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  1. anotherone
    I just want to say two things: About Resposibilty & Marriage Your husband needs to step up and be more helpfull to you and for himself. The house being paid is great for ur family becuase I pay over 1000 dollars every month for my 1 bedroom apartment.I hope one day I do not have to pay rent like u... I am glad you did not do what your friend is suggesting (leaving him...). I never tried marriage counseling but do you think u can do that ?. One of your topic should be about money if you ever see a counslor ....It is great that he is college educated and willing to go back to school for more traning in order to get a job. But it is ok if he does not know or confused about his intertes line of profession. However, You guys have responsibilty to support ur doughter and in order to do that income must be generated WITHOUT SELECTING A JOB. If he is tring fine, but make sure he is contrubiting toward the family regardless of the house. The house is your too now...His credit history will affect u somehowe in the future, thereforeeee try to make the minimum payment possible until he gets a job . good luck.. i hope he makes u happy and vise versal
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    Before marriage, we dated for over two years in college, moved in together after college (stayed together for over two years ) and got married on the fifth year. So we know each other very well and I was so sure that she was the one that I want to spend my life with.. I did not push her into marriage, she gave me a hint and I did not have a second thought about not saying yes.I have the same thought about marriage like "mrNobody" .I was not a perfect husband, but I respected our marriage and was willing to work on it. She just run away without trying to make it work. The 7 years of commitment was in a trash within less than two weeks. I just have to say lesson learned. " It takes two…"
  3. anotherone
    When my ex wife decide to separete, I was very deressed. Not to fill sorry later in my life (For our doughter sake), I tried everything including asking her and my family/her family, friends to get invlove, ....etc. I never cheated, I never lied to her but I have a hard time getting along with her Mom. The more I tried the more she become difficult to talk to... She was very deepressed tooo...I know she visited a doctor during that time . It has been over two years now and looking back...what an experiance. It is something that I do ot wish for anybody to go through the pain I experianced. I lost a lot of weight, I could not focus at work, I did not care much about anything.. The only time I get a break was when I baby sit my doughter. Whenever I get busy changing diapers, reading books for her, taking her to the mall, park, to ...etc. I do not think about my ex or the separation. If the have a kid, i guss in need to work on custody issues the divorce paper can wait.... Good luck and thhis day will pass. I do not know what my ex going through right now, but I know she looks much better than two years ago.
  4. anotherone
    My fraiend ... Please do not have sex without knowing the other person free of HIV/AIDS and without a condom. I am 32 and when I mex my ex girl she wanted to do a HIV/AIDS test and we did. I knid of liked that idea, I know you may say she was a virgin, etc...but it does not hurt to be certain. Take it as a lesson and be firm about your personal policy even in intense and tempting situation.
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    How about telling him about your sexual prefrence without telling him anything about your feeling towrad him. I think it safe to come clean and respect his sexual prefrence. If you can not handle being his friend without dating... see if u can distance yourself from him so you can get over..... The guy is stright and your best frined. I think you should keep it that way.
  6. anotherone
    Well, You are in a new school right ?. It true that people around affects your personality and behavior. Do not hang out with students that are similar like your previous best friend. When you get drunk, bad people may take advantage of you. She took you to a place that u almost lost your life. Also, stop drinking. Do not repeat the same error. So do not hangout people that lead you to do stuff like that.. The best thing to do in life is to learn from your mistakes. You can leave your life to the fullest by doing other things. Like practicing sport, learning music, studying hard and getting a good grade, spending time with your parents.. I understand your father's action. Show your father that you are the new u..that will not repeat or do things that puts your own life at risk and in danger.
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    Oh my God !!.. After my baby was born for about 6 month 1) Wake up at Midnight and around 2 AM to feed my baby girl 2) Change her diaper and put her to bed Do not get me wrong I love taking care of my little angle. There is not way at 14 you will be able to know that you are wrong. If you ever have a baby, You will not be able to take care of him/her. Your BF will be in Jail and other people will be taking care of your baby. At your age you should getting an education and enjoy life...and kick your BF to the curve. I am sure he is in a LA LA land. His 15 dollars doesn not buy a penaut in the State.
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    " i guess she was kinda afraid. she did leave the guy and she moved in with a guy friend. we thought she was gonna be ok." - What do you mean ? regrdless.. You have to let the Law take care of him right now.. There is aleays a consequence for all our actions. Make sure u haae a good Lawyer.Put this ??? where he belong..Did he get picked up by the policy already ?
  9. anotherone
    I do not think the e-mail is necessary. She can think whatever she wants but if she ever wants to get back together you know exactly what to say"Thank but no thanks". Why bother?. How about if you leave her alone only return her calls if u wnat to.... My ex girl friend calls me once in a while. I only call her or e-mail her to wishes happy birthday..etc. I only return calls when she calls.
  10. anotherone
    I always wanted to experience a father daughter relationship. I was lucky to have a little girl that I love so much at the age of 29. She is 3 now and I love spending time with her.
  11. anotherone
    My experiance...They usually are very quite when things are not running in parallel with your sexuall feeling. If they are moaning for no reason I guss it is hard to tell of the fakeness. That means they just want you to take care of your business and get off them. I personally like when a women comes twice and on the second one we come togther. I was able to do that in several times. Good topic.....any married people want to comment
  12. anotherone
    She is 17 and he is 24 or 25 years old right? Are u sure they are married ? or They act like married people. Do the state allow to get married at 17 ?. I am a bit confused. I agree with your Mom also with the other posts. I will not move with these people. They need to work on thier relationship first...They may involve you in thier conflict and lose your friend. Do u really want that ? Keep your distance and do not show this guy any kind of sign or lough for his jokes. Let them figure out where they want to take thier relationship on thier own. Good Luck...
  13. anotherone
    Well, If something happen to him today, who is getting whatever he has ? Does he have kids from previous marriage ? I understand your point, but what his reason form making this preup ?. I am separted and we have a child togther. Whenever I think about getting married for the second time, I always have a second thought. I never thought about divorce before, but now I think about it all the time....talk to him.
  14. anotherone
    I have a friend who is diabetic who goes to hosptal every week. Please pass this day...... I remmber seeing a woemnt on Operha show that her x husband killed three of her children (One his) and he too his owen life and SHE WAS ABLE TO LEAVE WITH THE PAIN OF LOSING THREEE INCOCENT children. I know you can make it. This day will pass.. please hold on your pain. There is always other ways to dealt with life. Looking forward to get your post for many years to come!!
  15. anotherone
    I feel the same way. My first kiss was when I was 18 a long time ago. My daughter is 3 and I can not see her having sex in elementary school. I hope they know the consequence of having sex unprotected.
  16. anotherone
    Walk AWAY...I know love will cover the truth. The fact is she running or is a prostitute. She is dealing with illegal business. Follow your brain on this one not heart. I see a lot of unexpected problem coming your way if u do not stop. Check you HIV status and stay away from her...You had fun while u where in backpacking trip, but it should have been stop thier.. The dangerous thing is u are falling for her. How do u know she really love u as a person ? Do not gamble with your life walk away. You could be a tool for her finacial situation shaded with fake love. Run !!
  17. anotherone
    Jetta, I hope you can work things out (regarding your child) without spending money on lawyers. Being a single Mom is not an easy thing...assuming you will have joint cutsody you being the primary. Whatever you do do not let your ego and emotion takes over. After the sepration, U will be seeing this guy for many yeras to come. It is important to do your very best to make peace with this guy. Good Luck
  18. anotherone
    The other thing is that..my sister husband told me that he saw us together in his dream. We just laughed about it.. I am just going to leave it at that...
  19. anotherone
    Do you have any kids ? how about property ? Good luck. Do u think u can go to counslor with him before you finalize ?. What is the main reason u want to divorce this guy ?
  20. anotherone
    oooooooh, hold on....I can not tell ex wife that I saw her in mydream. It does not sound good. What I wish to create is a great team between us towrad the need of our child. Well, being friend is very hard... we two diffrent life. I can only hope to be feel that way in the future.
  21. anotherone
    I got separeted from my wife over two years ago... recently, I kept seeing her in my dreams. like spending time togther..or I see stuff like us spending time with our child. We do not talk a lot except about our responsibilities. I am not sure if I want her back....To be frank i do see myself leaving with her again ....she is a bit stubbrn and will not show any of her amotions. any comment with wired and upsetting feeling I have ?
  22. anotherone
    Thank you Clodhopper... I Think I can be her friend. She is really a nice girl. If was dating someone, Iwill be a very uncomfortable visit. right ?
  23. anotherone
    It was clear that ..The dinner was an excuse to see u. You did the right thing.
  24. anotherone
    I used to keep in touch with my ex gf once in a while. I wish her happy Birthday, return her call whenever I get a chance…She usually calls to say hi. I loved this girl once and she is the one who broke it off. I told her I love you, but if that is what you want fine. No hard feeling..her reason was she was not with me 100%.. Now she wants to come to see my new place to visit. She even told me the date. I never image creating a friendship with my ex. I know I can not call her on Friday night to go to a movie or a bar like I do to my buddies…etc. I just do not understand why she does not mind coming over and act just as a friend. In the past we were unable to resist each other…The temptation is so high and I have to say she a very attractive girl. The problem is I do not know if I can control myself form touching her or pushing away from her advance… Do I want this girl back ? I am not sure . However I do not want any relationship based on physical . She is 27 and I am 32. How can you resist this kind of temptation? or unrealistic friendship ? Should I cancel the visit ?
  25. anotherone
    My frined..... Show her that you care... Take her to a dinner, open the door for her, get her flowers, A box chocolate....etc.. ,,Write a note when u give her stuff... good luck
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