My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old. We go to the same college and have been dating for two years.
He came from a very poor family, lived in a run-down trailer with his mom and sister, who barely held a minimum job in their lives. He also doesn't have a car, and use my car as his legs. At times, this bothered me because it made our dating life unpleasant and inconvenient, but for the most part, I love him and I overlook the problem areas.
Recently however, I have discovered a rather unfortunate difference between us. I am a very motivated person. I have high aspirations and I try very hard to achieve my goals. My boyfriend, however, has not had a summer job for four years of high school and two years of college. This annoyed me very much since he could definitely use the money to improve his situation.
I have nagged him to find a job this summer. In the beginning he said he would look for one once the summer starts, which would be too late, I suggested, but he still waited. Then, he started sending out applications, but didn't follow up or send nearly enough. Because of all these delays, he doesn't have a job right now, and instead sits at home watching TV all day.
I confronted him about his lack of motivation, but he said he's not going to get all stressed out just because he doesn't have a summer job.
He even said I was being too materialistic?!!!
Give me a break! Should I dump my lazy boyfriend? He is sweet otherwise, but his lack of aspirations is getting on my nerves. I feel like we are from two planets.
