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Well the other friend I was meeting was not a girl. It was a guy that we both know. The item she was getting for me was from a lingerie store, because I told her I was shy about going into those type of stores alone. I was thinking she was confused as well after that happened. I thought it would be a good idea to at least get to see her outside of work. Don't you think that if she was into me at all she would of said yes?

The other day I was talking to this girl I work with and we were hitting it off more than usual. Everything was going great, she even offered to pickup something for me at the mall. Well, I thought that I would take a chance and ask if she wanted to meet there later after work. I had plans to meet one of my other coworker friends there (a common friend) and someone mentioned that I was supposed to meet him at the mall later and she overheard that conversation. (I was planning to tell my friend to forget about it) Well near the end of the day she called me and asked if I would still like her to pick up that item from the mall. So I asked her if she wanted to meet me there after work. Her response, "Ok..." Then she was like aren't you supposed to meet your friend there? So just before I left I asked her again and she seemed to clam up and said no I didn't have to meet her there. She said she would pick it up and give it to me later. Things became really awkward then so I said thanks and I left. What happened? Why the 180? Did I screw up somehow? I feel like such a jerk. She's really cool and I wouldn't want to screw anything up. If she's not into me that's ok, I wouldn't mind being friends with her. But I don't want to scare her off. She seems like a reserved and cautious girl at least when it comes to going out with people. Mostly everyone there gets drunk and parties and she doesn't do that (neither do I for that matter at least not very often). Have I been shot down, is it hopeless now?

First off, hello everyone. This is a great site and I have read through some good advice, now I have a problem . (Long story) There's this girl I work with that I have become attracted to over the last 3 months. At first I thought it was a minor infatuation but has grown into something much bigger. I can't seem to stop thinking about her. I've made myself present around her more and have struck up conversation a few times. Now it's even worse since I was moved into an office away from the busy activity at work and am out of the way. I've read other posts about whether a girl is showing interest or just being friendly, I still haven't figured it out with this girl yet. I'm sick of all these immature shallow girls that I have been meeting or going out with at clubs or parties. My friends always try to hook me up with someone like that. I'm looking for a girl that is smart, has goals, doesn't feel the need to get drunk everynight to have a good time, is mature, and responsible. And BINGO this is the girl. Today we had a "moment" but that was soon to be shot down. We just started some big job and now she is surrounded by all these horny immature guys that are working on this project my company is doing. I hear them laughing and flirting and talking it up just down the hall and it sickens my stomach. Most of them have always said how they hooked up with this girl or this girl or banged this one, etc, etc. Now it seems they are all over her. Ok, so should I just throw in the towel and stop thinking about her? I don't know, but I just got this feeling like she was into me a little. I've been working out a lot lately and changed my appearance which she complimented me on. I'm trying to "grow up" and be more mature, but it seems as if this is not working. I have a couple of good friends that work back there that might be able to help me out by getting those other guys off her or find out if she likes me, but I'm afraid to tell them I like her, they may accidently tell her or tell one of the other guys one time when they're drunk or something and then I'm screwed. I know this story may sound a little jumbled together, but there's so many different emotions stirring in me and I had to vent somewhere. Today was horrible and I'll probably have to deal with this again for another eight hours tomorrow. ](*,) If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice, please help me out.