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  1. BananaRamma01
    I agree... just hear her out, and if she does decide to end it, just try and let her know how much you care. If she still wants to end it, just reassure her that you'll always be there when she needs you,and maybe, in time, she'll realize how much you really care for her... just give her time and love her; thats really all you can do right now. Hope it works out! Always... BananaRamma01
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    the first thing i would od is say something to your mate about it... then find a therapist (or a good friend) that'll help you through this. all you need is time and a good listener on your side. just try and confide in someone... sometimes talking about it really helps. Always... BananaRamma01
  3. BananaRamma01
    Im sure you're great, and I kow the woman you are destined to be with is out there looking for you too... my only advice is don't go looking for love... it's just a wild goose chase! It'll find you, and when it does, it knock your socks off... just be paitient... it'll come to you! Always... BananaRamma01
  4. BananaRamma01
    Okay... you all might remember my last post (sorry... i just need to vent)... well, this is very much like that! Thanx for listening in advance! You guys r great! Now you've even git Jaime thinking you're in charge...I WILL NOT let you tear him away from me.You'll be getting exactly what you want, and I simply refuse to let that happen. You are not as powerful as you think; at least, you won't be for long.You're my mother... not my owner, though sometimes I think you get the two mixed up.He and I are both furious and feeling like shit because you're so insecure. What do u want?! I fell in love... I commenced in the ACT of love with him... and now you know. What's done is done. If you think I'm going to apologize, you are sadly mistaken. You are trying to take away the one person that fulfills me and I WILL NOT let that happen. I will fight for him. He says he's leaving this decision up to you. NO. I will not give you that power.If you want me to make this easy, I'll just leave. there are people who will "put up" with me. I'll just pick up and go. How would you like that? What are you going to do? Ground me? Been there. Hit me? Been there, too. Forbid me to see him? Yeah right.I love him... there is NO getting around THAT. If it hadn't been for him being there for me... I probably would've killed myself already. Thats how huch he's heped me grow as a person. Shouldnt that tellyou something?! Life's a b*tch, then you die, right? Well, my life's already a b*tch, and because of him, I dont want to die anymore.I'm gonna keep standing strong, and later, you'll wonder how you could've ever been ashamed of me. I've gotten through obstacles before... the only thing different here is the fact that Jaime is going throughit with me. Your just making me stronger... and if you're expecting a "thank you", you aren't going to get it... because that mean mustering up my dignity and respect for you... and right now, neither of those exist. Thanks for listening... I know it was long... sorry! BananaRamma01
  5. BananaRamma01
    OKay, just do one thing for me... be up front. We're talking about men here, honey! He probably knows how you feel if you've voiced your confusion to him, but you need to make sure he realizes that you want more than a sexual relationship. You hadn't seen him for about 2 years, right? People change. NOw is the time to make him realize that you've changed, too. Stand up for yourself... defend your feelings, and don't let him mess with your feelings like this. This is totally disrespectful, and I hope your decision works out for you, but if he is only interested in sex, get rid of him. That is disrespectful and a real blow to your honor. You don't deserve that. Always... BananaRamma01
  6. BananaRamma01
    This is coming from a chick that used to be in your shoes... just tell him how you feel... like he said; COMMUNICATE!!! The key to ANY successful relationship is communication... don't hope or wiat for it to work itself out... MAKE it happen. Take the initiative and take action, honey! Remind him that it takes two to tango, and right about now, he's stepping all over your feet (metaphorically speaking!). Always... BananaRamma01
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    I've been in this situation before, and i had no idea how to tell anyone how i felt... until now. At one point, this piece was me. If i had't started to love myself, I would be alive in your words. thank you. Always... BananaRamma01
  8. BananaRamma01
    Honey, I can't imagine how hard this must be for you... I've been cheated on before, but never by the man that I love. I am fortunate enough to be in a very loving relationship with someone whom I can trust. If you need closure, tell the man you need closure. Tell him what you're thinking, and make sure he realizes how this is affecting you. He needs to know because the only way you can fix anything is to take action. I hope this helped. Always... BananaRamma01
  9. BananaRamma01
    I totally agree with netman... i think this is all about respect and how much of it you have for your bf. Just sit down and have a little chat with your boyfriend; if he's cool with it, sure, have a ball! Just make sure you respect him as well as yourself. Always... BananaRamma01
  10. BananaRamma01
    I understand EXACTLY what you're going through... life is trying to steal the love of my life away, and I simply refuse to let that happen. I admire your work, and I just want you to know that my life is right now in your work. Thank you and keep it up. Always... BananaRamma01
  11. BananaRamma01
    You said so urself... your current gf doesnt respect you... thats all you need to remember when making this decision... a healthy relationship is based on trust, respect, and mutal feelings. She didnt respect your suggestion about taking time away from each other, you couldnt trust her to be there when you needed her, and if she 'loves' you, but youre not sure about your feelings for her, thats not mutual. Just make a mental checlist of all of the things that you believe a healthy relationship consists of, and then check tosee how each of these girls measures up. You'll be fine... just think about what's best for you right now, the answer will come soon enough. Always... BananaRamma01
  12. BananaRamma01
    these guys are right... there isn't really anything you have to worry about... sperm need a certain environment, and when 'they' are deprived of this environment, it's impossible for 'them' to survive. I think you'll be fine...just remember to wash your hands next time!! Always... BananaRamma01
  13. BananaRamma01
    First and Foremost, I give you props on being able to recuperate and still attend college, law school, and the like. You moved on, and that's awesome. This chick, on the other hand, obviously has no outlook on love, and has no idea what it is. If she tries to use you, say exactly what you typed... She lost her chance. Love will find you... don't go looking for it. Always... BananaRamma01
  14. BananaRamma01
    Kudos to you!! When you didn't give in to his suggestion about coming over, you took a bigger step than you thought possible! He now is aware that you are serious in your ultimatum, and that he has a choice to make. You did do the right thing... you let him know that you have respect for yourself and that you aren't going to take the head games anymore. Keep your head up, and when he makes his decision (whatever it may be) you'll know that there is a reason for it. Always... BananaRamma01
  15. BananaRamma01
    Thanks for your help... i agree; it's really not my grandmother's business, but I think she's just trying to do what's 'right' for me. I dunno what I'm gnna do, but I only have a couple of fays before my week is up, and I gotta figure something out!! Thanks again! Always... BananaRamma01
  16. BananaRamma01
    The fact that you're worried about the size of his eqipment instead of the act itself is what worries me... sex is a beautiful, sensual thing that should be saved for someone that has earned your love and respect. I don't know your situation with this guy or your beliefs about monogamy, but wait until you find someone that you love; and make sure the feelings are mutual. Hope this helps! Always... BananaRamma01
  17. BananaRamma01
    Good for you! I respect that you took life like a man and rolled with the punches... even if they hurt more than before. Just remember that this is a learning, growing process... you'll become a better man because of it. AlWAYS... BananaRamma01
  18. BananaRamma01
    okay, here's the deal... some of my family recently stayed over at the house for the 4th of JUly weekend. My bf's mom was out of town, so he ended up crashing at my house. Needless to say, one thing led to another, and we had sex. He used protection, so when it was all said and done, he went to the bathroom to flush the evidence... but I guess he dropped a piece of the condom wrapper on the floor; where it was found by my grandmother the next morning. She says she's giving me a week to tell my mom I'm active or my grandma's going to do it herself. My mom thinks girls who have sex before the age of 18 are dirty whores, so how am I supposed to bring this up? HELP!!!! Thanx, BananaRamma01
  19. BananaRamma01
    I don't know what they're called, but a good guy friend of mine uses the one in the red can, and he always smells oh so good!! lol! Always... BananaRamma01
  20. BananaRamma01
    Do what my bf did... find out what her favorite Disney character is, then surprise her with one; for a special effect, add a little note that tells her how you feel and present your heartfelt gift at exactly the right moment. Believe me, you'll know when it's upon you!!!! Good Luck!! Always... BananaRamma01
  21. BananaRamma01
    I really can't say anything about being active at a young age... I lost my virginity at 15.... but I was always sure to use protection. You should definitely persuade her to get her parents and the father involved. I know it's easier said than done, but it's best at this point. As for the subject of abortion, I personally don't think it's humane, but I don't know her situation at home... if it's the best decision; so be it. Always... BananaRamma01
  22. BananaRamma01
    I totally agree with segagirl... don't look down upon yourself... before you can love another, you must first love yourself. Just give the girl a little time. If she treasured your relationship as much as you did, she'll cool off and everything will be hunky-dory again. Rule of Thumb in this situation: Just give her time. Always... BananaRamma01
  23. BananaRamma01
    I know you're not gonna want to hear this, but the only way to get your feeling accross is to TALK about it... if he cares about you as much as you say he does....he'll do anything to make you more comfortable. Just try to swallow your insecurites and get up the courage to sit down and have a mature conversation about all of this. It'll all turn out better in the end, and the basis of every successful relationship is communication. You'll be fine. Always... BananaRamma01
  24. BananaRamma01
    they're right...to figure us women out, you have to play by our rules... sorry, but thats how it must be! It's hard to figure us out, and to tell you the truth, i can't even tell why she's doing you like this, but I know there's a method behind her madness! Just be strong and hold your head high...she'll come around if she really has the hots for you! Always... BananaRamma01
  25. BananaRamma01
    In my situation, he broke up with me because I didn't share the same religious perspective... he was Roman Catholic, and I hadn't found a religion I am comfortable with yet. So, he broke up with me... it was a stupid reason, but I respeted him and loved him, so I let him go... I still can't look at him in the same way, but he'll always have a place in my heart, as your first love will in yours. Always... BananaRamma01 [/b]
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