mysteryman

In theory you shouldnt care what ur friends think.. but in reality its a big deal. I have a feeling theres something in her past you dont know about? If its a reason of her not being cool or something but if its that shes fooled around or something bad then. Stay away because ur friends are right.. you shouldnt date her and it would ruin ur rep. Plus if they dont like her and you date her.. ur gona hear about it.

Ok here I go, Im gona give you a quick sum of the story.. One day in class a friend of mine (a girl) goes im gona give this pic of you to her friend. I didnt know her friend but I had seen a picture of her before and found her to be pretty. Anyhow my friend said that her friend thought I was cute and she showed me a pic of her and i said that i thought she was pretty. I waited a day or two and then added her on icq. I said that my friend had made mention of her before, but i failed to make mention i knew she thought i was cute. Well over the weekend her and i made a connection, she even told my friend that she may haftoo hook us up. And my friend went ballistic and told her to not date me and told me she thought it was weird me being a freshman and the girl being a junior. So I still talked to the girl and then she ignored me for a week so i just deleted her off my list.. turns out she was sick lol.. Anyhow over the summer we talked a little but not a whole lot.. once or twice a week. See all this happened back when i was an 8th (in march) grader and now im in the high school with the girl.. and everyday i see her. We usually look at each other if we see each other in the hall way but we dont really talk. Ive only talked to her 2 times and it was briefly she actually ignored me once. To be honest with you I still have feelings for this girl.. And want to be with her.. but its hard for me to talk to her and it feels really akward when im around or see her. Neither one of us speaks to the other one. So I dont know if she's made at me or what? We made a good connection off the bat but it feels like its dwindling now.. She often ignores me on icq. So I just dont know.. We have no classes together except lunch and are in 1 club together. Shes still best friends with my friend. And its not that my friend and i dont get along.. my friend actually adores me and im usually helping her out with stuff. To be truthful shes the most popular girl in my grade. But i really wana be with the girl but I just dont know if its still possible? I feel like im fighting one heck of an up-hill battle. And I really dont think i have a chance with her.. shes really pretty and im not too shabby but not at her level.. so I guess any suggestions anyone? Thanks Sincerly mysteryman

Ok here I go. I met this girl about 2 years ago. We are in the same grade and go to the same school. We just had never had any classes together. We hung out a lot. Walking to and from this 1 class almost everyday. We had a good friendship going it even got to where I was eating lunch with her and her friend. And on the last day of school i left the building and she stopped me and hugged me. But summer came and well we didnt talk much. School started back up we were now in 8th grade. I broke my leg right at the start because of a football accident. Anyhow in 1 class we always sat togehter even if she had to fight for the seat true story lol. But that was the only class. Until my geography teacher moved me behind her. Her and I talked quite a bit. See my geography teacher even had something like a scavenger hunt he only let people do it like 3 times. And it was only small groups of like 2 or 3. And the girl asked to do it and chose me to be her partner she said so she could ride the elevator? lol.. (plus 1 of my guy friends begged and ended up going). See I was allowed to leave class early, and often she went with me. The next semester was the best. In P.E. she would often ask me to walk with her. (I was the only guy who she ever asked ). Often in between classes she would grab me and want me to walk with her. And we walked to a lotta classes. She'd walk by and say hello to me and none of my other friends. Although my guy friend often said she was trying to make him jealous?.. And she did a few times ask me about him like wheres he at?.. We ended up sitting together in Spanish. Often we talked and she would laugh. like real often. 2 or 3 times the teacher told her to stop flirting with me. But the teacher she likes to kid a lot?... But the semester went good. Prom came around and she went with that 1 friend. And I went with this other girl who I didnt even ask. I didnt even wanna go. My date didnt do me right and the girl went and had words with her and offered to have pictures with me. Where it gets bizarre. I know a woman who does pagaents. And she asked me to be an escort and I did it because the girl was gona be in it. To make a long story short she won. I was probaly the best and youngest escort there. Plus her friend saw me. An older girl who I didnt know. The girl told me accidentally that the older girl thought i was cute so I talked to her a little bit. The girl told her not to date me and to date older guys. She was actually kinda mad. I didnt act mean to her I did ask her why and she said because she thought it was weird.......... When it comes to other girls she always disencourages it. She also just recently broke up with her bf. (of 2 months).. A funny story Saturday night I was walking from this store to this restaurant with some friends because I was gona go to a lock in. She called me and goes I C U. And we talked for a second and she drove by and waved. So in the end I dont know. She is the most extrodinary girl I know. See she is also the prettiest and most sought after girl in my grade. She asks me about my best friend a little. But I dunno.. she's a confusing girl then again aren't they all?.. Her and I are really good friends and I dont wana screw that up.. Truth be told I dont think I have a chance with her. I mean Im not bad loooking but I just dont think im enough for her. But thanks for reading it. Im sorry for it being so long. Sincerly Mysteryman

I know some Taiwanese girls and they act just the same as American girls. And dont over complicate it, go berry picking.

Ok here I go. I met this girl about 2 years ago. We are in the same grade and go to the same school. We just had never had any classes together. We hung out a lot. Walking to and from this 1 class almost everyday. We had a good friendship going it even got to where I was eating lunch with her and her friend. And on the last day of school i left the building and she stopped me and hugged me. But summer came and well we didnt talk much. School started back up we were now in 8th grade. I broke my leg right at the start because of a football accident. Anyhow in 1 class we always sat togehter even if she had to fight for the seat true story lol. But that was the only class. Until my geography teacher moved me behind her. Her and I talked quite a bit. See my geography teacher even had something like a scavenger hunt he only let people do it like 3 times. And it was only small groups of like 2 or 3. And the girl asked to do it and chose me to be her partner she said so she could ride the elevator? lol.. (plus 1 of my guy friends begged and ended up going). See I was allowed to leave class early, and often she went with me. The next semester was the best. In P.E. she would often ask me to walk with her. (I was the only guy who she ever asked ). Often in between classes she would grab me and want me to walk with her. And we walked to a lotta classes. She'd walk by and say hello to me and none of my other friends. Although my guy friend often said she was trying to make him jealous?.. And she did a few times ask me about him like wheres he at?.. We ended up sitting together in Spanish. Often we talked and she would laugh. like real often. 2 or 3 times the teacher told her to stop flirting with me. But the teacher she likes to kid a lot?... But the semester went good. Prom came around and she went with that 1 friend. And I went with this other girl who I didnt even ask. I didnt even wanna go. My date didnt do me right and the girl went and had words with her and offered to have pictures with me. Where it gets bizarre. I know a woman who does pagaents. And she asked me to be an escort and I did it because the girl was gona be in it. To make a long story short she won. I was probaly the best and youngest escort there. Plus her friend saw me. An older girl who I didnt know. The girl told me accidentally that the older girl thought i was cute so I talked to her a little bit. The girl told her not to date me and to date older guys. She was actually kinda mad. I didnt act mean to her I did ask her why and she said because she thought it was weird.......... When it comes to other girls she always disencourages it. She also just recently broke up with her bf. (of 2 months).. A funny story Saturday night I was walking from this store to this restaurant with some friends because I was gona go to a lock in. She called me and goes I C U. And we talked for a second and she drove by and waved. So in the end I dont know. She is the most extrodinary girl I know. See she is also the prettiest and most sought after girl in my grade. She asks me about my best friend a little. But I dunno.. she's a confusing girl then again aren't they all?.. Her and I are really good friends and I dont wana screw that up.. Truth be told I dont think I have a chance with her.

Go for it..

I must agree with kskm. And dont doscrominate guys by the age. Yes most grils like older guys i know. But Ive had older girls like me. All Im saying is personality isnt made up by the age.

Sounds like you may have a chance. But about the mariage thing, either she was being truthful or trying to make you jealous. All I know to saty is play it by ear. If opportunity comes take it.-(the words on Sun Tzu).

Try talking to them. Alcaholics anonymous may be able to help. This may sound weird but. Maybe try to switch the alachol with non-alcaholic stuff like near-beer or grape juice. If it continues on and on you may haftoo leave.And suicide is never the answer. You have but 1 life to live. Dont waste it.

uh.. i dont see her. Ive never met her in person. (like i said). And I all ready have her number but i haven't called her.

Could your gf come to you? Or your friends you and her get together? If not just trying tell your grandmother in a clam way how much you wana be with her . And hopefully she'll cave in.

If you want the complete back story link removed . but I dont know how to ask this 1 girl out. I dont know her that well Ive been talking to her for close to 2 months on ivq and have seen her in person but not met. I know her through one of my best friends who may have screwed me over on this whole deal. But what would be a good way to ask her out with out embarrising myself or ruining our friendship. Thanks for reading.

Raven we all have those moments in which we question our sanity. You seem and probaly are fine.

I kinda know what you mean. it may have to do with concentration. Try to focus and it may help?

Talk to her for a minute or two and then she'll be comftorable talking to you. And it'll work, but make sure you have some good convo starters ready. And jokes help.[/code]

Ive been talking to her since march.

In my opinion not really.. but loosen up a little bit. A beer or 2 wont get you drunk. But here acting the way she did wasnt right and was probaly trying to get attention or make you tell her. And wearing a condom never hurts. But its ok dont worry about it. Just focus a little more on the communication.

Thanks I appreciate your alls advice. I asked my friend and she claimed she didnt have the talk. But she did tell the girl that she wasnt gona hook her and me up. And to date someone else.. which is messed up because I am really good to her. Anyhow Im just having trouble figuring out how to ask her. Any advice? Thanks Mysteryman

Hello, One day in class a friend of mine pulled out a picture of me, she was joking with me because it was a horrible picture of me. And she said she was going to give it to her friend. Not knowing her friend I asked "why" and she replied "because she thinks your cute." I had seen a picture of the girl before and thought about how attractive she is. Anyhow back to the story my friend asked me if "I thought her friend was pretty" and of course I said "yes." That was the end of it there all though it baffled me to how her friend even knew of me. Because she's in the high school and I'm in the middle school. A few days later I got my friend to reveal how her friend knew of me and it was because she had seen me in class once and that when I escorted my friend in a beauty pagaent that she had seen me there. Anyhow I waited a few more days and thought why not so I added her on ICQ. I didnt reveal what I knew I actually pretended like I had no idea that she knew me. And it went real well, we had a great time chatting and she even told me that I crack her up. Even saying that when ever I get a craving for this one restaurant to tell her and we'll go together. So I was feeling pretty good til school the next day. My friend found out about it from the girl. And she wasn't very happy about it. Saying "I cant believe you added her" all this and that but this is where it gets interesting my friend told me that her friend told her that she may haftoo hook us up. (me and the girl). And my friend was ticted so she told her that she shouldn't date me and to date older guys. And told me she was gona havea talk to her friend. (yah i know what nerve lol) Anyhow shortly after I took a week off from talking to her deleting her off my list because she was ignoring me and she got a bf. Turns out she was sick and not on icq but she did have a bf. I apolagized for what I did and soon after they broke up. I think me and hers close? but im not sure. She flirts with me a little bit, and talk atleast every other day. So Im thinking about asking her if she'd like to do something sometime? But there is an age gap Im 14 soon to be 15 and she's 15 soon to be 16 and 2 grades higher than me. So I dont know? They do say love is blind to age but I just dont know? Plus for some reason she has been ignoring me a little on icq. I dont know why. We'll have good conversations 1 day and her not reply to me the next when her away says here. So I dont know. And if I did ask her Id most likely be double dating with the girl who showed her to me. Which would be really akward. But thanks for reading Sincerly Mysteryman

I understand Ive run into the same problems unfortunately. You can try to work it out and tell her how you feel. Not an argument or fight just a talk. If she turns it all on you, defend yourself and make your point just not in a bad fashion. A philosopher once said "Once a point is exagerated so far it has no meaning." I know you dont wana hear this but if I were you I'd prepare for the worst and thats breaking up. She sounds like shes not appreciating you and all the tension may come down to where your gona haftoo break up. On another note if her friends are saying that maybe you should go for 1 of them? Also another note if you wana stay with her try the talk but also try to spark up the relationship. Girls love flowers give her some of those out of the blue. Its never failed for me. But good luck. And have fun at Cedar Point, its a great amusement park, Ive had the pleasure of going there several times. And you had better bring a change of clothes if you ride the top thrill dragster. Mysteryman

A philosopher once said all i know is if you want to be with her. Go in moderation, dont act like you really want to be with her but would like to. All I know to do.

Well arcades aren't usually where you see people making out. Because its not designed for that. Usually all the corners have games and the managers dont appreciate it because it makes the arcade audience feel akward. Id suggest somewhere else.

What sparks my attention into my girl friends are when they look nice. Yes as shallow as that may be its true. Its often the unexpected outfits that do it. Because guys get bored of the same old same old. So look your best and flirt a little. Plus a nice smelling perfume is always a nice touch, nothing too strong of course because guys hate that. But I caution you not to over do these tips. Because it can always backfire like cranberry said.

Bowling or coffee would be good. I dont know if you 2 are into them but video games/arcades are also fun. But expect jealousy from your bf.

Thanks for the advice. I usually flirt back or make a joke depends on what she says. My friend is a little bizarre and can be jealous but she's the hottest girl in my grade and one of my best friends and has a bf so I have no idea. Yah Im still kinda nervous about the age thing but I might aswell try. Thanks again for the advice, I appreciate it. Sincerly Mysteryman