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    make sure you're sending out the right signals. If you see a guy you like the look of - lock eyes with him, smile a nice big smile and hopefully he'll take it from there.... If not, why not just approach a guy yourself and just say "hi"?
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    Hey d4g, I'm feeling you brother - I too have analysed how I behave in relationships. I think that maybe you are too accommodating? You allow yourself to be walked over a little? You should treat yourself with as much (no, actually, more) love and respect as you show your partner. If your partner does something that disrespects you or p*sses you off - tell them, don't stand for it. You should be yourself, and set boundaries and be self loving enough to walk away if your partner repeatedly disregards them.
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    Wow dude, she sounds crazy. As much as it doesn't really help to hear - you're much better off without her and you'll find someone much better.
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    How about "Die, Die, Die My Darling" by The Misfits or Metallica.
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    help

    Biffy replied to fifi's topic in Relationship Advice

    Or seductively hold his face while you're kissing... with your hand over his eyes so he has to close them! And how do you know he keeps his eyes open unless you too are 'guilty' of it!?
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    I think that's kind of stereotyping a touch! My last ex dumped right after I took her away on holiday!
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    Yeah... but they have a team of PR agents.
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    Fantastic thanks Dave, I'm really getting back to being my old self - except an immeasurably improved self. Zombiain V1.1, the upgraded zombiain!
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    Hey Orlander, I've been following your threads since I've joined. I don't have much to add except to say not to count out talking about the past here. Don't dwell on it but if you feel the need, then do vent about it, don't just bury it. Sounds like you're doing well though, keep it up.
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    There's loads of different ratios floating around like that one, I don't put much stock in them - each individual is different, if you feel ready, then you're ready! And dating doesn't necessarily equate to a long-term relationship, lots of folks just casually date for fun.
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    I feel like I'm getting there Dave. I'm feeling happy within myself and don't think too much about her anymore. Doing good. Hope all is well with you.
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    And unless you cut contact entirely until you're sure these feelings for her are dead and gone this cycle will continue.
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    You're grasping at straws here Nick, willing to hold onto any kind of relationship with your ex because you think that having her in your life in ANY form will hurt less than not having her in your life whatsoever. You still want her as your girlfriend so by pretending to be her friend will just stretch your hurt out for longer. If she's important enough to you that you want her to be your friend, be her friend... somewhere down the line. Once you don't have these romantic feelings for her anymore. Until then Nick, NC is the best way for you.
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    Nick, you answered your own question. She's using you as an emotional tampon and you're letting her. You think that hanging around and being receptive to her that you will remind her just how lovely you are and eventually she will realise her mistake and come back to you... Doesn't happen dude. I suggest you come clean, tell her you have feeling for her - give it one more shot to reconcile with her and if she says no then politely ask her to not contact you again unless she changes her mind but that you will not be waiting for her. By the sounds of it she will kick up a bit of a fuss and then disrespect your wishes and still try anc contact you... like me ex does. Do not cave Nick.... or we'll have to call you Nick Cave.... see what I did there??
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    Truth be known, I'm doing well. Feeling pretty good. I've learned a great deal about myself in the past couple of months, I've hit the gym - looking the best I've ever looked (even if you don't agree - I like the hat n' hair!) I've made plans I intend to stick to. Don't much fancy dating yet as I'm really working hard on being the best Zombiain I can be and don't need a "partner" to validate my existence. When I'm feeling completely happy within myself, then I'll start getting out there again. Having said, that if I meet someone else then so be it. Que Sera Sera.
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    Thanks, to you and Shaker. I thought long and hard about whether I should ask and what my motives were. It was genuine, her mum is lovely and just wanted to make sure she was ok. It wasn't some lame attempt to "remind" the ex how caring I am - if she didn't firgure that out while we were together, nothing I can do in the aftermath will open her eyes! She has since attempted to talk to me 3 times today, but I haven't responded. Crazy - if it were so important to her to keep me in her life the mind boggles to understand why she's dump me... Anyway, not thinking about her motives anymore - she knows the score, if she wants to try again she may contact me, if she doesn't she may not.
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    The ex phoned me "for work reasons" today and when she asked how I was I told her I was fine and asked her how her mother is... She lives on a docked boat on the south coast of England - There were gale force winds in that area yesterday so she was in my thoughts. She told me her mother is fine and then started to chat more and more... I cut it short. I feel bad as I've been ignoring every attempt of hers to contact me and now I've gone back on that I suppose, I don't want her to think I'm playing games, I was just genuinely concerned about her mother. I hope she doesn't now think it's "ok" to contact me.
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    Well that was awkward! My ex just got in the same elevator as me... Luckily there was a colleaugue in there as well who just chatted away at her. We said hello to each other and thats it. Boy, that brought back sso many emotions, was doing so well today too.
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    That's the tough part though isn't it? It's something I'm trying to do, but there doesn't seem to be any advice that will help he understand HOW to do this.
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    SuperDave, What things did you do to improve yourself in the wake of your break up?
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    Boy am I bored of thinking about my ex's intentions. Why does she persist in keep contacting me when I told her only to if she wants to try again... Especially considering I don't respond. God knows... Thinking about it isn't going to get me anywhere though, that much i know. Must let this go completely, kick her out of my head the second she pops in there.
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    Find a scary movie that's playing, even if it's an oldie in a small theatre, find out times etc...do the prep. Then say to her something like "I saw that 'Night of the scary stuff' (or whatever) is showing on (insert day here) and was thinking of checking it out, you fancy coming along, see if we can't change your mind about scary flicks?"
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    Thanks Honey I feel like I'm doing a lot better, it took a lot for me not to reply today just to ask her why she was contacting me.
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