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  1. amtjrtcet
    I agree w/Maggie. He is probably use to you calling him first. Try not calling him, see what type of response you get. I know the feeling of always being the one to initiate communication and affection. It sucks b/c it leaves you feeling insecure, constantly wondering where you stand. But the fact that he does occasionally do little things to show you he cares says something. If a guy is really into you he'll get concerned if he doesn't hear from you for a while. You won't have to remind him that you exsist everyday, he'll remember on his own. The level of thoughtfulness varies from person to person, relationship to relationship.
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    Ouch, that is a tough situation. But its ok. You pick yourself back up & act like it never happened. FAKE IT. Brush it off. Show your maturity. You took a chance, and it didn't pan out, but its still going to be ok.
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    men that say they'll call and don't liars my boss love stories my ex
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    In my opinion, if your bf/gf trusts you and you know it, its harder to do something like that to betray that trust. If that amount of trust makes you comfortable enough to cheat on them, then there is something seriously wrong with your situation, and you don't deserve them or their trust. On the other hand, if there is no trust there, constant jealousy and accusations of cheating-it may make it "easier" for them to cheat, or want to turn elsewhere.
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    You could call, just to say " I realize you tried to call me a few times, everything ok?" It will give you piece of mind that there is nothing wrong. NC is the best way to heal from a break up. As long as you find out she's ok, I'd let her go asap. Not a good idea to make small talk, that could lead to conversations about the two of you & completely set you back.
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    Definitely don't let him off easy, otherwise he'll just do it again. Trust me.
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    That is a tough situation. But he may be wondering and feeling the same things about you. Can the 2 of you write to each other? I know its scary not knowing where you stand, but worrying about it won't change anything. It will just drive you crazy. You should try to make some form of contact w/him, maybe a letter. See what kind of response you get. A long distant relationship has the same chance of working as any other relationship. Good luck
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    I agree, I know it hurts but it doesn't seem like she has intentions on the 2 of you getting back together. She's moving on and stringing you along as a comfort blanket. Don't allow yourself to be treated this way. Cut off all contact with her. And if she asks why, tell her. Good luck
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    Don't do it. Put yourself in her husband's shoes. How would you feel if another man was intimate w/your wife? Even if the marriage was coming to and end. And what does that say about her values? If you really like her, and want more then just an affair, I'd try not to have much contact w/ her until she is divorced. It will be better for everyone involved.
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    It definitely sounds like her co-worker is a rebound. Has she said that she wants the 2 of you to get back together someday, since the initial break up? If not, I suggest putting away the idea of the 2 of you getting back together, not giving up on it, just put it away. Concentrate on yourself, go out with your friends, take up a new hobbie, meet new people-don't 4 get about her, just take some time to focus on you.
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    Have the 2 of you had the "talk". I mean have you both agreed that you are exclusive? If not, talk about it b 4 she leaves. If she agrees, then all you can do is trust her and patiently wait for her to get back. If she doesn't agree, well then there you go-show her the door. Don't feel abandoned, like you said, this trip has been planned even b 4 you met. I've been seeing my guy for almost 3 months, and we're pretty serious, but I'm going to TX for a month this summer, and he's goin to Vegas for 2 wks. These were also planned b 4 we met. I'm gonna miss him, but worrying about it is a waste of time.
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    Do you think the co-worker was already in the picture b 4 you 2 broke it off? Kinda sounds that way to me. But if she's never lied to you in the past, maybe she's not lying now....It is very soon for her to be really serious with someone. Its possible he's just the rebound guy. My suggestion is NO CONTACT. Obviousy the 2 of you talk for you to know so much about all the time she's spending with her co-worker. Its only going to hurt you more and slow up the healing process if you continue to communicate with her.
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    I was in a very similar situation not long ago. I broke up w/my bf of 6yrs. I had tried to break it off b 4, a few times. He always made promises of changing, that things would b better. They never changed. If u really want it to be over, u have to stand ur ground. Don't give n 2 his attempts to make u feel guilty, & he will try. I know its hard, b/c u love him, & u always will. 4 yrs is a long time to spend w/someone. Its been 4 months since I broke it off, & still want 2 call him sometimes, just 2 tell him bout my day, stuff like that. But NO CONTACT is the best way for both of u 2 heal from the break up. Its not gonna happen over night, it takes time. Good luck
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    Oh, and as to "WHY" you read so much into what he says...its b/c you're a woman. I don't know a woman that doesn't do it!
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    I agree, don't get upset by what he said. Sounds like he supports you and wants you to follow your dreams. Its only been 6 months-his positive reaction to you following your dreams is a good start to a healthy relationship. The last thing you want is someone to try and hold you back.
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    Yeah, frisco's right-the more you "plan" how things will go the more nervous you will be.
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    Scout's got it
  18. amtjrtcet
    I agree with frisco..... NEXT!!!
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    Well, if you know you're giving off these signals try doing the opposite. Men are definitely NOT mind readers. Try appearing more approachable; make eye contact and hesitate to look away. Smile at him, see how he responds to you. I get nervous too, but be confident-really, what's the worst thing that could happen? As to "why" you're giving off these negative signals, probably not really a reason "why". Just human nature to get nervous around someone you like. Those articles are sometimes directed to show us what we may be doing that makes us appear unapporachable-and sometimes they're a bunch of bull
  20. amtjrtcet
    What exactly are you doing to send him "negative" signals?
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