Losted32flower
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Lately, I've been worrying about falling in love. I'm still young, 18, but I'm afraid that I'll never fall in love with someone or never find a soul mate, or somebody who is my "other half." I used to believe that we're all meant to find someone who completes us but that's changed. Probably because I haven't had any good relationships yet. My first boyfriend cheated on me; the next guy who was interested in me was also seeing someone else. I don't want to stereotype, but a lot of the guys I've encountered, are just simply not interested in the type of romance that I envision. It could be because I'm still young and have only been involved with young guys, but then could it be reality? Is it going to take me years to find someone? Nobody can honestly answer that. I'm just afraid of never falling in love. I'm also afraid of putting myself out there, my time and my feelings, because there's a good chance that I'll get hurt again. I don't want to end up being alone. I'd just like to hear any opinions on this subject. Has anyone been where I am? Any advice?
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Yeah, the headline says it. ... I'm starting to like one of my guy friends. I know it's a bad idea. I don't know what to do because he has a girlfriend. I don't want to keep on liking him because it wouldn't be healthy for our relationship, but I can't help but feel attracted towards him. I'm getting jealous of the attention that he gives her. Please help, I don't know what I should do. Should I spend less time with him and try to find another guy? Telling him about my feelings would proably hurt our relationship or make it weird. Thanks.
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I was just wondering what everyone out there thinks about guys and girls just being friends. People often say that if you're good friends with a guy, he has already probably thought about seeing you naked or wondered about the two of you hooking up. What is everyone's take on this?
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I lost my confidence in the past few months after I was cheated on, and betrayed by a close friend. For a while I didn' t want to get involved with guys because I was so hurt, but now I'd like to get back out there. The problem is that I have a low self-esteem. I take care of myself physically. I'm fit and people tell me I'm pretty, but I think it stops when they see the lack of confidence I have. I wish that I could somehow work up to smiling more, and having more confidence but it doesn't come naturally to me. I don't want to depend on anyone to have a high self esteem. I want to learn how to do it for myself. But I don't even know where to start. . . I think a lot of us go through this at one point or another. I would really love to hear any one's advice. Feel free to respond or pm me. Thanks .
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Hi, I would jut like to hear some feedback on this from either girls or guys .... anyways, based on looks... guys are interested in me, but whenever they realize that I don't put out easily, they move on to some other girl who can give them what they want. Though these are probably the same guys who wouldn't stick around after we would hook up, I can't help but feel kind of bummed. I guess I get lost in the competition when it comes to having sex. I don't want to disappoint myself but sometimes I feel like just giving in. . . I'm a little intimidated and jealous by the other girls because when it comes down to it, they have a huge advantage over me. My ex also cheated on me because I wasn't ready to have sex and we haven't talked since (about half a year ago). I'm eighteen, and at this age, it's really common and kind of expected... if there's anyone out there who's been there feel free to respond... GUYS too I'd like to hear your perspective. I would love some advice! ( :
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I know this may sound stupid of me... I dont even know how I got to feeling so low but I want my ex back... even though he cheated on me repeatedly, lied to me and didn't care about me much. He saw me as an object rather than a person with feelings. But for some stupid reason... I still miss him... everything reminds me of him. I don't know why I'm still hanging on. What I would like to do is to brush this off and think that I can do better.. .but I'm so lonely and I've lost so much self esteem that it's hard for me to believe that. How do I get past that and think more of myself? I know that if I ever went back to him, I would always hold a grudge against him and he would cheat on me again, and again, and again. Please... I need some advice... I feel like I'm trapped in a sitiuation that I shouldn't even think of consideing. Thanks for your replies
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I didn't start to do things sexually with guys until my last boyfriend which was a few months ago. We've had nc, since we both thought it would be better for us. He moved on a long time ago, and I thought I did too but its been a lot harder for me. I guess I've been holding back thinking maybe he'd come back or something. I only cried about him twice ... sometimes I miss him but not to the point where I'll drop what i'm doing and sulk over him. I guess I need some advice now. I'm with someone else right now and we both find each other attractive but it's hard for me to get physical with him. Whenever we start kissing, I instantly remember my ex and kissing him and so I pull away. He was my first for a lot of things so I guess I relate my actions now to what we did... and since it's not intentional, I don't know how to get myself to stop remembering the past. Maybe I'm not COMPLETELY over him or maybe I just need time but it's also not fair for me to wait around and just let things happen... if anyone has any feedback or stories please reply .. #-o thanks
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Of course the first time for a girl is going to hurt. But how long does it take for it to start feeling good? My friend told me the first time she did it, it was really painful but after a few times, it started getting a lot better...
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I'm curious about what guys think of the girls who are pretty, sexy, or cute ... but who don't have much of a self esteem. Is it a turn off? Do you see it as not wanting to be with them because it might drag you down? Or would you want to take her out and make her feel more special?
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he hurt me..but i cant get over him
Losted32flower replied to pinkdynamite's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
At this age, nothing is what it seems. So you got caught up and now you're beating yourself up for it. But you didn't do anything wrong, you didn't deserve it. You gave your heart out too quickly. Lots of us have done it. So next time, give yourself more time to feel the guy out. I wouldn't rush into another relationship right now. Fix yourself first... emotionally. Talk to your friends, read up on the message boards here. Don't let this guy bring you down. [-X You said it yourself, he's not worth it. Next time, you'll just be smarter about your choices. Be strong. I'm here if you wanna talk. -
Coping with the fact that GF had previous sexual partner.
Losted32flower replied to Protex's topic in Relationship Advice
Everyone has a past and everyone has things that they would like to change but simply can't. Is it right for you to judge her for it? The less experienced we are, the more mistakes we make. You said your girlfriend regretted it. So why make her feel worse about it? If you're critical or jealous about her experience, then you shouldn't have sex yet. Sex will only make things more complicated. And if you have issues now, then they'll only get bigger later. Wait it out if you're unsure. -
young pretty smart and suicidal
Losted32flower replied to Losted32flower's topic in Suicide & Self-Harm
While that's true... I was just being sarcastic. -
I have so many good things going for me. I'm young, pretty, smart, I can make anyone laugh, I'm a good friend, but then when I'm alone and I think about myself I break down and cry. All I can think about are about my regrets, how I'm not good enough, how I'm so lonely but nobody knows or cares, how my family and I don't get along... I see the same things everyday. See how people get treated. What they do to each other and to themselves and I don't want to be part of that. It's during that moment that I just want to end it but I'm scared to. It's the easy way out. The cowardly way out. But I want to see myself smile, I want to see myself happy, laughing. I want to have a good time and enjoy being young. I don't want to be 25 years old and look back to when I was 18, 19, 20, years old and see how I wasted so much of my best years, crying, worrying, stressing out... ... damn, I wish this was just that time of the month again...