notsonaive

See, now that to me, is a whole different subject. I mean the idea that anyone, be it woman or man, would date someone they're not attracted to solely because that person has money, is ridiculous. I do see your point, I mean how many times have we seen cases like that in the media? But I don't agree with your choice of percentage...60%, 65%, 70% at the most, of the "ugly man, gorgeous woman" relationships are because of the money involved. I mean, I like to think that a vast majority of the female population are like me, in a sense that material things don't mean so much that they would go to bed next to ...Frankenstein simply because his bank account is huge.

It's undoubtedly no big secret that looks have, throughout the years, become increasingly important and almost necessary when looking for a And yes guys tend to be the worst advocates of this trend. I mean how many couples have you seen where the guy was just as ugly as all get out, but the girl was drop dead gorgeous? A lot huh? That is because ladies (well most of us) tend to be able to look past the physical in order to get to know the person. Whereas, with guys (most of them) they wont even bother to engage in a conversation with a woman if she's not attractive. But I said that to say, in an almost contradictory way to my whole ½ theory up there: there is hope for your friend. I try to believe that everyone is beautiful; both physically and mentally. It just takes the right person to realize that physical beauty. Trust me when I say, I know it's hard waiting for that person, but when she finds him, it'll be that much more special to her because he was a long wait and if he truly loves/likes her for her, she'll be the most beautiful thing he's ever seen.

sigh Stress Isn't it the one of the worst feelings that we as humans can feel? I mean for some people it brings about headaches, hairloss, nervous twhiches and a list of other unattractive side effects. . I believe stress introduces itself to our lives as soon as we hit, middle school/6th grade. Think about it, it's the time when you're told you have to leave the security of one classroom and one teacher, and juggle 6, 7, sometimes 8 classes with 8 different teachers! One day you were engaged in a one on one conversation with your teacher about your struggles with the math assignment, and the next you're too busy rushing to your next class to even glance the teachers way, let alone spend some time to get help. And as if that's not bad, our friend Puberty decides to visit. So here you are, a scared, confused, stinky child, dealing with more work than you've ever had to deal with in all of your 11, 12, [or sometimes 13] years of your life....that to me is stress. Just think though, it doesn't end there, oh no. Then high school happens and that's a whole different level of stress. Peer pressure, more classes, extracurricular activities, boys, girls, dating, sex, drugs, college, sports, driving, self-esteem and believe me, the list goes on. It's amazing not too many of us teenagers are sittin in a hospital bed from a mental breakdown of some sort. But, having observed the older "more experienced" members of our species, I realize now, all the years of teenage stress, is just the foundation for the years of stress to come. Granted you get married and start a family, you stop stressing for just one person (yourself) and begin a list of people to stress for: Husband/WifeKidsDogIn lawsetc. It seems there's no end to it. All we can do is maintain the "outbreaks" by trying not to let the little things worry us. 'Cause quite frankly, if you're human, and breathing, stress is going to find you.

Ok, so I met "my husband" online. He's 10 years older than me, I'm 16 & he's 26. The both of us will be gaining a year consecutively, myself in October and him in November. That's not the problem though, not yet anyway. He's great!! God, he's as close to perfect it gets. He's caring, compassionate, passionate, loving, sentimental, open, honest and just everything a man's supposed to be in the first few months of the relationship (lol). But, and here comes the problem, he has committed himself to me 100%, this is what he told me at least and I believe him. But I'm afraid I can't pay him that same respect. I don't know what it is, but I find myself still trying to flirt with other guys. It doesn't help that it's a long distance relationship either. He's in Long Beach, Cali and I'm in San Bernardino, Cali. Granted, dependin on how fast you drive it's only about a 4 hour drive but seriously with him workin/schoolin and me schoolin we don't have time to make these trips...PLUS...here's the kicker, our families think we're different ages. His thinks I'm 21, and mine thinks he's 20. So I don't know if I'm unable to commit because, and I hate to admit this, I'm just not ready, or because we're so far away, or because our situations wont allow us. Basically I'm just lookin for some input. Whethere you think I'm crazy, paranoid, not ready, whatever help me out. Does anyone else feel that way?

I'm new to this so bare with me if my post/reply is a mess. But your 'situation' is so similar to mine it's eerie. I am 16 years old (17 in Oct.) and I am currently TALKING with a 26 year old. Yeah I realize our age gap is a LOT greater but we really like each other. My folks think he's 20 and his family all thinks I'm 21 (lol I'm the older one lol). But he's similar to your guy, minus the immature thing lol. He's very very wise beyond his years, as with me. I am constantly being told, I look, sound and act older. In fact when I tried telling a niece of his my real age (over the telephone), she didn't believe me she swore up and down that I was 20 at least so... But I just wanted to say I understand you completely and I wish you the best of luck. And maybe we can even become closer friends and swap stories and whatnot. Either way I'm here...