Aporia

I've heard of Finbar but not Finny. I think there was a guy on a Irish t.v. show once caled Lorcan

I really can't help the way I feel about this. I'm am not homophobic my brother is gay and he is my best friend. You are what you are and can't change that. He told us about it five years ago. I just think that being gay is a state of mind. The same goes for hetrosexuality. Just so people won't start freaking out on me. I'm sorry but whoever said the children will only upset because of the divorce I think you're wrong. How would you like if you called in to see your mom and found her in bed with another woman. Of course the children will be upset seeing thier mom sleeping in a bed with another woman. That's ridiculous. Of course they'll be upset seeing her in a realtionship with someone else. Be it a man or woman. I'm obviosly not going to get involved It's not really my business in the first place. Btw, she's not blood related to me. She told my granny [her husbads mother] two weeks ago that she thinks the marraige is ending without mentioning she was after cheating on him and got all sympathy from her. She's just being very selfish.

By being ''herself'' she's going to affect her childerns lives in a terrible way. If she was going off with a man fine But the children are going to be so confused all because of her mental condition. She decided to have children in the first place She made him get a vasectomy too I wouldn't have a problem atall if she didn't have children but being gay and having children - Nooo I can't believe she loves them and would do that to them at the same time.

Okay your going through a really tough time and I guess that's the last thing you need. But things like this do happen. I've been through an abortion in the past and it's a very emoitional time. I know I'd break up with him. He may have been there for you in the past but the fact is he cheated? at a time you needed him most. Talk to him about it all, listen to him, and then decide what you're going to do.

Well I'm from Ireland and half those names aren't heard of here. Hahaha don't know anyone with those names You actually only pronounce it that way when it has an Irish spelling.

My mom just got a call it was my uncle on the phone...her brother. He's just after telling her that him and his wife are getting divorced. It turns out my aunt who is 34 is after falling for another woman and is leaving him They have two children a boy that's 1 and a girl that's 7. I think it's so unfair on the children not to mention my uncle. He had an operation after having their second child and now he can never have children again. The children are going to be so messed up. Oh look now mommys in love with another woman. So now you've two mommys. She can't ruin their lives like this. It's upseting 'cause they're my cousins. She's probably going to ''have children'' with this one aswell and ruin that childs life too. That's allot for a child to take in. This day has been so strange so far and it's all so shocking

Well done. Hope it goes well. I love the saying if you never try then you'll never know. Imagine if you didn't ask them you'd be kicking yourself. It always feels so good when you overcome a fear.

The word reminds me of shakesperian plays. You can get hypnotized for this kind of thing.

It's definitely not him I was talking to the guy on the phone and he apologized. I think it's really strange too 'cause I never seemed clingy or anything. I never asked him to anywhere I let him do that and even if he didn't feel like seeing me during the weekend he'd always text me asking how I was and any news. I've known him for a long time and we are..or were good friends..

It's all about what you want to do and what you are intrested in. If your not intrested in something chances are you'll find it tough. You should talk to a career guidance councillor about this. They're the one's that will know allot about this and give you information on different courses to help you to decide.

Well fist of all I think people often get confused between the terms ''curvy'' and ''chubby/overweight'' You can be 7 stone and still be curvy. With that you can be morbidly obese and weigh 20 stone and still be curvy. Curvy is got to do with you figure not your weight. I think overweight women like to use the term curvy to make themselves feel better. It depends on the guy really. There's the type of guys that like skinny women like Kate Moss skinny. But I think there's more guys out there that like women with ''a bit of meat on their bones''.

Yeah...it just feels like I'm never going to get over him. I mean I didn't see him in nearly a month now and his name keeps resounding in my head. I had the worst day today. Agh it's just so hard to concentrate on pretty much anything else. I got exams coming up again and I'm really worried. To top it all off my mom is drunk again I know this has nothing to do with him and him ignoring me but when she used to get drunk before I just rang him up and went out him for a while. To get out of the house. Now I'm just stuck here on my computer typing this just to pass the time away. I don't exactly want to study because I know if I'll start I just get distracted and plus I just got my Easter holidays. Two weeks of no college. That means I'll be stuck inside for about two weeks... here... in my room. It's just really depressing knowing that I'm so cut off from the world when I don't have college. I feel like I'm wasting the best years of my life away in this hell. My mom is always at home but I can never speak to her because she's usually too drunk to hold a conversation with and goes to bed about seven at night and wakes up at thre or four the next day. The only time I can talk to her is when she's sober. It's times like these that I wish I had a job to keep myself occupied. Something to get up for in the morning besides college. At least he was a distraction...but now he's gone. So low.

Yeah I suppose that didn't help really but I might have done it anyway if I was sober I just don't know how to cope with it all like I waited too weeks without contacting him and then I had to ruin that by texting him AGAIN last night!

There's no way I could find someone new right now. I really don't want anyone else... "and for the first time i feel as though i am reborn in my mind recast as child and mystic sage and for the last time you're everything that i want and asked for you're all that i dream who wouldn't be the one you love who wouldn't stand inside your love" I never did tell him how I felt about him

Oh my... I'm feeling really down at the moment. Okay 2 weeks ago my "boyfriend" don't really know if I can call him that but anyway he rang me and I missed the call so when I did actually realize he rang me it was too late to call back so I just left him a message. He never text me back so I sent him another message the night after when I was kind of drunk. I know I shouldn't have, but I text him again last night (we usually text each other some time late at night with something weird that makes you think...so I did this) and he never text me back again. Now this doesn't really seem like a big deal but in the year or so I've known him he always does contact me in some way. There's nothing worse than being ignored. I feel like a fool right now. We both have agreed that we can see other people and we both can talk about people we're meeting at the moment ect. So I really don't know why he's stopped contacting me. The worst thing is, just a while ago I got a message from an unknown number saying "Do you want to see me tonight babe..." It ended up being someone sending me that by a mistake. Talk about getting my hopes up. It feels like I don't have anything because I don't have him. He probably knows that I relly like him If I text him three times in a row That makes me feel like crap though. I don't know what to do because I'm completely in LOVE with the guy. I think I'm actually going insane because I think about him so much. I never stop really.

when i say ''meet up'' i mean we could either just have lots of news to catch up on, he might have a problem and come to me for advice or just sex. he's not dating other girls just using them for one night stands ect. he's such a good friend and we've been through allot he said before i'll always be there for you if your there for me. and ''you'll look after me, won't you..'' recently he gets upset if i don't text him back and he's been contacting me allot latley. i think he's the kind of guy that will cheat no matter what so maybe the only way i can really have him is in a relationship without commitment. at least then he'll never cheat on me and i'll know what he gets up to. i think he does have respect for me though and he wasn't exactly disrespting me by telling me about the other girls 'cause we do tell each other everything....

it's really strange i can't really handle sex without commitment but love can prepare you to cope for anything. my relationship is weird at the moment it's like best friends who tell each other everything and have sex every now and again.

i feel terrible at the moment. i keep seeing this guy that i know i shouldn't. i was his girlfriend for a while but it was never serious and now we just meet up every week or so. the thing is, is that i'm in love with the guy. i've tried to just pretend i wasn't but i can't. it's turned into an obsession his name repeats in my head literally aaall day long. last saturday i was out with him and he started talking about a girl he met the night before which madecme feel sick and i tried my best just to act notmal but the thought of him with another girl is just...i can't even describe it. he thinks i'm seeing other people too. i'm just confused he's always texting me saying nice things like ''i'll always be there for you'' at first i thought he was using me but now he does have feelings for me. he said last saturday 'i'd say we'll always know each other' one half of me is saying if he can meet other people that means he doesn't really like me and if he can't commit to me he's obviously not worth fussing over but then he is everything. i've came to the conclusion that i'd rather have half of him instead of not having him at all no matter how much it hurts. i've known him for quite some time now i just wish i never met him. am i weak because i can't let him go when i know he's not good for my mental health...

my vitriol - anything by them really smashing pumpkins - today muse - sunburn radiohead - fake plastic trees/high and dry bellx1 - eve the apple of my eye

i'm getting bouts of depression one minute i'm fine and the next i panic for no reason i'm getting insecure i don't like the attention i get i got stood up by my ''boyfriend'' last night and to make matters worse i wasn't supposed to see him in thefirst place 'cause he always does stuff like this now i feel weak i can clearly see that he has no respect for me he puts me down but i love him i can't stand him and hes going to the same concert i'm going to in july camping for 3 days i'm constantly trying but never suceeding this is very serious i seriously i feel worthless everytime he uses me but i'd rather have him use me than to not have him atall i hate him i wish i never met him we've been through sooo much what can intrest me these days - the only thing i find intresting is drawing and music

i think i'm depressed. then again i think to much. about everything. like right now as i'm typing this with the cap's lock broken i'm wondering what else i could be doing. i can't explain this since it's so complicated. do you ever feel like your mind is going to explode because you have so much going on in there like plans for tomorow what i need to do tomorow like simple things like go to the bank... i think about when i was younger and when i had fun. that's something that i lack in my life - fun.. everythings mundain, banal, grey, black boring. i want to be happy. i pretend that i'm happy... i'm always smiling and getting caught chatting in classes i'm always laughing - but when i'm not around people i can just be the way i feel - like i want to be gone i want the pain to stop. i try. i pretend. fake smiling but it doesn't work no matter how much i try. i keep thinking about what i could be doing when i'm doing a certain thing. i can't concentrate...i've no structure in this post and it's bothering me right now. like say when i'm watching t.v. i can't relax 'cause i keep thinking about other stuff i could do. i can't decide ... sometimes it almost gets too much i love when i'm asleep - it's the only time i can escape from this - the only time when i'm free. i hate people - not because i had any bad experiences that i dwell on i hate people because i am one and i know how mean we all really are...your nice to someone so you can feel good about that. that's thinking about yourself...say your rich and you donate 60,000 to a charity and everyone praises you for doing so - you want that praise that's thinking about yourself. you could then say oh but it was to help the people too...would you have done it 60,000 was all you had to survive on - no you'll always come first. human nature. it's all about you. i don't feel like going into detail about how i feel about this because i feel it's unimportant another unimportant thought.. i like to think that i look at things realistically rather than in a pesimistic way. my mind is too full but yet uneducated the knowledge part of my brain is small but the thinking part is so big i don't know where i'm going in relation to my career... it's like latley all i've been doing is downloading music, going to classes coming home go on the net, ''study'' eat sleep read listen to music...i want new things in my life i feel like i'm wasting my life with this boring routine and there's so much more out there i've even lost touch with my ''best friend'' so now i just have a few school friends. i don't like people. i feel like i am 3 different people... i'm dreaming my life away - i need help sometimes i think about how i'm in control how i could end it all. to be away and free but then i get distracted multiply this post by ten and that's what's going on in my mind i need help i've never felt so alone and it's like the end

it's different in those cases and the zillions of other couples out there with different religions. i'm not the type of person that could be with someone that thinks very differently to me. like a catholic and protestant for example those relgions are quite similar but an complete atheist and a muslim who's very religious i can't see them getting along since they both feel strongly about their beliefs or lack of belief then there's people that say they are this and that but never really thought about it because they don't care and religion isn't important in their life.

i lost my granny a few years back too and i was really close to her too so i know how you feel. i found this... Getting Over a Loss Grieving takes courage, stamina, and patience. It’s a process that takes time, but there are things you can do to help it along. Honor your feelings. Specific stages mark the process; they recur and flow into one another: Shock/denial Anger, Sadness, Anxiety/depression acceptance/moving on Accept them as normal. Take good care of yourself. Grief is stressful. Get regular checkups. Go for a massage. Eat well. Since sleep may be disrupted, look for restful moments you can give yourself. Acknowledge the fatigue. Be patient. Letting go is hard work. Let yourself cry. Crying supports your immune system. Tears soften hard feelings, loosen tight places, and open the heart to tenderness. Get close to people. Death tears you from roots, safety, and belonging. Share your feelings and your love. Ask for what you need. If you feel isolated and have no friends or family nearby, join a support group. Being connected to others easer the loneliness. Recognize that loss changes relationships. Families are organic systems, and people have roles in those systems. If you lose a parent, look to see who’s now filling the role. Try to discuss thee shifts. If you’re a widow, some friendships may go. Some couples may no longer feel comfortable around you. Nurture the friendships that work, and let go of those that don’t pursue a dream. Perhaps you always wanted to sing but never took the time. Now’s your chance. Join a choir. You’ll meet new people and discover other sides of yourself. Self-confidence blooms when you take a risk. Exercise. Dance, aerobics, sports, or martial arts relieves stress, lifts depression, and improves your body image. Pick something you enjoy, and savor your sense of well being. Honor your loved one. Make a special scrapbook. Dedicate a fund. Set up a memorial. Think about the essense of that person and how he/she would like to be remembered. Acknowledging your past affirms your love. Minimize bitterness, jealousy, or self-pity. These emotions will spa your strength, weaken your coping skills, and feed depression. Choose to view grief as a teacher. The pain of grief pushes us to grow. If we see it as a challenge, we can use it to deepen our lives. Grief can reveal hidden resources of resilience, compassion, and generosity. Facing it can free us from fear. Help others. Turn from your own problems by giving to other people. Within six blocks of your home there are people who need you. You’ll find satisfaction and new connection to community. Use professional services. If you feel chronically overwhelmed. Paralyzed by your feelings, or numb, find a grief counselor or psychologist who can guide you through the transition. Seek inspiration. Turn to nature, the arts, things spiritual. Mountains and oceans remind us that life is bordered by death and that much of life is about surrender. Music and dance nurture the unspoken yearnings of the soul. Silence, meditation, or prayer brings solace. Now is the time to live, one day at a time. One moment at a time. One breath at a time. hope it helps

i agree. you both have to have the same state of thinking or state of mind. i can't see how people with opposing religious beliefs could get along. i'm an agnostical atheist and i honestly couldn't see myself with someone who has strong relgious beliefs. to me that would be a different way of thinking a different perspective which i consider to be narrow minded. in relationships it's healthy to have different views on certain aspects but a line has to be drawn somewhere sometimes people can be just too different

this is just a stage in your life where you happen to be single sometimes things change when you least expect them to. for now just enjoy yourself and that someone who has feelings for you, who appriciates you and who you are will come along.