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  1. Day_Walker

    Problem

    Day_Walker replied to PAdreamer's topic in Pregnancy

    Wanting to have a child with another person that you love is very normal but thats not what bugs me about your statement. Why do you feel that you show your love for a person by having a child with them? I can see how you would think that but I dont believe its an accurate assessment. You are transposing your emotions on something physical. What im saying is if you want to believe having a child with a person shows your love for that person then thats what you want it to mean. I believe that you are reaching a new level in your relationship and you're trying to rationalize your feelings because they have increased.
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    I would argue that either decision you make you are walking into a blind alley. Your wife told you that she needed to find herself and just left the relationship (let me explain this situation further she went wanted to break up with you so she could see if anything better for her was out there and apparently there isnt so she wants to come back to you). On the other hand you have this new girl who seems to have potential but you have known her for a short period of time. See what I mean when I say both situations look bleek. I would cut ties with your ex wife and pursue the new relationship. Your wife messed up and it was her choice to break up the marriage so let her live with it.
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    Its a psychological thing people feel the need to have sex if they havent had it in a while. Its not something you need its just a want. She wants to have sex with you because she enjoys it.
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    You should do some research on the subject, learn about different positions when the female is on top or even invent somethings of your own. The key here is its a personal thing and you have to try a wide variety of things to see what you are into. P.S. Practice, Practice and Practice some more
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    Try Trojan ENZ or Trojan Magnums
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    I seriously doubt that your excessive masturbation has led to you your clitoris being larger than it was when you were 13. Some women have a large clitoris. Asthetically speaking there are different types of clitori and vaginas. This is one of those myths that people perpetuate to keep people from playing with themselves. Using this same kind of logic you would believe that men who masturbated more frequently would have larger a larger penis than those who rarely masturbate. Having a large clitoris is something that you dont have control over so you need to get over your insecurity.
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    This should have tipped you off when she said "i want to marry a guy like you" this is entirely different from saying i want to marry you. You may be completely in love with her but she is apprehesive. Love is a two way street, one person cannot do it alone. This girl isnt the one for you so find one that appreciates the things you do for her.
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    First of all you have to throw all the complements out of the window because they dont mean anything. Now if you judge her purely on her actions towards you then would you think any different? It sounds like she buttered you up then threw in a catch (that she had a bf), which you dont even know is true. Speaking of that you have to look at what this girl did, she has a bf (supposedly) and she wants to talk to you and get to know you better? That sounds shady. From that we are going to deduce that you cannot trust her because she is willing to potentially cheat on her bf because you are so attractive (which means she is impulsive). My advice is to be friendly with this girl but never tell her how you feel about her. You if you pursue any relationship (friendly, hook up buddies, sex friends, or bf &gf) ALWAYS keep in mind that you cannot trust her, that she is shady and she is impulsive. This is not the kind of combination that you want to see in a female. That doesnt mean that you cannot have fun with her. Be smart and know that you will have a finite amount of time with this girl so just see where it takes you. If she does have a bf realize that she has more to lose than you, this means that you should have the upper hand. You have to play your cards right, do not become clingy or get caught up because she is so attractive. Play it cool, she gave you the perfect excuse to call her because she said that she would like to hang out. The interpretation of this means that she doesnt want to date, the meetings should be casual the basic idea is that you are "hanging out" and not dating.
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    If you are tired of putting up with your husbands actions then you already know what you need to do. If you feel that you arent getting the attention you deserve as well as being treated with respect then it is perfectly ok to pursue divorce as an option. Now you have to realize that it is going to be hard and there is no telling how your husbad will respond to the divorce. Prepare yourself for some emotional times ahead.
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    why limit your options if you are the kind of person that doesnt mind a lil extra cushion then date both. Both can serve a purpose. It also depends on what you mean by "date" if you mean long term or just going out and having fun.
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    I wouldnt tell her that you like her. Its not going to solve anything. Continue to chill with her and see what happens. If she likes you then something will happen. Play it by ear and you will be fine.
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    a brazilian wax is what I prefer if you arent that bold then a bikini wax is more conservative.
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    Emotional cheat is very nit picky. In an ideal world emotional cheating wouldnt happen but lets just face the fact that it will happen. This is a purists argument and in an idealistic sense i can see what is wrong with it but its not realistic. You can choose to realize that it happens or you can get upset about it.
  14. Day_Walker

    BIG mistake

    Day_Walker replied to izzy_04's topic in Pregnancy

    I believe that you are making the right decision, by realizing that you cannot take care of this baby, you feel that you are too young and you would be a single mother. It is difficult to make this decision but you are doing it for your future. Good Luck and counselling would be a good place to start if you need any emotional support or just need to talk things out.
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    Well since you stated that leaving her isnt an option which I would normally suggest i will respect your statement. You have to try a different approach. You have to make her want to have sex with you and it will seem that my advice is counter productive but give it a chance. You need to bring back romance/emotions back into the relationship. She needs to believe that you just dont want her for sex. You have a nice evening with her with no expectation of sex. You get her started so that she wants to have sex but you dont have sex. Your goal is passion and not sex, you want her to feel invigorated, a feeling similar to when you first met. The reason you are doing this is because she isnt sensing the emotional connection that you once had with her and you need to bring it back. Personally i have issues with this advice because it seems to me that your relationship lacks communication. She isnt able to tell you about problems she is having personally or in the relationship and she expects you to have the same realization as her. Her selfishness and immaturity is keeping her for communicating with you. Lack of communication in a relationship the majority of the time leads to a decreased libido for the more emotional person. If you realize that you cannot marry this girl because of her low sex drive then why would you want to continue the relationship? It will only be harder to break up later or even worse you end up getting married and the low sex drive returns then your stuck.
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    She is a Lawful Permenant Resident if she has her Green Card. You get the green card by applying for lawful permenant resident status with Citizenship and Immigation Services (formally INS). As I said before if her visa is expired then she is most likely not able to file for lawful permanent resident status in this country, she would have to go back to her home country and apply for it through the US Consulate. The reason why she hasnt been picked up by Border Patrol doesnt have anything to do with her beling "light". Border Patrol rarely goes out and deports people. Unless you have committed crimes they could really care less. In actuality they would ask you to leave the country before they deported the person.
  17. Day_Walker
    Comfort relationships make up the majority of long term relationships. Now you can believe that they are wrong or whatever else you want to think but they exist and in a large quantity.
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    You have to realize that in a general sense US Immigration Laws were created to keep people out of this country. Unless you have an immediate relative (husband, wife,mother, father, brother, sister, son or daughter) or other special circumstances you cannot become a citizen of this country. Honestly she could be living her for 25 years and it wouldnt make her anymore of a citizen or permenant resident. People come to this country illegally for different reasons. Calling the laws "stupid" just cuz they arent accepting for your situation isnt productive. The only legal means of her being able to get a drivers license and a SSN would be for her to apply to become a permanent resident at her local Citizenship and Immigration office. Which probably wont do any good because unless she has a current visa her and her family will have to go back to their home country.
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    I cant say that being pessimistic is a bad thing cuz i dont believe it is. In this case I believe that you are making an accurate statement. It may seem that arent other fish in the sea but I believe thats cuz you pool is too small. Too many people limit their options by staying in their own comfort zones (this means that your pool will never be large). Explore other options, you have to get out and meet people. There are great people out there but they arent necessarily going to come to you. Finding your ideal significant other shouldnt be easy because it is a process of elimination, there are certain people out there that you will get along with and will be a good match with you. Unlike the typical female mentality you cant just sit back and wait for guys to come to you. Playing the shy card is over done and immature. Take your time and be patient, you will always have the memories of past relationships but they shouldnt keep you from moving forward because its not emotionally healthy and your not growing as a person.
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    The reason there is a double standard is because it is tolerated in society as a whole. If society happened to change their standards so that anybody who sleeps around is whorish the it would be more accurate. Another issue is that females will tolerate a guy who has slept with a large amount of women (whatever their reasons maybe which are numerous). Men seem aprehensive about a female who has slept with a large amout of guys (in the general sense). If you are willing to accept a person for their past indicretions then you are saying its okay for them to have slept with a large amount of people (or any other past discretion). Outwardly you may believe its wrong to have had sex with a large amount of people but when it becomes a personal issue then you accept the person. If you dont want to perpetuate the double standard then make it a point not to deal with people who sleep with a lot of people. Double standards like this are tolerated because societies perception is inaccurate, so in other words look at the situation and make an accurate assesment.
  21. Day_Walker
    The most important thing you can do is to not stress yourself out about it. You need to get it off your mind because if you are thinking about it then it wont happen. Just relax and stop putting pressure on yourself. If you do masterbate then stop doing it. Sex with your gf should be your only release. If you havent tried microsheer condoms then I would try those since they are thinner and not made of latex.
  22. Day_Walker
    Women typically like older men because they are at the same maturity level. There are exceptions when the age gap is significant. For the most part it has to do with maturity
  23. Day_Walker
    Its all a matter of personal preference. I believe that majority of people would say that enjoy having sex with a person they have an emotional connection with but there will be some which see sex more as a convience thing. I believe that it can be both, when you dont have a person that you want to have a emotional connection with then it is for convience.
  24. Day_Walker
    what you have to do is find a response that works on your gf. There is a way for you to convince her that sex in a relationship is important. If her sex drive isnt up to par then you have to think if you two are sexually compatible. Some people believe that sex is important in a relationship and others believe that it is less important but you should find a female that matches your sex drive. If she refuses to have sex with you then understand that other things will start to deteriorate also.
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    I cant say that I prefer one or the other in a general sense, it is highly dependent on the mood I am in.
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