mysteryman

For starters, the rapist comment came from a commedian talking on the subject of girls starring, it was a joke. And the girl is her.. the friend didnt have anything to really do with it. She just introduced us and then tried to pull us apart. And i didnt mention this the first time, but the girl wanted us to date when we first met. She told my friend who in turn told me. And the girl even told me that she and I should go eat at this one restaurant. But like I said that was a year ago.

Hey, well im gona give you the basic history (if you want more of the story ) This girl and I had a mutual friend. And my friend let it slip that the girl thought i was cute. And we started talking on the internet and hit it off great. But my friend didnt like it and it got akward and we haven't really talked in a while just a little here and there, and shes done some fairly weird things lol. For about a year this went on. But this whole time I've still held feelings for her. Anyhow, we are both in a club together, and it was travelling to an amusement park thats about a 4 hour ride. I sat in the dead back, and she sat in the middle. We didn't talk on the ride down, and while at the park she yelled at me once, because i was riding with this guy, who she thought was hot lol (we both dont know who he is he's from far away). Than right before we left the park, I talked to her and she was laughing. (She always thought I was hilarious). Anyhow... We got on the bus to go home, and I was enjoying some music and she kept looking back, and I mean a lot. I compared it to other people and she was doing it very frequently. Than I was showing a couple girls some stuff I had on my PSP and she flat out started starring at me. And I kinda casually starred back for a second or two.. But she kept starring at me eating her caramel apple. Than she started moving her head to see me better, like bending it around the seat. To be able to look at me. And I'm still trying to play the every once in a while look back at her. I kinda started trying to hide and she kept moving her head to where she could see me. Than like Robert Deniro on Meet the Parents she points at her eyes than at me. Im still at a loss for words and am like ok. Than she kinda cooled it a little, and than she yells at me and goes, you better not do anything bad I have eyes in the back of my head. Than someone complained of an odor twice and both times, she asked me if I had "pooped my pants". Of course I replied no. Than she asked if I had any hard candy because her friend could do a trick with it, all I had was chocolate and gum. Than this other girl beside me started talking and it kinda ended it all. But that went on for a while.. I added her on icq again. And started talking again, and I'll post the convo Me(10:08 PM) : hey Her (10:13 PM) : hey Me (10:13 PM) : and hows the only girl i know who can dance with one shoe on doin? Her (10:14 PM) : hush...good Me (10:14 PM) : lol thats good, and how was your mothers day? Her (10:15 PM) : good.. did i freak u out on friay? lol Me (10:15 PM) : lol nah, caught me off guard yes, but you didnt freak me out.. it was actually pretty funny Her (10:21 PM) : ooh ok Me(10:21 PM) : did you think you did? Her (10:21 PM) : yeah Me(10:24 PM) : lol, im still a little curious what it was all about, but it takes a lot for someone to freak me out _Her (10:26 PM) : i just did Me (10:27 PM) : lol k, sorry if i acted a little weird to it, im not too good with a pretty girl starring at me. Because theres a thin line between a guy starring back, and possible rapist lol Me (10:34 PM) : and did that freak you out? lol Her (10:35 PM) : nah bbl tho Me (10:35 PM) : k And she hasnt relpied back to my IM's since and that convo occurred on sunday night. Yesterday it said she was typing but I never got a message. So I dunno, this girl is 1 year older than me and 2 grades higher. And she is really pretty and Im alright but still. I dunno, what do you all think? Thanks for reading. And I apolagize about the lenght Mysteryman

Hey, I dont know if there is really any advice to be given but I'm gona tell you my predicament. The back story im gona try to summarize it to the best of my ability. A friend of mine let it slip a girl liked me, i started talking to her on the ent and it went great but the friend got mad over it and shot it down big time. We still talked on the net a little, and started seeing each other in person (not on a date but at school and stuff like that) we often would make eye contact, and sometimes talk, it just felt amazingly akward. Well a year has passed since we first met, and we still see each other around but we never talk, more like ignoring actually. And on friday my business class is going to an amusement park. And one of my best friends who im gona be running around with wants to be hanging out with the friend who told me about the girl, and the girl will be with her. I think that made sense?.. And I guess I dont know how to handle it, we haven't talked in months. And I really wonder if she could still have those feelings? She about a year older and 2 grades higher than me. And is a really good looking girl. Im alright, and a lot of people like my personality. But Im just afraid of what could happen. What if my friend semi-ditches me and her?. And what if the girl has a guy with her. There I'll be. So I guess I really dont know, Ill be honest, shes been the hardest girl for me to ever shake. It sounds kinda pathetic but its true. I've tried pretty hard, but I guess I just dont know what to do. Im considering if the opportunity comes to tell her the truth and, that I wasnt trying to be a jerk, just that I had feeling for her and it was hard to talk. I work in a funeral home, and know that life can change in an instance at any second and wana tell her ( I probaly wont tell her the second part about the funeral home and all). But I guess Im just really nervous and semi scared about it all. Thanks for reading Mysteryman

Hey, I dont know if there is really any advice to be given but I'm gona tell you my predicament. The back story im gona try to summarize it to the best of my ability. A friend of mine let it slip a girl liked me, i started talking to her on the ent and it went great but the friend got mad over it and shot it down big time. We still talked on the net a little, and started seeing each other in person (not on a date but at school and stuff like that) we often would make eye contact, and sometimes talk, it just felt amazingly akward. Well a year has passed since we first met, and we still see each other around but we never talk, more like ignoring actually. And on friday my business class is going to an amusement park. And one of my best friends who im gona be running around with wants to be hanging out with the friend who told me about the girl, and the girl will be with her. I think that made sense?.. And I guess I dont know how to handle it, we haven't talked in months. And I really wonder if she could still have those feelings? She about a year older and 2 grades higher than me. And is a really good looking girl. Im alright, and a lot of people like my personality. But Im just afraid of what could happen. What if my friend semi-ditches me and her?. And what if the girl has a guy with her. There I'll be. So I guess I really dont know, Ill be honest, shes been the hardest girl for me to ever shake. It sounds kinda pathetic but its true. I've tried pretty hard, but I guess I just dont know what to do. Im considering if the opportunity comes to tell her the truth and, that I wasnt trying to be a jerk, just that I had feeling for her and it was hard to talk. I work in a funeral home, and know that life can change in an instance at any second and wana tell her ( I probaly wont tell her the second part about the funeral home and all). But I guess Im just really nervous and semi scared about it all. Thanks for reading Mysteryman

Sounds like you two have some really good chemistry. It's always good to get along. Theres only 2 problems i can think of about getting along too well. The relationship can get dull, and you may break up out of nowhere, because you cant really see the warning signs. Not that those will happen but their risks. But I say go for it.

Well if you could get her phone number you could talk to her that way. Or email and on msn if she gets the chance go get on a school or friends computer. And be careful dating online. And a neat thing to do would be to send letters, obsolete but still they mean a lot more than an email. But I dont know how she'd react to asking her for her address. Anyhow good luck.

Well, perhaps loosen up a little. And its not unusual for people to date for 6 months and not have sex either. It just varies from couple to couple. And dont get to distraught if things dont work out. Im sure you'll find another. And be careful believing rumors. Their the root of a lot of evil

Spring weather has weird affects on people, especially when it first starts. Especially if you have allergies. So that may be part of the problem. And suicide is never the answer. But cry if you haftoo it usually helps. Hope ive been of help.

Work for both, so incase you cant get one you have a plan b. That'd be my advice. The second one may also be serving as a breathe of fresh air. After liking that one for so long, another one comes along, and takes the first one off your mind a little. But since their friends also proceed with caution. Hope i helped.

Hey man, I understand your problem. And relate to it big time, Im in a similiar boat. But Id recommend adding her on an instant messenger service like aim, yahoo, icq, etc. That helps a lot, because its a lot more relaxed. And also, if your friends with her friends you can always ask them to assist you. As hard as this is (trust me i know) your probaly going to haftoo approach her. Usually once you get past the first step or two it gets a lot easier. Anyhow I hope I helped.

teach me your ways obi-wan.

Try to talk to her, but sometimes people cant be saved from themselves, Ive encountered that several times, unfortunately. But good luck,

He may be shy?.. A lot of guys including myself are. And I say go for it, it's always a breathe of fresh air when the girl goes first.

Set up plans, go for it. Hesitation can be a real enemy. Try to find out what she likes but basically, food, movie, coffee, bowling..etc.

Thanks for your advice, thats what I was thinking too, proceed with caution. Just for the record she's 14. So theres not an age gap or anything. Anyhow thanks for the advice. But should I call her sometime?.. I dont wana make it weird between her and my sis. And she has yet to log on to icq?.. i dunno?

Might aswell, I have the same problem of waiting, but I say go for it. She'll probaly think your just shy and that why you waited so long?.. And if she says no, hey plenty more out there.

Wait a little longer, with it being the holidays and all she may be busy. But if in a day or so no reply than you can say your computer has been acting weird and didnt send an email or 2 to some people and wasnt sure if she got urs?..

Hey, happy easter Ok well here I go, I have a 13 year old sister. She has a friend, I had heard of her from my sister before. My sister even told me that she had said i looked cute. (not the first of her friends lol). Back to the story, she had her friend over friday, and i kinda talked to her on the ride home a little. Got her laughing several times. Well I went to my room and watched a little tv. Snuck in my sisters room and startled them a little. Went back to my room a few mins later I came back (it was around 12), well I started hanging out with them a little. Even talking to her bf on the phone just joking around. Well my sister has bascially 2 rooms and a bathroom. She went in the other and got on the phone. Well I just started hanging out with her friend. We talked and I had her laughing a lot , several times she mentioned how funny I was. I watched her shop on the net. And her bf was trying to get her to do stuff with her and I talked to her about it and helped tell her bf off a little(they were talking on icq its like aim). Watched tv. Until 4, so for about 3 1/2-4 hours me and her were hanging out. It went really well, although a couple times she was like dont watch me drink and stuff like that but Im pretty sure was kidding?.. There seemed to be chemistry. She didnt want to go to bed until I went too. Anyhow the next morning I got up it was kinda late lol, I fixed them a couple pizzas and helped give her mom directions. She later left, and my sister told me her friend thought I was really hot. (My sister also told me it wasnt rare for her friends to say that lol). Anyhow her friend is really cute, and I wana get to know her. To be honest I'd like to date her, she added me on Icq, and on there is her phone number. She's also in a 2 month relationship, and apparently its far from healthy. But her bf is 16 and seems kinda crazy and I dont want problems. So I guess Im trying to plot my next move, any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks Mysteryman

3 weeks is a little fast. I had a teacher who married his gf after meeting her 4 weeks before. But give it a little more time. If you move too fast you could be seeking a divorce.

Revenge is always tempting I know how you feel. I found myself in a situation kind of like yours but a lot different. What I learned is, if you like the friend go for it. If you dont, than its not fair to the friend. And as hard as this is if she doesn't want you forget about her. Theres plenty more and maybe if she's not the center of your attention she'll be interested in you again?

ok thanks guys, i appreciate the advice i really do. One other thing, she hasnt been replying to my IM for the past couple days..... even if she's online or has an away saying "I'm here".. which is somewhat disturbing. Anyhow thanks again for the advice. P.S. when i said talked I meant almost dated, and I'm a freshman.

Yah it's annoying but not a big deal. Just talk to him about it. P.S. I hate most of that stuff too.

Hey guys, I've found myself in a bit of a dilemma, its all centered around me and a girl. We first got to know each other back in the spring, and we hit it off good. We both knew of each other through friends and I had heard she thought I was cute and I thought she was stunning to be truthful. I kinda lied a tad I'll admit but what was I supposto say oh I know you think I'm cute?... I mean I didnt lie much but it was all I could do. Anyhow the friend we knew each other through got real mad at me and the thoughts of us dating. So that put a damper on it, although the girl made mention to both me and the friend that we should hook up. But this put a damper on us and we kinda backed up, she got her a bf which lasted a week and talked to another guy. But we still talked a little. Then we started going to the same school (shes a year and 2 grades higher than me), we saw each other more and more we rarely talked though. I suffer from nervousness quite frequently. But we still kept in touch through the internet which is how we started meeting. Anyhow we didnt talk for a while she ignored me, and she had her a boy problem and all. And she started talking again, and talking at school a tad. She actually tripped me one day kidding around. Anyhow I'm trying to decide if I should make a move.. I've liked her for a long time and she usetoo like me but I'm not sure if she does now?..... Any tips?........ Thanks

Ok.. Im gona sum up the story fast.. my friend accidentally told me her best friend thought i was cute. Her friend is 2 grades higher than me and 14 months older.. anyhow moving on. To put a long story in a sentence.. My friend backstabbed me and told the girl not to date me. The girl and I remained friends through summer (this happened in spring) and now we go to the same school. I see her everyday several times. But Ive never really talked to her in person.. At lunch she sits with her friends I sit with mine. We come in close contact sometimes but never talk. Like yesterday I walked over to my friend (the one who backstabbed me) and gave her a piece of gum and she stared me down the whole time from me getting up and walking down this walkway to me leaving.. and today I walked by and she saw me and quickly turned.. and we for some reason dont talk.. and I dont understand why. Its actually akward I see her and its like I panic and this never happens to me.. I did talk to her once in person and it was at a game but it was very brief and she started ignoring me telling her friend a story.. Its not that we aren't social we both have a lot of friends and all and we're both soical and talkative but just not to each other?.. Any how Im confused.. lol But thanks for reading.. Thanks Sincerly Mysteryman (for a longer and harder to understand but more detailed post link removed

Ok theres a back story to my situation and Im gona sum it up quickly because thats not the point of this post. Simply put, one of my best girlfriends accidentally told me her best friend thought I was cute. We had never met before but I knew of her and how pretty she is. She's 2 grades higher and a little over a year older than me. (14 months) Anyhow I had just been through a break up and a big burden I had been talking to a girl I should have stayed away from.( I never did anything I never met her).. Anyhow back to the story, I added her on icq and I made progress I acted like I didnt know she knew who I was. And she mentioned going out sometime then my friend found out and was mad. She told the girl to date older guys and stay away from me. Anyhow to make a long story short this happened a few months ago and me and the girl have stayed friends and all and we came close to dating and she's had a bf or 2 and I've remained single....... Then I saw her face to face close face to face. It was the first day of school and she looked amazing.. We didnt talk it was lunch and we both found out friends and that was it. The one time I had a good opportunity to talk to her was at the fair, but when I saw her my friend (the one who backstabbed me) comes up and starts leaning on me with her elbow on my shoulder and that just made me completely nervous and couldnt think straight. So there went that I tried again at a football game but she didnt hear me.. So I tried once more to talk to her I asked her about something and then I asked how she was and she ignored me I even said her name is gona ignore me..and she laughed and that was that.. I just dont know what to do. She ignored me on icq for a few weeks but is talking to me again and all that. But i just dont know what to do I cant talk to her.. I over complicated things and cant do it for some reason.. And simply put Im crazy about her.. shes a great girl, really pretty, and fun. Shes just about perfect for me.. but I just dont know if I can re-kindle what was once there and now maybe gone?.. Any suggestions? I still dont know why my one friend did me the way she did she usually helps me out and I help he out we've never dated and simply put shes out of my league shes the most popular girl in my grade?.. anyhow thanks Sincerly Mysteryman