Aporia

Girl. Girl has boyfriend. Girl has big crush on boyfriend's friend. So much it hurts and takes up 90 per cent of girl's thoughts. Boyfriend's friend keeps saying how he wished he was with girl. Girl hinted she liked boyfriends friend. Boyfriend is completely in love with girl. What will girl do???

woah well guys it turns out he had a major crush on me and we're now together yipee he is just a bit shy after all thanks for the replies

Hehe well thanks for that. Yeah I'll probably post an update soon. I'm going out with him and his friends tomorow night so I'll ask him then. Today we were in town and one of his friends referred to me as his girlfriend woah that was kind of a shock...really makes me wonder...well not long to go before the whole situation is clear...

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Hmmm but what about if I just came straight out and asked him? good idea/bad idea? he has other friends that are girls so I'm really unsure about this one...

Hello, haven't been on here in a while. I've just started my second year of college and when I was out I met a guy who is also in second year but doing a different course. When the pub closed we were waiting for his friend and I [i think] kissed him. I ended up going back to his house with his friend since he lived 10 minutes from town. He gave me his coat coz I was cold. Then when we ended up in the same bed but he didn't even try to kiss me again which I found strange For the last few weeks he's been texting me every night to see what I'm up to and we hang around most days in college. I'm really confused as to wether or not he likes me in that way since he's never made any move at all. He kept asking questions about awhen I said I went out with a different guy the other night.. Another thing, we were in a college pub yesterday and he bought me two drinks even though I insisted before hand that I'd pay. That confused me even more... What do you guys think?.... is he just too shy about this or does he just see me as a friend? btw, he's 19

I once had massive brusies on my hip bones that hurt like hell for ages afterwards

I've been having this problem for the last few months and I'm wondering if anyone is afflicted by what I'm talking about. It has only happened a handful of times. But it happened again a while ago and now I'm getting worried. I get this feeling all of a sudden of dissonance. As if there are two of me and they're slightly out of phase. I feel like I can't do anything that will change this feeling, no change in sitting position or what I'm doing can alter this feeling. But it goes away after about twenty minutes. It's a very unpleasant feeling, mostly because it is beyond my own control, I can't do anything to feel different but wait for it to stop. It seems entirely random and unprovoked. It has happened while having dinner with my family and reading the paper on break at work. Entirely separate events. The only commonality I can find is that I was sitting down at all of these times. I've tried googling it but come up with zilch. I don't know what to call it. My best stab is dissonance, because it reminds me of those rhythmical beats that are produced when two musical notes are played that sound bad together. I have it now, but it feels like it would have gone away if I wasn't focusing on it so much by writing about it.

I'm having one of those moments where everything that seems to be on my mind lately, comes together and I feel utterly helpless. Right now there's a heat wave. We've had really hot sunny weather for the last two days and it's set to continue for the next week or so. That should be a good thing right. No, not for me I've my final exams starting on wednesday so I'm inside all day listening to the sound of summer outside and since my rooms in the attick I've sky light windows looking directly out onto the blue sky. Tomorow it's going to be really sunny. The thing that worries me the most is that I couldn't study ATALL. The heat wears me out. It's the worst feeling and I need to cram for these exams which last a week and a half. I've had a sort of complicated problem where I got blamed for something I didn't do that I don't feel like going into. I'm a bit disapointed in myself for doing nothing about it, but I think maybe I was too upset at the time and now I guess it's too late. I lost him. That's what's upseting me the most. He thinks I'm someone I'm not. Now I can't blame him since we've barely known each other or should I say had know each other 2 months maybe even less I'm not sure. I'm not exactly expecting any replies to this because I'm so boring. I pretend. Allot. I act like I'm perfectly happy with my physical apperance around others. Guys I've met in the past would give me comments and then ask me would I change anything about my apperance to which I'd reply No not a sigle thing I'm happy with the way I look what I am is what makes me, me. Obviously not everyone has asked those exact words but along those lines. I appear confident but I hate the way I look. I can't explain it. I know I'm pretty but at the same time I hate myself. In the last two weeks or so I haven't been eating and dropped only a few pounds which I'm disapointed with again. I feel like I'm not trying my best, doing everything half heartedly. I'm on 129 at the moment at 5'7 and have never weighed less but still feel incomplete. My existence is fat. When I see other girls/ women on the street I see their weight only. I try so hard to get the right amount of minerals, potein ect. in my diet but I always feel unhealthy. I try eating apples, nuts and seeds, oatmeal, spinach, bananas, oranges, red meat, oily fish brown breads and rice ect. but I never feel healthy enough it's so hard regulating the whole thing. I went to the doctor this morning because I feel so weak and tired all the time and he sent off four different blood tests to be examined. I can't wait for the results I need to know what my bodys lacking. I find it so hard to keep active I've been running a few miles twice/maybe three times a week on sundays I swim and have joined a gym recently but I can't cope with my tiredness. It's something in my diet that I'm lacking and that's what's causing this but I don't know and it's killing me I need to know. I can't concentrate anymore. I realised the other day I've no REAL friends. None. That's so depressing it feels like I'm wasting my youth away. I'm 18 now and feel 78. I guess I don't know what actually being 78 feels like. But this is a final feeling. I fear nothing more than getting old. Nothing. I can't cope I know it sounds weird but I want to be 12 again so I can go through my teenage years, which have passed and gone now, again. So much regrets. Sometimes at night when I can't sleep I go over, in my mind, all the stuff I wish I had what I don't have mostly about the way I look. I try then, to focus on the stuff I do have but it doesn't seem to help. When I'm on the net I get this weird thing that comes over me where I need to download about twenty different bands I never heard all at the same time. Then I see more and start panicing getting worked up about. There's something seriously wrong with me. One minute I'm one person the next minute I'm not I've never had the same mood twice but each time I fall into this trap of depression... it gets worse.

I really like these 5 stories I found on a different forum on the net. Thought it might be useful to remind people of the happier side of life 1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady. During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?" Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. "Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello." I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy. 2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain One night, at11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance, and put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached.. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others." Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole. 3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve. In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "Fifty cents," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. "Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies.. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip. 4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path. In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand! Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition. 5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts... Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will save her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away". Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

I've been asked my number by guys that I'm not intrested in. I rarely say ''no'' because I can't bring myself to do it especially in some cases when there was other people around. Giving fake number is pretty childish really. I'd just text him and say I'll be too busy or something like that. Shouldn't the guy get the hint that the girl was unintrested in the first place? As it was already said The girl is either unintrested/ has a boyfriend or She gave the wrong number to you by a mistake Think of the reasons why you would give a fake number to someone.

Okay, I went out with him again on saturday and this time I just paid for myself. I know I shouldn't have given his bad impression on friday. But now I'm glad I did. I really don't know what's going. He's such a nice guy, really. He's the kinda guy (well so far anyway) that holds doors open for me and stuff which I think is cute. It's his birthday on friday. He shouldn't be expecting a present from me since I only know him a week and a half...or should he be? He seems intrested since he asked me to meet up with him again on wednesday after college. NJRon, I guess (presuming you're from the US) that it's different over here. It really is the norm to just ask someone out to coffee or even drinking in a field with a some friends. Maybe it's a different a culture I'm not sure or maybe it's because we're still pretty young.

okay we met up at nine o clock in town he was kinda late though then we got coffee...i had to pay... nothing weird about that really but then i noticed he was looking through his wallet full of fiftys then i gave him back the cab money that he paid for me last week he took it straight away. then we went to a pub and he said, as soon as we got there - ''so what are we having'' i had to pay for the drinks... by then i was getting a liittle pissed off after that i paid for chips and coke for both of us i don't even have a job that was my allowance money for the month gone another 20 to get a cab home too i feel like a cheapskate complaining about this but this guy has a full time job like he asked me to go out tomorow night clubbing but i'm completely broke...help

I'm not religious. I think it's about being in the right place at the right time with the right person. I'm a strong believer in destiny. Your life will only be lived in one way. Everything you do is based on what you did beforehand. In that way you can't change the one life that you're destined to have. Also, I'm a believer in karma. You do something nice for someone it comes back to you. There's millions of people out there that you can fall in love with. Again it just depends on the situation being in the right place. There's no such thing as that one special person out there, there's millions. More people meet each other offline than online. I prefer the experience of meeting someone for the first time in real life rather than online.

He text me again today and finally he asked me to get a coffee or someting in town with him tomorow at 7 Yay, I can't wait to see how it's going to turn out I'm even a little nervous

People that have a hard time accepting who you are, aren't worth it. A real friend would be there for you no matter what. Their the one with the problem - not you and it's good you realize that. My brother's the same way really he told everyone two years ago and lost his ''friends''. He's now in college and has made loads of new friends. You should try to stop worrying about it all because things will work out.

Yeah I said yeah he asked me on the night when we were drunk and again the next morning He did seem intrested but you can never be too sure

Okay well that was my first time out in ages. I was kinda drunk... Everyone was kinda drunk really. So I was walking from one club to another. My friends were up ahead of me because my high heels were killing me and I had to walk slow. Then I saw him with some of his friends. I can't remember what we were saying but he offered to give me a piggy back to the next club down the street Initally he was going to go to another club with his friends but he went in with me to the club my friends and I were heading. I was with him for the night in there we got on great. Then I was really drunk and said we should go back to his place We didn't have sex since he didn't have protection. He gave me oral sex though The next morning he kept kissing me and asked me to go out with him on friday to a pub he walked all the way into town with me. We were holding hands and he was carrying my shoes and paid for my taxi home... He asked for my number just before I drove off and he text me on monday just wondering did I get home alright. Y'see the thing is, is that he never mentioned anything about friday when he text me. Could I have ruined my chances by acting so sluty and spending the night in his bed???? I'm 18 he's 22 next month I really like the guy

Okay it 's all about changing your diet. But avoid unhealthy food Try eating a big breakfast with wholemeal brown bread toast and something like porridge or fruit Then make sure you have a big lunch Something like bree cheese sandwhiches, sunflower seeds an apple or two mixed nuts, a chocolate bar For dinner try fish it's very good for you like whiting or something, vegtables and brown rice Make sure you drink about 2/3 litres of water to keep energy levels up. Have glasses of full fat milk everyday. That was my typical diet anyway. Protein is important. If you go to the gym you need to explain to your trainer why you're there. You will keep your body fat and gain weight by toning your muscles

Yeah I know alot of Shanes and my brother is called Brendan

I'd still feel the same. But I guess that is a good point it's better for them to be brought up in a happy atmosphere. You see my aunt was completely in love with my uncle one minute and the next getting a divorce. She was all loved up at christmas and couldn't take her eyes off her one and only. She's very close to her cousin who's also gay. I just get the feeling that this is only a stage she's going through. She wouldn't even consider getting marriage counseling when my uncle asked her. She's only known this woman for little over a month. She met her when she joined her running club. Like, think about it, she met a woman she barely knows and is willing to get a divorce from her husband with the children involved. I should think of it this way. I'm married to another women and have children and since I'm staight I don't love her and found the man of my dreams. I still made the decsion to marry her in the first place and not only that but have children. So no, I really couldn't do it to my children. I created them and it would be my responsibility from that point on to put them first.

Gavin and Connor are pretty popular. I love ''Gavin'' myself. I'm not sure if it's Irish but ''Brian'' - I love that name and it's very popular name here too.

Yeah I did. Good luck for what exactly. I'm not in the corrupt family and I won't be expressing my opinion to them. What I think doesn't matter in this case. Novaseeker, it's not like I'm actually going to treat them any differently. Just because I don't agree with something doesn't mean I'm going to do everything in my power to stop it. After all it's their lives. Her selfish decsions. Of course I'm not going to go up to my aunt and say ''I think what you're doing is wrong''. My uncle was on the phone just a while ago to my mom and he was bawling crying. I feel so sorry for him 'cause he's such a nice guy. I can understand that she's probably in love with this woman. But, I think if she decided to have children in the first place she should accept responsibility for them. She put herself and her desires before her children. The divorce is going to cause them all so much pain.

''This too will pass.'' You ask the question ''WHY LIVE?'' As an Atheist I don't believe in an afterlife. This is the one time in all of eternity that you will ever live. Think of eternity and how long it is. For ever and ever. Take this oppertunity of life and make the most of it. See what life brings you. Live through the ups and downs beacuse this will never happen again. Things will get better in your life if you let them.

They go together like the way I put them together. You can't always change a certain state of mind. That one's pretty obvious. Ummmm no actually it wasn't. Read... That's why I quoted it in the first place. You might have said that but they didn't. I really shouldn't have put this in the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender section in the first place. I think ''having children'' in gay marraiges is wrong. It's just not a normal enviornment for children to grow up in. It isn't meant to be that way by nature. I have my opinions which I change get over it.