Aurian

An idea... perhaps make the date an activity so you can do something together and be a bit distracted from talking too much? Interact over minature golf or bowling or something so you don't feel nervous and fill up the empty silences.

Oh but if you're good at yoga, think of the possibilities later on in bed!

How exactly is she teasing you anyways? She could be shy and come off as seeming like a tease, hey?

1) How long you were with them. 5 years, 3 years of marriage. 2) The main reason the relationship fell apart He abused me after marrying me. He also threatened to kill my family and himself numerous times, while waving a knife in my face. 3) How low you went I was cutting myself and thinking about suicide during the relationship. 4) And how you go back on your feet and got yourself back to the incredible person you were before you went through the bad experience. I finally realized that I was not to blame for causing his behaviour and realized that no matter how hard I tried, I wasn't getting the knight shining armour I married back. I dumped him, marched to the lawyer's office, went into NC and went into counselling. I feel so much better now. All this time I was spending so much of my time and energy trying to drag up my esteem while with him, that my esteem has shot through the roof with a fraction of the effort!

I have a similar problem and I found Neutrogena body wash really good. Its got the chemicals for treating acne. I just kinda soap up myself with a back-scrubber thingy and it definitely works.

Gee... I hope Dako's got lots of parking space....

Might be fun to do it in the woods as long as its remote enough that just the squirrels are watching.

If you have something to offer for collateral (car?) you might be able to get a loan through your bank, although I have to admit by Monday would be a tight order. I would ask your landlord for a bit of leeway and do that and/or ask for help from your family. No job would pay $2500 in one day unless you do something illegal.

Do what you're comfortable with. I consider what I say or do online as real as doing it offline because the intent is there. And if I don't want to have sex with someone (yet?), I don't want to have mental sex with someone either. Its okay to say no, and if he's a good guy he should respect you for it. Flirting and such is fun though without going all the way to cybering. Cybering can be fun, but only if your heart is into it, and like real sex, it really should be fun for both of you.

I have to confess that I am a bit picky about height myself. I'm very tall (5'10" in bare feet, fugettabout in heels), and I kinda pass by guys when I am looking on online dating sites who are shorter. Its an attraction thing I guess. I like the guy to be bigger than me, be it height-wise, strength-wise or build-wise. It makes me feel more feminine, which I never really had towering over all the guys growing up (and being bigger and stronger than many to boot). I guess even though I am confident and capable on my own, some instinctive part of me likes the idea that a guy could physically protect me or something. I can't really rationalize it. I'd consider a shorter guy if he approaches me with an interesting profile or initial email, but I don't approach them myself. So far though, only guys my own height or taller have contacted me, so I guess at my height most guys prefer equal or shorter women.

Borrow a friend's dog. Instant opposite-sex magnet (especially girls) since its a great friendly topic-starter! Especially good if the dog is cute and can be pursuaded to approach people on command. Um... not that I'm admitting anything.

Sign up for yoga. You'll be the only guy in a room full of fit, young women. Score I signed up for a bunch of classes in the hopes of meeting guys, but women have dominated every class I have signed up for (pottery, cooking, yoga, weight lifting (?!)...). Seriously, check out what the community centre is offering.

Well, I think you need to think about it a bit more and figure out WHAT makes you nervous exactly? Is it associated with feeling like you're sending accross fat or gonna-be-fat messages? Or are you worried about eating messily? Or do you feel like he's just staring at you when you both have your mouths full? I think if you can pinpoint the issue, you can find (or we can help you find) a way to make you feel more comfortable.

You don't look fugly to me! Appearances is soooo subjective isn't it? And ugly is very rarely PERMANENT. Sometimes "ugly" can be fixed with a bit of effort and a lot of confidence. And when its love, ugly can suddenly transform into Prince Charming in the eyes of the smitten. A for me

50 emails a day? I've been around for a month, and I don't have half that from all the sites! Maybe I am different, but I do ignore the one-liners and creepy emails. I respond to almost all the emails I've received that the guy put a bit of time into.

Most men don't like asking for directions.

I don't even know how to dance, so learning would be a bit wasted on me... However... most women do appreciate dancing, and most men try like hell to avoid it! If you like to dance, that leave a lot of dancing partners for you.... (And a good excuse to go in close and hold each other... )

True, its always good to keep an open mind. Don't reject people right away because they don't fit your ideal. However, attraction is a tricky thing. Sometimes one is attracted to what one is attracted to.

Yeah, its just polite, although if I am having a crappy day it is weird answering that. I'm pretty sure most people don't want to hear it. Maybe we just need to (to steal a line from Seinfeld) just say "Acknowledge" "Hi, I acknowledge you" "Thanks!"

I think as long as you look good, a healthy appetite is much appreciated. If a guy is taking you out for a nice dinner, its much more fun to see you enjoying yourself with a yummy burger or steak instead of picking sadly at a wilted salad.

Just an update - I still don't have "zillions" of smiles and emails, but its busier now! I'm starting to have trouble keeping the emails straight! I may not have a lot of "spam", but I seem to be getting quality instead of quantity, which makes things a bit more difficult but fun Heck, maybe the good guys were off shovelling the freak snow or something...

(PS - I know I was just complaining that I wasn't getting much attention a week or two ago, but that seems to have changed all the sudden. I guess everyone was too busy shovelling the snow outta their driveways or something) I just started online dating myself at the beginning of the month. I have tried out a few sites... I fill out profiles completely and include a picture. link removed - big disappointment. No responses to my smiles and no smiles directed my way. I get the feeling that there are just pictures there and nobody home. eHarmony - Best one for me so far. I like this one the most so far. Some people don't get very many matches, but I seem to be rather compatible. I get 6 new matches every day, and am carrying on a few email conversations getting to know 4 guys there are the moment. I also have a HUGE backlog of other interesting guys and this is after I've been picky with the matches delievered to me. Lavalife - hm.... I'm on the fence. The whole credits as opposed to paying for entire months seems like a good idea, but I get the feeling that I am just seeing the same 50 guys over and over. I've gotten one coffee date (didn't go well), one chat date (ended badly), a few smiles but no followups, and one email conversation in the running. Seems like people just want to wink and look on this site sometimes. Plentyoffish - Bah. Not much response and not much interest. I'm just one more fishy in a big ol sea of em! Also, a LOT of people seem to be on there for friends, which make it a bit frustrating when you get emails back saying "sorry, I'm just on for friends, good luck!". Only emails I got to me were creepy one-liners, and I had no interested takers for my own. Okcupid - just checked this one out the other day. I think this free site is more friendly and immersive than plentyoffish. As far as messages go... I'm a girl, and I sent about 50 emails/winks I suppose. Outside of eHarmony, none responded. All the conversations I got running now are ones where the guy contacted me first. In one month, one coffee date, two e-chat dates and several ongoing getting-to-know-you email-chains.

160 pounds is chubby? Geez.... I'm definitely more than that at 5'11" but I wouldn't call myself fat at all! Nice hourglass figure, a few extra pounds. I prefer curvaceous Hell, even when I was really sick 6 years ago, underweight and fainting constantly, I barely reached 160 pounds. I have large breasts and hips. I'm never gonna be a size 2 unless there is a saw involved. As for height, it seems great when both are close in height. Neither of you are hurting your neck to kiss up or down

Yeah - my ex started things slow so I felt sympathy for him for little things. At first, it was reasonable and he created a lot of empathetic feelings. It gradually escalates and suddenly you're in the habit of trusting and believing whatever he says.

When I filed for divorce, I was a horny little thing for about two-three weeks (by myself, sorry guys Guess I felt very liberated! But for a couple of months afterwards, I kinda lost interest because those feelings kinda brought up memories for a bit. I didn't really enjoy having those feelings so I just ended up avoiding it altogether for awhile. I still think with someone is more fun... Now? Well, I seem to go with my monthly cycle. I can go for days, and then all the sudden do myself 5-6 times in a day.