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I've known this guy for over half a year now and we've hit it off really well. We are together at least two or three times a week and it's always a good time. We have been intimate with each other, however he told me right when he met me that he didn't want a gf. I was okay with that, but I'm so confused why he wouldn't. It's like we are bf and gf right now, just without that label. He did get really heart broken over his last gf that broke up with him, so that might be it. Or the fact that he's four years older, I don't know. He does tell me that he cares about me a lot and that he doesn't want me to disappear out of his life. What do you think all of this means? Should I ask him what's up and if we should move on? You're help would be great!

I met this guy about seven months ago and we have really hit it off since then. When i first met him he had told me that he wasn't looking for a gf and at that time I hadn't wanted a boyfriend either. We started hanging out a lot and decided to persue things intimately (kind of a friends with benefits thing....yet we never really called it that). He told me that he really cares about me and that I'm the only person that he has in his life like this. However, it seems that I am usually the one to initiate getting together and he's always coming to my house, I never ever go to his. I'm not sure if I should risk asking him if he wants anything more or if he's just in it for the sexual aspect of things. Also, I have a feeling he might be afraid to get hurt again (he got really hurt after his last relationship). If anybody has any insight as to what might be going on, please let me know! thanks !!