Dan629

I am a pretty shy person.. My parents split up when I was only three but I spent plenty of time with both of them. I have 3 sisters and 1 brother who are all older. None of them are shy at all. However, My older brother, who I always spent most of my time with, is very outspoken and opinionated. He is always the one cracking jokes and attracting attention. Maybe this helps your study.

I guess ur right.. the truth hurts.. lol

Also I do agree with what you said about her taking satisfaction in knowing she has me on a string while she goes about her life dating who she wants and doing what she wants.. I think if I shut her out of my life completely it would be the best thing like you said.. Its just so hard. She is my best friend and it hurts not to be in contact with her. Do you think I should block her number from my phone? Or would that seem a little too harsh? I love her to death but I feel like she may be playing games with me. And I know you showed how I was kinda all over the place in my post and that is because I am obviously confused about everything.

Well thanks for the advice and I am sure u are right about most of it but about the suicide part... It wasn't just because of her breaking up with me that made me consider it. But like I said b4 that was in the past.. about a month ago.. I already realize it was a stupid choice and nothing is worth taking my life over.. thanks for the advice tho

Hi everyone. I posted on here about 2 months ago when my ex-g/f broke up with me. I nearly lost my mind when it happened and strongly considered suicide at times over it. However I have been doing better recently. I've been dating different girls now. Focusing on myself in the gym (and doing very well) and spending more time with my family. But... I still love her to death. I still want her back and I don't even know if she is right for me anymore. We stopped talking for about two weeks and then she called me the other day. We have been talking almost every day since and tonight she stopped by. I thought I was finally getting over her and was able to be "friends" but it killed me when I saw her again. She was very nice when we talked and saw each other. She even asked what I was doing the following night because she might want to stop over again. But at the same time she showed NO signs of wanting to get back together or date again etc. It's so weird. One of the reasons she left me was because she wanted to start hanging out with her friends more and meet new people. But even though she doesn't seem to want "us" back right now I can tell she is still in love with me. She told me she has been dating other people too which kinda hurt. I am just confused. Should I just tell her I am not ready for this and tell her not to come over or should I try to go with it and see what happens? By the way for anyone who was wondering, we were together for 3yrs before we broke up and she was my first love and the first girl I slept with. So she is very special to me because of that. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks

You know what the crazy part about the whole thing is... I actually slept with another girl the other night. I know most of you are thinking "this * * * * * * * has already slept with someone else and he is mad she is dating?" But the thing is I didn't enjoy it at all. It made me want her back even more and I almost felt like I was cheating on her while I was doing it. Even though I wasn't I felt that way. She was the first and only woman I ever slept with before this new one so that had a lot to do with it too. All I want in life is to have her and thinking it is not a possibility just makes me want to die. I took a whole bunch of asprin earlier trying to kill myself and afterwards I made myself throw up.... That made me feel even weaker that I couldn't go through with it. I still have dreams that me and my ex are back together and I wake up so upset that it was only a dream. The only thing that makes me not want to kill myself is because I honestly believe that I will go to hell. The thing is I often hope that I will go to heaven and heaven will be me and her spending the rest of eternity together. Thats how much I enjoyed being with her. Sure we had problems while we were together and there were things about her I couldn't stand, but at the end of the day I always felt so lucky to have her in my life.

I have posted on this topic before and I am back again in the same situation. I have found myself tonight not wanting to live anymore. Me and my ex broke up a little over a month ago now and I am still not dealing with it well at all. I have had good days and bad but tonight is one of the worst. I have been talking with my ex over the phone and saw her a few times since we broke up. I know a lot of people suggest the whole NC thing but we were doing ok with just talking once in a while. I have been on a few dates since we broke up but I won't lie the whole time I have had hopes me and her would end up back together. Anyway tonight I found out she is dating a new guy. When she told me it completely broke my heart. It made me realize that she really does not have any feeling left in her to get back together with me. I still want her back so bad and thinking now that it is not going to happen makes me not want to live any longer. I don't know what to do. I want her back so bad and she doesn't want it at all. I do have family and friends who would be so crushed over me killing myself but I just don't see a reason to live. It is hard to do it when the one thing I lived for is no longer a part of my life. I give up on even writing this post. Screw it...

Thank you all for your advise. I am not only doing this because my g/f broke up with me. It is something I always dreamed of doing and she kinda helped push it over the edge. I have done a lot of research. This is something I have been looking into for years and I have talked to a lot of people and been browsing the net for the last few weeks. But what makes me better than the other men and women in Iraq who are dying for their country? I want to do something I will be recognized as. If people think I am an idiot for defending their country with my life then shame on them. This isn't something I just came up with this week. I have wanted to be a Marine since I was about 13. My Grandfather, my father and my brother were all Marines. I won't lie that if I could get into the Air Force I would probably take that route at this time in the war but I cannot. I don't have a high school diploma. Only a GED. But anyway I do appreciate all the advise and I will take time to make a decision. It is a shame that I am ready to go in right when this is going on but am I supposed to wait a year and hope things are more calmed down? What happens if I meet a new girl six months from now and she begs me not to go when the time comes? Or what happens if I get someone pregnant and have a child on the way? So many things can happen in the next year that will not allow me to join. Right now I have nothing going for myself. So I really don't see a better time. Also my recruiter is not making this decision for me. I know a lot of them lie and all but he has been pretty blunt and honest with me. He told me that if I join there is a good chance I will go to Iraq and a good chance I will have to kill a man to save my life. He didn't BS me about what its like over there. How can he? I watch the news I am not an idiot. I see the mental problems men have when coming back and the lost limbs and even deaths.

My advise would be to stay with your mother. I moved out of my mothers house at 17 as well. For the same reason of fighting. Now I look back on it and realize how disrespectful it was for me to even get into such bad fights with her even if she was completely wrong. I moved in with my father. BIG MISTAKE. Fighting with him was even worse because he has the mindset of "Even if I'm wrong I'm right" lol. Which he has the right to think since he is my father. I ended up being late to school all the time senior year and started slacking. I ended up not graduating. I'm not saying that you won't graduate or anything but think of all your mother has done for you and how you will be repaying her by leaving. I am not trying to make you feel bad or anything but here is one thing I have learned that I never realized before. The day your mother stops fighting with you and making stupid rules etc. is the day you know she no longer cares. You don't want that day to come trust me. Hopefully either choice you make will end up working out for the best and GL.

Well I have decided I would like to join the Military. My g/f recently broke up with me and I am not where I want to be career wise so I am deciding to make a change in life and join the Marines. My problem is my family. They are so against it that I feel so bad. I have not signed anything yet and I am not "officially" in but I plan to this week. I know it is extremely dangerous and not the best time to join the Marines but it just feels like something I need to do. My father and brother were both Marines but neither of them support this either. I always wanted to be a Marine and now that I don't have my g/f begging me not to do it anymore I figure I would go through with it. I am nearly 21 and I don't have the time to wait for it to calm down to join. I don't want to join at the age of 22+. It may be a bad time but I cannot help that this war is going on right when I am ready to go in and I don't feel it should stop me. My family doesn't really know how serious I am yet. I haven't broke the news I just hinted things here and there. I know my mother is going to be crushed and my father will probably go into a panic mode. I feel so bad to put my family through this but I cannot live my life to please everyone else all the time. I feel like sometimes I have to do things for myself. If I get sent to Iraq and die then it was Gods plan. Being a Marine is something I will be proud of for the rest of my life. I just hope my parents will be able to deal with it. Also my best friend is talking about how if I join he will too. He doesn't want me to leave him alone in civilian life. But this is another thing that makes it hard because I know he is only doing it for me. If something happens to him I would feel responsible. I am so stressed out. Of course I am scared but I want to do this really bad and I have absolutely no support at all... image removed

Not to make the mood even worse but do you think maybe another man could have been involved? I mean with her not wanting you to come out with her and all? If so it may hurt but she will probably be easier to let go. Either way stay strong. I am going through the same thing you are except mine was 3yrs. I feel your pain

If you do not want him to be embarrassed putting the condoms on then do it for him. Thats what my ex did for me and it made me feel a lot more comfortable. It isn't brain surgery so you shouldn't have a problem

Well I am on the guys perspective but I will give my advise. My first time I didn't have that problem because the woman it was with was not a virgin. But without being too graphic here is what I suggest. I know the condom has a little lubrication on it but if I were you guys I would try some foreplay to begin with. And I don't know if either of you have done anything oral but that works well. Either way if you are too nervous to do anything than just use your spit. lol I know this sounds gross but it works. After that just tell him to go slow and you guys will get it. Hope I was a help and didn't gross anyone out. haha Good Luck

what are u talkin about?

No I am not really hoping she will try and get me to stay. Although it would feel good if she did it is better that she doesn't because this is something I need to do. She came over and is gone now. We actually had a good time and laughed a lot. We were kissing each other a lot which I know was not good but we did not sleep with each other even know I know we both wanted to. Believe it or not I am not totally depressed now that she left and I kissed her an all. I'm sure I will see her again before I leave but she asked me to write her when I was away which made me feel good. She is the most precious thing in the world to me and it is going to kill me to leave without her. I am so used to making sure she is making good decisions and helping her through hard times that it is going to be hard to not be around to do it anymore. I am so nervous to go away but I really do think I am going to enjoy it. I always wanted to do something I know I would be proud of the rest of my life and now I have the chance to do it. If me and her are meant to be than we will end up back together years down the road when I am back home. If not than I guess it was not meant to be and I can accept that. But as far as the NC thing you mentioned. Me and her were always better friends than we were lovers while we were together so it is so easy for us to remain friends now. The only thing that will hurt is when she starts seeing new people but it is her life and I cannot control it. Even after we broke up (which was a hurtful one) we always crack up laughing when we talk and have a good time together and it has only been about a month.