PatR

I suppose it'd have to be the new girl, otherwise I wouldn't be feeling this way. I think friscodj was right in saying that it's not right of me to continue this with the current gf becuase I don't want to hurt her. It might be kind of cynical at this point, but I guess hurt is just a part of life, and if I don't do it now, I'm only going to hurt her far worse in the future... I guess another major problem that I should've mentioned is that my current gf is my first gf (and I her first real bf), we met while we were still in high school, so this will be my first breakup, and thereforeeee probably the most difficult.

Wow, thanks for the quick responses, everyone. Yes, I know I will feel grief, I already am just from considering a breakup, and I've told the non-gf girl to expect me to be a emotional wreck once I've done that, and she's said a few times that she can't imagine the pain, and will give me as much time & space as I need to get back to normal after the breakup. Ta_ree_saw, now that you mention it, I can see some parallels between this and the whole thing when Niles was married to Marris but had a crush on Dahpne; I know that's just fiction, but now that you've mentioned it, it does seem at least a little familiar...

Well, I can't believe I'm in this situation, it all seems so surreal, I can't believe I'm even posting it, but what the hell... So anyway, I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years, it's been a LD relationship for several months now. I love her, she's such a great person, and we always do everything we can for each other, we have fun, and do everything together, but the problem is that I'm not attracted to her, and sadly that's something that's always been missing from the relationship, although I haven't let it get in the way, nor have I told her as I wouldn't want to crush her like that. We've never had any arguments or disagreements, and it's been a good five years. Meanwhile, I've met this other girl. She's really cute, and I started hanging out with her as friends, but then I developed a crush on her, and suddenly I felt this tension between us. I got that tension out in the open, and it seems that she's basically always had a crush on me, and has been Jealous of my GF since she's known me. Now, we've been hanging out for about a month, and seem to get along great; she's got everything that I'd look for in a gf, including the physical attraction that's missing from my current relationship. We each know how we feel about each other, and she knows that I still love my gf, and has been good about not pushing me to do anything that would jepordize that relationship. In fact, we've had zero physical contact - not even accidental, because neither one of us thinks it would be fair to anyone in this triangle. I guess what I'm asking is if I dump a gf I've loved, and still love, for years, in pursuit of something new, and possibly better, or do I just accept that I already have a good thing, and continue to ignore my lack of physical attraction?