Lightingbird

Well those are some interesting questions. Well to answer both, no a woman will not bleed in some cases. Every woman is different and there are some cases when they will NOT bleed. As far as teh masturbation she would not bleed either.

Tough situation that you have gotten yourself into. Well send him the money that you owe ASAP. Change your phone number so he can't reach you. File a report with the police. Never again get in a situation with a man and you are fully aware that he has his heart up front. Good luck to you.

You should ask her would she ever consider dating you. This way she will tell you how she feels about you and she will also tell you if she would willing to take the risk as well. Its good of you to think of your friendship first. Keep thinking that way. Good luck to you.

Yes by all means go and walk her home. You will never find out if you don't do anything. Good luck and make your move.

Shy_guy is 100% right. He is to old for you and you should leave this relationship alone. You have alot to experience in the upcoming years and you are only going to be hurting yourself by trapping yourself behind someone far away this is so much older than you. But things will work out.

Your past has come back to haunt you and now its time to pay your dues. Now that is not saying that you should attack yourself for your wrong decision about what happened. But you should use it as a guide for the type of man that you seek out in the future. Let the lesson be why you should not make a decision like the way you did about this past relastionship. Don't feel bad about your feelings. You have matured more and now see what you really desire in a relationship and the thoughts of knowing you might have had it once are just feeling your mind. You may never get him back so accept the reality, don't be so hard on yourself and focus on meeting some new people. Things will work out for you.

Approach... Approach... Approach... I agree with my friend shy_guy you need to confront her before you lose your chance.

Feeling alone can be a really tough thing to deal with but you just need adjust your life abit to get out of it. What you need to do is to get out twice a week to some sort of Singles event. Wether it be a nightclub, bar, shopping in the mall or casually driving in a popular district in your town. Ask some friends/coworkers where they go for fun and ask to go out with them. You have to start somewhere. Put up a ad on yahoo personals, singlesnet and any other dating service online to help you meet women. Perferably with a picture. Also you are going to have to learn to approach women so that you can get to know them out in public. This can be a great aid for you, I'm sure everyday when you are out you come accross an attractive woman. Start approaching them in a respectful way and who knows... you may meet someone nice. Some quick dating rules: She is not committed to you; so anything goes. If she suddenly stops being interested in you. Don't take it personal. She doesn't own you anything so just take that she lost interest and move on. Keep your options open while you are dating. Look for things you like in a woman for a reason to pursue and reason why you should leave alone as well. As far as your questions: You can pursue a woman as long as you desire but not to the point when you are bothering her and she gets annoyed. As far as getting her interest again, why not simply look elsewhere? You can apply that energy towards a new interest. Romance... Well there is no magic formula to be honest. What you need to focus on is compatibility. Same hobbies, likes, dislikes and goals. A woman that is like you so that you can spend more time together, have fun doing it and can grow into something lasting. Also... You might wanna becareful of the woman that you are trying to meet. Find someone that is mature, trustworthy, makes about the same amount income as you, religious or greatly grounded morals, college educated or seeking further education. Going for good looks is not the key here. Drugs... You will need to do two things to determine that: 1. Try some new things( some of the above suggestions ) and have some fun. If you still feel the same way see a psychologist. 2. Let him/her and you decide if you need medication. As is sounds now, medication might not be your fix, just some more electricity in your life may be simply needed. I wish you the best, GET OUT and enjoy life, only you can make that change. Good luck to you.

Travsjeep... Love is a story. Sometime it ends with the sun setting over a loving couple, sometimes it sets over a single person thinking of the past. At this point there is no meant to be with this woman. You may feel that you need her back but she has moved on in her life. You cannot change the past, no gifts, words, special moments, nothing... nothing you can do can fix that. And things are even more hindered because she has a new love in her life. It's time to move on and let her go. Don't call her, email her, send her any gifts or anything else that involves her. Taking care of her older family member can be helpful to him. Do that for him not for her. But you need to heal. Let her go, please things will not get better. I commend you on changing your life. That will help you. Now to complete the change for better leave her alone. You'll be ok.

Here are some hints that you might wanna look out for in a woman: 1. Does glare into your eyes and smile alot. 2. Does the world stop around her when you are around? 3. Has she tried to spend anytime with you or jokes about doing things together? 4. Does she float you? Meaning is she always around you or trying to be near you during work, school, or events? 5. Does she offer you any nice favors or trying to get your attention in any way. The list can go on... But if you think she is interested in you the best way to tell is to observe her around other men. Alot of time women can be nice or friendly in way that can be confusing to some men especially if she is nice looking or has alot of sex appeal. Notice if she is acting the same way to other men around her when she talking or moving around.

Since YOU have gotten back with him... And since YOU have believed in him that he would send for you... The only problem is YOUrself. Stop blaming him. He can only do what you allow him to get away with in your life. He was going with his old feelings. I'm sure he is in love with you but the time apart has changed him abit. Either way you need to get away. Its time to stop living for him and to get the "control" back into your life. Stop calling him and don't plan on moving with him. He is NOT going to be sending for you. You deserve better and you will get it. Sorry if this seems a bit aggressive but you need to see the truth. For your own well being step away from him ( no calls, dates, moving, email.. anything) and allow yourself some time to heal. This way you will get the colored glasses off and see the real world in full color and truth. After doing this you will feel better, but it will be hard in the beginning but stay strong and don't go back to him. Yes, it is over... knowing the truth... Act on it. Good luck to you.

Getting past him maybe a bit hard for you. Are you sure thats what you desire to do? But if you are trying to get over him them you need to have closure. If you already know what killed the relationship. Sit down and write down all the things that caused the relastionship to fail. Then write down all the negative things that you may have did in the relationship. Now write down his wrong doings. Now write five goals in which you will work on for the next relationship. Don't view the relationship negatively. Focus on the good things. When he comes accross your mind. Don't fight it! But rather drown it out with thoughts of the good times. This is will give you a soothing release. Don't call him, talk to him or keep anything that will have a stronger content of memory rather than your own mind. Find a hobby, friends or family to put your free time into. Start a new workout rountine so that you can better yourself during this period. The key to this is to stay busy, don't overly have angry or sad thoughts about the past relastionship and be positive. I'm sure you'll feel better in about a week to a month. But it will take some time and strength on your part. Either way, I'm sure you will succeed and become at piece once again. Good luck to you.

Realism is the key... Since he is just your boyfriend and nothing past that at this point. Access your feelings. If you are 100% sure that you cannot deal with this behavior then you should reconsider your situation. Shy_guy is right jealousy can be a tough beast to dance with in a relastionship. Confort him and tell him how much it is bothering you. He and her should understand. Simply because if she is truly his friend only then she will also and back off a bit. Since he asked you not to make "him" chose then you chose. If he cannot make you comfortable in this relastionship then perhaps you should consider moving on in your life. Sorry, I'm not going to tell you what you wanna hear, but rather what you need to hear. There is no point in dating someone in which you feel uncomfortable when you can back off and start anew. But if you can deal with this or if does something about it then things will get better. But no you are right in feeling a little bothered by all of this. Noone should ever allow their mate to feel uncomfortable in the relastionship especially due to a old love. Make the right decision, talk to him, and stay positive. Things will work out for you.

Everyone has a place in life, sometimes you just need to identify it. Nothing makes you happy? I'm sure something does.. you just need to realize what it is in your life. Do you have any hobbies that you like? Movies, games, projects, education, family time anything? If so focus on that. Try to meet some new people, join a new club or participate in different sports. If you desire to increse your speed ask your coach or do some private practice. I'm sure you will succeed with this when you put your more effort forth. Be positive about life you do matter. Think about the other people that are reading your words that feel the same way. To them you made them realize that they are not alone with their feelings. You do matter, remember that... now go make some waves to get more people to notice you. You'll do fine.

Good words Izabel and Shy_Guy! Please leave this relationship alone! Get someone your age that is not committed to anyone! This man is not a very smart or thinking man. You will not have a future with him. Trust us, he is taking advantage of you.

Perhaps since you feel that this is your weakness.... Call her and ask her to meet you somewhere. Keep it brief. When you meet up talk to her and get to know her a bit better. Catch up with her and see how her life is doing. If you feel like the conversation is going good, tell her how you feel. Talking on the phone is just like talking in person. You simple just need to do the same over the phone. Inquire about her and ask things about her that you are curious about. Trust me before you know it alot of talking time will have passed. You'll do fine.

Alot of years invested and alot of feelings I know... but you need to step away from this ordeal. Yes as everyone has replied you know what you need to do. Step back and bask in the good memories the two of you both had together. Don't block her number. Show her that you are strong individual. Tell her not to call and why, and be firm. She has some growing up to do. You keep thinking and doing right and things will keep working out for you. Sorry for all the pain that you have experienced. But I promise you, things will work out for you. Be strong and firm.

Well to be honest... I am a bit confused on the problem at hand. But I can say this to you. You are not going to be able to help anyone until you get some help for yourself. By helping her you will be only creating a group of more eratic emotionally scared women. If it is something that happened in your past, consider this... It is something that in fact DID happen. Nothing you can do will ever change it. It may have molded who you are or even affect some parts of your past relatinships with loves, friends or family. But it DID happen and you can never change it. Accept that so you can pull yourself out of a self pity drop and focus on today and tomorrow by coming up with ways to cope with the hurt. Join a support group, go to a therapist or speak to your minister in your church. But whatever you do, do something now, don't let this linger. But I'm sure either way, you'll do fine. Good luck to you.

Stress Not... Wait until you go and see your Doctor. It could be physical problem that you are facing or something else. And he/she is best suited to help you on this. Make a list of questions and let him have it when you speak to him. But don't worry about it, Things will get better for you.

Firstly, Wait until you see your Doctor before you get worked up about all of this. It may be a physical problem. Make a good list of questions and ask him/her at your appointment.

Glad to see that you are feeling better. 8)

Pick a day... Say the following saturday. Send her five online romantic greeting cards. Find five different ones, that is more effective they are free everywhere online. Buy her some flowers and have delievered the same day. Then late that day or evening ask her out to dinner or invite her over for a one on one converstation to tell her how you feel. At dinner or when you talk if she can't make dinner tell her how you really feel and apologize for any wrong doings or confusions. Stay positive no matter the outcome. You'll do fine.

My friend Rahul, It sound like it is time to say goodbye. You have hurt her in the most tragic way. If she is steadfast in her words of how she feels about you then more than likely there is nothing more than can help. Try talking to her once more. Make a strong effort, don't beg or go over dramatic. Remain a man. If she still holds to her words. Back off and leave the relastionship alone. Good luck and in the future don't stray.

You as your parents father has the obligation of raising that child along with her mother. If both of you are doing that she really has no place. I am a bit shocked at all of this and I am wondering if perhaps she is using your daughter as a "tool" to keep tabs with you. That of course is simply a guess. But to answer your question. Since the two of you are no longer together it would be best that she has no contact with you or your family. To do so, would be pointless. Think it out and make the right decision.

Good for you! More women should share in the join and excitement in the big question. Are you sure this is your lifelong desire? Can you picture this man with you for the rest of your life? Have you discussing issues such as kids, bills, arguments and goals? Of course, you didn't ask any of that but I figured I'd ask anyway. The best way for you if you are sure hell accept would be to ask him alone. Make his favorite mill over some nice wine, maybe some Joseph Phelps Insignia Napa Valley, warm him up to the subject by expressing your love. And then when you feel the moment is right ( you'll know ) ASK! Good luck, keep us posted.