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  1. Spawn
    it took me 3 months (after breakup) to realize that it was not meant to be. Its funny when you are there going thru it, you just don't want to think you are being mistreated or things are not working out proper. We just ride with the emotions. We stop using our head and go by our heart.
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    Meeky, Hang in there.....its tough very tough, but it will get better believe me. Breakups are very very hard on people, i am going through one. My ex used to treat me very badly and she was very upfront on that. Like she can't change so why i am with her. Anyways, it sucks and it really feels very bad when we don't get the same kinda love and respect. The first month was real mess for me, things started improving once i went on strict NC. The LC(low contact) used to give me setbacks.....i have realized things will never improve and resigned myself to the fate thats it over. Try to focus on somethin else, go out with your friends, do somethin new.....you have to take care of yourself first and NC is for that. Change your room furnitures or move them around, remove the things that reminds u of him, keep them at some other place. Seriously think about all the wrong things that happened between you and your ex, write it down, go through it whenever you feel the urge to contact him. Take care...
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    yesterday it was pretty ok,today morning the radio started with Hoobastank - the Reason.......now it sucks. I love and hate that song. Brought back all the memories.....
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    interesting, you must have dated a lot to have that kinda understanding..... thats from a girls point of view or a guy.
  5. Spawn
    Hi, AznSalamando, its good you are there for your friends and i do hope you get over with this as soon as possible. I have also found breakups to be the second devastating thing to happen to someone. The first one being the death of someone you love. Anyways i am sure some people disagree..... Good luck man....
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    Jjasonn28, when i used to post here after my breakup on Jan 2nd, i was very shattered and devastated. i never slept for many days, nights scared me, the moment it was dark, and when the clocked ticked 10 PM.....I used to watch the time go by sometimes and in the wee hours of morning i used to have all sorts of problems, headache, dizzy sensation and weight loss became my friend. I still rememember postin here half asleep, tired with black circles under my eyes...total emotional wreck. I looked absolute crap. Anyways, NC did help me a bit, changing furniture helped a lot, things changed after the second month onwards. I don't get up in the middle of the night anymore, sleep more than usual. Keepin in contact with your ex hurts......i was on LC, now on strict NC for 3 weeks. Take care and stay strong focus on something else.....and crying really helps, i second that. But i have never cried after breakup.....i will have that day too.
  7. Spawn
    Hi... Hope all are doin well.... It hit me again today Why do we make things so complicated that things don't work out the way it used to be. Sometimes i feel its little immature to hold on to grudges since we have only one life and things could have been simple, with out all the dramas associated with a relationship. My first and probably the last relationship was really not what it was meant to be. I got emotionally worked up and let down a lot. I am feelin a bit relieved that its over. But somewhere i feel we both made it so hard on eachother, we could have just sit and had a chat about it. She couldn't get over her ex and i was fed up the way she treated me. The last time(i won't be hearin from her ever) she sounded as if nothin had happened at all. Anyways i do hope she has a very good healthy life. I met a very cute girl in my training thingy got very friendly but it was good of her to let me know that she didn't want to get into a relationship and she wouldn't like to marry at all. She just doesn't believe in marraige and stuff, if possible would always stay single. i get scared by such people sometimes, my first gf now my ex, also thought like her. i still remember my ex sayin to me that don't ask for commitment and didn't i tell you before dating that don't get serious about the relationship. what is it with some girls? This is second time its happennin.... I am a very happy go lucky kinda guy....become friends very soon with everyone.....perhaps should tone down my friendly nature a bit.
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    if readin those mails affects you then trash her mails. Make a filter for her mails for direct deletion My ex used to send me such stupid mails......but i had to tell her to stop contacting me. Now i don't have to go thru all those stuff. Filter is doing its work.
  9. Spawn
    well i did say make yourself less and less available to this girl, ignoring her all of a sudden would make things little awkward, well it already is to some extent. Take it slow and then finally she will realise that you have other priorities in life but it won't be easy though. i did say little bumpy ahead but things need to change here for good.
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    Like you my life totally revolved around her, gave her everything......lost loads of weight, stressed up everyday, but still stood by her. Until finally things came to an end once i realised she was just tryin to hold on to me, emotinally it was a bit draining, anyways....she had issues which i think only she can find a solution for. Being nice and being there for people is good but i have realised when it comes to personal issues nobody can help you but you yourself. I tried makin her understand she had to fight it out, work it out, get a job and get out but each and every day things just weren't moving. Well there were other issues too.....
  12. Spawn
    That ain't healthy, mate. Why don't you start doing your stuff slowly for a change. Start going to the gym, do what you feel like for yourself...hope you get it. You shouldn't loose yourself for someone. I have been in the same boat....realised little late. Good luck!
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    thanks, yup sometimes i feel little patience and adjustment is also required......well that would count in balance thing as well. But i don't understand, i have known and been hearin so many relationships that last for many years and but still somewhere they loose it, wonder what you guys have to say about those relationships.
  14. Spawn
    thanks for all the replies........some nice and very good thoughts and advices there. I am sure i will keep all those in mind when coming back to the dating scene after some months from now.
  15. Spawn
    well.....stop beating yourself over this, time to take some action remove her from your messengers, emails and trash it.....make a filter for her email addresses. Take some positive steps to moving on. Don't hurt yourself.... come here if you feel like contacting her, make an effort to help yourself to get through this. All the people out here will always be here.....so believe them and start believing in yourself. This will also pass. take care.....
  16. Spawn
    i think personality is what attracts me to a girl first.......other qualities usually follow. Beauty is not a necessity though.
  17. Spawn
    hmm rebound......u date younger people?
  18. Spawn
    So how do you people rate healthy and unhealthy relationships? what are the qualities you look for, what is it like being in a healthy relationship, perhaps the secrets or esssense of a healthy relationship... just need some pointers.... thanks.
  19. Spawn
    so anybody has a secret crush on me now who the heck is this spawn dude.... just wasting time going about my ol' posts.....saw this thread so stopped by nuthin much to do today. take care people...
  20. Spawn
    I really don't believe we can fall out of love 100% unless and until we find someone else. But you would still care for your ex even if you are with someone else. Love is strange you just have to give it time & patience......every body above said it right, you just have to focus on somethin else.
  21. Spawn
    it seems you never broke up....think its time to ask the thing what are her intentions? You are enjoyin it alright right now but it may hurt.....why don't you confront her on this? Instead of being weird and confused about the way shes going about doing her thing. You have to take care of yourself, byates5637. no offence but if its ok with you then i dunno but i really don't like it when some girls have it their way so soon after the breakup. it would be tough to move on with this kinda thing going around you.
  22. Spawn
    Some people just don't like showing emotions, like my ex she acts very practical in life but she cries when she is alone or used to cry a lot when she used to be around me. When the feeling resides they try looking at it in a different way and try to be friends with ya, now thats selfish. Hang in there and stay strong.
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    thanks Silver, b8, well it was not my decision, she was the one who dumped me and decided to remain single but then started contacting me thinkin i will still be friends with her. I couldn't do that, we were friends first but we both took it a step further, we were so close it was difficult for both of us to let go but during that period i found out she was still holding onto hopes of a reconciliation with her ex. Each and everyday our time would be occupied with talks of her ex, she would try convincing me each day how she had so much of nice memories with her ex and as such none with me. It hurt me a lot then the day came when she said she made a mistake of accepting my proposal and she actually thinks i am more of a friend. She committed then went back on her words.....i understood her feelings for her ex was so strong that she needed him more than me. I can't see her with anyother guy so had to let go. But the way she treated me, the way she made me feel after she tried gettin back with her ex was really bad on her part for which she told me once that she doesn't regret doing it. I may have somehow hurt her so bad to betray me.....the thing is i couldn't find any reasons for her actions.
  24. Spawn
    thlst3 i did suggest don't block her mails just make a filter to delete them automatically. let her mail whatever she wants to, i know how much it hurts but it hurts more when u read one. take care.
  25. Spawn
    I never told my ex why i was completely going out of her life.... I hurt my ex a little the last time i had a contact with her, was a bit rude when i told her to stop contacting me forever.I do really hope by making her angry she would get over with this breakup sooner and get on with her life. Somethings make me feel i did wrong but i felt like lettin her go for her future to shape up in the way she wants to. She may be with her 1st bf, and i really hope they give it a nice try this time.....now that i am out of her life. I did never hurt her before but breakups are really hard to deal with. I am finding the urge to contact her and tell her why i did this, why i want her to grow up into a fine woman, to be as independent as possible but somethin stops me from doing this. I just hope she doesn't call me since i am not dating for sometime, probably for a year or so, the pain is immense and its not subsidin. As days pass by, i am missin her less n less but some part of me says i am the one who screwed up in the relationship. I think i may have let her down by telling her not to contact me forever, she may think i am very immature for saying such a thing. But why i still care so much i dunno. its been almost 4 months after breakup and due to the occasional on and off NC i am still not over with her. The only way she can contact me now is thru phone since i haven't changed my number, i can't cause of my work and other commitments.... Tryin very hard to focus on me and just me...i have a very screwed up career here, things which i really couldn't give time to when we were together. Sorry guys felt like lettin it out somewhere....my brains are working overtime again....eeh.
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