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Here's what me and my boyfriend do: I will let him ejaculate inside of me *with a condom on, of course. Always* only within a week and a couple of days after the end of my period because I'm not ovulating/the rist of pregnancy is nill. After that time, I have him withdraw, with the condom on. Unless your girlfriend is on birth control, etc. I think this is a safe way to go until that time. And just an added comment in reply to what someoen else said about the shot... I have hear nothing but stories of weight gain. And no one wants that. She should just stick to the pill if that's what you guys end up doing is going for BC.

It could be different for certain people, but in my experience, it hurts alot the first time, and after that, a little more, and the next time it's fine. I agree with your friend.

I will go within the next couple of weeks, but I mean to say I cannot just go now since I just got back. So I figured I'd post out of curiosity, to know what to expect if it really is ovarian cysts.

I suspect I have them. I cannot see a doctor for a bit because of my busy schedule in college. But this is really on my mind alot. I know none of you are doctors. Or maybe one is? But I'm just curious if someone could let me know if you think this could be what's wrong with me, or if you personally have had them, the actions that need to be taken, if it could make me infertile, etc. And plus, who knows if someone else is suspecting them too and reads this. That's why I don't hesitate to post because it seems like everyone finds someone on here who has a similar situation. It's good to know you're not alone. Hence the name of the forum.... I'm rambling =\ My reasons for believing I have Ovarian Cysts: +For years I have had pinching pain near my ovaries in between periods. For years. Maybe this could mean that I keep producing them and they go away on their own since it's been years? I'd say it's been 4 years that this is happening. The pain only comes when I'm moving around, even just a bit like walking for a long distance, or standing for a while. +My period gives me HORRENDOUS cramps. I'm doubled over in pain. It's horrible. +Sometimes intercourse is uncomfortable, but not all of the time. Not to be too graphic, but I do tighten after a day-- just a bit, so maybe I'm getting it confused with that because I don't feel the pain where my ovaries are.. but it's almost like it's at the cervix. I never told a doctor because I always thought it was my apendix, and they felt my stomach, all of that, and I dismissed it. And I'm realizing the pain really is just not where my appendix is and it's my ovaries.. It's hard for me to explain what I mean by that, but I'm just trying to clarify why I haven't been to the doctor for it yet.

I think that because you're so young, unsure and not interested, that you should break it off with him. You don't seem to be ready to settle down yet, and that's a good thing at your age. Or any age. Or maybe he's just simply not the one if you are ready to settle down. You should just let him know exactly how you feel. Tell him and say "you know, I'm feeling like things are getting a bit dull here, and I'm wanting to break it off with you. You and I can both have fun with other people." etc. If you're willing, there's no reason why you two can't be friends afterwards, too.

I am in the same situation as you. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. The past 2 years he has been so busy with work, every day of the week, and going to classes at night. He does not call me all week long, and I only hear from him maybe once or twice a week. I see him that much, too. Basically, you and I are in relationships where the guy is just too busy. People seem to think it means they're not into you, and well, it's been going on for 2 years in my 5 yr relationship, and if that was the case, I think it would have been over long ago. You just need to accept this fact, and it's SO hard to. Your boyfriend is just busy and he's focused on work. There's actually alot of guys like that out there, and I've been meeting girls who's boyfriends don't call much, and guys who don't know why their girls must hear from them so much.

You should probably try something else. After at least a month if a face wash is not working for you, it may never.

Is there any way she could see a therapist? Or anyone who you could talk to that could arrange for that? Or are there any councelors at her school? I'm not sure what happens when you call police about it, because I've not heard of someone doing that and their result, but it is an option-- absolutely. She sounds so attached, and just the breakup could rattle her up in a bad way if that's how it is.

If that relationship is completely over with, just keep it around until you feel as though you've lost the feeling of sentimental value, and toss it. Never look back!

I agree with an above comment that she has learned that by threatening her own life, she can get what she wants from you. She sounds like a real attention seeker. I don't know enough about her to say this next part, but I will-- she doesn't seem serious because of being an attention seeker and having learned she can manipulate you by threatening her life. thereforeee, I wouldn't worry about her really ending it. HOWEVER, you can never be too sure about that. I think you should just try to tell her parents. They can at least set her up with a therapist if she really is serious, and to maybe get this little act of hers to stop. She's putting you in quite a situation here.

Whatever happens, it's up to you, and you will be the only one to blame. It's not his fault that he's charming and you don't think you can resist him, or whatever it is that you see in him. I don't understand how it could possibly be that hard for you to just forget about this other guy if you love your boyfriend so much. You need to understand what it is that you're doing and getting yourself into. Forget this other guy. You shouldn't have to go as far as getting someone else to stop you from going anywhere with him, either, because you need to be mature and do that yourself. It's also not fair to your boyfriend that his girl is thinking about another guy and doesn't think she can help herself in such a situation. I think what would really help you is to sit down and try to imagine what if you did get together with this other guy and how much it would destroy your life with your boyfriend. I think your problem is not knowing what you're getting into. You may not realize the extent of it, and you should do some serious thinking and maybe then you can come to the conclusion in which you'll forget this guy.

I think it's good to go for it-- but not with a girl who is taken. That girl has a boyfriend, and for alot of people, going to a dance with someone just as a friend who is already taken is unacceptable. It's like a "legal" cheat. Alot of times, it's the same with chatting over the phone. Since you like her, it's just different doing those kinds of things as friends, because you may not notice it, but you could be acting more than just friendly, and your intentions could also either come off wrong or you may not notice yourself getting too close. It could also turn into one of those things where the girl is confused and doesn't know who to choose-- the boyfriend or the friend. I can't help but notice those kinds of things happening between friends in which one is already dating someone.

You never really know if that's how it went down. Maybe he was playfully saying it and she decided to make it sound like rape because she cheated on you. You never know with these things. I think that the important thing is to be a friend and help her out and see if rape is really the case. And if it is, then you need to bring it to the police and take it from there. If rape is really not the case, then you need to ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who has a crazy ex that will pop his business into your relationship. Because he apparently has to the full extent.

That's a very good idea-- try doing that. Since I'm female, and well.. do not have facial hair, I'm not sure if your facial hair has something to do with it or not. You should try out different facial washes until you find one that isn't too drying but still works, and wash your face 2-3 times a day. That's what I do. When you wake up, sometimes in the afternoon if you've touched your face (you should avoid touching you face) or have been out or are sweating, and when you go to bed. Also, drink lots of water-- that helps as well.

Going to a dance with another girl while having a girlfriend is NOT a way of being a nice guy. That's being a scumbag. Let him know, but you may want to use nicer words than that since he's your boyfriend. There's no excuse for him having to go with that girl. Take care of it right away.

What are you asking for, colored contacts? Because regular contacts never look fake since they're see-through. But if you really do mean just regular contacts then Prosite 38 and UltraFlex7/14 are very comfortable. For colored ones, I have only had Acuvue, and they were relatively comfortable. But realize that colored contacts will never look real up close, and are also uncomfortable most of the time.

It's SO much easier to start a conversation when you're the one getting the call. I always have people call me first because it's just easy. He is definitely shy, but even people who aren't shy can be when initiating a phone call. Also, he might think it's your turn to call and wants to receive a call from you instead of the other way around.

My doctor suggested I go on BC for my cramps that I get during my period. Will this really help? The pain is so intense, I cannot even explain it. I can't move, I'm in agony, it's aweful. I'm trying out a prescription medicine first (will have to wait until next month to try it out, though), but if it fails, I'm wondering about BC pills.. is anyone on them specifically because of bad cramps, and does it work? How about your appetite, did it increase? Because I know that's one thing that can happen and I'd like to avoid it, but I'm curious either way. And also, what kind of side effects do they cause? I would much rather hear from personal experience than the ones they list on commercials.

I think you should leave it be and focus more on the present day rather than the future. He may even be playing a mind game with you by talking about a future wife, because even I have done that and talked about a future husband to try to get my boyfriend of 5 years to warm up to marriage somehow. Your boyfriend may not have the same intention with it-- maybe he's just looking for some kind of reaction from you. Maybe this applies also to his feelings-- he may just really really want to be sure that who he marries is the right person. It could be you! But don't pester him about it anymore, just let it be. I'm trying to go at least a year without mentioning it (I whave mentioned it maybe once a month to my boyfriend, and then alot recently which caused alot of commotion because I came off as pressuring) It is causing problems by talking about it so much, or even talking about it at all, you know? His response to what you say about marriage with him wasn't nice, but every boyfriend says things that aren't nice, and so do girlfriends. Just let it go for now; that's what I think would be a good idea.

In response to some commenters: First of all, no matter what, if I have doubts it's going to be considered a "trust issue." I really do trust him, but it's that whole "what if" sort of thing. I read posts on here alot where guys cheat on their girlfriends and they didn't see it coming, and had no idea. I'm just paranoid with "what if" it happened. I don't know about the whole dancing with other girls/guys when you are dating.. I could never do that because I'm not like that, and I don't think it's right. It's like flirting in my eyes, and by dancing it's almost a way to make it "okay." One thing that works out about him going out drinking with his guyfriends is that he calls me when he gets home (yes, at 2:00AM-3:00AM) and I never even asked him to. But it's cute and he's cute/funny on the phone when he's drunk (I don't know if that's sad or not, haha..) Plus I know he's home okay if he calls. If he goes to bars I am expecting the same thing to happen most of the times at least. I'm more afraid of it being a weekly thing. I'm hoping he never goes to clubs... but it's more of an option once he's 21. He never dances though, not even at a Halloween party we went to so I hope that's a reason to keep him off the dancefloor unless I'm there. To the comment above mine, he is a little bit the same way as yours sounds. He'll tell me to go out and do whatever I want and he doesn't care. I do not understand why he'd say that, and I hope someone will clarify why he would say to do whatever I want. He doesn't invite me out with his friends, too but he already explained why and it's because he doesn't like it when people bring their girls.. but they do so why can't he? I suppose it's more so that he has time alone with the guys.. but at least once in a while. Because out of the 5 years of dating him, I've only hung out with him and his friends twice. But I'll call him, someone will ask him who it is, he'll say it's his girlfriend, he wont shy away from saying "I love you too" which he almost never ever says.. so I guess there's no problems. He just likes time with them away from me. Maybe that's how your boyfriend is, too, even if it's with just one person.

I'm curious as to how many people's boyfriends or girlfriends go out with their friends to clubs or to bars. Soon my boyfriend will be 21 and I know he'll at least be going to bars. I'm not sure how I feel about it yet. But I'm wondering if anyone's S.O. goes to these kinds of places with friends, or if there's any way to get accross that you're not happy with it. I know I wont be happy with it.. I have trust but I am very paranoid of everything. Just the whole being drunk out with friends and other females around.. also drunk. I know if I talked to him about it he'd go once in a while, but he'd still be going. And one day I will be going too, so maybe he'll be worried about the same thing, even though he has nothing to worry about.

I'm curious: What disagreements/conflicts do you have with your significant other? I was looking around the forum of course, but it's more like big situations, not little things like "oh they don't like when I do this" or that, etc. It always seems to me like people have this sort of "perfect relationship" but then you get to talking with them about it, they have realistic relationship problems just like everyone else. I'm curious what other's here have problems with. I also feel like I'm all alone with certain things, and so does a friend of mine-- and we seem to be two girls who think the same and have the same kind of conflicts. You sort of realise just how NOT alone you are, and it's almost comforting in a weird kind of way. I hope this isn't out of line-- you don't need to answer if you don't want to, obviousely.

hmm seems like you're giving him a bit of a hard time with this. By PJ's he could have meant just kicking it in boxors or something like that. You know-- just like how some people call soda "coke" or "pop". Just a different way of saying it. It all means the same thing in his case-- nightwear. Anyways, if he's tired after not much work, well *I'M* tired after doing next to nothing some days. It could have been one of those days for him. He could be feeling preassured by you guys. He might even find you all boring. Basically, give him some time alone, then see if he wants to hang out. Just ask him nice without pressure. Just ease him back in. And if he still doesn't want to hang out then that's it... Oh and.. you shouldn't slam the phone up on him. If a friend of mine did that, I'd say it was their loss, too.

If you two have only been dating a month, then I'd say just drop him now and save yourself the heartbreak of this happening again in later, more serious times in the relationship.

While I agree that you're young, it's not impossible for this girl to be "the one." And I say that because I started dating my boyfriend when I was 14, and we're still together 5 years later. I never expected it. It's possible, but don't get your hopes up because if anything were to happen and you two broke up, you'd be so much more upset than if you weren't planning on it lasting so long. So basically-- live in the moment. Try not to wonder about how long it will last. This could also help it last longer by it influence your decisions in things to come.