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  1. Danny H
    yes maybe new year will bring me Monica belluchi-lol As it stands me and the separated wife have tickets to a new years eve function, but today we both agreed this was a very bad idea to go.
  2. Danny H
    BigSyke, you are not listening to what 100% of the replies on here are saying. SHE IS TAKING THE PI#S- as we say in the U.K. Stop beating yourself up
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    sorry I have destroyed this thread, but look at top comment, and you'll see why
  4. Danny H
    How long were you together? 8.5 months nc sounds a long time. Best Dan
  5. Danny H
    Ain't that the truth!!
  6. Danny H
    mbc9ie, I haven't read your other posts, but it seems you want her back, I hope you get your wishe, and live a long and happy life together. best dan
  7. Danny H
    I have been reading this board for a week or so now, and the majority of Dumpees seem to be men, and as they are the posters here, it got me thinking. Is that because women have better networks of people to talk this stuff with? Do you think that the majority of dumpers are Female? If so are they the tougher ones who make the decisions for the relationship that we are to weak or blinkered to make? I read somewhere that 80% of divorces are instigated by the wife- that is kind of scary. What is going on? Best Dan
  8. Danny H
    lots of great replies there, good luck my friend dan
  9. Danny H
    yes i will look up that book as well, thank you
  10. Danny H
    I think you should have a very honest talk with her and make sure you listen without getting defensive. Then maybe you'll both agree you need some time apart to work out what is best for you both. I missed stage one and I think that is why I am in such a mess now Best Dan
  11. Danny H
    No more texts, just disappear off the radar and do your own things. Keep a copy of the threats though ,in case. I have got to say you win the prize for going out with Bi#ch of the year.She sounds completely evil
  12. Danny H
    Thanks wildchild, I've left the home because she seemed to freak when I suggested that we live separate lives here while I try to find somewhere decent to live ( we haven't loads of spare money). So in order to keep the histrionics down I agreed to leave. Have been staying with Family 250 miles away, then friends in Portugal. I'm here for xmas with the kids ( her idea) but during one argument over her interent affair ( I'm still hurt)- she went mad started hitting me round the head ( I just covered it) and said " I'm going to call the police and get them to make you leave- if you don't go now". well it is xmas time and we have lived together 16.5years ( been together 17,5) so I don't exactly have a mass of places to go. When she calmed down, I backed off ( the kids saw me being hit and were crying). then she started the crying phase I instinctivly hugged her ( I can't help it we have been though so much together), and it all calmed down. Now she is tense as we approach the anniversary of Tsunami ( 3.30 am uk time for us). One funny thing this xmas is she keeps telling everyone about the small presents she got for xmas from her sister etc, but never, ever mentions the present I got her- weird it's like it don't exist anymore. Anyway I'm off to India Jan 9th, then back to watch kids and she'll go to Thailand for 3 weeks, so I guess we have an opportunity for 9 weeks NC Best Dan
  13. Danny H
    Having kids in the mix makes it so much harder, even straight N/C is difficult. Plus the added pain of maybe somebody else becoming " daddy". I wonder what was up with her when she wanted to come home for xmas, maybe she is seeing that this other guy has faults as well. Man you are being incredibly strong at this most difficult of times and I hope you get all you truly want.
  14. Danny H
    yes chill, worse thing you could do is over react, wait till this crazy season gets out the way. Good luck dan
  15. Danny H
    Don't feel like a wimp for crying, you'll heal quicker. In terms of her coming back Impossible to say, relationships are more complex than can be explained in a couple of posts, so who can give you false hope.
  16. Danny H
    Chasing her is going to make you feel worse, You won't get her back but you will feel less dignified. You were with her a long time, no wonder it hurts seeing/thinking of her with this guy. But what can you do except stay out of her way. I would try and find somewhere else to live there are to many memories where you are. I know it might seem crude but surely as a non brazillian young guy lots of Brazillian girls would be fascinated to meet you. Get involved in learning some portuguese, get out there and discover the place, you'll meet somebody in which to focus your attention
  17. Danny H
    Elle, there are many on these boards who are in pain ( why else would be posting at xmas-lol). The pain comes in waves we will be up and then down, but over time the waves get smaller. I can only say- don't drink you'll find yourself trying to answer questions and going around and around in your head till you go crazy, and do stuff which you have to clean up the next day. I have been there, it is so painful. The bloke is being really unfair not letting you have a clean break, and that in itself says that he isn't worth you time at the moment. But if he keeps dangling you from a string saying " you can come over for sex"- I would tell him to F#ck off, he is being unfair to you and his new girl.
  18. Danny H
    I would say to you go for it. I have travelled to many places around the world, for work or pleasure and you always meet great people. The world is full of people who can think " Out of the box" and that -"settle, get married young and have kids" mentality seems very -small minded- escape from it, if it doesn't feel right to you. If you come from the first world ( which I assume you do being on a computer)You are capable of travelling with complete ease. The first trip you go on you'll meet so many others like yourself you'll feel as one with the world, and not an outsider in a small town. If you are in the Usa consider Costa rica as a good trip If in Europe- the greek islands is always a nice first trip away Or less taxing- Barcelona is a good laugh. Then move onto the India/Indonesia type challenge There is a whole world out there and the more you see, the more you can decide what you want for your life. Don't let the bas#ards grind you down Good Luck Dan
  19. Danny H
    I'm afraid she was correct, It is soul destroying when somebody hooks up with somebody else so soon, and I guess it will always hurt, if you still have feelings, but that is the nature of separated. You have no control over her, BUT she has none over you. I would be pis#ed that she was texting your " friend" when you two were together, but that seems to be part of a pattern with her. She needs to grow up and stop messing people around ( especially if they care for her) Good luck Dan
  20. Danny H
    Man, I don't blame you being confused. After that email you would think you could feel confident. One problem though is the comment about the " always arguing" maybe she just hangs out with this other guy for some " Fun time" maybe they ain't serious. Have you Broken up with her?, I can't see that in your text. If you haven't you should ask her outright what is going on. Try not to accuse, just listen and stay calm- all the things I couldn't do when I was your age. Good luck P.s has she been in contact for xmas?
  21. Danny H
    If you have nothing to say, just listen, sometimes that is the nicer for the other person then somebody dazzling them.
  22. Danny H
    You have to go for it, far worse to spend your time wondering " what if" than asking her out right and getting refused. Do it for us lonely souls on here suffering break-ups, we need somebody to get some happiness merry christmas
  23. Danny H
    Broken Toe, the new BF won't come after you, so don't worry. Your friend Dave is no real friend so ditch the bast#rd. Your old GF sounds like she is so insecure she can't commit to anything, and that wasn't your fault. She will carry on like this with the new guy, so don't worry yourself about the " Happy families" they are playing, because she is cheating on him already. Man she would mess up a saint, set yourself free, unless she radically changes she isn't worth your time. Best to you Dan
  24. Danny H
    I have slept in bed with femail friends after a drunken night out, and there has been no intentions on any side, and no problems. I Know if you are in a relationship it is not ideal, but it can be innocent. I would guess that if something happened he would actually be telling you a convoluted tale about how he slept on the couch and doesn't remember much. Best to trust him on this one, and explain how it makes you feel, hopefully he won't do anything like that again.
  25. Danny H
    I guess this all shows that it is the " Not knowing, in between " stage which is hard, once you accept and go with the flow, you are not fighting the current anymore, and so there is less forces on you. Oh to get to that stage has got to be the goal. Good luck to you all and happy christmas.
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