Tinkerbell

There are a surprising 20 million sperm/ml of seminal fluid, and an average ejaculation consists of 1.5-5ml. Oh, and as a little extra information, there is about 15 calories in an average ejaculation.

Hey there Barbie, and welcome to eNotAlone! Since you know that your father loves you, try not to get too worked up about this situation. It could very well be that he has been rather busy lately, but I do think he should make some time for you. Why not call him up and suggest the two of you make a lunchdate next week ALONE so you don't have to deal with his girlfriend and neither does he? Even if he has been rather occupied, by planning something in advance he should be able to fit it into his schedule. There's no way for us to know whether or not he's trying to avoid you, but I have to admit that this seems rather unlikely since he is your father. Perhaps he's been having problems in his relationship and that's why he hasn't been seeing you all that much? As for the legal aspect of it all, it's not as though he's forbidden you not to come over; he just hasn't had the time.

It very well could be the condom, my ex boyfriend was never able to come when he wore one, and I didn't find it as enjoyable either. Perhaps you two should agree on another method of birth control to figure out if that's the problem, such as the pill or the depo provera shot? (The latter is effective immediately after) I'm going to agree with the majority here that you're probably putting too much pressure on yourself. Continue to try out new positions until you find one that works for you, and don't focus so much on having an orgasm and you should be there in no time. As for DBL's comment on it being a waste of time, I'm completely with PAdreamer on this one. It's rather selfish and immature to be so focused on your own pleasure that you would disregard the needs and wants of your partner.

I don't think you should go so far as to get him to orgasm with his pants on. Don't forget, guys actually ejaculate so this could cause quite the mess. Besides, you guys are certainly going to get busted if he has a giant wet stain on his pants.

I don't think "blueballs" would have been hurting him while you were doing it, perhaps you just pulled back on the skin too much?

Very true richgabe, very true. People think that by avoiding something it will magically go away, but it often just grows in size. In the example were using, the cheater will probably try to hide from all confrontations from his ex because they will just be a blatant reminder of his stupid behavior.

Hmm, alrighty then. Well I would start off by suggesting you limit the massager to the hand, as it's pretty easy to slip with your knee, and the hand is more enjoyable anyway. As for different techniques, you're pretty limited with the pants on, so why not start off by playfully teasing him (run your fingers gently over his penis) and then slowly build up to a steady rythm, using more force and incorporating some kissing? Oh, and blueballs (Ugh, I hate that expression) is what occurs when a man gets very turned on and doesn't ejaculate, which is bound to happen while you do this, so it's pretty inevitable. Don't worry too much about it though, it's not like he'll die, besides, he does own a hand.

Hmm, in the case of the affair, we're assuming that they know what they did was wrong yet they don't feel that much regret? If yes, than it's most probably an issue of pride.

Condoms can break due to heat exposure, but the cold wouldn't have done anything. Besides, condom breakage rates in the US are under 2%.

I don't think you should ask her that question as it's bound to make her feel uncomfortable. It's pretty obvious that if she was really interested in you she wouldn't be seeing another guy, so chances are she just likes you as a friend. Besides, she's shocked enough as it is by your last comment, don't make it any worse.

If you don't mind me asking, are you ready for him to take off the clothes? That'd be a lot easier, and much more pleasurable for him as well. (In case you got the wrong idea, I'm referring to a handjob)

It's important to remember that if you really love someone, you will not give a damn about saving your face or coming accross as a moron if you've realised you've made a mistake. You will get down on your knees and BEG if necessary, because love tends to get people to act strangely and lose all sense of dignity. As for the communication aspect, I agree that it appears to be much simpler to know everything that's going wrong in a relationship from the outside, but you can never really know for certain as you are unable to feel exactly what the people in the relationship are feeling. Sure, you can assume things, but well, you know the saying about assumptions I'm sure... And yes, being honest is certainly important, but quite often people don't want to hear the truth, they want the sugar-coated version. I'm not arguing that this is the way to go, but it's clear that this is human nature. For example, your boyfriend gets drunk and has sex with your best friend. Which would you rather hear: A) I screwed the brains out of your best friend B) I fooled around with your best friend. Who in their right mind would choose A? Although it's the truth, it would completely shatter a person. I admit, there are times when I too have felt that I'd rather not know than be terribly hurt by the truth.

Of course it's normal, break-ups are an extrememly painful experience, even more so if you were vey attached to your partner. However, this feeling of emptiness will eventually begin to subside as you move on. Don't rush the process, it will happen eventually. In the meantime, try not to go backwards by obsessing over your ex and the relationship, but rather focus on the present and surround yourself with people and things which bring you happiness.

You need to tell her, this is not a healthy friendship. Relationships go two ways, so she needs to be prepared to focus on you sometimes as well. Next time she interrupts something important you have to say to babble on about her own life, say something like "Do you think we could please talk about me for a little awhile? It seems like lately all we've been talking about is you, and that's not very fair to me...I have a problem/situation that I need to deal with, and I'd like your input." This way, you get the point accross without being too harsh about it, and even if she does get offended, chances are she'll cease this behavior as she won't want to admit to herself that she's been such a lousy friend.

Alright, I'm going to start off by honestly answering your question. What do I think of this? I think it's very odd that you would want to compare your penis to your friends penis, and even more odd that you're certain that you'll both be aroused by this. Now I'm not judging you, but being aroused by a member of the same sex generally says that you're a bisexual or a homosexual, but it's certainly hard to tell at such a young age. I would not suggest you do this. It just seems like a very awkward and uncalled for situation that isn't likely to bring about anything good. Besides, what if word gets around that you two have willingly whipped out your privates and showed them off to each other? Can you begin to imagine the horrible rumors that would be spread around? Besides, your friend seems a little too eager to do this, and it could be that his "dang look at that" comments are simply used to give the impression that he's straight. It's not uncommon for people to be ashamed of their attraction for the same sex (You can't really blame them given the close-minded attitude of our society) and will try their hardest to hide their sexual preference by making loud and obnoxious comments about the opposite sex. Now I don't think that friends changing in front of each other is such a big deal (I do this often with my girl friends) but I'll admit I would certainly be alarmed if one of my pals suggested we compare our breasts and then stated that she enjoyed *cough* the experience. I certainly would not feel as comfortable around her anymore, as it's just something that I generally think you shouldn't do. It would be even stranger if one of them suggested we compare vaginas, just as strange as what your friend is suggesting, and I would never in a million years agree to it. However, you're free to do what you want, but I would advise you to think carefully about what you're contemplating doing. Take care, ~Tink xxx

Personally, I don't think he reached orgasm, just because I've never known a guy who wouldn't a) mind coming in his pants and b) mind going to sleep afterwards and just allowing the substances to settle down there. Quite frankly I find this a little gross myself. As for the toe thing, I know it's common for someone's toes to curl doing orgasm, which I suppose could cause the numbness. Oh, and I wouldn't worry too much about being gentle, you'll be able to tell the second you've gotten too rough by the expression on your boyfriend's face and most likely his cry of indignation.

He's obviously making quite an effort for you (calling you the moment he gets home and insisting on seeing you even though he must've been exhausted) so I see no harm in you doing the same for him. I think writing him that email was a good idea, and I suggest you keep contact with him while he's away without all the little games (I-called-him-last-so-he-should-be-the-one-calling-me sorta thing)

Hey again everyone, By reading through tons of posts every day I have gathered that you've all picked up on the sex-related changes in our society; one perfect example would be the amount of young girls and boys who are sexually active. One would hope this problem would disappear as these reckless teens get older, but it only seems to increase as their amount of sex partners grows to become a two digit number. Now who's to blame for this problem? My bet's on the media, as sex just happens to be everywhere, but I wouldn't consider this an excuse for their actions as I have not yet resorted to throwing myself at random men. However, I cannot say the same thing for some of my very close friends, and I can think of no better way to describe them than girls gone bad. Now don't get me wrong, I adore my friends, but it really bothers me when I see them acting in degrading ways. For example, I would not consider dancing on a bar in a mini-skirt giving men a full view as respectful behaviour. However, I never really interfered as they're free to do what they want with their lives. But I have no choice to interfere now, as my best friend has suddenly morphed into one of those girls. She used to be the one person I could turn to when I was disappointed by some of other friends dirty actions, but she's become just as bad. To give you all a better idea, let me tell you about her. Up until 3 weeks ago, she was completely innocent. And I mean completely, she'd never even kissed a guy. Then she started going out clubbing more often, and since then she has made out with 7 different men, and even allowed one of them a feel. I've told her I'm losing all respect I once had for her, and she just laughed. For some reason, she thinks this is funny. I just cannot understand what has happened to her. She's always been rather shy, but it seems like she's suddenly realised that some men are attracted to her and she should use this attraction to get as much attention as possible. One of my guy friends calls this the "hoochie" phase, but I never expected my best friend to go through it. It seems like just yesterday she was telling me she was going to wait until she was married to have sex, but I wouldn't be surprised if she called me up today and told me she lost her virginity in a bathroom stall at a club. Well I know I've just rambled on, but I could really use some input here. Has anyone had a friend or an ex or someone go through something like this? What do you think has caused it? And most importantly, how can I make it stop before the girl I love as though she were my sister ends up raped and dead in an alley? Thank you in advance, ~Tink

Oh, what a turn-off! Not only is it unpleasant to look at, but it must be rather painful to get intimate with him as well.

Ah yes, I've read that one before, it's very sweet.

Sorry to break it to you, but it sounds to me like no matter what you do you're going to end up in a rut. If you don't call him, he certainly isn't going to call you since he's waiting for a text message plus he actually said he didn't want to speak to you any more, so chances are since it's a long-distance relationship he's just going to move on with his life and you'll never get any closure. And if you call him and try to work things out, I honestly don't think that'll do any good because he doesn't sound very happy with the relationship, so the two of you will probably agree on a break-up, which will give you closure but will leave you very hurt. Out of the two, I'd go with the second option. Text message him saying you were hurt by what you overheard and you want to talk to him about it, and hopefully he'll call you. Then move on from there. Is there a slight chance that you completely misunderstood what he said?

She didn't break up with him on the spot, she broke up with him later on after she had brought him home (he was too drunk to make it back on his own). They had been going out for almost a year, and he didn't do it just to embarrass her, he was completely intoxicated.

Hey everyone! Well I have a little problem that I'm hoping someone can help me with. My good friend, whom I'll call Lisa for privacy reasons, broke up with her boyfriend about 2 months ago on his 21st birthday. Lisa and her boyfriend, Fred, were dating for quite some time, I think almost a year, and for his birthday they decided to go out to a club with a whole bunch of his friends to celebrate. Anyway, he ended up having waaaay too much to drink, and one of his girl friends who was also rather drunk herself grabbed Fred and kissed him. Well, in his drunken state he didn't realise who it was and went along with it for a bit until Lisa saw this and, as you can imagine, flipped out. Unfortunately, it did not end there. A friend of Fred's who always disliked Lisa decided she wanted to be spiteful and then she also grabbed Fred and kissed him, who once again went along with it until Lisa came storming over. As you can imagine she was rather hurt and dismayed, and I believe she had reason to be. However, I believe Fred's biggest mistake was drinking too much. I'm not trying to make up excuses for him, but Lisa misses him dearly and called me up crying today when she found out he was going out to a bar with another girl. It's obvious how much she loves him, so I'm thinking of telling her she should give him another chance. What do you guys think? Should his act of infidelity be forgiven given the circumstances?

Protection beings immediately. You will literally walk out of your healthcare provider's office protected against pregnancy for 3 months.

Beautifully written. Most of the time I'm not too found of poems based on the topic of suicide as they're just rather dark and gloomy without anything special to them, but your writing is definitely an exception. Keep up the good work. =D>