SummerBreez

SummerBreez wrote: 1.) Choose a career and go for it. Job security 2.) Take care of your body. Its the only body you will ever have in this life time. The effects of smoking and drinking do catch up with you as you age! 3.) Make investments. IRA's, stocks/bonds, real estate, savings acct., etc...build that nest egg for the future. 5.) Never date anyone you wouldn't consider marrying. (I learned the hard way and live by this religiously). 1. No. Do not go for career. Go and get a degree first! Job security is a fickle thing, do not worry about it now. Get all education you can get and after that you will automatically find job security. 2. Definitely yes. 3. Investments at 24? It sounds good, but I kinda doubt she should focus on that at 24. 5. Date all of them, one date will not hurt! You gotta learn who you like and why al7: Its not your job to critique other people's opinions on this topic whether you agree with them or not. Its not very polite. You didn't post this topic in the first place.

First off, just be up front and honest to your parents about your relationship with this man. Brace yourself for some negativity. Most parents don't want to see their child involved with some one that much older. Take this from someone who was in your situation. The age gap may not seem so bad now, but in ten years from now you will be 35 and he will 60. A senior citizen in every way. Plan on taking care of him if his health should fail. Having children with a man this old is another main factor to think about. Will he be physically active enough to play ball with the kids? Will you still be physically attracted to him? If I could do it over, I wouldn't have married or had a child with a much older man. I wish you the best of luck!

I for one do not like uncircumsized. The skin is bothersome during love making and oral sex. I don't find it as pleasurable for myself vs. having been with men who were circumsized. I don't like the way it looks with the added skin fold. The penis looks much sexier when a guy is circumsized not to mention the hygiene thing. Just my opinion.

How true you are. We are constantly growing and learning from our mistakes.

In a real relationship, jealousy will only kill your love for each other and break down the relationship. If you are trying to pay him back, remember two wrongs don't make a right. Jealousy is a weak emotion that will get you no where. Been there, done that....

I have arachnophobia. Any variety of spider will send goose bumps down my spine and make my skin crawl. There is something about the way they look,,,the way they crawl, the way they spin webs to snare their prey. Ooohhh,,,just the thought mortifies me.

It sounds like you just need someone to talk to. Maybe you feel a bond with him because you both share depressive thoughts. Being around a depressed person will only bring you down. You need to be around someone that will have a positive and happy influence on yourself. Someone who will lift you up and be supportive of your needs. You need to be happy with yourself first before you can be in a healthy relationship with anyone.

It sounds like you want to get back with your ex. I would back off and let him come to you. The saying goes "absense makes the heart grow fonder". If he still loves you, he will call you eventually. Good luck!

My advice: 1.) Choose a career and go for it. Job security is the most important thing you will ever have. 2.) Take care of your body. Its the only body you will ever have in this life time. The effects of smoking and drinking do catch up with you as you age! 3.) Make investments. IRA's, stocks/bonds, real estate, savings acct., etc...build that nest egg for the future. 4.) Take advice from people who have been there, done that...grow wise from other peoples mistakes. 5.) Never date anyone you wouldn't consider marrying. (I learned the hard way and live by this religiously). 6.) Makes decisions wisely, use your time wisely and hopefully you won't look back at your life in 20 years with any regrets.

If you are married to this man, alarms would be sounding. But don't do anything drastic just yet. You have every reason to be suspicious especially since he denied the emails. Keep your eyes and ears open. I would definitely try to follow him. That will be your only way of busting him if he is seeing the ex. Good luck..

Since this guy is obviously just after sex and seems emotionless, I would dump him in a heartbeat. He is basically just playing you along and secretly hoping maybe that you will give in to his sexual need. Cuddlying with you is the first step. Friends don't cuddle.....unless, you have been friends for years and truly know his intention is just friendship. Just my thought...

Ask yourself this...has he ever given you any real reason in the past to not trust his word?? Trust has to start somewhere. It is the foundation in which lasting relationships are built on. Proceed with caution though. You haven't given us much detail as to why he is asking you to trust him. For me, I think it would depend on the situation. Be careful.

Thank you so much for all the great advice. I agree, you cannot put a dollar sign on love. But I signed the prenup to show him that I was not marrying him for his money or assets. He did have a beautiful home when we met along with some expensive assets. I had no house or top dollar assets per say. That is why I agreed to the prenup. Anotherone - My husband does not have children. I have one daughter from a previous marriage. If he were to die today, probate would take over. I am sure his family, especially his sister who has children, would be there waiting to collect something. I would have to get an attorney to help me attain some of his assets, but I don't think I would get them all. DN - Thanks for all those replies. I appreciate them. Have you ever been so much in love, that you trusted that person with your heart, soul and yes your life? I never thought he distrusted that much. In general, we have a great relationship and we love each other very much. I truly hope we can work things out. I will let you all know what happens, when it happens....

I will cut through the chase and get to the point. I will try to be brief and short so please bear with me. My husband and I married four years ago. At the time we met, he had been single for three years and had went through a bad divorce that lasted 2 1/2 years. In the state I am from, it is law, that after ten years of marriage, all assets are divided equally 50/50. His exwife got 50% of everything they had while they were married. In his opinion, this was not justifiable even though they were married for 21 years. At the time we met, I was married, getting ready to file for divorce. Against my wishes, I let a friend pressure me into meeting my husband. My friend said I could use a friend and this guy would be great for me. We met, fell in love and were married nine months later. I agreed to sign a prenuptial agreement before we married This prenup was 27 pages long. A friend of his, a female attorney agreed to review it with me (for free) and explain what was contained in the 27 pages. When we met, she hadn't even looked at the prenup. She did leaf through the pages and told me "it basically says you get nothing if you get a divorce. I assumed it meant "I would not get any of the assets he had before we were married". I had leafed through the pages but could not really understand the contents. Prenups are full of legal jargons and phrases that are very confusing to read. I just never thought he could be so selfish and untrusting of me. Anyways, I signed it. I wanted to marry this man as I was so much in love with him. It wasn't until four years later, that I came accross the prenup in the safe. I started to read it and realized it contained much, much more. There was a page that stated I would not be entitled to collect one cent if he were to pass away. I decided to take the prenup and have an attorney read it. His words were "in all my years of practice, this is the most one sided prenup I have ever seen". To make this brief, he stated "You are completely wiped out from 100% of everything." It was like a ton of bricks fell on my head all at once. I had been betrayed and lied to about what was in the prenup. I didn't marry my husband for anything but love and signing the prenup should have proved that. At my request, he has agreed to have this prenup ammended. My question is how much should I ask for after we have been married for ten to twenty years???? Is 35% to much?? I am feeling cheated and frustrated. I cannot continue in my marriage unless the prenup is ammended. I would rather be by myself then live a marriage that is a lie. I help my husband and work by his side only to one day walk away without a penny IF A DIVORCE SHOULD EVER HAPPEN. The decision he makes will either save our marriage or we will divorce. What do you think??? I really need some advice here.