carting and then went and spent the day with his eight month old son and Dimas was very mad at both of us for it. We are figuring it's jelousy but he won't admit it. I do like Cole a little as more then a friend but I love Shane and don't want to mess up that relationship either. I just need to know what to do and why Dimas would be so upset as to tell us he hates us both before even finding out what we did together.

Ok well it seems that if he likes you so much he would be wanting to go further in a relationship to find out but being married blocks him from doing so. He either loves his wife and don't want to leave her or he loves you so that is a decision he has to decide on his own. The world now excepts divorce as an everyday thing and as long as he takes care of his duties to his child he don't have to stay married. He he really loves you and you really care about him then you would both talk about the options that are there so either talk to him or he isn'[t worth the time because all your going to do is cause his wife anger and hurt when she finds out and it really isn't fair to her so think about it and do what you feel is best.

Ok your boyfriend sounds like he was a male hoe at one time and could possibly still be one. The best way to find out if he really has changed is to talk to him it may be difficult but it must be done. Trust is the key to a happy relationjship and if you don't trust him you are unhappy and he will be too. Players can change I know from experience so keep your fingers crossed and it should turn out fine. My Best friend was a player up into his early twenties and had a different girl everynight while having a Girlfriend and now that he is with his current girlfriend and has a 2 year old son with her he is a completely changed person. He does still go out on occasion and at first she didn't trust him and now she knows he loves her and there is no other woman in his life so I hope the same luck for you.

Everyone please read and give me your best advise. Ok I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of years and really care about him but he is incarcerated right now so I'm trying to have a life and enjoy myself while he is away. He won't be out until the midle of July. There is a large age gap with him and I but that is not anything I care about. his name is Shane.Ok I also have a friend that has had a crush on me for a very long time and really likes the ideal that shane is not here right now but he is also alot older then I am. I like himas a friend and have thought about having a relationship with him but he is not the kind who is good at having a commitment or relationship so he is only a friend. His name is Dimas. There is alos another guy in the picture who is only a friend. He is only 3 years older then I am and we have recently decided to be friends. He is the father to my best friends baby. We went out and went go carting and had a fun weekend together as friends only. WE neither want a relationship or anything other then friends and everyone else that knows the two of us is totally against us being friends.His name is Cole [b ][b]Ok we spent the weekend hanging out and having fun. Shane told me to go enjoy life and have fun because I am 19 and need to enjoy life even though he is locked up.So that is what I'm trying to do.I invited Dimas to have fun with cole and I but he refused. Dimas got very upset about the situation and is very jelous causing problems with his [/b]friendship with me [/b]and with cole. I talked to Cole and because of it Cole just wants to be friends in front of Dimas so there can be no jelousy or confusion but I think that is wrong. It is like Dimas is choosing my friends because he is jelous. I like everyone and am very easy to get along with but I need to know what I should do about this situation. I want to hang out with Cole because he is fun to be with and we have alot in common and he will do things in public where as Dimas won't. I want to be friends with Dimas to because it is a long time friendship and don't want to lose that. I love Shane so I know myself both of the others are friends only. I thought about just staying home and leaving the two of them alone but that is like punishing myself for their behavior and actions. I really want to talk to both of them and stuff but the jelousy Dimas has makes it impossible to get the two of them together to talk. What should I do please help. I know it is kinda long and don't give to many details but thank you everyone for taking the time to read and please give me your advise.

Abortion- This is takig the life of an innocent life wether it is inside of you or not it is living and growing to be a child. You will always have that empty spot in the back of your head and mind asking about it or feeling guilty so it is usually not such a wise choice but at your age depending on your size it may be best due to the fact that small young girls have a high chance of birth defect and other problems so talk to your doctor and ask them their suggestion Adoption- This is the life of a child that may or may not have the best home. Usually the adoptive parents are tested and checked really well before given a child but there is the chance that they will get a bad home. This is usually the best choice for young mothers and there is 2 different kinds of adoption. closed adoption is where you give up all rights and there is no contact or anything until that child turns of age or finds out about being adopted. open adotion is where you give up all your rights and get to write one letter to your baby to tell them why you did it and hopefully tell them alot of what you want to say and the adoptive parents must send you pictures each year and I am not sure about anythinhg else involved in this kind of adoption but you could probally find out on the computer or from someone in your home town. Adoption is usually a good thing and you will still regret it once you get about 20 or so but it gives you a chance to be a kid and learn from lifes mistakes other then being a kid raising a kid. Good look and I hope this helps you a little bit feel free to e-mail me if you need more info or just want someone to talk to at Ldwickw I'm on Yahoo or Hotmail and I'm sure there is a way to e-mail or IM on here

Ok here is a long story and I hope someone will read it and give some real advise. My boyfriend (shane) and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years but before him there was another guy that I really had feelings for. I have recently talked to the other guy and Shane is currently in jail fr DWUI. There is a large age gap between Shane and I and the other guy and I so that is not my issue. I am 19 and think of Shane as the one and I really love him but there was some big problems before he went to jail. He would get jelous of my friends and I'd get upset at him for going to the bar since I am not quite old enough to go there. I have some trust issues with him due to past experiences and I'm sure now that he is away he has problems trusting me. I currently have not technically cheated on him. I have talked to the other guy and stayed the night at his house a few times (sleeping in separate rooms). I just get the feeling sometimes that I may be mising something better but I love Shane and could never hurt him in any way. Shane says that since I am so much younger then him if I decide I want to try new things he is ok with it and will be there if I decided to come back but I know it would hurt him and he is the only guy I have ever really been with and I am not sure if I want to be with anyother guy because I am not a *beep* or anything like that and really need help to decide. By the way Shane is going to be 40 in June and I will be 20 in April so there is a large gap. the other guy isn't as big but he is still 12 years older than I am. Please Help and give some good advise

WEll I am awnsering your question from a past experience similar to that. I have been with my boyfriend for quite sometime now and it started the same as what you have explained. We was friends very good friends then drifted apart and I couldn't quit thinking of him and when I did I'd see him or something that completely reminded me of him. You are in love or lust with her and aren't sure how she feels for you, and it is too hard to come out and ask. I keept writing letters and calling and finally worked up the nerve to tell him my feelings and thankfully his were the same just we lead separate lives trying to ignore the feelings for one another and now we are a happy couple and have been for about 2 1/2 years. Keep your hopes up and your dreams alive and all I can say is hopefully the feelings will change or you can find out her thoughts and then you will know and be happier and less misserable. Hope all goes well. sorry if this isn't the awnser you was looking for but I tried and would be willing to tell more if you need

Ok I am 19 and so is my friend. The new guy just turned 21.

Ok everyone please help me decide if this is right or wrong. I have a b/f that is about 20 years older than me but he is in jail and we are currently having problems. Now there is another guy in the picture who is only a couple years older and not in jail. the problem is he is the father of my best-friends child. They broke up before the child was born and she now has a new boyfriend but would it hurt our friendship? This new guy and I used to not talk and now that we do we realize we like each other and have alot in common which my friend and him did not they both were just in the relationship to have someone to be with and made the mistake of having a child togethher. I really like this guy but don't want to ruin my friendship so please give me your opinions

Ok it sounds like you are in love so it should work out in the end if you can keep the connection between the two of you. I have been with my fiance for two years and we was together all the time lived together and have two pets together ( kind of like our kids). I love him very much and since October he has been gone and will be gone until probally July or maybe longer. I write to him all the time and send cards and do as much as I can to let him know I'm still here and care about him just as much if not more then the day he left. It is hard but if it is true love you will make it. Good luck!

This is all of you that helped. I do love him alot and realize that being in jail may effect him when he gets out but we have been through worse so we will be able to get through this and he wrote me and had the same ideal on mind asking if there was a problem or if we just lessened the communication so we are on the same track and should be able to figure out what we did to confuse each other and hope it gets better thank you guys and gals

[just wait, There are pregnancy tests avalible over the counter but some work and some don't. If she just got over her period there is a high chance that she won't get pregnant. Some girls are different though so just wait and if she skips her period then she needs to see the doctor. you are both young and need to think about this stuff before you do have sex the next time. just hope for the best and expect the worse. I would bet with the details you gave she isn't pregnant but i'm no doctor or pysic so i can't promise just be careful next time and that is why they make condoms and so many forms of birthcontrol. You can get her birthcontrol confidentially without her parents ever knowing but you have to go find your health department and have a few dollars to spend on her papsmere and the form that you both choose. hope this helps

ok my boyfriend is soon 40 and I am 19 I love him alot and have been together for a while now at first I worried about what my friends and family would say but now it is cool. My true friends told me if I love him then go for it and the rest were just jerks and made fun of it saying I was sleeping with my dad and stupid I worried about both of our parents at first also and they seemed to be upset but now that we have been together for so long they have grown to like it and it don't bother them anymore. If you love him show him you care by not worring what others say. If your not sure then it is in your hands to get over it so I hope it works and you are happy with the decision you make. I am here to talk to if you need anyother help.

ok number one if you two have been together for a while then there is no problem there. 2. sex isn't everything if she is ready she will let you know and at 15 almost 16 she knows how to tell you so you will know also. 3. it is cool that you are willing to wait but on the other hand it sounds like you want her to be ready. I think that kissing and playing with the clothes still on will keep you fairly safe till she is of legal age. The illegal part is what her parents think it isn't necessasrily what you do if her parents are against it then there is the big problem hope this helps and keep your head up it will all work out sooner than later.

He went to jail for nothing that effects our relationship it was all to do with stupidity he went to colorado to see his dad and I stayed becasue I had to work and he got introuble for drinking and driving, no liscence , no insurace, and had a warrant there so he got a year but should be able to get out in july sometime if he is good. We wrote each other every day for about 2 months and now it is I'm writing all the time and get a letter once or twice a week from him. I hope it is cause he is working now while he is in there and just don't have as much time to write all the time so hope this helps thanks for your replies