Aurian

Its normal. You like her and your brain is producing these chemicals that make you a bit obessed. They have scanned the brains of those who are infatuated with another in the early stages of a relationship and found that they resemble obsessive-compulsive disorder. Thus, you think about the other, can't sleep, can't eat, etc. I've gotten that too For what its' worth, it does wear off after awhile and then you can think straight again while still enjoying being with her.

I don't see you as an abuser (and I have been with one). I see that you have been in a relationship with someone who is not compatible with you. While it should be okay for a girl to have guy friends (I have quite a few - I get along better with guys than girls), it should not be okay for her to throw them in your face and tell you that they are backups! You also said that she has slapped you several times too. This is not a healthy relationship and you must have been under a lot of stress and provokation. While you do love this girl, I have learned that we do not love just one person - we are all capable of finding a new love, hopefully one that brings more joy than grief. I wouldn't try get back together with her. She will not change, so you will only go back to dealing with more boyfriends-in-waiting and temper tantrums. Take this as a lesson if nothing else, and tell yourself that you won't accept that kind of behaviour from a girlfriend (find someone who is more compatible that is, not trying to change someone), and that you won't accept staying in a relationship where you feel like you might snap again. Anger is okay. Lashing out is not. And since you are remorseful, I think you would understand that as a warning signal and not get yourself in a sitation like that again.

1.Do you prefer kissing on the first date,after it,or it doesn't really matter for you? I'd like a little kiss at the end of the first date, if we both like each other romantically. It kinda affirms that and is a nice way to get both thinking about the next date. I don't kiss at all if I am not feeling it though. 2.In the serious relationships that you've had so far,when was the first kiss? I've only kissed two guys. First date for both, but I tend to meet guys online, so I have talked to them a lot first and know them a bit. First one was a long-distance relationship and we kissed at the airport when he came for the first time to visit. Second relationship was in my car after I gave him a lift home from the movies. (Last week 3.Would you think the person is easy if he/she kissed on the first date? No. Reaching for my boobs on the first date would make me think that though 4.Who should make the first move? Both! C'mon if you both want to, just lean in a bit together 5.Is kissing for you something serious or just a sport? Serious. If I am not feeling it, I don't kiss. I've been out on a few dates with guys that I realized I didn't feel any chemistry (mental or physical) with, and never kissed them.

Maybe make a joke of it if it ever happened to me... If he's too aggressive - "Hey, slow down! We got plenty of time " If he's too gentle - "Hey (name), I won't break." (And kiss him hard

Well, if you're TOO shy and hiding behind the furniture, the ladies can't notice you in the first place, hey?

Maybe so, but I'm a sweetie who is a dragon nut (Just look at my avatars!)

It depends on her sense of humour, of course. My nick (from almost everyone) is Dragon Lady, which is usually an insult, but I like it

You never did get back to me about checkers

I like personalized nicknames. If she's a country girl, I dunno... Hayseed? Dolly? Peaches and Cream?

w00t! \\ I like winning

I confess I didn't read all the posts, but it seems to me that the age gap only makes the biggest difference in childhood/teens. After all 7 years back then means you're in different stages in life, eh? But once you're both adults, then it does not make much different because not every 27 year old adult is as mature as some 20 year old adults can be (And vice versa). So you can have two immature 20 + 27 year olds, or two mature ones!

Glad I could be of assistance! But... can you guys can go lick your asses somewhere else please?

Sounds good to me. You show you're interested so he should feel confident enough to follow up now If not... we have a problem here

If she's not smiling at you or anything, I don't think you have much shot... You can try striking up a conversation with her and seeing if she responds flavorably (smiling, laughing, etc), but otherwise, I'd give up. Uh, its possible. A little quiet at first, but very possible.

(he used the L, its just lowecase, silly)

Well, like you said, most people wouldn't be smelling your hair until you're rather close anyways. I can't say I've ever noticed shampoo scents at a conversational distance, but a subtle cologne/deoderant/natural scent is more noticeable (and distracting ). Shampoo scents tend to wear off pretty fast too, in my experience. I love girly scents too, but they seem to fade rather quickly and just leave a clean slightly soapish scent. If I am already close enough to smell your hair, I'm probably not thinking you're gay.

Heh, I guess its two different things if you assume I'm a dog or a woman

*wags tail*

I'd also plan for coffee and maybe look online and see what's available if you two hit it off? Some simple things might be a bowling alley or a skating rink. as for travel... pick something midway between you?

I heartily second this. The second date doesn't have to be the next day, but its certainly good to ask her out sooner rather than later. I have never been offended by having a guy be keen on me, but I have been turned off by obvious games. Guy I am seeing now asked if I'd like to go out with him again while the first date was still going

Woof! Bark.... arf!

I have a sensitive nose myself. Just a little bit is nice, but a natural smell is good too. But if I can smell you from 10 feet away with or without cologne, I'm not gonna get within 10 feet of ya.

One date and he's already asking? I'd feel a bit weirded out... Flirting is good, touching is good, but asking for sex is not so good... I agree that you'll want to get to know him in the flesh a bit more. I tend to be rather conservative about WHEN to have sex - to me its not just sharing my body, but my heart, mind and soul as well. I'd have to have more than one date to be at that point with someone! And I do expect anyone I am with to respect that.

She might just assume you're shy, hey? Ask her out for another date and if you're too shy to try kiss her, then work your way up to it by taking her hand

Yup, that question again. Who pays? Now I am more of the equality type woman. I am perfectly happy going Dutch, yet I will also accept someone paying my way on the first date to be a gentleman and all that. But what about subsequesant dates? Do I assume he thinks he will be paying for them if he makes the date? I do appreciate the gesture, but I would start feeling like a mooch if he did it too much. Guys, would you feel offended if you asked a woman out and she insisted on paying for some of the date? (Ie, he pays for sports tickets and she pays for dinner) I ask because on a first date, some guys look rather startled when I start paying for some things.