blueangel

Well, I'm glad you're ignorant of what crossing these boundaries mean. I'd rather be among the group who censors themselves because they know anyone can be easily offended or affected by anything one says. If you want controversial, go to link removed, register, and include yourself in the extended discussions section. You'll find a lot more depth there and willingness to be bold.

It does lean to its own beliefs... but I don 't really know what the experience would be like. Would it be biased? Only one way to know. Gotta keep an open mind.

I would love to go to at least one class like this. I don't need to believe exactly everything. I would just be learning what others believe. To me, that's an experience interesting. But one can adapt to themselves anytime they want. It's a unique mindset to travel to since everyday life doesn't always feel so "spiritual." Being a part of a spiritual "schooling" changes that reality in a way.

link removed Check this out. The idea is amazing. It's worth taking a look at.

One person has problems in their marriage. Another can't overcome her insecurities so figuring out life seems impossible and that person gets suicidal. One man just lost his youngest child. The rest of us?- leading average lives with all the little problems weighing in our minds. It's like life becomes a soap opera in our minds, but when looking on the outside at yours, another may say, "Oh, here's an open door. And oh, here's a window to crawl through instead." But solving problems isn't solving US. In this life, lack of intimacy is leading to real heartbreak. Heartbreak begins in a society that is being swayed by the knowledge overload of history and the circulating advertisements that go around of who we should be. One thing we can't do is cry in public. No, a natural disastor has to happen before a person allows people to come around. If your family doesn't give intimacy and unconditional support to you, the pain of that taints your friendships. If you don't have friendships, you become a loner- at least in your mind. I think to live life, we need to talk about life. Really talk about it- about everything. We let ourselves and others go without guidance if we do not. Most time, this neglect starts slowly within the home.. and spreads throughout a person's heart with the more pressure they put on themselves to be and do everything right... just because that's what everyone else appears to be doing. People go to a God or a religion to find a way to live life and enjoy it. I did this myself after being traumatized a thousand times in my past. (exaggeration- but still, traumatizing happened) You want to know what I found out, really found out through all that? We humans come from the same source- made from the same things (our DNA and even emotional self demonstrate this to a degree) We have potential to create anything, be anything and do anything(Based within the boundaries society creates overtime of itself) We have consciousness (though we don't know how) There's a creative desire to express everything and a then desire to love, really love and know, really know, the direction that each individual is headed... and why. A spiritual culture was never started unless it was an attempt make explanations, not connections to each other and the universe- thereforeeee the idea has been shattered and lost despite some very Christian efforts I have seen in the world We lose everything with time- we lose this identity. Pain seems to be a part of life- used as tool for growth so one keeps on moving. Or sometimes, they give up. Yet still, something is born from pain which reveals who we really are. Perhaps we are meant to be the opposite of pain and that is why it attracts itself to us so. But we are not magnets. We are adapters and shifters. We can repel it anytime we want to.So here's my basic analysis whether true or false, it is my belief: We were first created as something, as every color for example. A world was created that brought out every color... so that we may know who we are. But who are we? If it's something so important that we have our own world for it, but we have enough consciousness to control and change ourselves all the while...then perhaps it is simply for evolvement. For what? Like an experiment just to see where humankind will go? (keep going with me here) our basic instincts are brutal, surviving ones (like animals) in the beginning when we need them, but as the world of mankind has evolved, that has gone away... once we don't need them (or want them). Yet, nature and disastors and other people can meddle with us and bring them back out again. Youth has a touch of them without guidance. It's a lower level of consciousness we can dwell in at any provoked time. We've developed the understanding of our own emotion with our brains through time also. This level of logic guides us to have or not have our emotions, yet we cannot get rid of our thoughts as easily. Something pushes us to understand, but leaves it to us to do so. Honestly, here, I think we were either once made from animals or made from the same source. Some level of consciousness in the universe grew and wanted to be expressed and explored.. but if it's only for expression and exploration, then the universe doesn't really know itself either. Perhaps our only purpose is to find purpose... or rather, choose it. So...What do you think?

All there is is now. Without love or hope, the process would be too tormenting to be worthwhile. It doesn't matter where we end up if we can't feel the positive side of our emotions. Anyways, as Lifehouse singer sings, "Pain is part of learning who you are."

That was actually really cool to read.

Sounds like she's searching for something outside of her to-be-marriage- meaning she isn't ready for it yet. I think even with that last comment you gave, as rude as it may have been, you were still keeping your cool. If she avoids telling things about herself though- especially the BIG things- I'd watch out for that. Your confidence in yourself may have surpassed her own... even if it was faking for the moment, she couldn't keep up or challenge you back. She couldn't even talk about herself. There's something too sneaky about that... like she's not being real with herself or with you. She's looking for fantasy in her life... one that her fiance hasn't fulfilled for her yet... so she keeps looking. That's the type of girl who messes with you. Respect yourself and say, "Look if you're getting married, then let's make sure this doesn't cross the boundary of friendship. You need to be happy and I'm not messin that up for you." With those words, you are putting the control into your own hands... rather than letting it slip too soon in the beginning.

WOW! That is the epitome of the perfect answer from a guy.

Our "self" is what we make it. thereforeeee it is an illusion. I agree with that also- I just dont agree with that our self can only stay one thing (like memory filled and emotional) and nothing more. Now do you know what I mean? We can create happiness if we want. This life is short and all fades away, but our experience here is something that by the end, we have created. In summary, I believe that we can create because we have been created. By what or whom or how, I do not know. But that's what I believe. (and my beliefs are open to change at any time!)

Sometimes our elders are not the wisest. That's all I can say. That's a very stereotypical view coming from someone older. But you are younger than your parents (obviously). As long as they're alive, you have time to turn out differently.

You are very real with yourself and in writing this to the forum. I like that thereforeeee I like you. You've got yourself a story not many of those "shallow" peeps can top. So let yourself out there. Solutions come faster when you do. It's okay to let someone see. And you're doing that right now. My advice to you depends on what you want. If you want to be happy and move on, realize that other career oppertunites exist. Let go. If you want to become who you are trying to be, keep trying. It happens when you don't give up. If you want someone to support you mainly so you are not alone in these decisions, come here but also to at least one person in the "flesh" world (eww that sounds gross!) People generally don't refuse someone help- they may seem to neglect most of the time, but if you communicate "real" needs, they are more likely to respond the way you want. (I say real, because most times people miscommunicate themselves to others... making the "comforter" believe that they should help the "victim of circumstances and human nature" by getting them different help like professional types instead of just another heart who understands... and who can see. Basically, sometimes you gotta guide people to ya! That's what I did with my parents. One day I was like, "All I want is attention!")

Um, then why did you ask "how do you know?" to me. Boo on YOU. But yes, I'm curious too.

Let me just say: TAKE BABY STEPS SECONDLY: Pilates!!!! The rest: Have variety in meals...taken all in moderation. (it sounds more simple than it is)

Until we channel it healthily into our existence... it feels like nothing but weight. It takes a lifetime almost to properly know how to do this. Or sometimes a moment- the moment that you give up all fear is the moment you become alive. I think "God" (if he exists) is waiting for us to go to that type of faith. Then we would be a spiritually active culture- able to do anything, really. We become more when we make more...of ourselves.

I disagree. Sometimes, I would stare at a photo of myself for a long time and be like, "is this really me? am I really this girl?" It was moments that I separated from myself and had to convince myself down again. But I realized I wasn't JUST my human self. I realized I was a shattered reflection of "God"... and one with the connection to that inside. It comes out most in creativity. It comes out most when I try to guide others- give to my younger cousins things that I think would help them. It comes out when I smile despite my unhappiness.. it comes out when I call it to. This life isn't real and I think we spend our whole lives slowly figuring this out. It's a big long test that most souls created avoid, because it's scary and unsafe, but it evolves your soul... and pushes you to make yourself BE yourself or something close to it and.. to trust in SOMETHING when all else is torn away We have consciousness. How we use it and control it and what we create with it is a choice.

Happiness comes with confidence. Confidence comes with the tiny moments of growth of giving and of taking the chances. All of my suffering in life has been worth it. I may be 16 but Ive been through more terror than most people have and more surreal scary things than most could gain control of. I've learned this: We feel pain when we are without love... and thereforeeee can get greater insights into how love should be through this... if you choose to. If you choose to be a changer... for in every pain there is something born. What is born is ALL your choice. You just have to be aware of making your choices to control them. I felt like I was haunted all of my life. The year my faith expanded in God.. in that GOOD force behind things.. the more the visions, scary dreams, shadows passing in mirrors and things have gone away. My suffering was worth it because I stopped having all the smaller fears when I escaped the biggest ones through faith. >wew- I'm shaking right now thinking of some of that!Though I wouldn't wish it on anyone else, I'm glad of all I experienced now that I'm older. Think about it- the "lies" of life bring out the "truth" of us. That's what the illusion is all for!! We have to choose what level of truth to be. I speak from my soul and that's how I know it is "bigger than my body"- hehe like the song by John Mayor!

Emotions are signs of who we are. But only signs.... as signs are only illusions. When you stop relying on your mind, your heart should tell you. But it is those who build a wall from emotion that take from others the most. They stop caring. I've realized that as I've gotten older, I don't feel and sense as much as I did when I was little. It is true that most don't know how to be intimate after childhood because your relationship with people change. They no longer think everything you do is special. That's something we need to bring back.

It's not human emotions that cause the problem. It's human emotions so REPRESSED- everyday life disables one from expressing themselves rightfully... but an evolved society would surely find a way to create a better life fulfilling this. Anyways, human emotions flip like a coin. Antidepressants killed mine and I realized that life is very bland without them. It's very strange- almost like youre a cold robot. That's how I feel... but the more those pills are out of my system, the more emotions are coming back again. I feel strange about each day- like it's out to get me! I have to kill my paranoia by separating myself from others and my situations- I separate my need of them to be perfect, I mean. Harmony is a beautiful and swift thing which saves you when you call on it... but you have to look outside of your identity to be aware of who you are before you really receive it. Sometimes it takes years to have that perspective. That's the only cool thing about being immune to emotion- you're not as blind... but then once you understand all your mistakes, you find you are too tired and don't care enough to fix anything. So your mind becomes tormented instead of your heart. That conscious voice never fades... even when you think your heart has.

It's called a joke. That's why I did the joking smiley face . JEEZ

does anyone know the title of the song that goes... something like, "there's a stirring felt deep in my heart that i want to know ... leads to the road... your voice is calling me and I know it's time to go... come home, you must rest in me you are my child for eternity..." Anyone? It's sung by a guy and is fairly slow, but beautiful (I think a Christian song?)

Yes...yes, you are.

Name some songs that have gotten you out of dark places... Here are some of mine: 1. Emotionless- Good Charlotte - this song helped me find forgiveness and realization of my homelife losses 2. Praise You In The Storm - it doesn't matter what we have. That's not what makes up our life. It's our seeking ourselves and others... and God 3. Gravity of Love- Enigma - this song made me face myself and know that it's okay if there's a lot inside me... it can be beautiful 4. Deliver Me- Sarah Brightman - i felt my desire for someone else to stay beside me.... and understood that i needed to be that way for others, especially my younger cousins and friends in any way i could be. I just started to want to be real with people... and speak from the needs of my soul. 5. Memory- Sugarcult - time erases emotions, but we can't let that happen. We need to keep creating our emotional lives and never lose sight of feeling for things. Keep your heart open and eyes unclouded by bitterness 6. Blind- Lifehouse - I make many mistakes in my relationships and social life. this song made me think of how blind we are all...and how much it hurts us to be that way. 7. Touch of My Hand- Britney Spears - It's okay to be me and love it. It's okay to use it to thrive in the world... and get to my dreams. 8. I Belong To Me- Jessica Simpson - self explanatory

Um... I think the problem is that you're just not ready for any commitment and obviously the older guys that you dated before were only looking for a fun time with YOU. Or perhaps now that you're off drugs, you can see the real human flaws of people as well as what attracts you to them. Boo! on immaturity.

Give him a planner and leave him be. I hate when people do that to me also- whether it be extreme nagging or just a reminder. No one likes to look at how unorganized their life is. thereforeeee, if you really care- give him the tools to be organized, not the constant reminders that he isnt. The skills he has to aquire on his own. Anyways, he ultimately believes you are nagging and feels that way. If he feels that way, it's important to be sensitive to it- don't question yourself. Just understand where he's coming from. I know you have good intentions and he probably does too.