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  1. juno
    well, the guy wants sex without commitment. That means she doesnt see u as a potential true gf. U can follow the game and get him into like u. But I think he is going to pretend jut to get a little more sex. Well, if u like sex then u should contunue, otherwise get out of there. You´ll be hurt. Good luck
  2. juno
    Hello, I read your posting on the web and it reminded me of the ordeal I went through last year. Now I can say Im ok. But it took me so much pain to finally undestand one thing. Shy women, timid, and those who are "not affectionated", seem to transform themselves when they are with the guy they feel something for. Unfortunatelly your now-exgirfriend wasnt that into you, man. Im sorry to say it that way but its true. When a woman falls for sb, she is going to let the guy know she is interested, believe me. No matter how hard it could be for her to express her emotions she'll do it. Keep your chin up and move on. Everything vanishes after some time. Good luck,
  3. juno
    Hello G, This postings have been very instructional. After a year and sixs months being a strict participant of the program "destructive- reationships addicts" I finally became a dignified person. I put out those strange brain connections that are created when we are in a relationship. Yes its like being and addict to that cocktail of emotions and then suddenly our love one takes away our source of life. The withdrawal beggins. Its sooooo damn painful. I think its true that we look for the sick partner that complements our sicknesses. I got into this page and geez!!!, I can believe why you Gee are becoming a pirasite of your own emotions. Dont women want self-confident men not weak-spirited wimps?. Your case sounds like the typical low self-steem woman looking for "sensitive guys" and willing to accept whatever it takes to get that fixer roller-coaster of emotions that only an insecure and manipulative but good with words man can produce. If my mother (75) listend to this, she probably would say: This woman is walking on jelly and is trying to hit the moon with a stone. Where did you learn that is ok to live on promises and refuse to be a healthy human being?. Yes i know its sounds rude but only when i was spoken like this i started to realized I needed a real change. I wish God looks upon your jouney and delivers you safe back.
  4. juno
    I totally disagree with you about going to UK to know a person you havent seen. Why hasnt he sent you pics of him. Everythig sounded fine till you mention you have a weird gut feeling about the latest questions that I think you are overlooking. Just ask him to send you his pics and tell him what you think about his questios if he is a gentleman he should send you the pics. I would If i were him. What is he afraid of? Does he have a girlfriend?. Otherwise, it could be a nice experince for you and a fun way to meet your posible boyfriend. Luck
  5. juno
    Great question! We like watching women on tv or on the street but that doesnt mean we want to have sex with them. You women do the same just are more discret. Women know we like looking at them therfore they dress up sexy. A woman once told me..if I want to increase my self-steem I just put "the lucky pants" on and go to the mall. But the issue here is that your parter is not respecting you and is hurting your feelings. Whenever Im with a woman I focus only on her and nobody else. If a beautiful woman passed just in from of me when I'm on a date then I ignore the woman passing by 'cause I know my date wouldnt like me to stare at her and I would feel akward if my date is staring at the men around when we are together. This is also a sing of lack of interest. Tell him not to wander his eyes when he is with you, if he doesnt care about your feelings then be ready to face conflict. Luck
  6. juno
    It is a terrible idea to wait for a person who doesnt love you anymore, a woman who loves you will never talk to you about other guys, because she may think that would disappoint you. She sees you as a friend who is there to listen and nothing more. Its better for her to have many friends in case she needs one to go out than staring at the walls. If you want to be her friend (that is obviuosly not what you want ) then look for other women. Just think about this: What if the other guy would've treated her nicely? She would be with him, wouldnt she?. Move on man. Dont make the mistakes I did myself waiting for months. Luck.
  7. juno
    Yes I know its awful. I once had trouble breathing couse of the pain. But keep yourself strong man. Its going to desapear little by little. Im fine now. Keep busy all day go out and do things. Dont contact her. She has a boyfriend she chose. Its her responsabity. This experience will make u so powerful if u support it. Im serious. Resist man for god's sake. Luck
  8. juno
    Swingfox is right about this one. This guy seems to have low self-steem. No wonder why his wife treated him like that. The thing is you are not responsible for the break. Anyway u would be bored with a guy who doesnt have a backbone to support his words. Luck
  9. juno
    In so sorry if I hurt your feelings. The thing is that when i was in the same situation I lost months waiting for her, even though she didnt have a new boyfriend. She got one later. And most of the help I received from the people here didnt help till I was waken up to my reality by an "aggressive aproach" by a guy who was in the same situation. Im sorry if I was rude. but im showing interesr in your case. Anyway. Luck.
  10. juno
    Breaking up is about pain my friends, and it is painful to try to understand that this woman doesnt want u anymore, no Im not being just plain logic Ive been in the same situation. Theres a moment when u have to realize the relationship is over. Being her friend is going to prolong the agony. She is ok, she has a boyfriend and an idiot waiting for her. What about you man, dont u want to have a gf too. Luck
  11. juno
    Just imagine getting married with her knowing that she can mantain two guys thinking about her. This woman lacks of integrity, she lies, its imposible to love two guys at the same time. She is looking for something u dont have but wont tell you. Instead keeps you intersted in case the relationship with the "druggy" fails. She has low self-steem and simply doesnt want to loose you while she finds the right one (that obviolusly isnt you pal). Why are u waiting for her? Can u look for honest women?.
  12. juno
    Im happy to see that u are finally taking the steps to become a dignified person. Your story reminds me of my own ordeal two years ago. Yes! its completely normal to be tempted to to contact him but that would stop your healing process. I remenber once i was walking by her house when suddenly was unable to breathe for some minutes cause an intese pain in my chest. The momories really hurt terribly. Im sure its going to be more difficult for you since you two work together. Try to avoid any thoughts about him no matter what reason causes them, that will stop consecuent actions that you may regret later. Be ready to go through a strong emotional cocktail, from anger to sadness, from sadness to anger, some moments of calmness followed by depression, anger again... on and on.. till you get better. Keep strong and you´ll become powerful, your self-steem will become solid rock. Stand up if you fall, you'll have many moments of weakness, but dont surrender. Luck.
  13. juno
    Keep strong, dont become Heather "the weak" again. Im sorprised how your low self-steem pops up once and again. You are NOT being mean for God's sake!!. You are just being fair to you. I dont understand why u want to keep in touch with a man who has used you for sex and emotions. You are thinking way too much about the tiny details. Why did you send him the mesage anyway?. He is not even you friend Heather!. I know you want to keep the link in "case he divorces" of course you get scared if he seems to move on, but this is another trick of the brain to get its fix again. Remember u still have those weird brain connections that were created in the nice moments and removing them is going to be painful. Use that pain to move on. Please do not disappoint the women who believe in you. Have you noticed how many people have written to you and stopped doing it? We want you in a story of success not in a soap opera.
  14. juno
    I undestand what you are going through. Something good should occur out of this experience. Please keep me posted.
  15. juno
    I'll tell about my story later. You said "I want out with grace and tact" This talks about your low self-steem. (this is how he got you in the first place) He's been using you to get a cocktail of emotions and sex, the only tact you need is to protect and clam up before your dignity gets seriously damanged. There's a phrase that players use. "Get her feelings first and the body will follow" I suppect you are a very attractive woman but insecure at some point. I mean at this point everybody is going to get hurt, there's no way out of love without pain. But you should protect yourself by not letting him get close after the break up. Simply tell him you want to end the ralationship cause it's not good for you and go away, run like there is no tomorrow. I dont think talking to him to end the relationship is a good idea. The thing is that B is obviously better with words than you are, no offense. You are very capable of expressing yourself, but you have deeper feelings for him than he has for you. He knows what you want, exacly what to say and what buttons to push. it can only be humiliating for you. He has the upper hand and can easily convince you to change your mind hands down. Remember when he said: "That guy can have your body but I have your heart"? This phrase comes from someone who is very sure of what he has and doesnt include any feelings at all. A man who is in love would never say something like that. Working together makes it very difficult to handle. I recomend to change your schedule as much as possible to avoid him. The less you see him the fast is going to end. And for God's sake "DONT ACCEPT TO BE HIS FRIEND" this is a big mistake and a dangerous trap. You may think that time will make him change and if you could stay close he'll look for you. This will only prolong your pain. The truth is all my words will vanish like smoke in the air, like the thousands or words I listened and forgot immediately once I picked up the phone to "talk about it".
  16. juno
    It doesnt matter if he manipulates consciously or not. The thing here is that he has total control over you. Your mood depends on how he is at any time. If he is happy then you feel ok, if he is angry or seems to be upset then all your emotions get unstable. Just try to show him a little detachment and you'll see his instant reaction of anger. Your plan sounds like you dont want to be alone. you said: "It's ok to have him in my life while I found another man" Im sorry but the more you wait to confront the pain the more the pain will last to vanish. Just think clearly, you are having an affair with a married man and are disrespecting those children and her mother. How come you say you dont want to be the other woman if you ARE the other woman?. I know it sounds rude but I know what im talking about here cause I was in the same situation. Once I went through all that suffocating pain then I finally got myself some respect and dignity. But like any addict you are in the stage of deafness, you are to hit the floor before you stand up. Good Luck.
  17. juno
    Hey Red Evil, It is never too late to learn from bad experiences. Besides losing someone makes you clever and more experienced. You can understand pain and be more sympathetic to the ones who once lost somebody. Im sory you are going under a lot of sadness right now. And worse is that winter is coming. I really dont like cold weather that's why I move to Mexico. Ohh my god! These mexican women are relly nice to foreingers and the weather is fantastic. Never below zero even in winter. I have made many friends in just a couple of months. So Red what are u doing there just thinking about killing yourself?. Be strong. Look for any job save anough to travel and let the bank wait the three years that the law gives you to pay. (I dont really know how much that is in Canada). I have a canadian friend who lives here, he goes to Cananda from time to time, works on the streets as a vendor and works for a month. . then he gets back to live nicely here. (One month of work gives him enough to live three in mexico). He has a deal with the bank he owes and gives a little payment from time to time. Unless you are too arrogant to think you are better than the rest of the world, well, the world is out there Mr. Red Canadian.
  18. juno
    Ohhh my god!!!!.. This postings have been very instructional. I mean I never thought there were in life these kinds of people. I thought those things happened just on movies. But gosgh!!!!. This "B" man is a real master of decieving, he uses all the techniques of a real casanova, don juan, ladie's man, lets call him a real stud-master and has found the perfect victim. The tipical weak-spirited woman looking for "sensitive guys" and willing to accept whatever it takes to get that fixer roller-coaster of emotions that only a jerk-sick-but good with words man can produce. If my mother (75) listend to this, she probably would say: This woman is walking on jelly and is trying to hit the moon with a stone. Where did you learn that is ok to live on promises and refuse to be a healthy human being?. what happened with you in the early stages of your life ms heather? But dont worry there are lots of women like you all over the world that you can join. Just take a look at those teraphy groups of "Distructive-Relationships Addicts" and you'll see the consecuenses after some time. Cause this guy has already showed you what he's able to do. Remenber his outburst of anger?. Any woman (sane) knows this is a red flag. If he were in love with you he should've felt happy to know that you went on a trip to have fun with a male friend. But he just felt treathen and so insecure that gave you the cold shoulder. Anyway. No-one can really help you . Only you can. I wish God looks upon your jouney and delivers you safe back.
  19. juno
    I pesonally think this woman wants you to believe that she is just being friendly with the guys she plans to cheat on you. Theres no reason to bring up the subject of cheating to begin with. That happened to me. My ex told me all of a sudden, that she wasnt a woman who plays people and then after a month or so she started going out with guys behing my back. She even once told me she wasnt ready for a relation-ship and then the next week we went to a bar and she started flirting rigth in front of me. So the next time this woman asks you if you believe weather she is able to cheat on you, tell her "Im sure almost as you believe that I wont do the same to you" ..Listen carefully to your guts man.
  20. juno
    I seems that u lost interest in your husband because he couldn't give u the so wanted financial and emotional stability that u were looking for. As you mention, you waited years for that to happened. And nothing seemed to occur. In the sentence "i agreed to stay home and take care of the children. "Why did u decide that?... Were u expecting your husband to take care of everything?.. and when that didn´t happen, did u try to change the roles and try to help, too?... or was he cold with you? insensitive?.. Now you have children to take care of. Have u thought of the posibility to take couseling with your husband?. The guy was 20 yeah! of course he new your were married. U chose him cause is a menor problem you could easily dump him, right?.. I think u still care about your marriage but are getting cold feet to try to behave like an adult.. Im sorry if i was hard on you. Luck.
  21. juno
    It seems that u have fallen in love with her, but still care for her as a friend. If she loves you too, then what are u waiting for?. If she turns you down you can still be friends. Luck.
  22. juno
    you seemed to be obssesed with this woman... well she is not really into you man.. if she loved you she would say it believe me... being around like friends will just prolong the pain.. she is affectionate yeah.. i know but there are some women like that... man! respect yourself a little dont go after her.. you´ll end up really hurt...stop seeing her and move on. luck
  23. juno
    He is obviosly not in love. But needs you to cope with his problems. You should know that alcoholics are not ready to love anybody. This is said from professionals. You should also think why u ended up with an alcoholic it often says something about us as pople. Be careful with your feelings. Him trying to go after you doesnt mean he is ready for a commited realtionship. Move on and find someone who's ready like u. Luck
  24. juno
    Did u kiss other men when u were broken up? No, right?... Well he did it that means disrespect. So he is not going in the same direction as u. Please dont call him... Wait till he calls and if he doesnt do it then that means he is not into you. And get ready o move on. Luck.
  25. juno
    Hello. yes all the emotional changes are normal. you just entered in the process of healing. It could be fast or slow. Everybody takes different time. Im in the exact situation here and Its been a month now. I hope I'll feel better with time. Stand in there and dont do anything wrong that you may regret later. Try to entertain yourself with other activities. There´re no solutions just options to make. Luck.
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