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I imagine there is also a trade-off between support and "pretty"-ness. I would go for the support - that way, while you may have more coverage than you would like for a few months, your boobs will not be sag, and you will be so much more comfortable!
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I think it's really important for her to go to a gynecologist. Especially since she is sexually active, and you are not her first partner! Aren't you worried about STDs? She could ask her mother to take her - she must be nearing 18, which is a normal age to go to the gyno, regardless of sexual activity.
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I have no experience with babies/pregnancy, but I found this link: link removed about the different kinds of nursing bras. There are also some "related links" on the right hand side of the page that looked useful.
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he slept with a prostitute before he met me...
sophie274 replied to head_heart's topic in Relationship Advice
I really don't think it matters much. I mean, this woman WAS a prostitute, end of story. Everyone can pick to date someone with similar value systems/morality as him/herself. Personally, if these two people got divorced, I would not date the man. -
he slept with a prostitute before he met me...
sophie274 replied to head_heart's topic in Relationship Advice
Personally, I would not date someone who had paid for sex. For you, however, I agree with the other posters - you should figure out whether it "offends" you because of the same bed, because you hate hearing about previous partners, or because it was with a prostitute. If it's just an "ick" thing and you will get over it, then you should try to put it out of your mind. If you think it is a sign of a value difference and that you can't RESPECT him now that you know this, then you probably shouldn't stay with him. -
Why does a stupid ring mean so much to me?
sophie274 replied to scarew's topic in Marriage/Long Term Relationships
I agree with Batya. Even though you are common law, maybe having an official ceremony/saying your vows in front of a witness would give you a sense of commitment, and you could exchange wedding bands ... maybe wait a bit for the flashier engagement ring. -
Well, he went last year and all was well, he did not cheat on you, you two are still together ... why would this time be different?
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Maybe she could come visit you at college one day during the week-end? That might be fun for both of you, it saves you the trip, and it's not the whole week-end. Plus that way you're not missing out on your frat's activities.
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You might mention that you would love to take a trip together as a family - they might think you're not interested anymore, especially as your sister no longer vacations with you. It seems like you might be yearning for some family time, so you could also just suggest that you have a nice family meal together, or go on an outing together - not necessarily expensive, a nice walk in the forest, hanging out at the beach ...
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Doc found a lump in my breast.. im 22
sophie274 replied to Katiebaby's topic in Health: Body, Mind and Spirit
My sister had this when she was 18. They did a mammogram, and it even went as far as the doctor ordering a biopsy - when my sister went in for it, the doctor who was supposed to do said there was nothing to biopsy! A lot of it was that the first doctor was worried about liability and so forth, even though nothing was wrong. My point: it's very possible it's nothing. Try not to worry too much, though I imagine it must be hard - I remember my sister was crying and worried sick. I hope everything turns out allright. -
From what I read in your other post, it sounds like it's actually only been about a week since you got the solution. I would wait it out a bit, and also use it less often so that your skin is not so dry.
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Hope is way more knowledgeable on this than me and gave probably give way better info. However, it doesn't sound to me as if you are getting proper care from your midwife. I am really surprised by how little she has seen you - the other pregnant women on the boards seem to have regular and frequent contact with their docs. I am also surprised she is not making more of an issue of the weight. Would you consider going to a doctor as well?
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Some tests promise as early as 5 days before your next period, so about 10 days after intercourse basically ... but really they are only about 65% effective when you do them so soon. I would just wait it out. A negative after only 10 days could very likely be wrong. Wait until it is unlikely that the test will be wrong - a week after the missed period (if there is one), or about 3 weeks after intercourse.
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That may be true, but don't you think self-hatred can be a form of racism?
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I don't particularly want to get into this because I don't think it's relevant, and it is a hot issue. My point was is that security guards are not stopping someone because they hate his/her ethnicity, but rather because many terrorist attacks have been perpetrated by people of the same age/gender/ethnicity as him, and because their goal as security guard is to ensure the safety of the travelers. That's all. As an aside, my dad, white as can be, is stopped literally every single time. I guess he looks suspicious. Oh well.
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I'm not sure this is exactly the same thing as what you are talking about, but there is a disorder called trichotillomania (hope I spelled that right!) - a hair pulling disorder. You can google it for more info (I am not an expert) but basically people who suffer from it pull their hair out, generally when they are feeling nervous or stressed, and experience a sort of physical release and calming from the pulling. People who do this also generally experience great feelings of shame when they do it. Google for much more detailed info. If that's not what you have and you are just bored - I suggest putting your hair up and keeping your hands busy. I have a bunch of play-doh/silly putty, which keeps me from picking at my face, playing with my hair ...
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But do they REALLY?
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I wanted to add, I really agree with this.
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I feel your anger and frustration, but again I don't quite understand where it is coming from. Have you convinced yourself that the above is true? Maybe it's because I'm white, but I would definitely say that a majority of people I know do NOT think that brown are scum. "Latino, mexican, arab, muslim" to me are words that just identify an ethnicity or culture, no more, no less, no stigma attached. I know I can't convince you by saying that. I just feel that you've done so much work in convincing yourself that people are extraordinarily racist that anything they do will be misinterpreted. According to what you said, your feelings of self-hatred don't stem from experiences with discrimination. Do you think you feel this way about "brown" because you are different from your family? Because of your mother's remarks?
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Can you explain this? Why is it a defect of humanity? Why is it horrible?
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I am from an area in the North East that is predominantly white. I also attend a University that many people consider snobbish, or waspy. (Honestly, the product of ignorance in my opinion, but anyway ...) What I wanted to say is that I have not seen any racism or criticism, and none of my brown or black friends have ever said anything about it to me. I think you may be projecting your own insecurities and self-hatred onto others. I could give you a bunch of examples of x black/brown person doing this, but I don't think that would help. Do you honestly think that you experience discrimination on a daily basis? Could you give an example?
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First about the parents: are you sure you would need parental consent in the state you are in for an abortion? (By the way I want to add that she is probably not pregnant, this is just to ease your mind so you know your life won't be ruined.) Some states have 16, others 18, it's probably worth looking up. I'm sure her parents might be disappointed, but in general parents far exceed one's expectations - I'm sure they will be supportive. About your relationship: I can definitely understand. It's something that I have worried about in my relationship too (I am only about a year older than you, it seems, in college also, anyway ...). If you two remain mutually supportive, encourage communication, avoid blaming each other, I'm sure you could get over the hump. And I want to add again - don't get too freaked out about it, it is unlikely that she is pregnant. Cover your bases and keep your fingers crossed.
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Hey As I previously said, pretty much any "pregnancy signs" you detect this week or next will likely be psychological, not real. For many women, the first sign of pregnancy is a missed period. Then there are sore breasts, frequent urination, problems with strong smells, and just "feeling different" - but again, because of this scare, she is likely to convince herself that she is peeing funny, to feel nauseous because she is scared etc ... I would not try to analyze the way she feels, just wait for the period to come. Also, you keep saying your life is ruined. I have asked this before but you haven't answered - had you and your girlfriend previously discussed what you would do if there was a pregnancy? From what you're saying, it sounds like you would choose to have the child (I'm just guessing). If that seems unfathomable to you, keep in mind there are many options available to you.
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Ok, the effectiveness of plan B is about 95%. So there is a 5% chance that it won't work. I think there was a poster on here who had gotten pregnant after taking plan B. So nothing is certain, and we can't assure you that everything will be allright. However, it most likely will. Secondly, 1 week after missed period = about 3 weeks post-conception for the average female. So you could probably test about 3 weeks from today. Your girlfriend might even get a period before that. Finally, I know you're stressed out. Relax. There's nothing you can do right now. If you and your girlfriend have not talked about what you would do in case of pregnancy, now might be a good time to sort that out, so you know what decisions you would make if she were pregnant. Try not to freak out everytime she gets a headache, her boobs hurt, she feels nauseous, etc ... She won't have pregnancy symptoms at 3 days pregnant, it's just stress! Next time, prepare.
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Exactly! This is the second time - time to invest in back-up, don't you think? You might also want to check you are using the condom correctly - sounds silly but there is a right and a wrong way. Two breaks in a short period of time sounds like a lot to me...