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Thanks! I deffinetely feel better. That doesn't sound all that bad. How long does it take to get the results of the pap test? Do they get it done there while you're waiting or do they have to call you? I've given a urine sample at this same doctor's office before, and they got the results to me in about ten minutes so I'm wondering if it'll be like that or if the pap test is more complicated for them to evaluate.

Tomorrow I am making an appointment to go to a gynocologist and get an examination/pap test for the first time! I'm really nervous about it. I'm a virgin and I'm 20 years old, but I've been having some messed up things happen this year (bleeding between periods, super short periods, etc), so I feel like I need to go. I heard you are supposed to start going when you are 18 regardless of whether you've had sex or not. So. . . oops. I feel like I should get started now (especially if something serious is wrong). What happens? Can someone please give me a step by step look at what is going to happen and give me any tips to make it easier? Thanks.

I had my first when I was eleven. It wasn't because I was thinking about sex. I didn't even know what sex was then. It was an accident, and I was scared because I didn't know what had just happened. So, yeah, I can deffinetely believe those girls who said they had one at 8 years old. . . It's not about sexual arousal in children, it's more about curiosity at that age.

Hey, thanks guys. I looked up the site, but it really didn't seem to fit. Looking at the feelings of being powerless and connecting them into my waking life seemed to work though. I found several things this dream could represent. I'm starting counselling in about a month (not for the dreams). I suppose I could mention these nightmares, since they are really starting to interfere with my life. Thanks for all your help!

I need some help. I am having this nightmare. I've been having it for almost five years. It's becoming more and more intense and it's happening more and more. I dream of getting shot. It started back when that kid shot up his school in California. I must have been. . . 15 I think. I'm almost 20 now. Anyway, I started to dream of school shootings. I knew this was directly related to the news, because it was on the news all the time. But then it didn't go away. And it wasn't just school shootings anymore. I started to dream about being shot everywhere. At home, in abandoned buildings, parking lots, my friend's houses. Literally everywhere. And the shooters turned into completely random people: my sister, my ex-boyfriend, and Bruce Willis just to name a few (yes, laugh if you must ) I have these dreams on a monthly basis. But I had one about two weeks ago, and last night I had another one- actually two in a row (way to ring in the new year)! And lately they've been so much more intense. Instead of being able to run and hide, I'm actually trapped with the shooter in a room or something, and they are pointing the gun at me, and usually they end up killing me. I feel literally exhausted when I wake up. Sometimes I wake up crying. Most of the time I just feel sick, and I can't recover for the rest of the day. I don't know what these dreams mean. But I can't take it anymore. I keep expecting them to go away, but they never do. If this was just a run-of-the-mill fear of dying, it confuses me that all of these dreams involve guns and that I'm not killed by some other weapon or event. I'm not really very scared of dying anyway, and usually I don't die in the dream. It's just a feeling of being powerless and knowing I can't do anything to save myself. And it's just so terrifying. If anyone can offer any insight, I'd be really grateful! Happy New Year!!

Thank you so much to everyone who replied. I really appreciate you praying for me. I don't feel very close to God, but I pray all the time. Sometimes I think he's just rolling his eyes when he hears me praying. But I don't know what else to do. There is nothing that can physically get me out of the situation I am in. I don't want to talk about it, because it's too long and I just don't have the energy to type it all out. But, yes, I will continue to pray. I just think it helps if people closer to God are praying too. So that's why I asked. I ask God for forgiveness, but then I keep messing up. So that's why I just think he's tired of me.

Does anyone on here believe in God? I need you to pray for me, and mean it. I know God will only listen to those close to him, which I am not. I need someone to pray for me who is close to God so that he can hear my prayer. Please. Just pray that I can survive long enough to get away from here. I just need a few more years, and I don't know if I can go on because things are so hard, they are just so hard. I'm so tired. I just need a break from everything I am living with. Please, please pray this and mean it. I am really scared about myself. I need God to answer my prayers, but he doesn't listen to me anymore because I am a bad person. So if you believe in God, and are close to God, please pray for me and mean it. It doesn't have to be long, but please take this seriously and pray seriously. Thank you.

I have cramps from hell. Seriously. You probably have them as bad as me, judging by your post. And if you do, don't bother taking Midol. It works well on emotional PMS symptoms, but for me it does nothing for the pain. I take two Advil liquid-gels, and they finally get around to working about an hour later. So I don't recommend that either. For me, taking a *really, really* hot bath or putting the heating pad over my stomach helps. Also, movement makes it better too. Sitting in the same place makes it sooo much worse. But basically, I just have to wait it out. Perhaps you will be lucky and Midol will work. Try that first, then try my stuff. Good luck hun.

Okay I've got a question about female orgasms. I'm probably going to sound stupid when I ask this. But after I orgasm I get sort of just this throbbing sensation. It almost hurts, but it's mostly just weird feeling. I have heard of "afterschocks" but I was under the impression that they were more orgasms. This is deffinetely not another orgasm. It's just a throbbing feeling that goes away after a few seconds. What is it?

There is a very, very small chance that she could have gotten pregnant. I'd say if there was soap in the water, it probably killed the sperm right away. And besides that, sperm are not expert swimmers and I seriously doubt they could have made it through the water and up her vagina to fertilize the egg. I give it maybe a 1 or 2% chance of pregnancy, but in the future be careful all the same.

I think I was eleven or so. It was definetely an accident. I was just sort of playing around then BAM. Orgasm. (I don't remember being aroused or anything. It just happened.) It scared the hell out of me. I had no idea what it was, and I was just in shock thinking, "what was that? oh my goodness, what WAS that??" I didn't try it again until a year later. After that, I didn't care what it was. I just knew that it felt great, and I wanted to do it. I did it a few times everyday at first. And now I just do it about once every few days. The funny thing is, I didn't even know what I was feeling was an orgasm until I was about thirteen! I felt really freaked that I started so early, so I'm glad to find out it's perfectly normal. I've been kind of worried about this on and off throughout the years, like if something was wrong with me or maybe something happened to me that I couldn't remember to make me think about sex so early on. This post really laid those fears to rest. Thanks~

~Spirit's Away~: Yeah I deffinetely agree. There is a time when you have to decide for yourself whether the health risks are worth it or not. I am slightly overweight, but I am healthy. I will never allow myself to become dangerously obese. I just don't like it when people look at me and say "go on a diet" whenever I am perfectly healthy and my only problem is that I don't look like a supermodel! Basically it feels like they are telling me how to live my life, when I am happy with the way I am and do not feel it is necessary to be "hot". I used to kill myself trying to lose weight and be beautiful. I have a hard time losing weight because of my genes, but I was anorexic by the age of twelve. I was tired and cranky all the time. I couldn't concentrate. I was sick and fainted all the time. This is just not acceptable to me. Now that I am older and more mature I realize that this is a big problem for young girls (and just girls in general) trying to live up to something that doesn't exist, trying to please everyone but themselves and in the process hurting their bodies MUCH more than a little extra weight ever could! And I get really mad whenever someone's self esteem is destroyed to that point because of fat jokes and rejection based on weight and/or appearance. . . But I see what you are saying. No, it is never good to be obese- but only because of the health risks involved! A little extra weight never hurt anyone, and shouldn't be a problem in a relationship!

Um. . . sorry guys, but nobody needs to change their physical appearance for someone else. Nobody needs to change ANYTHING about themselves for someone else, unless that behavior is damaging to the other person (abuse for example). We will all be old and wearing Depends someday- all of us in the same "seniors only" line at IHOP. We'll all be ugly, and most likely obese. So get over it. I have a great boyfriend, and neither of us look up to society's rediculous standards. You think we care? Actually we took the time to become best friends before dating, falling in love with each other's personalities so that we would KNOW we would be compatible when we are too old to look "good" anymore. That's what is really important. Sure I drool over hot guys like any other girl, but most of them are jerks. I'd rather have an ugly guy who treats me nice than a hot guy who thinks he's the best . Some girls can't lose weight easily. Some of us were born with bad genes that make a diet an excruciating experience of starving ourselves just to lose one or two pounds. It isn't that easy to tell someone to lose weight. You don't know what that person's been through, or how their bodies are, or if obesity runs in their family. Honestly, I just feel really sick whenever people judge others by their appearance. I just feel sick. . . There. Didn't meant to preach, but this runs very close to home and I feel strongly about it. I had to toss in my two cents.

Well, no I don't think that's it because he is perfectly comfortable with me and the way he looks. It's only when I *touch* him. He was physically, not sexually, abused as a child by his father. Do you think that could be the reason? He says that it has never bothered him, because it happened when he was very young (1-4 years old). He just says he doesn't even think about it, really. So I dunno.

Okay my problem is kind of weird. My boyfriend doesn't like me to touch him. This is mostly when we are kissing or getting intimate. He just freezes and gets very rigid, especially if I'm going under his clothing. I've asked him about it and he just denies it or says he's under stress. Sometimes he actually pushes my hands away. I don't get it. Am I doing something wrong? What's the problem?