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It could be the fiance being a bit over-the-top jealous and telling her to bar all ex's from contacting you... could be that it hurt her too much being your friend... tough to say. Maybe she came on here and was instructed to initiate strict NC?? Whenever I've been the dumper in the past I've always stayed away from the ex in question as I know how * * * * it is to be contacted by your ex. However she said she wanted to remain friends so I think it's a bit weak to block your number without at least telling you she doesn't want to hear from you again. You sure it's your phone in particular that's blocked and not international calls or something?
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said something that slightly crossed the line...how do you undo it?
Biffy replied to Rivpt's topic in Getting Back Together
I remember something I said to my ex right at the start of our relationship which I now deeply regret. "Hey, would you like to go out on a date?" -
Thanks for the replies guys, empathy rules. The worst part of it is that I have to see the ex everyday as I work with her... I avoid her where I can but when I do see her most of the time it rips me up inside. Meh, I'm keeping myself busy though and am generally doing ok and these setbacks like the one I'm suffering these past couple of days are becoming less and less so I know I'm on the mend. Just skip to the end already you know!?
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Hey jman... Ouch, that cou;dn't have been pleasant. May I ask who did the dumping?
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Hope you all had a great Xmas. Mine was a bit up and down, with thoughts of my ex still plaguing me at times, and I've been in a slump these past couple of days. I hear a lot of you advising people to "let go" of their ex. I really don't know how to do that, I really don't. I've analysed everything a thousand times over about the relationship, seen things I maybe should have handled differently, red flags I ignored during the relationship, realised how selfish and emotionally immature my ex is, learnt my lessons about myself and taken into account how oddly and coldly I've been treated by her in the wake of the break-up. There are countless reasons why I shouldn't want her back but I still find myself wanting her back despite myself. I know none of you can offer any magic pill or solution to make this all go away but was wondering if you can advise me on "how" to let her go.
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Well I hope he didn't send the email and learned from other peoples lessons.
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The party-poopers!
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I really couldn't say how long it stays in the system for... are you a sports star or something?? Can I have an autograph if you can - Xmas is setting me back some cash and I could do with something to see on eBay! I'm not encouraging "drug use" but I've found hallucinogenic experiences innvaluable. To me the essential experience is like a mystical feeling of oneness with the universe. If all human beings experienced this just once, human consciousness would change for the better... maybe?
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Try reading "Food of the Gods: A Radical History of Plants, Drugs and Human Evolution" by terence McKenna. Fascinating read. I've found on some occasions after hitting some shrooms I've reached some clarity on things in my life I've been unsure about... and no, not whether or not I should eat my body weight in pizza to satisfy the munchies!
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Wow, you sure you're not sisters?
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He he, you reminded me of this rant by a comedian called Bill Hicks "I’m sure satan would have no problem conquering this planet ‘cause all the women would go, -“what a cute butt!” -he’s satan… -you don’t know him like i do -he’s the prince of darkness -i can change him...”
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I don't know a great deal about OCD but I know a fair deal about psilocybe (magic) mushrooms. I don't consider them a drug really and there's a lot of credible writing on them actually aiding/ sparking the evolution of our species. I believe a hallucinogenic experience to be very beneficial, whether it helps with OCD though, I don't know.
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Oh.... what to do, what to do. I really see two schools of thought on subjects such as this: The Blender way and the Beec way. Both sway me towards their way of thinking each time I read their views! All I want to do is not actively try to get my ex back but at the same time not do anything to harm any chances of a reconciliation. Tough.
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Wow, was there a crack pipe being passed around last night??
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Hey, Take a read of this thread. I wish I'd read it as early on in my breakup as you have the oppurtunity to.
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Broke NC, Having LC, now what?
Biffy replied to cecerose's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
Hiya, I really don't know what to say to you as I don't really know what is is you want from this guy - you sure you don't want to get back with him? I'm not so sure you're ready to be in contact with him. Read these magnificent threads by Majord, they may help you. -
I'm burning 27 but it's not my birthday, a nice lady in the office gave it to me because I've helped her out a lot recently. Hey Sandy, you seem in much better spirits, good girl. And desert, how's about all this attention for improving your self-confidence??
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Reminding you of home am I Brit?? Surely you only need to go down the apple and pears, get on the old dog and bone and call the pope in rome?? Hey Lone, sorry to hear about your ex's father... that's such a difficult thing to handle, on the one hand you want to reach out and offer a helping hand to your loved one but at the same time they no longer deserve that from you. Good news on the nephew front though... that's 2 pieces of cake I'll be mailing your way then!?
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Hello DIGGERS! how we doing today? I'm marvellous. I've got a cake, and I'm going to eat it... big time.
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Sweet Jesus, give me strength! For those of you that know my ongoing struggle with my ex in the workplace... She just phoned me "just to say hello" I seriously don't understand what part of "please do not contact me unless you have to at work or you want to get back together" she doesn't get. Her "I thought I'd say hi as we had spoken in a while" Me ".............................." Her "Unless I'm not allowed to..." Me "Not really, no. I was serious about what I said before" Her "Just guess I'm trying to defeat my boredom" Me "nice..." I've been feeling so much better recently, she must sense that and feels the need to bring me right back down or something. Plus with this sort of situation I always end up wondering if I handled it right or not, should I just allow her a little access to me to remind her of what she's missing to draw her back in? Be aloof but charming etc? Grrrr.
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Lone, you implying I'm empty and shallow?? You know me too well. How's you? MJ?
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I'm not extroverted at all, just self-assured. I hate attention-seekers, people that feel validated by others' approval etc. The empty can rattles the most.
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Maybe it's because there was a third party involved? Maybe ask her out just the 2 of you?
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What are you doing to increase yours desert? You working out, eating properly, reading, buying yourself a super-cool stud-muffin leather jacket? Clearly you're a very nice guy desert, does that in itself not give you confidence?
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Self-confidence is the easiest and the hardest thing to achieve. When my ex dumped me I felt absolutely worthless... really, I was pathetic! But I started to do things to improve myself - physically, mentally and emotionally and doing things that I enjoy and I've really turned a corner now. I'm oozing self-confidence more than I ever have. I know how awesome I am and people are very lucky to have me in their life. I know that sounds egotistical but it isn't I just really value myself. Sure I still get down as I loved my ex completely but the period of time that I stay down is getting less and less and when I feel better again I feel BETTER AND BETTER each time.