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  1. Tinkerbell
    I think that you should definitely tell her because if you don't you'll always wonder what might of been. You're right about one thing though, she probably would be very shocked, which is why you should ease into it. Start off by being a little more flirtacious with her and see her reaction, if all goes well than perhaps reach for her hand one day and tell her how you feel.
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    I don't think it's possible to TEACH someone how to be funny, and if you try practicing what you're going to say to her in advance you're just going to look lame because she'll know you prepared. Why not try to win girls over with something else other than humor? If you really want to be funny I suppose you try that book someone suggested, you might also want to try making a joke when something goes wrong rather than getting upset over it.
  3. Tinkerbell
    I think that it could be both; perhaps she's hurt because she feels that you rejected her when you said the two of you couldn't be friends any more, or perhaps she's scared of it being awkward given the way you feel about her. I think the second one is less likely since you said she was pretty touchy-feely around you when you guys DID hang out.
  4. Tinkerbell
    Only you can know for sure whether or not you're wasting your time. You can either give him a few more weeks for things to slow down a bit at work or you can end it right now; it's your decision. Personally, I would give it some time and let him know that the minimal contact isn't keeping you very happy and you'd appreciate it if he could try to change this as soon as possible. Ask him where he thinks you two are headed in the relationship, is it just for fun or is it serious? If it's just for fun than perhaps it's time you move on to one of those other men willing to take you out who can hopefully dedicate more time to you.
  5. Tinkerbell
    The whole pregnancy ordeal is more than enough for me to think that this guy is a jerk and you can do much better. No contact was a good idea, so keep it up, I don't understand why he'd be calling you when he's in a relationship other than for the same reason you already guessed; "to keep a string attached." If it was important he would've left you a message or called you back. You're doing the right thing by trying to get over him, you're better off without, keep on ignoring his calls (if there are any more) and soon enough he'll get the picture.
  6. Tinkerbell
    I don't think that you need to ask her about kissing her because, in my opinion, it's not a very big deal and she's probably expecting it. Why not just lean in for a goodnight kiss next time you see her? Once the ice has been broken you can see where it goes from there, she might feel pressured if you ask her about it so just allows things to go with the flow.
  7. Tinkerbell
    I certainly would not go on a date with a complete stranger, mainly because I'd be afraid that he'd drag me into an alley and rape me. Perhaps I sound dramatic, but I've seen enough horror stories on the news to know that this is quite possible. A better way of doing it would be to find a local coffee shop where you can hang out on a regular basis, and you're bound to meet some girls your age there. If they see you around for a few days they'll be less likely to run away in fear when you make your move, but I still wouldn't suggest asking them out on a date, try something along the lines of "Would you like to join me?" You two will both already be there so she'll need to come up with a pretty darn good excuse to refuse, and she'll be in a safe environment so she's more likely to say yes. That way the two of you can have a conversation BEFORE you ask her out on the date. Who knows, it might be the other way around and this stranger of a date might take YOU into the alley. I know I know, guys are not likely going to object, but think of possible diseases! Enough of my madness, I'm out, hope this has helped!
  8. Tinkerbell
    Since she doesn't feel the same way about you there's really nothing you can do but try to get over her. Try to keep the contact to a minimum for now because it'll be hard to move on if you see a lot of her. You must accept that although she did have a crush on you, this was in the past, and right now the future for you two only consists of a friendship.
  9. Tinkerbell
    I think that by breaking up with him by email you'd be lowering yourself to his level. Try to put him out of your mind for the moment and then the second he gets back from his vacation call him up and tell him you guys need to talk in person, and soon, and do it then.
  10. Tinkerbell
    The best time to tell her is whenever it feels right. Perhaps plan a romantic evening together, a candlelit dinner, walk in the park, you get the picture, and tell her then. Or you two might just be watching TV one day on your living room couch and you'll get the urge to say it. You'll feel it in your heart when it's time.
  11. Tinkerbell
    You said you can talk to her about everything, so why not ask her? Find out whether she's nervous or excited about meeting you in person, or perhaps she's scared of getting too close, or maybe she's just been more occupied lately. The only way you can know for sure is by confronting her about it.
  12. Tinkerbell
    It sounds like your ex is suffering from a bad case of depression, and seeing that his family isn't helping any you should try to contact a teacher you trust or, as a member suggested, the authorities. In the meantime encourage him not to give up and be there to lend a shoulder for him to cry; he needs your support more than ever.
  13. Tinkerbell
    I'm with parisian_pink on this one, if I had known a guy for only a day and suddenly he was professing his love for me I'd be pretty freaked out as well. Just enjoy the short time you have left with her and leave it at that, even if you did buy her a ticket for Sydney eventually she would have to go back to Germany, and such a long distance relationship would probably fail. I know it might sound lame, but perhaps you guys could become penpals or something?
  14. Tinkerbell
    It's a shame that just because you don't like what someone has to say you label it as "ignorance;" don't be expecting to get any "good" advice anywhere with that attitude.
  15. Tinkerbell
    You really like her and yet she's interested in other guys besides you...Ouch. I don't think that you should bother with her romantically any more until she can dedicate herself to you. You deserve someone who wants you and you alone, someone who truly cares about you and isn't just using you to pass the time. If you want to remain friends with her than that's your choice, although I don't suggest you hang out with her all that much while you're trying to get over her as it'll make the process even harder. Best of luck to you!
  16. Tinkerbell
    Sorry to break it to you hunny but you don't know her either. And what exactly did you want me to say? I'm telling you I've known couples who have age-gap relationships of only a few years and even THEY couldn't make it work. If your mind is already made up about her than why did you bother posting? I'm sorry that my logical answer has offended you, but it's only normal to assume that if she's "cheating" on her husband than she may be cheating on you as well. If you want to pursue a relationship with her than go ahead, nobody's stopping you, just becareful. Wait until after the divorce before becoming more involved with her because I don't think her husband would be at all pleased to discover the two of you together.
  17. Tinkerbell
    Don't focus so much on what you're doing, just go with the flow! If at any time you see that she doesn't appear to be enjoying herself you might want to use your fingers too. The best way to satisfy someone is to ask them what they like and what they want, so don't be shy!
  18. Tinkerbell
    Listen, you have to get this girl out of your mind, she's nothing but a coldhearted ...... She's vain and conceited, and then she uses you to help her with her studies? Who does she think she is, the queen of Sheeba? Try and see how selfish she's being, what kind of a person doesn't help someone else when they are in need? You can do MUCH, MUCH, MUCH BETTER, so forget about her and move on.
  19. Tinkerbell
    I'm sorry but I don't think it's possible to be in love with someone whom you've never even met, you don't even know if the two of you will have any chemistry or if the sparks will fly. I don't agree with what she did to you, lying to you for such a long time is completely unacceptable, especially since the two of you were engaged in a "cyber relationship." If her real age was the one she originally stated I would think that this would cause problems mainly because you are both at different points in your lives, but now that she's even OLDER than that I find it hard to believe this could work. Besides, she's married for goodness sake, she shouldn't be involved with anyone but her husband, whether it be cyber or not. How can you know for sure that you're the only "second man" in her life? I really think you should re-think this whole thing first, not only is she lying to her husband, but she lied to you as well. This woman is old enough to be your mother, perhaps it would be better if the two of you just remained friends.
  20. Tinkerbell
    Only you can know for sure whether you love her or not, although I must say it really doesn't have anything to do with how many arguments you two have had. Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistably desired. And once you're IN love, you'll know for sure. To be honest, I don't think it's possible to describe love, it's just something that you'll feel. If you're wondering whether or not you should tell her, it's completely up to you, but since the two of you have only been dating for a short period of time it would probably be best for you to wait.
  21. Tinkerbell
    Instead of focusing on how much you're going to miss him, focus on how happy you're going to be when he returns. In the meantime, busy yourself with friends or a hobby. It's completely normal to be a little jealous and worried, just keep reminding yourself that you know he wouldn't do anything to jeopardize the relationship and that you know she's nothing but a friend.
  22. Tinkerbell
    Did your friend know at the time that you had feelings for this girl? If he did, it was rather insensitive of him to ask her out, but seeing that it's already been done there's really not that much you can do about it. Perhaps tell your guy friend that you're rather uncomfortable when you hang out with the two of them as a couple, you could say you feel like a third wheel or something along the lines of that, and if you wish to continue a friendship with each of them, try hanging out with them one-on-one.
  23. Tinkerbell
    For starters, before you guys were going out and you were kissing and stuff you already were friends with benefits. As for this him being scared thing, it's a risk he should be willing to take if he really does have feelings for you. You need to go out on a limb to get the apple!
  24. Tinkerbell
    That's a good idea, remember to be strong, you don't need someone in your life who doesn't appreciate you. I hope it all works out for the best!
  25. Tinkerbell
    Hmm, maybe try asking her if she is? It seems unlikely that at 30 she's still a virgin, but you never know. Perhaps she wants to see whether or not you really care for her by trying you out to see how long you'll go without it?
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