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hey there does anyone know any audio cd's or sites i can get apart from double your dating. i've herd theres a dating for dummies but idon't about an audio version thanks anyhoo

hey, this a bit of a carry on from my last post in a crowded situation i.e a house party with alot off people who are usally quite hyper and just want to go wild is small talk all thats possible can you not have maybe bit more that indrouducing yourself. For any of you party goes can you have a interesting convo remembering not go on and on just something thats been lingering on my mind because now im beginning to imagine all the girls just gunna want to stay as a group and dance in a group so ne tips on approaching groups without the palm of you hands turning into a pond. and what to wear any ideas i thought blazer and jeans nething else that could possible stand out but not make me look like an attention seeker

Thank you again emotional

OKay I know you guys can't be asked to reply and figured this is not a very expanding post but anyone else because I need some tips and being myself has already been said thank u emotional but being self is still not satifying im not saying I want to change my personality over the next cuple of weeks but having some ideas in my head so next the time I see a girl in the corner of my I eye I can give an acknowledging hint to her and to smooth it out and not make it just akward so I can approach and talk to her and know what to say. Im not expecting this page to be filled with you guys input but for any input...thanx

Hows hey, wats your name her____ So you girls really dressed up for this party or is that how u noramally dress. Im just trying to fill up space because my cumputers crashed

Hello, so there's a really big house party coming up soon I have been sort of revising some introductions and opening lines and topics now one of the reasons im writing this post is that there could be a chance of anyone giving me anymore opening lines and topics cus i got some.... hey, how u doing, hey you wonna dance, hey im___ and Im hear to mingle with you or whats ur name now I wasent sure on this one because it probably can work but kinda does depend on the tone you put in cus that can sound alot like your trying pick the girl up, but im there to socialize and have fun and come a way from the party leaving SATISFYED and some e-mail addresses and numbers could help Now topics i have got but confidence is my forte delivering opening lines or carrying conversations without cringing up or shying away e.g today three girls come up to me they stand directly infront of me I say hey they say hI I asked them why there hear probably not the best of question wear in school and the way I delivered it wasent at tall any better anyway after that I shyed out and fled the scene. So how over the next 5-6 weeks before the party where I will be mostly surrounded by girls can I get my confidence up because I know that somewhere down there its there because im willing to dance with any girl. But I would like to be the sort of life of the party talking to who evers there having a fun topiced convo leaving them possibly wanting to get to know me more and being able to approach a group and say my opinion or my question to make heads turn and attchully acknowledge my presents and for to open up the convo and making fun and leading it somewhere.....anywhere. And politely excusing my self from the convo getting there e-mail or details without sounding desperate.. So thats about it before I overshare. Thank you to those who reply and read .

Hey, so I came back from this party and until I re-thought about how I was at the party it suddenly occurred to me that I screwed up alot now Im not going to sit hear beating myself up about it but I wanna do sumthing about it. Because I felt priviledged going to that gathering and spending 5 hours with 5 hot girls now I guess you could say I was rather intimidated by that fact and making me quite quiet and always in deep thought about if what I am going to say would be interesting also was a bit nervous. Even as a jokey comment one of the girls asks me why im being quiet and boring I replyed with I dnt know because I really didnt know all confidence completely went out the window. Now this is the second time of been to these gatherings bt each time different people have been there but everytime I come back I always feel unsatisfyed but atleast I can see where Im going wrong. IT's like trial error and improvement for me why can't it just be trial without error. Now luckly two girls that organised it know that im quite shy and im friends with them so in future there could be a possibility for me to come again. I could also make it up to these 5 hotties back at school its just a question thinking and doing. Also why is it that I always look back on my day and am able to be like "dammit I could of said that." How can i think faster at those situations and relax!!....

Hey, okay so theres ment to be a party in a park today,so ill be of to that I have got a couple conversations starters like (Hi, how r u or how was your holidays, if there doing anything for easter) maybe some mild compliments and and maybe a couple of ways to break the ice without using pick up lines but I need some more topics and maybe even some one line dialogue dont worry I wont say that line roboticlly but any at all because I want to be equipt I know I should let go a bit and relax and loose myself. But theres about two girls that I especialy want to know now they both know who I am but I havent had proper convo with them so I sort want to break the ice btw us and try and have comfortable convo with them and stay confident....any ideas and kind of quick thank you..

Hi, Im not sure where my other post went but it doesn't matter, how can i get rid of that mild shyness that looms over me I find from this site I've learnt what to say and stuff but. i just can't seem to find that confidence in myself to talk to talk to people that I know but woulden't usally speak to including hot girls. I know ways I should present myself be smiley well groomed and try to relax and say "hi,start a convo with them but it easier said than done. If im reasonably shy guy but willing to go for it, if its the right moment in time e.g( see her on her own in canteen or with a group of friends at break how can confidently approach them and join in the conversation. doing that but how can I put myself out there in a situation like that stay calm and confident about it. ...thanks you!

HI, So my problem is that since im on my break it would be right to ask for advice on how to go about changing my personality, the thing I want to most change about this is from being a mildly shy person, someone who can't just strike up a conversation with a person without feeling uncomfortable with it. To someone who is outgoing and asking "Hi,how are you", to anybody he see's and knows and making it come as second nature to you and and making them and yourself feel comfortable I know comparing yourself is not the way but I have watched one of my friends who this comes easy for him. I know what to say but I just don't how to say it how i can approach someone I barely know and with confidence strike up a convo with them. and come to them as someone who's confident possibly mature and can look at them in the eye!! for more than 3 seconds...

okay this my post really sucks so im just going to not be pissed of that knowone has answered apart from swordfish cheers to anyway, yes so I'l think of a crowd pleaser next which wont be to far of .......and alot simpler .

thanks for that swordfish I probably try the hi thing but theres to of them there both hot and there friends they seat next each uva right beside my table i wanted to say something to make them stop and go hey I wonna know that guy , I have thought of a couple of things but just how to get the guts for it mayb i shud just try and c

Okay, yes you lot aren't wanting to read something this long but right now im il and haven't been out for three days thats why im so aggitated for some answers and probably most post to you lot of it doesn't make sense but you don't have answer all these questions. anybody ....

Hey!!, here's my Thread okay lets say you had a bit more than minor problems but alot self changing things you wanted to put them out all on a spider diagram and then turn the spider diagram into note form like ive done hear I know its long ,also I would like to say I am not expecting you as individuals to answer all these questions. But for you lot to just suggest 1 or 2 answers to my questions answering the ones your best at. e.g if say, your strong point is mingling in at party's you can just answer for that one question. Anyway here it is. This is how I want to be as a person by the time summer break comes I wanna be an interesting funny and all of what Im going to talk about and generally an easy to talk to guy I know all these things hav to come naturaly and alot of practice but read on. Even though im not completley forgotten about at school I would like to Be the guy that people I know in and out of school will want to bring along to a movie or outing or invite to partys. To make me a better conversationalst in 1 two 1 convo's and at partys and online. idea's i have already got, do something new everyday although any ideas and quite diffucult, if you do something new each day thats helpful, but first any ideas i thought trying new food listening to music i woulden't usally liten to even though that can get stressful and secondly wont that come of to the other person if your always telling the something you did that was unusal as Random and she will get the impression im a random type of guy (good and Bad) What I want to archieve this year "BEING ALL THESE THINGS" What I want to be like physicaly ( read on) New topics to converse about other than the basics i.e music , sports, T.V How to break the ice with a confident girl but im a bit shy. In one of my classes she sits 3 rows infront of me im moving into her french class any french vocab I should use as a compliment only I don't have that much confidence in starting to chat in french to her! and there's a good chance I wont sit next to her. Have intelligent responses to questions any at all, really when i say intelligent i just meen like not your average response to a question and if I want to get something out of the person I would know what exactly to say and then listen for a cue to route out of the convo with a different but similiar topic. But with the girl there are some chances of small talking before class which is good what to say though. again I havent fully got to know all the girls but trying to see what kind of person this girl is. She knows how to walk on a cat walk. And she knows my name and that I exicist, only thing really confidently starting a convo in space of 2 to 3 mins just before class but knowing what to say For what I want to be like physicaly more than just skin and bone any body builders out there ideas for this I have work out a bit, or alot ,go do activities I usally do sit ups and press ups. "THANK U if you still reading " Things Im going to start up to make my head more free of ideas and topics Start skateboarding again well atleast using it as a form of transportation go to b-ball club a again. We've got a band so that be a form of freeing myself. Read books cookery and maginzines, newspaper But usally in newspapers there is nothing that is non depressive to bring in a convo which doesn't really come of as a "FUN" topic. Also Movie reviews.anymore things I can watch on T.V ,comedy , or something that you lot do that I could take up you neva know. programs you recomend also go see more movies expand my taste on music even though im very mixed with music. Events that are coming up Two summer partys what i want to get out of this Be confident ,witty, interesting and humorous I know all these things have to come naturaly Just what topics can you recommend so I can use atleast one of these things up top at a party and attchlly small talk to a girl and interest her and come away satifyed with myself and then maybe later on in party come back to her and get her number or e-mail. I want to be able to leave a convo with the other person feeling they want to talk to me more. I have got some ideas for getting around the number thing any extra ways of doing so. How to make a good friendly first inpression over internet or face to face .I know basic topics but just want to sort of reply in clever but not sounding like a geek response and positve remaks that can get her to talk about herself and be able to joke around a bit with her and make her feel more comfortable around me. also opinion openers if you want to mingle with a group of girls in a party how to go about doing so and if there are any team efforts say you and a friend approaching a group and being at this point the main focus any suggestions . Thank you if you got to this point...I hav mostly apprecitated it

One little quick question what did you markers say after you said Hi to her