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I may be intrepretting this wrong to and like you said it is a little hard to understand but I will try. I see it as this person you are having trouble with has stole someone else's true love (boyfriend/ Girlfriend) or whatever the case is. I feel that if this is the case maybe the frind that is suffering needs you the most and needs to be told that if he/she left for another that it wasn't meant to be in the first place and probally would of ended up hurting her worse. Well that is just my ideals and don't even know if I'm right but hope it helps.

Hey there I don't know to much about you but from the sounds of your post you are a nice guy and there are plenty of nice women out there just maybe quit setting your standards so high attractive is not always best but that depends on what you consider attractive. Some women are very beautiful once you get to know them but they are not 6 ft drop dead georgeos blondes so think about that and maybe that is where your problem lies.

Ok On your age gap there is nothing that should stop you if it will make you both happy. I was a sophmore in high school when my current boyfriend and I really started talking about being together and then my junior / senior year we got together. He is 20 years older then me and that has never been a problem with the two of us becaus eI am very mature and he has some growing up to do so we help each other and love is all that matters to us so make sure it is what you want and it will work out very well.

Ok I will start with the beginning and try to make it as short as possible. Me and Jason have been friends since grade school and are now adults out of highschool. We lost contact for a few years and now are friends again. I have a boyfriend that is locked up for stupid things but I believe that i love him so I will wait for him to get out. I am real close to Jason now as if we never lost contact. He now has a kid but the girl has left and rearely contacts him so I am kinda Alex's mother figure. Jason is real close to me too and we talk about everything I just wonder if I am getting so close to him cause I am falling in love with him or if it because I am lonely and just know that he is a friend that will always be there. I have caught Jason tell me I love you on the phone when we are getting ready to hang up and never said anything him. Could this be a bad friendship to start considering I have a boyfriend or is it a sign that I shouldn't wait for Shane or what? Please give me your opinions and advise

Well I am sorta in the same situation but not as bad. Long distance relationships are hard to deal with because you get lonly and when all your friends are out with their guys you are alone and wishing you had one closer. Then the age gap comes into ply I don't know about your life or background but usually 16 year olds are just barely getting through puberty and starting to learn a little about life, driving, working exc. He on the other hand is 26 and has been on his own hopfully since he's ben about 18-21 years old and works full time or is going to college. He probally is still going to the bars with his buddies and enjoying life as an adult where it will be 4-5 years before you can even get into a bar and at least 2-4 before you can actually live on your own and be working full time. So think stongly about your decisions and wait before you get married because maybe at 25 you will change the way you feel you are very young and I know from experience that your feeling will change. I am 20 years old and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years he is 40 but I am not getting married till I am at least 25 and then depending on how I feel I may not then either. Take it slow and make sure that is what you want for the rest of you life. There is divorce but if you marry the right one the first time it makes it easier. hope this helps

ok I've read your post and the replies to it and just wonder what you are really saying? Does she talk about her brother in a sexual way or just that is cool and she cares alot about him. I love my brother to death but he is my brother and there is no way I would fancy my brother. I would be a little offended by a bf thinking I would due to the way I talk about my brother because I tell everyone I love my brother and that he is a great guy and stuff like that but it's not in a sexual manner it is just letting people know tyhat we are close and that he does mean alot to me. I would stay close with my brother over being close with any other one person in this world. Please tell us more about your situation so we understand where your getting these assumptions

OK my boyfriend and I have been together a little longer then you and him but My BF still has pictures and letters too but they have no children together. I told him it bothered me and he got upset also but then after I explained to him how it made me feel and that it was ok if he kept them just put them up so I don't have to see them everyday he understood and moved them and I know where they are now but it don't bother me near as much because they are out of sight out of mind. I hope this helps Just talk to him as an adult and not an emotional teenager and see how that works. Good Luck

Ok My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now I really love him and care about him so much. He is my bestfriend and has been for a while. I have known him since I was real little I am 20 years old and he is going to be 40 in the middle of June. We have lived together for the last year and a half so that is not a problem. I do love him very much but think that I am young and may decide later that he is not the one I want for life but am I making a mistake? I have loved him forever and never dreamed of getting marriend to him but now that it comes up I want to because of the love and the relationship but don't want to because I know I am still very young to make such a huge step in life can someone please help me?

Ok Dimas the older man is Jelous and attracted to me. We have been friends for a long time through my parents. He also thinks Cole is a jerk and don't want to see me gut hurt but I already am aware of that risk. He is the father to one of my friends child but he pays his child support and does his fatherly duties so he's not as bad as Dimas thinks.

Ok everyone I like a guy who is 21 and my age. He is a very nice cowboy. He likes me too but we have a friend that is very jelous and don't want to jepordize that friendship. We have been sneaking around to see and talk to each other but it feels like we are doing something wrong and both know that really we aren't. What should we do? WE have tzlked to this friend on nemerous occasions and he is still mad if we are friends away from his presense. He is also twice our age so does that have to do with it. Please help

Ok everyone it is kind of along topic but please read and understand I just want some advise on what to do. I have a boyfriend that I've been with for a few years and I really love him but currently he is incarsarated and told me to go have fun and enjoy because he probally won't be out until July of next year. so I am trying to make different friends and enjoy my life with out him his name is Shane, ok then there is another guy that is just a friend and has had a big crush for a very long time and he is nice guy but quite a bit older then me and we are just friends His name is Dimas last but not least ok there is a new guy that I am being friends with his name is cole. We are only a few years apart in age so that makes it more fun to be around. We are just friends and plan to keep it that way. My b/f and Dimas are both quite a bit older then I am. Cole and I went go carting and then went and spent the day with his eight month old son and Dimas was very mad at both of us for it. We are figuring it's jelousy but he won't admit it. I do like Cole a little as more then a friend but I love Shane and don't want to mess up that relationship either. I just need to know what to do and why Dimas would be so upset as to tell us he hates us both before even finding out what we did together.

Ok well it seems that if he likes you so much he would be wanting to go further in a relationship to find out but being married blocks him from doing so. He either loves his wife and don't want to leave her or he loves you so that is a decision he has to decide on his own. The world now excepts divorce as an everyday thing and as long as he takes care of his duties to his child he don't have to stay married. He he really loves you and you really care about him then you would both talk about the options that are there so either talk to him or he isn'[t worth the time because all your going to do is cause his wife anger and hurt when she finds out and it really isn't fair to her so think about it and do what you feel is best.

Ok your boyfriend sounds like he was a male hoe at one time and could possibly still be one. The best way to find out if he really has changed is to talk to him it may be difficult but it must be done. Trust is the key to a happy relationjship and if you don't trust him you are unhappy and he will be too. Players can change I know from experience so keep your fingers crossed and it should turn out fine. My Best friend was a player up into his early twenties and had a different girl everynight while having a Girlfriend and now that he is with his current girlfriend and has a 2 year old son with her he is a completely changed person. He does still go out on occasion and at first she didn't trust him and now she knows he loves her and there is no other woman in his life so I hope the same luck for you.

Everyone please read and give me your best advise. Ok I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of years and really care about him but he is incarcerated right now so I'm trying to have a life and enjoy myself while he is away. He won't be out until the midle of July. There is a large age gap with him and I but that is not anything I care about. his name is Shane.Ok I also have a friend that has had a crush on me for a very long time and really likes the ideal that shane is not here right now but he is also alot older then I am. I like himas a friend and have thought about having a relationship with him but he is not the kind who is good at having a commitment or relationship so he is only a friend. His name is Dimas. There is alos another guy in the picture who is only a friend. He is only 3 years older then I am and we have recently decided to be friends. He is the father to my best friends baby. We went out and went go carting and had a fun weekend together as friends only. WE neither want a relationship or anything other then friends and everyone else that knows the two of us is totally against us being friends.His name is Cole [b ][b]Ok we spent the weekend hanging out and having fun. Shane told me to go enjoy life and have fun because I am 19 and need to enjoy life even though he is locked up.So that is what I'm trying to do.I invited Dimas to have fun with cole and I but he refused. Dimas got very upset about the situation and is very jelous causing problems with his [/b]friendship with me [/b]and with cole. I talked to Cole and because of it Cole just wants to be friends in front of Dimas so there can be no jelousy or confusion but I think that is wrong. It is like Dimas is choosing my friends because he is jelous. I like everyone and am very easy to get along with but I need to know what I should do about this situation. I want to hang out with Cole because he is fun to be with and we have alot in common and he will do things in public where as Dimas won't. I want to be friends with Dimas to because it is a long time friendship and don't want to lose that. I love Shane so I know myself both of the others are friends only. I thought about just staying home and leaving the two of them alone but that is like punishing myself for their behavior and actions. I really want to talk to both of them and stuff but the jelousy Dimas has makes it impossible to get the two of them together to talk. What should I do please help. I know it is kinda long and don't give to many details but thank you everyone for taking the time to read and please give me your advise.

Abortion- This is takig the life of an innocent life wether it is inside of you or not it is living and growing to be a child. You will always have that empty spot in the back of your head and mind asking about it or feeling guilty so it is usually not such a wise choice but at your age depending on your size it may be best due to the fact that small young girls have a high chance of birth defect and other problems so talk to your doctor and ask them their suggestion Adoption- This is the life of a child that may or may not have the best home. Usually the adoptive parents are tested and checked really well before given a child but there is the chance that they will get a bad home. This is usually the best choice for young mothers and there is 2 different kinds of adoption. closed adoption is where you give up all rights and there is no contact or anything until that child turns of age or finds out about being adopted. open adotion is where you give up all your rights and get to write one letter to your baby to tell them why you did it and hopefully tell them alot of what you want to say and the adoptive parents must send you pictures each year and I am not sure about anythinhg else involved in this kind of adoption but you could probally find out on the computer or from someone in your home town. Adoption is usually a good thing and you will still regret it once you get about 20 or so but it gives you a chance to be a kid and learn from lifes mistakes other then being a kid raising a kid. Good look and I hope this helps you a little bit feel free to e-mail me if you need more info or just want someone to talk to at Ldwickw I'm on Yahoo or Hotmail and I'm sure there is a way to e-mail or IM on here