Tinkerbell

Did you just begin a new method of birth control? This is known to cause spotting. Then again, spotting can also occur out of the blue when you're a teenager, although it is a little odd since you've had your period for five years already: Most of the time your period is regular by this point. If you're really concerned, ask your mom or doctor about it, but I don't think it's anything serious.

I've never had to deal with them myself so I personally don't know how effective this will be, but my friends seem convinced that the following methods actually work: It is most important to keep the skin scrupulously clean. 1.Use an oatmeal or almond mask throughly to cleanse your face. Mix either oatmeal or almond powder with enough rose water to make a soft paste that spreads easily on the skin. Rub it on your skin with your fingertips, paying special attention the problem areas. Leave to dry for about 15 minutes and then rinse off with cold water. 2.Apply undiluted lemon juice, two to three times a day, on the affected areas. 3.A solution made out of one and a half cups of hot water and half a tablespoon of boric powder is an ideal concoction for blackheads, Saturate a face napkin in this hot solution and press on to the skin, repeat twice. Extract blackheads carefully with a blackhead remover and sterilized cottonwool. Pat on an astrigent. 4.Warm a little honey and apply on the trouble spots. Wash off after 10-15 minutes. Try out these home remedies for cleaning out your blackheads yourself or get in touch with a qualified beautician. This was found on link removed if you want to read more on exactly what blackheads are. I hope this helps! Oh, and I believe Neutrogena makes a skin-cleansing product especially for blackheads which works pretty well too.

I think you're all missing something important here: It depends on how you feel about the guy. Sure, if you guys are dating or are interested in dating one another, than I'm going to agree with the girls here and say that there's nothing wrong with it. However, what if this guy is nothing but a friend, almost a brotherly-figure, and you feel something going on down there when you give him a hug? UGH. Now THAT would be awkward and uncomfortable.

Yes, it could make matters worse, I wouldn't suggest that. I say your best bet is with the parents, or go see a doctor yourself and tell them your concerns and arrange for an appointement, than maybe you'll be able to trick her into going somehow by asking her to go along with you to visit a friend at the hospital or something.

That's a good idea. He's got to do whatever he can to make sure that she gets help before it's too late, and if her family isn't being supportive he has to trick her into going to the doctor somehow.

Right now isn't the time to worry about whether or not she'll stop seeing you, you've just got to get her to a doctor as soon as possible, even if that means you have to drag her there. Around how much weight has she lost, more than 15% of her ideal body weight?

Now's the time to listen to the lyrics of one all time favorite bands, Brand New: You're never going to find it if you're looking for it. Simple, but true. Don't set out every day looking for love, and don't set yourself a time limit to find that special someone. So what if your friends are already tying the knot? Isn't it better to wait and find the one person you're perfect for rather than settle down with someone who isn't even all that great? Confidence is key here: Both in your attitude towards yourself and relationships. When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself that you're a sexy beast and a great catch, and that in due time you'll find an amazing girl. In the end, things will work out for the best, so try not to be envious towards your friends, but bask in their hapinness as well and look forward to the day when you'll be walking down the aisle. ~Tink xxx

Beautifully written, if you do decide to share it with your mother I'm sure it'll get quite a reaction out of her. One small thing though - It's spelled wasting, not waisting.

I don't think you should base your decision that she likes you as more than a friend solely on the fact that her friends said that this was the case. It seems to me that if this were true, she would've already dumped her boyfriend and initiated a relationship with you instead. However, it is possible that she's afraid to end things with him and she does have feelings for you, but there's no way for me to tell for sure. As for telling her you love her, I think that this is a BIG mistake. I would say as a general rule you shouldn't tell someone you're in love with them unless you're involved with them, this being especially true if that person is involved with someone else. No matter how much you dislike her boyfriend, it does not give you the right to try to move in on his "girl." Would you like it if it were the other way around and some guy was professing his love for your girlfriend? I don't think so. If he should find out, you can expect some serious behind-kicking. Besides, since you cannot be completely positive that she feels the same way it also isn't wise to tell her you love her because things might be awkward between you two afterwards. Right now you should be there for her when she needs your help, and support her in whichever decision she makes, even if her choice of a boyfriend isn't you. ~Tink xxx

You haven't really said what it is you're asking, but I'm guessing you'd like to know how you can help her deal with the situation. The truth is, there isn't much you can do. I suffered from anorexia nervosa a few years ago, and was even hospitalised for 2 months because of it. That year was a complete hell for me, and I barely remember it at all, mostly because I don't want to remember; the pain that the memories bring is almost too hard to bare. The only thing you can really do is make sure she gets adequate medical attention. No matter how angry she might be with you for bringing her to the doctor, she'll thank you one day. If her case is severe, it just may be the difference between life and death. I wish the both of you all the best, ~Tink xxx

I wouldn't say she's your girlfriend yet, but it is a possibility. It's always best to talk about the relationship before calling the person your girlfriend or boyfriend; establish whether or not you're exclusive so there's no confusion later on. I'd say that the two of you are just dating at the moment. I know this may sound kind of lame, but why not think of a couple of things beforehand that you can bring up if there's an awkward silence? Little things that could get a conversation going, like a new song you heard, an article you read, etc.

There's no such thing as love at first site, it's simply a physical attraction, which is in fact lust at first site.

Very nice! =D>

As the above posters have said, everyone is going to remember their first time, but it doesn't necessarily mean that the first time is the best or most special time, it all depends on the girl.

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I agree, it's absolutely adorable! The fact that the guy is blushing shows that he's interested because if he wasn't he wouldn't care enough to blush...Besides, I just find it really cute in general, I don't dig that whole macho man thing.

First off, I have to say that it's rather admirable of you to want to help her, even if she hasn't been so kind to you and/or others in the past. As for her situation, it's obviously a touchy subject so I wouldn't suggest you bring it up, or get overlly suspicious. Perhaps there's some way you can find out if she really got those bruises from practice, maybe talk to another cheerleader and casually bring up the subject of the likeliness of injuries or something? If you're certain that it's her stepfather doing this to her, you must notify an adult at once whom you can trust to help get this girl out of the situation. However, if you're still unsure, don't try to pry the information out of her, rather try to keep friendly with her instead so if she's having a lot of problems she can consider turning to you for help. Take care, ~Tink xxx

It all depends on the girl. I used to go clubbing because I liked dancing, and I enjoyed the experience with a big group of friends. However, the last time I went I was alone with one of my girl friends and it wasn't very much fun since we spent the majority of the evening escaping strangers who thought it was appropriate to grope us. There are some girls who go out looking for guys, but I've never been one of them so I can't help you there. It's odd though that women could have more than one reason for going, whereas if single guys go there, you know exactly what they're looking for. ~Tink xxx

Muneca, I think that it's quite possible that the woman making the first move can lead to a relationship, but depending on how the man felt about her in the first place. And it works the other way as well, it's quite possible that the MAN making the first move will result in a relationship, depending on how the woman felt about him beforehand. In the end, it seems to me that what really matters is whether or not the person on the 'receiving end' of the move views the other as just a friend or possibly something more.

I agree with you on the somewhat fancy restaurant, a place that doesn't give you 5 different spoons but is classy enough to keep the big red-haired clowns out. As for the roller-blading, why not? I think it sounds cute, especially if both of you have no idea what you're doing, maybe if you're lucky you'll fall on top of her Teehee!

Well well welll...Personally, I don't think getting an "escort" is a good idea (I loved how you used that term instead of just coming out and saying a prostitute... The very idea of sleeping with someone who would refer to you as a client afterwards sickens me to no end, thereforeeee I'm certainly not going to support your idea. However, it really is your choice, so if you're set on getting jiggy with it with a woman who's vagina is a crowd-pleasing cavern, than by all means go ahead, but make sure to enjoy the ride, as you're likely to catch something that would make your penis fall off.

The short-term effects of marijuana can include problems with memory and learning; distorted perception; difficulty in thinking and problem solving; loss of coordination; and increased heart rate. Research findings for long-term marijuana use indicate some changes in the brain similar to those seen after long-term use of other major drugs of abuse. For example, cannabinoid (THC or synthetic forms of THC) withdrawal in chronically exposed animals leads to an increase in the activation of the stress-response system and changes in the activity of nerve cells containing dopamine. Dopamine neurons are involved in the regulation of motivation and reward, and are directly or indirectly affected by all drugs of abuse. One study has indicated that a user's risk of heart attack more than quadruples in the first hour after smoking marijuana. The researchers suggest that such an effect might occur from marijuana's effects on blood pressure and heart rate and reduced oxygen-carrying capacity of blood. Even infrequent use can cause burning and stinging of the mouth and throat, often accompanied by a heavy cough. Someone who smokes marijuana regularly may have many of the same respiratory problems that tobacco smokers do, such as daily cough and phlegm production, more frequent acute chest illness, a heightened risk of lung infections, and a greater tendency to obstructed airways. Smoking marijuana increases the likelihood of developing cancer of the head or neck, and the more marijuana smoked the greater the increase. A study comparing 173 cancer patients and 176 healthy individuals produced strong evidence that marijuana smoking doubled or tripled the risk of these cancers. Marijuana use also has the potential to promote cancer of the lungs and other parts of the respiratory tract because it contains irritants and carcinogens. In fact, marijuana smoke contains 50 to 70 percent more carcinogenic hydrocarbons than does tobacco smoke. Some of marijuana's adverse health effects may occur because THC impairs the immune system's ability to fight off infectious diseases and cancer. In laboratory experiments that exposed animal and human cells to THC or other marijuana ingredients, the normal disease-preventing reactions of many of the key types of immune cells were inhibited. I suggest you read the rest at nida.nih.gov/Infofax/marijuana.html if you want to become less ignorant on the subject.

It doesn't matter whether you want one or not, it's your girlfriend's decision and if she felt like giving one to you she already would've, afterall, it's not like girls need to ask permission or anything, how often do you hear of a guy who would refuse one? As for coming in her mouth, worry about that once she actually does it, and when you're getting close warn her so she can choose to finish off with her hand.

Hmm, the whole women making the first move sounded like a very good idea until I read shes2smart post. I don't want my friends coming off as "easy," and I certainly wouldn't want to come off as easy either! I've heard some people say that half the fun is in the chasing of the guy/girl, but personally, I can't see myself "chasing" after someone. I'd leave it at if you don't want me, that's too bad for you! I think the main issue here is whether or not the person is outgoing. Seems like the majority of the guys who are all for women making the first move are the guys who are shy or who have self-esteem problems. However, and this is directed to both men and women, what if the person you were with made the first move and you weren't interested in them in that way? God, that must be awkward... Also, for those men who voted for women making the first move, which would you prefer? Holding your hand, kissing you, telling you how she feels, or something else?

Hey everybody, Whenever one of my girl friends tells me she's into a guy, I always suggest that they take the first step somehow by either flirting, suggesting hanging out more, or if they're really brave, kissing them. However, I do not see many guys on this forum talking about women taking the first step, and I was wondering whether or not you like this or do you prefer to be the one taking the initiative?