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  1. tyler711
    You sound like you have a picture perfect relationship. You're both smart with future degrees. You've held together a distance relationship that most people give up on. Her family supports both of you. Now is the time for engagement, and marriage. Ask her to marry you! I'd say, without a doubt that you both have what it takes to make it work. If all relationships had half the potential and good qualities as yours does, then there wouldn't be much of a divorce rate.
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    Are you boxing with a coach, or hitting the bags alone? Boxing and weight training go hand in hand very well, and it's a lot of fun. Your left arm is weaker because you're right handed. This is perfectly natural. If your goal is to tone, then do lighter weight more reps with weights. If you want to bulk up, cut down the cardio and do higher weight, less reps. Running and boxing will make your love handles and stomach smaller. Crunches and situps will make your ab muscles bigger. Stock up on protein. Cans of tuna are cheap and are instant sources of protein. "Same with legs... if you use a squat machine, use one leg at a time." That's probably fine if you're using a very light amount of weight, but one leg squats are very dangerous if you have a heavy weight. I would substitute them for lunges, which isolate each leg. If you want big upper legs, make sure both legs are spaced shoulder width, and wear a belt and use a neck pad. The last thing you want is 350 pounds falling on you. I'm not too experienced with bodybuilding (I'm starting) but I am experienced with cardio (a little boxing) and endurance weight training. If you want some specific exercises for your obliques (love handles) let me know!
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    You haven't done anything wrong. If you love her, then wait and see what happens with the boyfriend. If she cheats, then it will hurt her, and hurt you in the long run. If she cheats on him, then what's to say she won't cheat on you? Another thing to consider is that you should meet first (after her b/f issue is resolved). I think the honorable thing to do would be to wait, and keep her as a friend. If it's meant to be then you have nothing to worry about.
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    I need to get this critiqued: Bench press (flat): 3x10 Lat pull down: 3x10 Bicep curl (standing): " " Pec fly: " " Chest press: " " Situps....pullups... I do lower body workouts on alternating days. I'm experienced with lifting for endurance, but this is more confusing. I opted for the simplest approach I could think of. I do the heaviest weight I can lift for 10 reps x3. I want to bulk up upper body a little, and get more of a V shape. Any more simple exercises or changing of the current ones that can accomplish this? Thanks.
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    Anyone have any experience? If so, I have a couple questions. Thanks! -Tyler
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    I've never called a woman that. And a man that does that is not a hero. A hero is a soldier, or a firefighter running into a burning building. I could actually care less what everybody else does in their spare time, as long as it doesn't effect me. Don't get me wrong, I do have an opinion about men and women that have sex all the time for the wrong reasons, I look down upon them both equally, but that's not my point. Not everyone in this world is as judgemental as your post claims.
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    "She might feel this way" ... "This is what will probably happen" "pretend this was your best friend" ... "I suppose it'd have to be the new girl" ... "Flip a coin" Wayyyyy too many possibilities from all the advice I read. I can safely say that your best bet is to: 1) Figure out where your heart lies! You say you "suppose" it's the new girl. 2) Make sure the physical attraction is really that. Atleast make the effort to rekindle your current relationship, or figure out what the problem is. You love her but are willing to leave her for a new flame? 3) This is the most important step. Whatever you decide, do it in a way that will hurt your girlfriend the least. Atleast leave her with that. Five years is a long time, and if you make the choice that I think you will, it will break her heart.
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    "you could have hyperhidrosis which is basically yet another symptom for social anxiety" Hyperhidrosis is a disease unto itself. There's no way to cure it, except through an open heart surgery, where some nerve is clipped. I've known of many people who were suicidal from this. If anyone is skeptical I will gladly provide links form every medical website I can think of. Sounds like you have it. My hands and feet sweat profusely atleast 15 hours out of the day. So much so where I lose twice to three times the water that someone much more unhealthy than me does. I was diagnosed at age 6. Most of the time I can't even write on a piece of paper. It's not so bad now, because I do most of my work and play outdoors. Don't confuse sweating from nervousness and social anxiety to this disease.
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    There are no basics. If true love finds you, you will be blown off your feet. You can plan for dating, but everything about love is mysterious to me. All the planning I did meant nothing, because pure love is so mysterious, and happens when and where you least expect it to.
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    Checking each other's email is certainly not wrong, as long as you both know about it. Besides, if he knows you check it, why would he cheat on you using that same address? Sometimes I check my fiancee's email. Not to snoop, but to delete all the garbage. Sometimes I'll get a message from a friend on there, or whatever. Same with my account. The only time I would consider not letting her check my email is in a situation like communicating with a travel agent about honeymoon plans.
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    Looking in the mirror and liking what you physically see... Knowing you are intelligent and full of potential and then formulating a plan to achieve your goals... Having consistency with your good qualities... Always counting your blessings... Confident people have an aura of competency around them, and a purpose for what they are doing. Confidence can never be defined. It is accepting and embracing who you are. It's knowing that the people who like you will stick around, and the people who don't can go to hell. It's a little bit of ego and pride mixed in with a good dose of humility (when required) and a lot of common sense.
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    I heard that most people lie about their age, put up younger pictures, etc. on those. Try finding something to do where you live.
  13. tyler711
    1) Pay off all debts, except of course a mortgage or big car payment. 2) Put some aside in a savings account for emergency access. 3) Talk to a financial planner, but get their PRICES before hand! 4) If you want to invest, mutual funds or CD's are a good place to start, and usually are conservative (low risk). 5) If you invest in the stock market, be aware that investment representatives charge $30 - $50 as a commission per trade. Say, you buy $500 in Pepsi. You pay 50 bucks to buy it, then 50 bucks if you want to sell it. You will lose most of your return (unless you have a risky portfolio) through commissions. 6) Stocks can be good if you find a conservative company to invest in for a long period of time. 7) Look into a Roth or Traditional IRA. They are tax free and has a HIGH return, but you can't access it until age 65 unless you pay a 10% penalty. 8 ) If you buy shares, find a company you are comfortable with. A good conservative company would be Pepsi, or Proctor & Gamble, for example. Research their basic info such as P/E ratios and their prices of shares over 1, 5 and 10 years. 9) A good place to get started on mutual funds is link removed This is what little I know about investing! Before you make a big decision do a lot of research!
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    I have some experience with a relative of mine who was on Paxil. Read through all of this: link removed
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    Don't ask nicely anymore. I'd highly suggest printing out that email of him threatening you, go to the police and show them. Get some kind of restraining order or whatever they're advice is. Block his email, and definitely don't instigate anything, which it sounds like you're not. Don't tolerate that kind of treatment from anyone. Good luck
  16. tyler711
    Some of these people are sociopaths. What they do and how they act brings them pleasure, so they can't hate themselves for it.
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    Back off and support her. The last thing you want is to get strung around and hurt even more, or whacked in the head with a vodka bottle when she's drunk. Let her destroy her own house. Maybe she will get better, maybe not. It's up to you to either leave her completely, or support her as much as you can. Just make sure the end justifies the means.
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    By your... vibrant... description of what I assume is your hate towards your self, I'd say yes, it's absolutely possible. I cannot, and will not, relate. Why? Because I love myself. Not in an egocentrical or narcissistic sense, just a good reserve of confidence and charisma. When circumstances are bad, I do not blame myself unless it was myself that caused this event. If it were my own hands that were the source of evil, I would hate my actions, not myself. When situations happen, do you not do everything to can to correct them? Be angry at the cause, not at the recepient. Do you hate yourself when it rains outside? Get an umbrella. Hate yourself when the bills are piling up? Work more overtime. Wife or girlfriend leave you? Find out the source of the problem and fix it. There's a time in everybody's life when you are the only friend you have, and no one else but you can pull you out of the grave that you dug. Why destroy that? Do you hate yourself because of some cause and effect (some event that had a negative impact on you and you blame your self), or something else?
  19. tyler711
    Best thing to do is take two steps away instead of one. Don't be second best and don't get used. You're better than that. Get her out of your life and let her contact you when she has something to say. Good luck!
  20. tyler711
    I think you make some good points, as well as some that I don't agree with. I don't dominate or control my relationship, but if my fiancee tells me some guy flirted with her at work, then I make sure he doesn't do it again. I am confident in myself, but I would never think of flirting or staring at other women. In a committed relationship, some of those points have to go out the window. Some "female BS" has to be tolerated, as well as "male BS". A relationship can't be dictated or controlled by one person. I take control of the work, finances, car repairs, etc. My fiancee takes charge of cleaning, her job, school, and raising a kid (in the near future). What I respect about you is that you post what you think and defend it, and I'm sure you know that some of those points will draw alot criticism and sarcasm, which is abundant here, especially for a differing viewpoint.
  21. tyler711
    Of course money makes you happy! Anyone that would rather be poor is a FOOL. However, when the pursuit of money becomes your sole obsession, and everything else is pushed out of your life, that's where the unhappiness starts. If money is managed well, and you can live a comfortable life, then yes, money makes you happy.
  22. tyler711
    Hold on, let me get my raging, cheating hormones under control, since I am a male. It's hard to type with all this testoserone. If you have a hard time believing that ANY man can be faithful, why are you putting yourself in a position where you have to depend on a man to be faithful?
  23. tyler711
    Sounds like a little too much. I know the gold standard is 64 ounces of water per day (8 8oz glasses) and around 10-12 if you workout everyday or live in a hot climate. Don't quote me on that though. Maybe try a smaller water bottle.
  24. tyler711
    Sorry to say, but unless you guys are dating, or whatever boundaries he goes by, he can kiss whoever he wants.
  25. tyler711
    Everybody has, including me. Your boyfriend knows his mistakes, and you know your own. Overcoming denial is the first step and it sounds like you're well on the way. Time apart is probably a good thing. You guys sound like you can work things out. And the best thing that will happen is that this will make you a stronger couple. The next time something like this comes up (and it will) it won't be as difficult. I disagree with the last three words. One last shot... when this happens again are you going to call it quits? You WILL fight about money, family, past flames, whatever you can think of. Change the mentality of "one last chance" to "let's work things out everytime" and you will be good to go.
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