mysteryman

Sounds like she isnt ready, and this plot kind of happened in Entourage, one of the guys girlfriend pretended to be on her period to get out of sex.

She back stabbed me well. Her best friend who I didnt know at the time, (shes 2 grades higher than me) thought i was cute. And we started talking and seemed like we we're gona date. We talked about going out and well. She put an end to it. I never fully understood why, she said it was an age thing. But that was about a year and a half ago. And Im not trying to spin it to where it looks like she likes me either. because as Ive said she can have almost any guy she wants. And her parents like me quite a bit (her mom thought that she should have gone to our little prom thing with me and her dad was a teacher of mine) so that may help the concert idea if i try it. And your right I should ask her out in person but it's gona be hard for me to be honest. And I really appreciate your advice. its really confusing at the moment.

Sounds like the basis for cheating, sorry no affence or anything.

Hey, Im gona keep the back story kinda short because thats not the reason Im writing this. There's this girl, we've been friends for 3 years. 2 years we were really close and we didnt have any classes the 3rd year, but now we have 2 and are talking to each other quite a bit. It seemed that we could date the first year of our friendship and the second year she got popular, I've improved a lot, both personality and looks. She is a really popular girl and really pretty. Im alright but she could probaly do a lot better in all honesty. We've had a lot of odd events happen she backstabbed me with a girl, I escorted her in a pagaent, she almost dated my best friend, it just kind of goes on, but their the best ones. Anyhow I wana ask her out, I dont know if I should or shouldnt. Im risking our friendship and possible rejection. But to be honest I cant stand it anymore, Ive got to. Odds are she'll say no but I need closure. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas? I havent asked a girl out in a while, they usually come to me and it was easy lol. And should I call her ( dont do that much at all), instant message (i do that quite a bit), or in person (I never am alone with her). I just dont know.... A few more things before I go, my brother (he's 25) has tickets to see the rollling stones, she told me she wanted to go. We have a ticket for my sister but she doesnt wana go, and I could ask her to that. but the problem is, the concert is 3 or 4 hours away and we'd have to stay the night. I dont think she would wana go with me for it, but its always an option. I appreciate any and all advice. Thanks Mysteryman PS: How important is sports to a girl? (I used to play sports but I suffered an injury lost interest in sports)

Hey man, congrads on asking and getting her. (I replied to your first posts). And sounds like it's a date to me.

I've had minor back pain and a hot tub and sauna helped me.

Ok well this story is kind of hard to tell. Theres this girl, who I've been friends with for 3 years. has a little more details. We've been a little flirty and seemed like we could end up dating. But she got shot way up the ladder. And now Im better suited to try and get her. Anyhow, some friends of mine have gone out before and hung out (girls and guys), and she hasnt gone with us, I asked her once but because of a few complications it didnt work. I asked her today if she'd like to come along with us tomorrow and she seemed interested but would have to wait and see what happens tomorrow first. And Im kinda nervous on how to act, and behave. Because Im still not sure if i have a shot with her. (its really compicated between us) We're gona go bowling if we go, so Im not sure how to act. And my friend is gona be there who almost dated that girl, the girl use to ask me about him a lot, but after my little change she hasn't mentioned him once Still Im not sure, Im kinda worried. Anyone have any tips, and also since its not a date I dont know how to act about that. Its just compicated, I guess. And does anyone have any tips as to tell if I have a shot with her, like actions she does? Thanks Mysteryman

I know your asking for girls opinions, but I know me and my boys dont like male piercings and from what I can tell, most girls dont particularly care for it.

The point is, you have one life and you should make the best out of it you possbily can. Not that Im saying their correct but many religions forbid suicide. I understand depression and have an idea of what your going through but it's not worth it. Also I work at a funeral home and suicide is really rough for the family. It sounds like you've hit a low point, so just wait until it gets better. Sometimes it's darkest just before dawn.

To be honest, guys like it if a girl asks them out, so you probaly stand a better chance of getting a date than by waiting. I wish more girls would be like you lol.

Great man, I wish you the best of luck. I hope I was of some benefit. And just invite her and go from there.

Long distance relationships are tricky. But it seems you have it down pat. And I wish you the best of luck but the biggest problem is, out of sight and out of mind. But from the sounds of it, you should be fine.

Yah but sometimes the line can be blurry, but to be honest if you like her you should know.

Give it some time, you'll get used to it and meet new people. Hold in there and it should be fine. As Churchhill said when your going through hell keep going.

No affence but you may have a name known for it?.. Guys gossip a lot to be honest. And it could be the people your hanging out with. And you should make guys work for it, it's the easiest way to tell what their after. And Im a guy and what I want is a meaningful relationship so its not entirely fair to stereotype guys.

That's kinda odd, I just posted something kinda similiar to that. Do you think about her a lot? What do you think about her? Do you think she's pretty? If she asked you out what would you say? This is gona sound dopey but does she make you feel really good inside? Answer those and it should help.

Hey, Im really not sure what advice Im looking for to be 100% honest. Im just confused to be honest. Theres this girl (yah i know its cliche), we've been friends for 3 years, 2 of the years we were real good friends. Last year we had no classes so we didnt see each other any so as a result we weren't very close. This year we have 2 classes together so we're seeing a lot more of each other. And over the summer I got contacts and some really nice clothes in New York (Im from VA) so I look a lot better. Anyhow I wana be more than just friends, and we seem to really enjoy being around each other. And lately we've been making more eye contact and smiles and laughs and stuff like that. And she use to ask me about a friend of mine a lot but she hasnt mentioned him at all in the last 16 days we've seen each other. But the flipside is she's one of the most popular girls in my school, and some of the top guys have and do compete for her and I just dont feel I have much of a shot. And I really dont know what to do, I had an idea, my friends sometimes get together on the weekend and I was considering asking her to go. I fear rejection and loss of friendship and akwardness a lot. Anyone have any ideas to tell if she likes me, or what I should do or anything. To be honest Im just confused. Thanks Mysteryman PS theres a long history between us i skipped in the hopes of saving time.

Hey, Im sorry for your loss. I work at a funeral home and see things like this a lot. It's best if you show her that your there for her. And theres a 99% chance she'll cry a lot during the service. And if she does cry, hug her or put your arm around or something comforting. Theres no real perfect way for dealing with it unfortunately. And again I'm terribly sorry for your loss and wish you the best of luck.

I usually use the how was your day. And usually start with hows it goin and later say what you into or whats up. Movies and music and recent events are always good. And so is a good joke.

Nope not in the whole time I've known her. I have both her cell and house number. I was actually planning on tomorrow trying her cell. And see if she would like to go and grab a bite to eat with a couple friends of mine. And I'm not on her ignore list if thats what you mean.

Is ignoring someone as bad as I think it is?.. Here's the backstory if you want . But anyhow this girl is ignoring me on an instant messenger. And I think I have a chance with her but it's just really demoralizing. I wana try and ask her out but it scares me. We hadn't talked for months on it and than we talked some in person (read the history if you want it all). And talked one night on an IM and for about a week and a half she has been ignoring me?... She has had computer problems in the past but I dunno. Thanks Mysteryman

Heres the history of it all . But ill to break it all down real fast to save you all from reading it. This girl and I almost dated a year ago. She's older, and really pretty. Anyhow we didnt talk for a long time, and we talked a little the other day and lets just say she acted really odd (its in the history of it all). Anyhow she's been ignoring me on instant messenger, and I wana ask her why but at the same time I dont wana be a jerk. We didnt talk on it for months and than we talked once after the odd incident and that was it? To be honest I wana ask her out. Any Ideas? I have her home phone and cell number but I've never called her before. Anyhow thanks Mysteryman

Hey, Well here's the story. A little over a year ago I went to a mexican restaurant for spanish class. They threw a sombrerro on me and to be honest I looked amazingly stupid and a couple of people took pictures. Well a good friend of mine told me that she was gona give it to this girl. I asked why because I didn't know her (I had seen a picture of her) and she told me that the girl thought I was cute. (The girl is 2 grades higher and a year older than me). Well I started talking to her on ICQ and we had chemistry no doubt. And the girl told me that if I ever felt like going to that restaurant again she wanted to come. Well my friend wasn't happy at all about all of it. And told me that she was gona tell the girl not to date me. And that the girl has said that my friend may haftoo hook the girl and me up. Well I asked a person or two what to do, and some said go for my friend. I really didnt know what to do. So i just kinda cooled it. I still talked to the girl on icq but i dont know. Well when school started I began seeing her around. Most of the time we just looked at each other almost as if we didn't know what to do. I made a few attempts to talk to her and she did too. But it was always akward. She occasionally pulled a prank or two on me like tripping me or pouring a little water on my back. And then the other day I went on a trip to an amusement park. She went too and was on the same bus. I was in the dead back of the bus, she was in the middle. We got to the park I ended up riding one ride with a stranger and the girl said I was lucky because she thought he was hot. And I didn't see her for the rest of the day. Until the end in which I talked to her and the friend (one who introduced us) and I kept them both laughing. On the way back, I was sitting alone (I had been sitting with this one guy but he moved to be with this girl) listening to my ipod. And I began to notice she kept looking back. And I would kinda look back, trying not to look weird. Than I started showing some girls in front of me some games I had on my PSP, and the girl just started starring right at me. And I would kinda look back but not a lot. Then she started eating a candy apple and starring at me. This went on for a while. And I kinda tried to hide from her and she kept getting to where she could see me. Bending her head and moving it. And at one point even pulling a robert deniro from Meet The Parents with the eyes on you with his fingers. I was kinda like ok?... Well a little time went on and I went back to doing something else. And someone complained of an odor and she yelled at me and asked if I had pooped my pants. And she did that twice both times I said no. And a little later she asked me if I had any hard candy (this one person can do a trick with it) and I said no I only have pretzels and gum. And then this senior started talking to me and then the girl says my last name, you better not do anything bad I have eyes in the back of my head. And soon the ride was over. She didn't do any of that to anyone else but me. I added her on ICQ again (she had been ignoring me since the fall), and we talked. Heres the convo Me(10:08 PM) : hey Her (10:13 PM) : hey Me (10:13 PM) : and hows the only girl i know who can dance with one shoe on doin? Her (10:14 PM) : hush...good Me (10:14 PM) : lol thats good, and how was your mothers day? Her (10:15 PM) : good.. did i freak u out on friay? lol Me (10:15 PM) : lol nah, caught me off guard yes, but you didnt freak me out.. it was actually pretty funny Her (10:21 PM) : ooh ok Me(10:21 PM) : did you think you did? Her (10:21 PM) : yeah Me(10:24 PM) : lol, im still a little curious what it was all about, but it takes a lot for someone to freak me out _Her (10:26 PM) : i just did Me (10:27 PM) : lol k, sorry if i acted a little weird to it, im not too good with a pretty girl starring at me. Because theres a thin line between a guy starring back, and possible rapist lol Me (10:34 PM) : and did that freak you out? lol Her (10:35 PM) : nah bbl tho Me (10:35 PM) : k And yah I shouldnt have used the rapist comment but it came from a commedian. Anyhow, she has been ignoring me on ICQ but she may have computer problems. And the other day I was walking up the stairs and she hit me in a jokingly way. I guess what im trying to get at, does anyone have advice as to what I should do. I really like her, and do you think I have a chance. Some people think I do, others dont. She's really pretty and Im alright but underpar in my opinion and she's older. I almost wana comfront her about ignoring me but i dont wana be a jerk. Thanks Mysteryman

I found myself in a situation like that. And I am so glad I didn't date the girl. Trust me it is not worth it, it gives you far too many headaches. So I say stay away or only be friends.

All I can say is time heals all. Almost everyone has that fear at one point or another. But you'll probaly get over her eventually.